1-2 months wedding preparation. Is this possible? pls HELP!

[sweetwahm]

whew binabasa ko lang thread na ito, nawiwindang ako! But yes, a short amount of time is still possible for a church wedding basta you have money to burn. My sis got married with as little as 12 month prep but they had a lot of money to burn... tipong sky's the limit hehehe. Kaya go lang ng go kahit ano pa ang price.

[<soul_jah>]

hi...we're planning to get married next year (january or february 2009)....ndi pa sure yung exact date kasi magulo pa sked ng fiance ko...(nsa US kasi sya)....so yun nga dahil wala pang exact date, parang ang hirap pa mag-plan...ang hirap pa mgpa-reserve....kasi dba kelangan ng exact date kung mgpapa-reserve...?....bsta january-february 2009 yung wedding....

1. kung january sya uuwi, kakayanin ba namin mag-prepare for february wedding?....
2. gaano ba katagal ang preparations for the following?:
a. wedding gown, dress ng entourage, barongs,etc?
b. church reservation?
c. invitations?
d. reception?

3. how much budget na kelangan?
4. and ano po ba mga requirements na kelangan na namin i-prepare for the wedding?...sa church po ano pong requirements?

thank you...pls sana you can share some ideas...kasi wala pa **** ako alam sa gnito...
thanks..

hello nowonder...

am sorry to burst your bubble on this dear, but as a somewhat OC-person (i like things to be well-planned & organized, so that the execution will go smoothly), am afraid that a church wedding with 1-2mos. notice is impossible to pull off, unless you & your fiance is willing to stash out a whole lot of moolah (and i agree with the other lady posters who said the same thing), add to that a whole troop of friends who are willing to help you get things done, then i think it's feasible.

ang nakikita ko kasing issue dito is that, hindi ito masyadong napagusapan kaya ang nangyayari, nagka-cram kayo (parang exam, hehe) one thing to note is that, a wedding is not like a quarterly exam: it's your preparation for the next life, which is married life. so, for me, planning is an important factor to be considered here.

but anyhow, this is not a thread para pagalitan ka o anuman. you need help, so i'll also offer you some assistance.. actually it's more of setting your mind on the real facts. am getting married also pero sa church naman (got married civilly na last Nov.). am here in Dubai right now, but my wife is the one who is making the preparations. we're slated to get married in Oct 2009, pero more than a year na namin ito pinaguusapan. so you see, dapat noon pa lang, kung talagang sigurado na kayo sa isa't-isa, napagusapan nyo na yan noon pa.

anyway, here are my thoughts on some of your queries:

1) unless you have tonnes of moolah to stash, and may mga friends kayo who are willing to be your slaves/secretaries/assistants, etc. (kelangan mo i-delegate ang sourcing sa mga kaibigan mo para di ka ngarag), then like i've said, it's feasible. start with a date, dear dun iikot lahat. and since you only have less than 2 weeks to go this dec., set the date in february, para at least may isang buwan pa kayong maghanda.

2) turnaround time for the ff.:

a) wedding dresses (fr the bride-groom to the entourage) - may theme ba kayo? kung meron, medyo matatagalan, and depende pa sa gagawa (nag-backread ako ng ilang posts dito eh). kung may kakilala kayong modista na makakagawa ng damit in a short span of time w/o compromising on quality, go to that person. kung wala naman kayong theme, then settle on the classics, i guess.

b) church reservation - catholic wedding ba? if yes, answer is: malabo. kasi kami ni misis nag-scout ng mga churches for our church wedding. most of the churches would require advanced bookings para ma-slate na nila kung sino ikakasal sa ganitong oras at araw. you also have to consider your desired wedding date kung may kaagaw ka or wala. also, take note na some church have some limitations when it comes to the ceremony, especially after the ceremony. kami ni misis, we chose Mary the Queen Parish in Greenhills kasi maganda sya, kaso matindi naman ang requirements. hindi po sila nagaacept ng rush, katulad ng pinaplano nyo. sorry and, add to that yung mga documents na kelangan nila (seminars, banns, etc.) so un. otherwise, you guys can opt for a christian wedding. un kaya pa. no need for the ceremony to be held at a church. kahit garden wedding kering-keri lang. you'll just got to have a friend who is a pastor/minister & is licensed by the goverment to officiate weddings.

c) invitations - am not sure abt that kasi i let my wifey do that - the preparations, that is. if you want, punta ka ng Recto. marami dung gumagawa ng mga invites. you can ask them if they can do rush orders. but, having studied there, most likely these guys will compromise on the quality of the goods, you'll get pissed big time.

d) reception - again, it's all abt the issue of money. if you & your fiance opted to a christian wedding, you can have it held mismo sa reception ninyo. may mga packages naman na ino-offer ang mga venues (since may mga tie-ups din sila with the caterers). so browse ka na lang sa The Wedding Library (just Google it na lang po). ngayon kung may open slot para sa wedding nyo, at kung may cold cash agad kayo, then settle it para ma-arrange na nila un for you.

