How to be attractive when...

[Agent Bill]

Why not posting your pic or flag your friendster/myspace/facebook account so we can see your physical looks?

[skuidward]

So, how ugly am I? I am 4'11, 120 pounds, not very fat, just a little bit fatty. No special talent, can't cook, can't sing. I would consider myself mildly humorous. Somewhat a dork (not intelligent, but awkward). I wear eyeglasses, not very fashionable (jeans and shirts). I think, i am bit of aloof. what else?

So, anyway, I think that is enough description of myself. So, tell me what is the possibility of me getting a "hot" boyfriend? or okay, decent boyfriend?

What should I do? I am not really rich, should I start saving some money, lose weight, buy better clothes, make myself more intelligent. But for the short term, what can I do to find a boyfriend?

You said you can't cook or sing. Why don't you try enrolling yourself to cooking classes or singing lessons or learn an instrument. Sinabi mong hindi ka kagandahan, why not show them that you are more than what they see. You can't do much with genetics pero you can do a lot with your brain. Hindi lang naman kasi physical appearance ang basehan for getting a bf/gf.

Look at musicians or novelists. Marami din sa kanila ang hindi pinalad sa genetic lottery pero they are wanted by many. Why? Dahil sa husay nilang tumugtog ng gitara or makapagsulat ng makabagbag damdaming nobela. Lahat naman iyan ay pwedeng matutunan kahit wala kang special talent.

Tsaka be confident nga 'ika nila. Ang damit nalalaos yan pero ang confidence hindi.

I felt so hopeless, like I can’t really do anything in my situation. I get along with guys naman, there is this guy na study partner ko na sobrang hottie. We share two classes, in one class we sit together. In another class, he sit with a model-like woman na super brainy and nice. So, I can’t really compete. It really makes me wonder how he can stand studying with me. Also, in that class, he just ignores me, nahihiya yata na malaman ng iba that he actually spend time with me.

You can't have everything in this world. Kahit gustuhin ko man na ako na lang sana ang bf ng crush ko ay hindi pwede kasi meron siyang iba. Kumbaga pwede mong gawin ang lahat ng bagay sa mundo para sa friend mo kaso kung hindi ka talaga niya magustuhan, wala tayong magagawa dun. Minsan kelangan na lang natin tanggapin.

Don't be afraid to tell people you like him/her pero alamin mo rin ang hangganan mo.

well, i think i might be 4'11 and half, and my weight varies from 115-120 lbs. So, I just said 120. Pero, I don't think that I am fat. My mother says that I have an ideal weight. I don't know, except for my brother, no friend or family of mine calls me fat. My cheeks are a bit fatty, and I have round face, and maybe my waist is around 30ish inches, but, I don't think I am overweight said so by my doctor. I am really healthy. My cholesterol and fats, and sugar and blood level are normal.

Anyway, my friend says I am cute. My mom says I have an angelic face, I think I have complete set of teeth that are really nice, at hindi naman pango ilong ko. So, I am not disgustingly ugly. Just average!

Clinically, hindi ka pa obese meaning chubby ka lang which is ok. There's nothing wrong with being fat, chubby, thin, etc. Pero kung titingnan mo physically, 120lbs ay marami para sa 4'11" frame mo.

Sinabi ng doctor mo at mom mo, hindi ka overweight. Sinabi ng friend mo cute ka. Pero ikaw, masaya ka ba sa nakikita mo sa salamin? Sa nababasa ko kasi, hindi ka masaya para sa sarili mo. Alamin mo ang mga bagay na pwede mong baguhin at gawan mo ng paraan. 2 lang naman ang choices mo kung meron kang hindi gusto sa sarili mo its either gawan mo ng paraan or tanggapin mo na lang at mahalin ang sarili mo.

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Bata ka pa. Marami ka pang bagay sa mundo na makikita at maeexperiyensiya. Wag ka mag madali.

