Secret of Success - in a simple way

[thebluemystery]

yeah i know it's really complicted but many of us.. meron tayong belief na once nag abroad dun tayo makakaginhawa... basta masipag lang at naka graduate ok na buhay natin.. i started to realize that etong mga bagay natoh is all false when i was in college..

i think for me.. being masipag or matyaga and naka graduate is not an assurance na giginhawa ang life mo.. i think it takes.. yung pagiging madiskarte and being smart and knowing your skills.. i think this is the most commom things na kelangan or the most simple things na kelangan to make a step toward success

kaya what do you think>

[joma_s]

yeah i know it's really complicted but many of us.. meron tayong belief na once nag abroad dun tayo makakaginhawa... basta masipag lang at naka graduate ok na buhay natin.. i started to realize that etong mga bagay natoh is all false when i was in college..

i think for me.. being masipag or matyaga and naka graduate is not an assurance na giginhawa ang life mo.. i think it takes.. yung pagiging madiskarte and being smart and knowing your skills.. i think this is the most commom things na kelangan or the most simple things na kelangan to make a step toward success

kaya what do you think>

The first secret is you have to define what is success to you. Being a well paid glamour cover girl means nothing to a nun, or owning a 30 storey building is not success to those who value nature.

Ang pagiging madiskarte is being frowned by those who are honest. It means differently to different people.

Determining what is success to you is the secret of being successful.

[hotchillipepper]

secret of success is not forgetting your goal!!

yung pagiging madiskarte and being smart and knowing your skills.. i think this is the most commom things na kelangan or the most simple things na kelangan to make a step toward success

you are correct!!

work smarter not harder, some people works 14 hrs a day and still not making a lot of money.. hehehhe!

[thebluemystery]

ic i understand... anyways any comments ay welcome pa rin

[thebluemystery]

secret of success is not forgetting your goal!!




you are correct!!

work smarter not harder, some people works 14 hrs a day and still not making a lot of money.. hehehhe!

yeah... 14 hours a day and tomorrow absent! lolz

[Jonga]

^really its a matter of priority, some for money, some for experience

[Oneiros]

Ang pagiging madiskarte is being frowned by those who are honest. It means differently to different people.

Are you implying that being "madiskarte" involves dishonesty?


Oneiros
Lying by omission is not lying

[joma_s]

Are you implying that being "madiskarte" involves dishonesty?


Oneiros
Lying by omission is not lying

I grew up in squatter area and there are different meanings to different words. For example, may problem sa electrical connection and no one knows how to make a correct wiring splice, then didiskartehan na lang nila. Meaning not up to standard. Sa kababata ko noong araw mas madiskarte ka kapag marami kang na-snatch that day. Different people different meaning.

Kapag narinig ko ang 'diskarte', masakit ang dating sa tenga ko.

[chinita_grl]

Oneiros, by being "madiskarte" means that I don't need to actually work like everyone else. If you think for example, that you have the skills and the know-how to start a particular business, maybe yun yung sinasabi niyang diskarte. Just go into business rather than work for someone else. Yung hindi gaya gaya. Others become more successful kasi sa corporate set up, but others do better kahit na small business, mas kumikita pa compared sa nagwowork

[Jonga]

where did the word diskarte came from? Descartes?

[archgold]

For me I believe that a true "diskarte" does not resort to wrongdoings and playing dirty tricks just to gain a certain advantage. It is using everything you've got FAIRLY to achieve your goals.

On the other hand, I would also like to think of success in terms of what we GIVE to others. Puro na lang kasi nakasentro sa "self" yung definition ng success like having a nice home, car, high-paying job, career advancement, etc. I guess may mga taong "successful" din in terms of what they are doing for others like Tony Meloto of Gawad Kalinga, a successful and fulfilled man.

[hotchillipepper]

as they say, money will come along with the success!!


got this from my email....




