How to be attractive when...

[tigacainta]

Give yourself a few more years. You're just 20. Once you have a job, you can buy all the beauty products u want, afford salon services, buy healthy food etc. Some people are actually late bloomers and develop later in life. One day, you'll just look back in this thread and laugh.

Bottomline PERA..

Money makes the lonely person Happy..

[kiliti]

pera bigay din lungkot.

akyen pusta laki sa pacquiao. akyen talo laki, akyen lungkot.

[rayzle]

comment lang TS, you look not bad after all. you're not fat as i have imagined.

[sweetwahm]

So, you guys think wala na talagang improvement sa looks ko? Will I get worse when I turn 30? Actually, "retoke" is not an option for me. I just want to improve in a natural way.

Hindi ka naman pangit ah! Well, not like I imagine anyway. And hindi ka naman ganun kataba. Admittedly though, you could use a makeover, but it's not as drastic as I imagined.

[Heileen]

Well, as I said, I am not VERY ugly, just ugly. I'd probably look more like a maid or a janitress, or people who works in fast food or other menial jobs. Not really someone a CEO would ask for a date. Or even middle class guys would spend their time with. Another shallow talk, i know, it's annoying.

We can’t all be super-models, and even super models are not that great. I need to say something positive, or even you guys would start getting tired of me. Well, some positive things about myself: NO VICES—don’t smoke, drink, party, or other untraditional, out of the norm behavior. I would consider myself a Maria Clara who dreams to be Paris Hilton. Lol. JUST kidding!

Ewan ko lang kung bakit ganito ako mag-isip. It’s like since I was a kid, I am conditioned to feel inferior. All my relatives are below average, and they all emphasize beauty as the ultimate asset. It’s like you have to be beautiful in order to gain acceptance. Even in school, if you are pretty, you dominate the entire class. We all treat the pretty people like princess, and even teachers do that. I’m the girl who cleans the classroom most of the time, waxing the floors, etc while the pretty kids just gossip. I’m the kid who helps the teachers in grading the homework, a teacher’s pet talaga!

Feisty, why do I bother thinking about boys now? Because maybe some of my friends are planning to get married na, and there are even talks of marriage in my family. It’s the start of relatives finding husbands for their “single” family members. So, I can’t help feeling “inadequate” , it’s like is there something wrong with me? Napaglipasan na yata ako ng panahon. After I am done with school, and maybe when I will be 25, what if wala pa rin akong boyfriend? What will people think of me?

Lipglass. Basic Hygiene, yes I can do that. Basic Hygiene for me means a 10-minute shower once a day, and brushing my teeth twice a day, and constantly washing my hands especially when I eat, and maybe a little bit of lotion on my legs and hands. Yun lang. I don’t even like putting anything in my face because sometimes I am so tired after school or work, that I come home, I just go to bed and sleep. Lip gloss, I don’t’ see any point of making my lips shine. It will fade after a few minutes anyway. I know, now I am irritating. What I am trying to say is that, because of my lifestyle and current situation, I can’t spend even a few minutes every day, pampering myself or whatever. That’s why I say its better to do it later, because I could then be consistent, rather than just random vanity.

[sweetwahm]

Well at least you accept the truth -- that guys normally check out the physical aspects first. That's the way they are. But I also think you are aiming too high. Nothing wrong with that, but you have this notion na pagka kita agad sa iyo, maiinlove agad ang tao. It doesn't work that way, not even for the pretty people.

You sound sensible, and by the way you write, may personality ka naman. The right guy will come, just wait.

[rickym]

So, you guys think wala na talagang improvement sa looks ko? Will I get worse when I turn 30? Actually, "retoke" is not an option for me. I just want to improve in a natural way.

sus marya, you're not ugly ano. you do look plain, but that's just about it. just go to a parlor and have your hair done. you seem to have baby fat, but that can easily be burnt off. if you hit the gym and get a sexy body you can easily land a guy.