[quinone]

^tama siya. gumawa ka ng paraan para naman maging happy ka sa looks mo. magpaganda ka naman ng konti. magpa-payat ka, pasok pa ata sa BMI yung 95-105 lbs at 4'11. mag-exercise ka, kahit walking lang; halimbawa 1 hour sa mall everyday. eat healthy. magbihis ng tama, yung mukhang pambabae naman kahit naka-pants ka. (boyish ka ba?) kung nasa labas ka, mag-ayos ka kung feeling mo di ka na fresh. LOOK NEAT. maligo araw-araw tsaka magpabango ka

isama mo na rin yung pag-improve mo ng personality mo. do volunteer work para din marami kag ma-meet, makilala. may fulfillment din sa pagtulong sa ibang tao.

hindi ka lang sa studies dapat magfocus, kung hindi sa pag improve ng buong pagkatao mo. mataas nga grades mo, pero immature ka pa pala, kase naman aral ka lang ng aral, diba?

goodluck!

[Heileen]

Guys, I really appreciate all the suggestions. This makes me feel happy. I thought that I would be like this forever. Seems like being 20 years old is TOO old, like I am doom to be like this. Pero, now, I have a new perspective. Maybe the battle is not over yet. I guess my friends are now enjoying their youth, having great boyfriends. But who knows in the future, I will be the "hot" woman, right?

Sabi nga nila, we all have our time to shine. Siguro, mine will soon come, which is better nga, because I will enjoy it later when I will be old, hopefully in my 30s. Sana nga, I will find a good decent looking husband. Now, I am less stress out. I should just stop thinking about this. Can't help it kasi, I felt like our family is the butt of joke, and maybe my friends are talking behind my back, and saying that I am ugly, whatever.

Pero, one day nga, one day, isang araw, I will be fabulous...
Humanda kayo! lol.

[meteorgirl27]

Guys, I really appreciate all the suggestions. This makes me feel happy. I thought that I would be like this forever. Seems like being 20 years old is TOO old, like I am doom to be like this. Pero, now, I have a new perspective. Maybe the battle is not over yet. I guess my friends are now enjoying their youth, having great boyfriends. But who knows in the future, I will be the "hot" woman, right?

Sabi nga nila, we all have our time to shine. Siguro, mine will soon come, which is better nga, because I will enjoy it later when I will be old, hopefully in my 30s. Sana nga, I will find a good decent looking husband. Now, I am less stress out. I should just stop thinking about this. Can't help it kasi, I felt like our family is the butt of joke, and maybe my friends are talking behind my back, and saying that I am ugly, whatever.

Pero, one day nga, one day, isang araw, I will be fabulous...
Humanda kayo! lol.

That's good! Dapat talaga maging positive ang outlook mo sa buhay, since you are young pa naman, focus on your studies, pero be sure to look good always, importante din na medyo maayos ka sa sarili, just don't overdo it, some guys like simple girls madami pa ding ganyang lalaki, at saka enjoy mo muna ang youth mo, dont stressed yourself sa mga ganyang bagay, nakakatanda yan, hehehehe,

[lipglass]

Self-confidence and,

-bathe everyday
-body scrub twice a week
-body oil after
-deep facial cleaning once a month
-keep nails clean & short
-visit your dentist for cleaning atleast once a month
-sa araw, never ever forget to put on sunblock
-light powder, mascara & lipgloss/tint - no need for heavy make up
-kung pawisin ang ua, deo.
-light, clean & fresh smelling cologne/perfume
-trim your hair every month, deep conditioning once a week
-8-10hrs sleep
-work out, or atleast brisk walking every other day
-gallons of water
-fruits & vegs
-do not smoke
-supplements
-smile

just basics, pero I assure you, your over-all appearance will benefit from these.

[leland]

Guys, I really appreciate all the suggestions. This makes me feel happy. I thought that I would be like this forever. Seems like being 20 years old is TOO old, like I am doom to be like this. Pero, now, I have a new perspective. Maybe the battle is not over yet. I guess my friends are now enjoying their youth, having great boyfriends. But who knows in the future, I will be the "hot" woman, right?