3) budget for a super-rushed wedding. hmmm i think you'll need around half a mil to a mil pesoses to stash (estimate lang po iyon ha.)

4) civil or church (whether catholic or christian) yung basic docs na kelangan nyo are the ff.:

a) birth cert ninyo (civil po itong pinaguusapan natin, ha.)

b) CENOMAR for you (?), para siguradong verified na di ka kasal sa iba, hehe. sa fiance mo, am not sure since US citizen sya. ask him to contact the Phil. Embassy or Consulate there to get more viable info.

c) sa Catholic church wedding:

c.a.) if both couples are Catholic:

1) Birth & confirmation certs na may nakalagay na: For Marriage purposes.
2) Canonical interview sa priest ng church na gusto nyong pagkasalan
3) Pre-Cana seminar

c.b.) for inter-faith or mixed (Catholic & something-else)

1) *** dispensation letter na sinasabi nila na manggagaling sa Archdiocesan Chancery that allows either party with a diff. religion to be married under the Sacrament of Matrimony.
2) letter from the Pastor/Minister of the other church allowing the member to be married under the rites of the Catholic church.

so far, based on my understanding & experience sa preparations (and we are currently preparing), as well as the posts of the other pexers here, yun ang mga kelangan mong malaman. bottomline my dear: i don't mean to burst your bubble, pero mukhang impossible talaga ang pina-plano nyo. sinabi ko lang syang feasible based on the assumption na willing kayong magwaldas talaga ng pera (thing is, you have to lure these people para magawa nila ang ine-expect mo, and money is one good motivator). but, aside from money, kelangan mo ng support group dito na tutulong sayo na maisagawa *** wedding ninyo in such a short span of time nang maganda at truly memorable.

i wish you & your fiance all the best & hope things will turn out just fine....


postscript: oo nga pala, before ko makalimutan, if there's one thing that the other pexers forgot to mention here, it's the number of invites. ilan ba ang plano ninyong papuntahin sa kasal nyo? kelangan may target kayong bisita kung ayaw ninyong langawin ang event nyo. un pa pala. that's it for me.

[<soul_jah>]

no wonder add, ko lang ha. medyo nag-speed backread lang ako ng mga posts dito. but i would appreciate it if you can share with us kung ano na ang naging progress ng planning nyo. *** post ko sayo is based dun sa query mo, which was posted last oct pa hehe...

[nowonder]

thanks sa lahat ng replies....tagal kong nawala dito...kaya medyo long read ang update ko *****...hehe

@sweetham
aynaku talagang nakakaloka ang preparations ko! hehehehe

@souljah
thanks ha...hehe.....half a mil na budget is over na....actually, 200k lang budget namin....and ok naman lahat....simpleng bongga...hehe...sabi ko kasi yung mga basic necessities for the wedding lang ang gagastusin namin....yung mga ibang eklavu na hindi naman msyadong kailangan, ay ndi na kami gagastos para dun...idagdag na lang namin sa honeymoon yun!...haha....practical kasi ako eh...

uuwi si H2B on january 14, 2009...

anyway, success na po preparations ko....may nag-help kasi sakin ok na lahat....settled na ang date,venue and church...

Date: January 24,2009
Church: Our Lady of Consolation Parish (ganda dito pramis! hehe)
Reception: Blue Gardens

October ako nghanap ng ideas and nag-inquire inquire sa mga churches...November ng-start ang preparations ko....

November....may nag-suggest sakin na i-try ko daw sa Our Lady of Consolation Parish sa may Tierra Pura, Tandang Sora...

so ayun nag-try ako dun...grabe sobrang bait nila dun! very accomodating sila sa mga overseas couples....hindi man lang ako nahirapan makipag-usap sila...sinabi ko na wala dito si H2B and 20 days lang sya mgsstay dito and US citizen sya (pero dugong pinoy).....

ayun sabi nila mag-submit na lang daw ako ng CENOMAR naming dalawa....(pero ang required **** kay H2B is "legal capacity to marry"...pero to follow na lang yan pgdating ni H2B..)...For now, i-submit ko lang ang CENOMAR namin and good to go na kami for the marriage bann!...so ayun nilakad ko na yang requirement na yan...

1st inquiry ko pa lang sa OLCP, na-settle ko na agad yung date..and yun din yung date na gusto namin! sobrang saya talaga! hehehe

So next. nilakad ko na ang reception....inquire ako agad sa Blue Gardens....so ayun pang-3rd ako sa nag-pencil book para sa slot na yun...pero ako ang nanalo sa slot na yun! haha...binayaran ko na agad ang reservation fee....kaya ok na ok na...

and yung other necessities for the wedding nilakad na din namin...(gowns, invitations,etc)....