[blue_tracer]

imo, masyado nang advanced ang projection mo, threadstarter, sa future. pati na yun pag aalala mo na baka matulad ka sa ibang babae na nakasal na lang sa mga fat men.

ang confront mo muna eh yung ngayon.. include mo na rin yung very 'near' future.. ha ha ha.. pero huwag muna siguro yun sobrang layo na. otherwise, magiging impatient ka niyan. manggigigil ka sa inis.. at baka mauwi pa sa frustration.

focus on your studies first. dahil pag nakatapos ka na at nagka trabaho eh di doon ka gumastos para sa pag papaganda mo.

re: weight..

pag walang nabago diyan.. malamang wala rin mababago sa level ng confidence mo.

hindi naman siguro magastos yan.. why dont you reduce your food intake during night time..? bawasan mo lang ng kahit 1/3 ang kinakain mo sa hapunan, siguro naman may result na yan in 4-5 months.

[sweetwahm]

^^ Sabayan mo ng jogging, TS! Low impact, and virtually no gastos. All you need is decent shoes.

[Ice Burn]

Well, first of all, try to get rid of the insecurity. Insecurity is like a big red neon sign hanging over you. It's an instant turn off because your insecurity gets reflected in your actions, the way you interact with people, the way you carry yourself, the way you speak, even the way you walk. And it's seen by other people. No one wants to hang around with insecure people let alone no guy wants to be with a really insecure girl.

You can stop this by ending the fixation on getting a boyfriend and comparing yourself with other girls. Having no boyfriend is not the end of the world. Develop your self first. It doesn't need to be expensive. Start by smiling a little more, fixing your posture, learn to walk with a little strut and raise your chin up a bit. Learn to make eye contact with people. And since you have internet access, there are simple things you can do like read up online on fashion trends on how you can mix and match your current clothes. Well you can even try to grow your hair long (tip: a lot of guys have a fixation with long hair). Also read up and empower yourself with things that interest you, there are so many resources online. Think positive thoughts, what made you happy today? And be grateful for what you have. Think about it, despite the fact that you are currently a Plain Jane right now (which can be remedied) you're not disfigured, you don't have an abnormality or a retardation, you have a job and you are able to go to school. The only thing you have to work on is your perspective in life.

[Alpha_Green]

I don't know if any girl in the right mind would say all these then reveal her true identity by showing her picture. This is so unreal.

Anyway makikiride nalang ako para masaya. Maybe that's why you're blessed with those qualities you have right now, maybe you're really destined to be single. Yan siguro ang plano sayo, maging single ka habang buhay. Being single is your destiny. Face it, majority of men like pretty and sexy girls and if you're not one of those girls then your chances of finding a man are realy slim.

: NO VICES—don’t smoke, drink, party, or other untraditional, out of the norm behavior.

I’m the girl who cleans the classroom most of the time, waxing the floors, etc while the pretty kids just gossip. I’m the kid who helps the teachers in grading the homework, a teacher’s pet talaga!

Wow, the makings of a saint..

Since you are bragging here and telling us how good you are then why don't you join the seminary/convent and just try your luck being a nun. I'm serious. People I know who are like that ended up in the seminary.

[Heileen]

Minsan talaga it’s better to share your problems to a stranger, especially well-educated strangers because then they have no bias, and you get better advice. Why did I post my picture? Not just because someone suggested it. I don’t know, at that moment, I just thought “hey, why not?”. I mean, I receive such great replies that I think you guys deserve to see my physical attributes. Besides, I am no celebrity; I don’t have anything to hide. I am insignificant, just any ordinary person living in this planet. Not only that, I have no relatives who are proficient in using a computer. Most of my cousins are also in online games, and some of my friends are into chatting. Also, so what if they see me in this forum? I feel no shame sharing what I truly feel towards myself and others. It would be nice if they are reading so, they can better help me, right? Sometimes even with close friends, it’s hard to communicate and say “You know what, I am jealous of you, and I am insecure about myself”. Wala din akong pambayad sa psychologist, and I guess, I am kind of desperate too.

Blue Tracer. I completely agree with you. That is what’s wrong with me. Sobrang fast forward ako kung mag-isip. I know, I should be doing something now, pero, I refuse to do anything and just wish that suddenly I will be pretty. Mahilig ako sa magic, or everything just happened INSTANTLY. No hardwork! I am really impatient and a whiner. Sweetwahm, oo, tama ka, I do have a notion that men have no brains, anything pretty, automatically, they salivate. They have no emotions, parang mga robot. Or siguro kaya I think that way, dahil ganun din ako. Ice Burn, when you put it that way, that I should count my blessings, dun ko na realize, “yeah, my life is not too bad ”. Then when I get out of the house, and see my pretty friends, I go back to the “life is so not fair” perspective. Hahaha..