Sabi nga nila, we all have our time to shine. Siguro, mine will soon come, which is better nga, because I will enjoy it later when I will be old, hopefully in my 30s. Sana nga, I will find a good decent looking husband. Now, I am less stress out. I should just stop thinking about this. Can't help it kasi, I felt like our family is the butt of joke, and maybe my friends are talking behind my back, and saying that I am ugly, whatever.

Pero, one day nga, one day, isang araw, I will be fabulous...
Humanda kayo! lol.

You seem to be less depressed with this post but you are still focused on the thought that happiness is about being a hottie and having a good looking husband. What's up with that?

[no2chastitybelt]

Excuse me threadstarter pero parang kapatid ito nang post na

"Si Piolo lang ang anak ng Diyos"...

Itong mga ganitong insecurities are really a turn off. Its a boy/girl repellant. Kung di ka masaya sa sarili mong looks pati personality, para siyang anghet na umaalingasaw at naaamoy ng ibang tao.

[tonton]

4'11" , 120 lbs? You're fat, sister. No matter, don't be too picky with your suitors. Even some 5:5", 120 lbs beauts aren't too picky. You are what you attract. Be thankful na may nagkakagusto sayo.

[sweetwahm]

Why don't you focus on what you can do?

You can lose some weight and maybe get some contact lenses if you feel you don't like your glasses. You can boost your confidence! I don't believe you don't have any talent. Surely, there must be something you are good at.

[Heileen]

Lipglass, I can probably do that later when I am done in school and got a better job. Right now, I am working part-time in a restaurant and going to college full-time. Wala talaga akong day off which adds to the deterioration of my physical look. I don’t even wear make-up because I am trying to avoid spending on “wants”. I don’t even shop for clothes talaga, because I am trying to save money for the future. Financially, I am doing okay, at least may pang-gastos for food and school, pero ZERO in luxuries which depresses me. I just hope talaga my perseverance pays off and my life will get better so I could afford luxuries that will enhance my beauty.

Leland, I am sorry, YES, I AM SHALLOW. I know, I am disgusting! Why am I too ambitious? I believe in fairytales even though I know it’s fiction. There is no prince charming, people fall in love because they want something from someone, or because they complement each other, and I guess, at this point, I have nothing to give. Pero, everyday of my life, I wish a hot guy would love me, and that I am also pretty, and that we will have pretty kids, and we will live happily ever after. Now, tell me, what is wrong with that? I want to look like those women in magazines, I want to have a perfect life. I want this and I want that. Why can’t I have it? Is it not right, to change what fate has given me? What if I want something else, and I won’t’ settle for mediocrity.

“Be contented” “Be happy” “Love yourself” etc…. The only way I can love myself is when my life turns 180 degrees, and the world is flat, and all my dreams will come true. Sorry, I know sobrang OA ako. But do ugly people should just shut up, and accept what has given to them? No matter how much I smile to guys, di nila ako pinapansin. I could ask them to be their slave, and still they won’t accept me. I am hurt that my mom keeps on telling me to cook, or my lola saying I should be a good housekeeper, because that’s’ what I should be.. I am trained to be a good mom daw… Don’t you guys see anything wrong with that? I want men to give me gifts, to come home, and not ask “What’s dinner?”, but you know, we both go out, and maybe I cook sometimes or he does, I want respect…etc……

I’ll stop for now. I know whatever I said doesn’t make sense. You will all just hate me for all these horrible thoughts in my head. I shouldn’t even think like this, diba?

[KobeWanKenobi]

Heilin, your so choosy for someone whos not that hot. I agree with some of the threadster out here, that you might as well concentrate on your studies first.

Great suggestion.

I remember a batchmate I had in high school. Nobody noticed her and she was just one of the girls.

After a few years, she moved in to our neighborhood and I saw her once again and she was a stunner. Too bad she had a bf then or I would have courted her.

Anyway, due to constant prodding, I was able to ask for her picture. When I got her picture, I compared it with her high school yearbook feature to see what changed. And you know what changed?

Virtually nothing.

Except for a hair-do change, the look was basically the same.

And yet she looked lovelier when I saw her again compared with what she looked like in high school.

What brought the change in her? Confidence.