Last week of November-1st week of December sinimulan na namin magpatahi....1st week of January ang pick-up date ng lahat ng patahi....ngpa-reserve na din kami sa florist...

2nd week of December, pagawa na kami ng invitations....1st week of January din ang pick-up...

(giveaways, cakes, videographer, photographer, kasama na sa package sa Blue Gardens...sobrang ok talaga dun kasi konti na lang inasikaso ko...)


2nd week of December nag-start na ang marriage bann! haha...january 6 ko babalikan yung mga yun...

regarding marriage license, sa Antipolo kami mg-aapply nyan...10 working days daw ang process...ok na yun....and pwede naman na to follow na lang ang marriage license dun sa church...hehe...bait bait **** nila dun sobra!


oh dba 2 months preparations is really possible pala!....online help lang ako lahat...hehehe...and yung quality ng wedding prep ko ay hindi rin na-sacrifice...syempre mejo maarte din naman ako sa ganyan...hehe...

sobrang saya ko talaga sa church na nakuha ko! Buti na lang hindi kami pinayagan sa St.Peter and Antipolo Cathedral! kasi mas maganda sa OLCP! sobra!...very solemn and private ng environment....ganda **** dun...hay ang galing ni God...hehe...


and yes, cramming tlaga kami sa wedding na to...Last uwi nya dito sa pinas nung Dec.2008....and hindi namin napag-usapan yang wedding na yan....3rd quarter of the year bigla na lang nya ako pinaasikaso ng lahat....and syempre ayoko naman na magsayang ng oras kaya inasikaso ko na agad lahat....hehehe....lagi naman kaming ngra-rush kaya sanay na din kami! hehehe...and masaya din ang mag-cram sa preparations! hahahha....nkkloka...

so there...long read ba? sensya na....

lapit na big day namin! im so excited! hehehhee....

eto na lang problem ko *****...leche ***** pa nglalabasan pimples ko...panira ****! kung kelan **** malapit na sya na umuwi tska pa nglabasan tong mga to! grrrr...kaasar!

[nowonder]

ang natutunan ko sa preparations nato is:

dapat pala unahin ang reservation sa church, then reception....pag reserve ka na sa church, tska lang mase-settle ang date and tska ka pa lang mkkpaghanap ng reception venue....tapos dyan na iikot ang lahat...hehe

[lovie_02]

what is a church bann?

[bondgirl]

it's an announcement sa mga Catholics na magpapakasal. announcement na ang couple na ito ay ikakasal sa simbahang ito. i don't know gaano katagal ang bann though para i post

[lovie_02]

mm. thanks bond girl! hey i know you. nagpost ka din dun sa dilema ko diba? wala kasing ganun samin. hehe. anyways, im under 21, you think 1 month is okay para sa prep ng docoments?

[bondgirl]

yes we know each other here

one month preparation for the docs?? i think that would be enough.

marriage license= after 2 weeks pa makuha yun upon application. personal appearance from both of you ang kailangan.

pre-cana seminars = di ko lang alam panu ito pero requirement din ito para makuha yung marriage license.

parental consent = may ganitong form sa mga municipal and city halls. bale signature na lang ng parents mo ang kelangan. eto ang una mong kunin sa city hall or which town you are planning to get married since you are under 21. kapag meron ka na nito, makakapag apply na kayo ng marriage license together with other docs like birth certificate. si hubs mo naman, since i think he's over 25 na, what he needs to get is a CENOMAR (certificate of non marriage) sa NSO. and that's what he'll need naman to apply for a license.

ayun. i hope nakatulong ako.

off-topic: err..hindi pa pala kami nakaka apply ng license ni fiance hehehe... asikasuhin ko na pala dapat yun.

[lovie_02]

yes we know each other here

one month preparation for the docs?? i think that would be enough.

marriage license= after 2 weeks pa makuha yun upon application. personal appearance from both of you ang kailangan.

pre-cana seminars = di ko lang alam panu ito pero requirement din ito para makuha yung marriage license.

parental consent = may ganitong form sa mga municipal and city halls. bale signature na lang ng parents mo ang kelangan. eto ang una mong kunin sa city hall or which town you are planning to get married since you are under 21. kapag meron ka na nito, makakapag apply na kayo ng marriage license together with other docs like birth certificate. si hubs mo naman, since i think he's over 25 na, what he needs to get is a CENOMAR (certificate of non marriage) sa NSO. and that's what he'll need naman to apply for a license.

ayun. i hope nakatulong ako.

off-topic: err..hindi pa pala kami nakaka apply ng license ni fiance hehehe... asikasuhin ko na pala dapat yun.

pre-cana? yan ba yun seminar sa church? saka yun family planning naku naman kailangan pa ba talaga yun? yung marriage license san namin i-aapply yun? sa town na gusto namin ikasal? we're already scouting designers na. ang mahal naman kasi nung gown na gusto ko. kaya pa copy ko na lang jan pati wedding rings hirap din maghanap ng affordable hehe hiya kasi ako kay hubs sa kanya lahat. anyways, we'll talk about this a lot!so magiging close talaga tayo!

