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Count me in here. I've been going through with this for over 2years and in a month's time i'll be hitting my 30th bday. Kaloka!
Ngayon ko lang nalaman na quarter life crisis pala ang nararamdaman ko ngayon.
Nagsimula siya last year. Yung feeling na napag-iiwanan ka na ng mga kasabayan mo. Yung feeling na hindi mo talaga alam kung ano ang gusto mo sa buhay.
Nagsstruggle pa din ako hindi ko alam hanggang kailan ang feeling na to.
From the list, dito talaga ako naka relate.
* feeling "not good enough" because one can't find a job that is at one's academic/intellectual level
--Right now, I really felt this way. Feeling "not good enough" kasi hindi ko magawa kung ano man ang gusto ko talagang gawin kasi I'm really afraid of failures and just the thought of failing myself is quite unbearable. Other's may say na my situation is okay but I want more. May mga dreams ako and I want that to happen.
* frustration with relationships, the working world, and finding a suitable job or career
* insecurity regarding the near future
--I felt really insecure on what would happen to me in the near future if I won't do anything now. What I envision myself to be, feeling ko malabo na mangyari iyon because of my current situation. Maybe it's also my fault because I'm afraid of failures. I just need to overcome this fear.
* insecurity regarding present accomplishments
--True..Feeling ko nga parang wala naman talaga akong major accomplishments and I felt worthless. Madami akong naiisip na gawin just for the sake of adding it to my accomplishments.
* re-evaluation of close interpersonal relationships
* a sense that everyone is, somehow, doing better than you
--Add ko lang: sense that everyone is earning more than you and getting what they want in life while you are stuck in your miserable situation.
Sobrang nakakarelate ako dito lalo na when I turned 21 late last year. Alam mo yung feeling na parang mauubusan ka ng oras sa pagkamit mo sa mga pangarap mo. Yung tipong lahat ng gagawin mo may impact sya sa magiging takbo ng buhay mo in the years to come, especially pag dumating yung araw na tatanda ka na. Tapos yung mga responsibilidad mo nadagdagan. Malayo pa talaga ako sa pamilya ko sa ngayon at nasa isang lugar ako na wala akong kakilala. Sobrang namimiss ko na yung mga kapamilya at kaibigan ko. Most of the time sinasabi ko sa sarili ko na magiging okay lang din ang lahat pero deep down, na-ooverwhelm pa rin ako ng sadness. Nakakabadtrip talaga, sobra. Pero sa current circumstances ko, I'd rather be alone than be with people who can make the situation even worse.
Pero pinipilit ko na lang din yung sarili kong maging masaya at motivated. I always remind myself na in everything that I do, I should put God first. And all these problems that trouble me are just worldly problems, they won't matter in the end anyway! Basta ba live your life according to God's will so that everything will turn out right. Whew, motivating words para sa sarili lol.
And dun naman sa list, nakaka-relate ako sa halos lahat maliban sa iilan like:
* desire to have children
- Idk but kids just remind me of how happy I was as a child and of how things are so much different right now. Para bang I can't remember the last time I was genuinely happy.
Gahh. this reply sounds so ironic.
Im 26 now, pero sa mga previous jobs ko, hindi naman ako naging ganun kasaya. Since last year hindi stable yung work ko, sana nga ngayon kahit papano magkaroon na ko ng stable job. I graduated with flying colors nung college, pero since after graduation feeling ko hindi ko na maprove sarili ko. Minsan kasi feeling ko ang taas ng expectations ng mga tao sakin kasi tingin nila matalino ko. Yun din isa pa na nakadagdag sa frustrations ko. Sa ganitong edad, yung iba successful na sa buhay pero ako parang wala pang nararating.
At the age of 26, NBSB. Ewan ko ba, hindi lang talaga ko siguro lapitin ng mga lalaki. Hindi naman ako ganun ka-ganda, pero hindi din naman ako ganun ka-pangit eh. Siguro dahil mahiyain kasi ako at tahimik lang, at hindi ako ganun ka-approachable sa mga guys. Tsaka sabi nila mukha daw ako masyado inosente at mukhang mas bata tingnan sa age ko. Hindi ko tuloy malaman kung compliment yun o disadvantage. hahaha! Minsan nakakalungkot din baka tumanda na kong dalaga, wala man lang nagkakainteres manligaw. :-( Pero naniniwala pa rin na ibibigay ni God yung right guy para sakin, hindi ko lang alam kung kelan.
Pag dating naman sa mga friends, hindi naman ganun kadami kaibigan ko, bilang lang siguro ng daliri. Hindi naman kasi ako sociable na tao eh. Pero minsan feeling ko parang unti-unti na silang lumalayo eh, nagkakaron na ng gap. Sa totoo bihira na rin kasi kami magkita-kita dahil sa sched. Kaya minsan tuloy nakakalungkot. Pero ganun talaga, minsan hindi rin maiiwasan yun eh.
Ang ginagawa ko para may pagkaabalahan at malimutan mga frustrations ko, sumali ko sa isang religious community at nagseserve ako sa church. Malaking tulong din yun sakin, masaya rin kasi kahit papano may nagagawa din akong makabuluhan sa buhay ko. Nakatulong din yun na mabawasan yung loneliness at emptiness na nafifeel ko. May mga nakilala din akong mga bagong kaibigan dahil sa pagseserve ko, at mas napalapit ako kay Lord. May mga frustrations man ako sa buhay, pero alam ko na may plan si God para sa akin, when it comes to my career, my lovelife at sa lahat ng aspeto sa buhay ko, may plano siya. We just have to put our trust in him. Lagi lang tayong magpray at maging positive sa buhay. I-appreciate natin yung mga blessings natin na binigay niya, at instead na magfocus tayo sa frustrations, lets focus dun sa mga blessings at mga positive na nangyayari sa buhay natin. Ako, may mga kulang man sa buhay ko, but still I know I am blessed dahil meron akong supportive at mapagmahal na parents, kumpleto at okay yung family ko, at hindi kami naghihirap sa buhay. May plan si God para sa ating lahat, magtrust lang tayo sa kanya. I know malalampasan din nating lahat yung mga pinagdadaanan natin. :-)
Last edited by pink_angel65; Aug 11, 2013 at 01:35 PM.
I believe I experienced the same thing. I turned 28 last May and I was always in depressed mode before that.
I felt like I had no real achievements and was unhappy with what was going on with my life. I'm just glad that I was able o overcome that phase. And yes, I believe that everyone has to deal with that one time or another.
What I did was to have realization that I was unhappy because I did not love myself. So, I took the decision to love and accept myself completely. I went to church every Sunday to ask God to take away all of the pain and hatred that I felt. I asked for him to to make me love myself. And everyday before going to sleep I have this mantra that I told myself. I would always say to myself that I am beautiful because I choose to see the beauty in me. I am beautiful because I am unique. I love myself because I am who I am and that I am the only responsible of loving myself completely. Aside from that, I focused on the positive things and all the things that I have. I also read Tiny Buddha's blog. I read about self love, letting go and acceptance blogs. I think it would also be best if you read Tiny Buddha. It was a great help for me and it still is.