She was oozing with confidence compared with the shy, introverted person she was in high school.

She was working already and earning a job as a professional and that is probably what helped give her confidence. Not a boob or nose job, a diet or whatever.

It was just simple confidence.

So the suggestion is, study hard. Get a good job. And be confident.

[BadAssGoddess]

Well, I am not very ugly. I never had a boyfriend. May nanligaw sa akin, but usually if they are even a little bit handsome, usually may rason other than just being with me. I remember in High school, a guy ask me to be her gf, just because he wants to play computer games in my house for free.

Anyway, now that I am in college, I am 20 years old. I seem to attract really fat ugly guys. Well, I should be grateful, right? at least may nagkagusto sa akin. But I am not. My aunt suggested another fat lazy guy to be my husband. I think she realize, no guy would ever be attractive to me. So, that's nice of her to be sympathetic.

So, how ugly am I? I am 4'11, 120 pounds, not very fat, just a little bit fatty. No special talent, can't cook, can't sing. I would consider myself mildly humorous. Somewhat a dork (not intelligent, but awkward). I wear eyeglasses, not very fashionable (jeans and shirts). I think, i am bit of aloof. what else?

So, anyway, I think that is enough description of myself. So, tell me what is the possibility of me getting a "hot" boyfriend? or okay, decent boyfriend?

What should I do? I am not really rich, should I start saving some money, lose weight, buy better clothes, make myself more intelligent. But for the short term, what can I do to find a boyfriend?

Thanks, everyone. I really need opinion because as you can tell, I am getting desperate. I don't want to end up like my aunts. Most of them married late and have fat americans as husbands.

first you need to lower your expectations, fat men doesnt mean indecent people... and self-confidence,honey.. believe in yourself.. bata ka pa... maraming lalaki dyan..

[jay372011]

I was watching the Tyra Banks show - she was saying to get that model celeb like look she needs a team. Actually wala syang make up that episode and looked very very plain and ordinary. Hindi mo siya mapapansin. Same with Oprah actually hindi siya kagandahan talaga pero nadadala din sa make up at team of beauty experts.

You can do that when your older and have more money. Sabi nga nila lahat na ngayon puwedeng gumanda at magpaganda.

Konting konti lang talaga naman yung maganda na kahit hindi mo ayusan like Gretchen or Dawn Zulueta lang siguro. Karamihan sa mga celebs natin kailangan mag effort or else hindi sila gaganda.

[mengo]

So, I guess, I will forget the thoughts of having a boyfriend muna. Maybe it is not too bad to have no boyfriend at 20. Hopefully, by 30, magkaroon din ako ng boyfriend. I just need to focus on my studies, and be a better woman so I could attract better men as well.

haha ang cute mo. ganto yan hija bibigyan kita ng tip. ang lalake dalawa lang gusto niyan sa babae, maganda at sexy. ok yun kapag yung dalawang requirements na yun ay meron ka. pero pwede din kahit isa lang doon. example maganda na chubby or sexy na mejo panget. basta wag lang sobrang taba at sobrang panget.

ngayon since sabi mo hindi ka ganun ka ganda.. wala na tayong magagawa doon pwera nalang kung kung mapera at mag papaplastic surgery ka. doon tayu ngayon sa option na mag pa sexy ka.

aminin na kasi natin na chubby ang 4'11 na 120 pounds. tingin ko pa nga binawasan mo pa yun para lang masabi na 120 ka e. pero ok lang yun wala namang ibang makaka alam. so pwede kang mag excercise sa gym o kumuha ng sports na gusto mo. diet na din pero wag yun hindi ka na kakain hah kasi hindi na healthy yun..

ok na maging hipon.. at least may nag nanasa sayo. .

o nga pala.. kung ngayong 20 pa lang hindi ka na makakuha ng maayos na bf pano pa kaya kung 30 ka na.. mejo desperada ka na nun at hindi ka na ganun kaganda katulad ng pag bata ka pa. either gold digger ang makukuha mong bf o desperado din. haha

[Heileen]

So, you guys think wala na talagang improvement sa looks ko? Will I get worse when I turn 30? Actually, "retoke" is not an option for me. I just want to improve in a natural way.