[bondgirl]

pre-cana? yan ba yun seminar sa church? saka yun family planning naku naman kailangan pa ba talaga yun? yung marriage license san namin i-aapply yun? sa town na gusto namin ikasal? we're already scouting designers na. ang mahal naman kasi nung gown na gusto ko. kaya pa copy ko na lang jan pati wedding rings hirap din maghanap ng affordable hehe hiya kasi ako kay hubs sa kanya lahat. anyways, we'll talk about this a lot!so magiging close talaga tayo!

Hihi... oo nga. i'm getting married na din kasi December this year.

pre-cana = yep yan yung seminar sa church. though not really a seminar thing. it will depend. small talk siguro galing kay father or pastor or ministro.

family planning seminar = ewan ko lang kung paano ito. pre-requisite kasi ito sa pagkuha ng license eh. kung may kakilala si hubs mo na someone from the munisipyo lalong lalo na sa department kung saan ina apply yun, pwedeng pakiusapan na lang at sabihin na nasa States ka at dadating ka one month bago ang kasal nyo.

marriage license = correct me if i'm wrong (para sa mga nakakuha ng lisensya jan at nakasal na), but yes, i think BOTH of you will apply for it sa munisipyo kung saan nyo ini intend na magpakasal. for example gusto nyo sa Manila, dun sa Manila City Hall nyo iaapply yun. kung di ka sure (since i'm not also sure), you can check the Legal section here in myKasal since naka state siguro dun panu mag apply for that.

wedding rings... kung mura ang hinahanap nyo, sa Ongpin madami. as in you can find wedding bands there that costs a quarter of the total price in jewelry shops in malls. kung andito ka sa RP, dapat both you and your hubs should go to bridal fairs since wedding suppliers are offering discounts if you book them during the fair and you can haggle kahit papano.

kami nga ni fiance, December na ang wedding pero di pa rin kami masyado nakakapag prepare. ang nagagawa pa lang namin ay magpareserve ng venue at date. yun pa lang. tapos malayo din sya at super change lagi sa schedule ng work nya. grrr.... nagagalit na nga ako minsan eh hehehe.

[lovie_02]

Hihi... oo nga. i'm getting married na din kasi December this year.

pre-cana = yep yan yung seminar sa church. though not really a seminar thing. it will depend. small talk siguro galing kay father or pastor or ministro.

family planning seminar = ewan ko lang kung paano ito. pre-requisite kasi ito sa pagkuha ng license eh. kung may kakilala si hubs mo na someone from the munisipyo lalong lalo na sa department kung saan ina apply yun, pwedeng pakiusapan na lang at sabihin na nasa States ka at dadating ka one month bago ang kasal nyo.

marriage license = correct me if i'm wrong (para sa mga nakakuha ng lisensya jan at nakasal na), but yes, i think BOTH of you will apply for it sa munisipyo kung saan nyo ini intend na magpakasal. for example gusto nyo sa Manila, dun sa Manila City Hall nyo iaapply yun. kung di ka sure (since i'm not also sure), you can check the Legal section here in myKasal since naka state siguro dun panu mag apply for that.

wedding rings... kung mura ang hinahanap nyo, sa Ongpin madami. as in you can find wedding bands there that costs a quarter of the total price in jewelry shops in malls. kung andito ka sa RP, dapat both you and your hubs should go to bridal fairs since wedding suppliers are offering discounts if you book them during the fair and you can haggle kahit papano.

kami nga ni fiance, December na ang wedding pero di pa rin kami masyado nakakapag prepare. ang nagagawa pa lang namin ay magpareserve ng venue at date. yun pa lang. tapos malayo din sya at super change lagi sa schedule ng work nya. grrr.... nagagalit na nga ako minsan eh hehehe.

i know. it's really hard to be this far. yung ongpin ba of course i want white gold, hindi ba kami madedenggoy ng mga tao dun? hehe. oh and the wedding gown, too expensive to buy here, hiya nako ke hubs sa kanya lahat ng gastos. pa copy ko na lang sana jan. sino designer mo? :d kung mura pa copy sa kanya baka pwede pahingi ng contact hehe