So, THANK YOU everyone, I really appreciate all the meaningful posts. I have all the tips I need, the problem is me. When will I start following it? I am so lazy kaya siguro walang nangyayari sa buhay ko. I am just trap in this vicious cycle of pity. I really hate the fact that when I try changing myself, It will only last a few weeks, then I go back to the same emo kid. I don’t know why I can’t be consistent.

[jay372011]

Sayang may asawa na yung North American guy na kakilala ko pero pag nakita niya picture mo isa lang masasabi niya YOUR HOT HOT HOT HOT

Maaring dito sa atin ordinary ka lang pero paglabas mo ng bansa bongga ka - sinabi yan ni Assunta de Rossi - na parang dito hindi siya gaano habulin pero sa abroad para siyang DIYOSA.
Napansin nyo ba sa Bb Pilipinas ang daming puti at dayuhan na judges? Kasi iba ang pamantayan ng ganda sa international pageant kesa dito sa atin. Kaya ganoon. Iba sila mag appreciate ng ganda kaya sila andun.

[weirdgal]

hi! hmm.. im a newbie here.. but got interest on ur so called dilemma..
first thing you should do?.. be confident.. hehe... 20 ka pa ***.. and ur not fat.. nku ah.. mas malaki pa ko ***.. naman naman.. im already 22, got my first bf at the age of 21.. haha.. just ended recently nga ***.. [bitter?..] hehe.. you know what you have to change?.. your outlook in life.. be positive.. what is your prob?.. na at the age of 20 u havent had any relationship yet?.. wag po magmadali.. gasgas man *** linya ko.. but time will come for you.. for now, enjoy what you have, go out with friends.. para masaya.. hehe.. peace! ^_^

[jed_allan]

Heileen,i hope this is not a social experiment and that you're really that person in the picture.

i would not say na sobrang bata mo pa to be thinking seriously about this. sa pinas nga,after 18,feeling natin,pwede na mag asawa.lalo na kung college grad na at ages 20-22. so normal para sa akin yang pinoproblema mo.

assuming ikaw nga yang nasa pic,i think alam mo na rin ang problema.you do need a makeover.sus,punta ka lang sa parlor,alam naman na ng mga bading ang gagawin sa **. that would take care of your current hitsura.pero pwede naman kasi magbago ang itsura after a few years.kung titingnan ko nga pics ko 4 years ago,natatawa na lang ako eh.im so much hotter now.

mag google ka na lang on how to look younger with clothes and other accessories.

people talked about self-confidence.yeah,malaking bagay yun.minsan kahit di naman kagandahan,may dating pag may kumpiyansa sa sarili.wag lang puro kumpiyansa,kakainis din ang ganun.

iwasan mo ang mga taong laging pumapansin sa plain looks mo.kung may mga taong nagda down sa **,iwasan mo sila.di mo sila kailangan.yang mga tita mong nang iinsulto sa **,wag mo sila pakinggan.or pagsabihan mo minsan na nahuhurt ka sa sinasabi nila. para kasi sa akin,people treat you the way (they think )you look at yourself. kung mababa tingin mo sa sarili mo,lalo na ang ibang tao.

focus on yous strengths.mag aral ka magluto,learn to play a musical instrument.or magbasa ka,you'll be amazed na magiging wiser kang tao pag marami kang binabasa.maiiwasan mo pang makihalubilo sa mga taong nagmamaliit lang naman sa **.pag marami kang nabasa,mas magiging confident kang makipagdeal sa ibang tao kasi may mga topics na pwede mong gamitin to start conversations.in short,make yourself interesting.

tingnan mo rin ang treatment mo sa ibang tao. baka naman bumabawi lang sila sa panlalait mo sa kanila.nagwowork pa rin ang golden rule.

lastly,isipin mo muna pag aaral mo.pag wala ka natapos at tumanda ka,mas lalong walang lalapit sa **.shempre,gusto namin ng mga presentable na babae pero ayaw naman namin sa babaeng patapon or walang direksyon ang buhay.kaya nga naimbento yung" wife material".