[lipglass]

^Sis, basic hygiene doesn't need to be expensive hello?!?
Ok, skip the make up. Baby powder + lipbalm will do.
Scrub? Baby oil + sugar/salt will do.
Cologne? Baby bench, very affordable.
Hair? Pa-trim monthly maski sa kapitbahay lang & yung fresh gata, magandang alternative sa mga treatments. yung tira, dagdagan mo ng gabi, laing na.
Teeth, toothbrush ka nalang 3x a day. Magkuskos ng uling for lightening
Kung di afford magpa-facial, iwasan nalang ang ma-alikabukan ng husto ang face and use Teranex for dirt & oil. P100/bar, will last you a month or two

Gusto mo ba ng Spend VS. Save thread TS?

For me kasi, for as long as malinis ka sa katawan mo, walang foul smell , at malinis din ang kalooban mo, maganda ka. Pero kung ang gandang gusto mo naman kasi is yung mga nakikita mo sa magazines, photoshop ang kailangan mo. :P

[nutriban]

panalo ang laing!!!

[rickym]

Well, I am not very ugly. I never had a boyfriend. May nanligaw sa akin, but usually if they are even a little bit handsome, usually may rason other than just being with me. I remember in High school, a guy ask me to be her gf, just because he wants to play computer games in my house for free.

Anyway, now that I am in college, I am 20 years old. I seem to attract really fat ugly guys. Well, I should be grateful, right? at least may nagkagusto sa akin. But I am not. My aunt suggested another fat lazy guy to be my husband. I think she realize, no guy would ever be attractive to me. So, that's nice of her to be sympathetic.

So, how ugly am I? I am 4'11, 120 pounds, not very fat, just a little bit fatty. No special talent, can't cook, can't sing. I would consider myself mildly humorous. Somewhat a dork (not intelligent, but awkward). I wear eyeglasses, not very fashionable (jeans and shirts). I think, i am bit of aloof. what else?

So, anyway, I think that is enough description of myself. So, tell me what is the possibility of me getting a "hot" boyfriend? or okay, decent boyfriend?

What should I do? I am not really rich, should I start saving some money, lose weight, buy better clothes, make myself more intelligent. But for the short term, what can I do to find a boyfriend?

Thanks, everyone. I really need opinion because as you can tell, I am getting desperate. I don't want to end up like my aunts. Most of them married late and have fat americans as husbands.

as for your looks, don't worry, a lot of men, don't worry about the face if the body is sexy, and that is something you can change unlike your face. just watch your diet and do a little exercise to firm up. it is easier to loose weight though by dieting.

as for character. just don't act like what men don't like and it's so easy to win a guy. don't be moody, always be on time in appointments, don't make tampo, always be reasonable.

and when you get married have a pre-nuptial agreement.

as for the clothes, as long as you have money, that's the last thing you should worry about. when i go around malate, all i wear is rubber shoes, a t-shirt and jeans.

i used to be not only a dork but a nerd. all you have to do is go out with a sociable crowd, get tipsy and loosen up. and of course, learn to be malambing. making lambing works wonders to men. not possessive and clinging, but simply malambing and thoughtful.

[feisty_virago]

So, you guys think wala na talagang improvement sa looks ko? Will I get worse when I turn 30? Actually, "retoke" is not an option for me. I just want to improve in a natural way.

So you're not totally ugly. I have seen way uglier girls than you who have boyfriends. But is that suppose to make you feel bad? No.

Its actually a good thing you don't have a boyfriend right now. I mean, come on, is having a boyfriend/husband the end all- be all of your existence? Im guessing that if you have a boyfriend right now, you probably would be an insecure GF always comparing yourself to other girls whenever your BF's eyes wander. Girl, love yourself first. If you think you're inadequate, people around you will think you're inadequate.

Give yourself a few more years. You're just 20. Once you have a job, you can buy all the beauty products u want, afford salon services, buy healthy food etc. Some people are actually late bloomers and develop later in life. One day, you'll just look back in this thread and laugh.