[chine_franco]

hey kiddo, don't be too depressed, you're not ugly but i see you do look somewhat lonely in that pic. you're plain looking though. paayos ka siguro ng hair and have it colored. you can do it yourself para tipid, mura lang naman ang pang-color sa watson's 300+ lang ang Revlon. (pero wag sobrang bright color ha, make sure it matches your skin color para hindi agaw-pansin). watch what you eat and exercise regularly. you don't need to go to an expensive gym. jogging and sit-ups in the morning will do. (it worked for my chubby friend and I really noticed the change).

don't wish for a hot boyfriend. ang dapat ay mabait at yung hindi ka lolokohin. honestly, hot guys won't really be attracted to plain-looking girls. pero average looking guys (hindi panget but not uberly hawt), baka pumasa ka. kaunting make-over, kaunting boost ng self confidence lang ang kailangan mo.

Para nga itong kapatid nung Piolo thread ah. At least hindi mo kinompare yung sarili mo kay Anne Curtis.

[jay372011]

Natawa naman ako dun kay Anne Curtis look at Patani full of confidence may tv show na siya.

[pink_gold]

I don't know if any girl in the right mind would say all these then reveal her true identity by showing her picture. This is so unreal.

Anyway makikiride nalang ako para masaya. Maybe that's why you're blessed with those qualities you have right now, maybe you're really destined to be single. Yan siguro ang plano sayo, maging single ka habang buhay. Being single is your destiny. Face it, majority of men like pretty and sexy girls and if you're not one of those girls then your chances of finding a man are realy slim.






Wow, the makings of a saint..

Since you are bragging here and telling us how good you are then why don't you join the seminary/convent and just try your luck being a nun. I'm serious. People I know who are like that ended up in the seminary.

nagdududa na din tuloy ako...

pero honestly, if you're real, mas madami pang mas panget sayo.. confidence lang kailangan mo.. pero not to the point naman na feeling ka na masyado..at sobrang nagmamaganda ka..kakaasaran ka lang pag ganun..

maraming ways para maging okei ichura and dating mo..follow what lipglass told you.. i have the same routine.. for me kasi good hygiene makes you feel fresh, thus, it gives you more chances of having a good mood..and if you have a good mood, everything positive will follow..

siguro sa pananamit, try wearing cute dresses.. para magmuka kang girly..kasi based on your pic, shirts and jeans?hmmm.. besides, you're not fat.. i doubt if you weigh 120lbs.. kasi sabe mo 4'11 ka lang right? baka may mali lang sa weighing scale..

don't expect din for a hot guy..kasi baka hindi ka din maging masaya..honestly, ako, mas gusto ko yung di masyadong gwapo pero malakas yung dating.. bottomline is don't make your standards so high lalo na sa kalagayan mo..you'll just end up whining..

funny nga yung kay patani but look at where she is now..dati siyang na-reject sa starstruck pero may guestings na siya ngayon..

[Alpha_Green]

Oh I forgot to tell you one more thing Ms. TS.

Its not that I want to pressure you or anything but just check out what I've posted in the "Whats the most annoying thing about being a GIRL" thread.

Let me quote it:

1. Women have a "Best before" age - women invest so much on looks to attract their potential mates. Once they get past a certain age (mga late 20s siguro), their physical beauty will start to fade and that's the time their husbands/fiancess/boyfriends would start to cheat on them and go for the much younger ones. Those who are still single at that age would now find it hard to find and attract mates (because men their age are going for the much younger ones).

guys on the other hand invest on their "manliness", their character ...as well as money and power....to attract women...and these things DOES NOT FADE WITH AGE. You don't believe me? look around! Heck, they even get better when men get older!

So girls, if you're late 20s and you're still single...well... you better start worrying!

You better find a man fast before you get past 25. (*Alpha_Green makes clock ticking sounds*)

[jed_allan]

meanwhile, start investing on your so-called "manliness" , AG.
(clock ticking sounds,too)