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Laws of Lifetime Personal Growth
by John Maxwell

Law 1 - Always Make Your Future Bigger Than Your Past

"The past is useful because it is rich in experience that are worth thinking about in new ways and all of these valuable experience can become raw material for creating an even bigger future. Approach your past with this attitude, and you will have an insatiable desire for even better, more enjoyable experiences. Use your past to contiually create a bigger future. and you will separate yourself from situations, relationships, and activities that can trap you there."
from "The Laws of Lifetime Growth" by Dan Sullivan and Catherine Nomura

Thoughts about the Future
Abraham Lincoln said: "The best thing about the future is that it comes only one day at a time." The secret of your success is determined by your daily agenda. We spend each day either repairing the past or preparing for the future. We can try to fix our past, but we can't rewrite it; we can only author our future. The future is that time when you'll wish you had done what you aren't doing now. Don't fear failure so much that you refuse new things. The saddest summary of life contains three descriptions: could have, might have and should have.


Law 2 - Always Make Your Contribution Bigger Than Your Reward

"As you become more successful, numerous rewards will come your way: greater income, praise, recognition, reputation, status, capabilities, resources and opportunities. These are all desirable but they can be growth stoppers. They may tempt you to become fixated on just rewards, rather than focus on making still greater contributions. The way to guarantee that rewards will continually increase is to not think too much about them. Instead, continue making an even more significant contribution."
Sullivan and Nomura

Thoughts on Contribution
To make your contribution even bigger than your reward, adapt an anti-entitlement attitude. Believe you must give before you receive. Expect to serve before feeling like you deserve a reward. Determine success by the seeds you sow rather than the harvest you reap. Each morning, I ask myself, "Who can I add value to and how can I do it?" It's amazing how much I've been able to contribute by answering this simple question each day and following through to help a friend or colleague.


Law 3 - Always Make Your Performance Greater Than Your Applause

"The greatest performers in all fields are those who always strive to get better. No matter how much acclaim they receive, they keep working to improve their performance. Continually work to surpass everything you've done so far, and your performance will always be greater than your applause."
Sullivan and Nomura

Thoughts on Performance
To make sure your performance stays a step ahead of your applause, be growth-driven instead of goal-driven. I'm not criticizing goals, but if we aren't careful, they can limit our
growth. If we set them too high, they de-motivate us. If we set them too low, we are tempted to relax when we hit them rather than pushing for our best performance. Growth is a long and consistent process. No substitutions can be made or shortcuts taken which avoid the day-to-day process of growth.


Law 4 - Always Make your Gratitude Greater than Your Success

"Only a small percentage of people are continually successful over the long run. These outstanding few recognize that every success comes through the assistance of many other people - and they are continually grateful for this support."
Sullivan and Nomura

Thoughts on Gratitiude
We see the value in people and things through proactive gratitude. Once we see this value, we naturally treat these people and things with greater respect. People and resources are drawn to where they are valued most. The world responds to gratitude by making more of everything we appreciate available to us.

To adapt an attitude of thankfulness, Oprah Winfrey keeps a gratitude journal. She recommends her habit to others: "Every night, list five things that happened this day that you are grateful for. What it will begin to do is change your perspective of your day and your life. If you can learn to focus on what you have, you will always see that the universe is abundant; you will have more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never have enough."


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[albert_sy2]

diskarte -- from "discard"?

[sholess]

the trick is to disregard all kinds of established, conventional morality to achieve your goal.. sabi nga ni 50 cent git rich or die tryin!

[Lucca Yamazaki]

heh, I thought this is going to be another one of those "law of attraction" thingies........... </shudder>

[missy_anne]

What response am i attached into...? Its with Hotchillipepper. He/She excerpts the statement of John Maxwell entitled "Laws of Lifetime Personal Growth.

[missy_anne]

What response am i attached into...? Its with Hotchillipepper. He/She excerpts the statement of John Maxwell entitled "Laws of Lifetime Personal Growth.

[keymaker]

Change the definition of success to make it something easy to achieve.

If you're talking about wealth, then it's ambition, hard work and talent. In that order of importance.

[hotchillipepper]

I agree in this writing that they are some peministics that also can be lucky and successful too( one hit wonder, hehehhe), their difference with the optimistics is the consistency of success.


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Attitudes and Success

This e-mail is a Chapter from my book - Don't Knock on Wood.

It will take approximately 15 minutes to read. So try to
read when you have the appropriate "quiet time". My hope is that my
book will have a lasting impact on your attitude for the rest of
your life.

As already discussed, our attitudes affect every aspect of our
lives. This includes the level of success we achieve throughout our
lives - whether it is success in our careers, our marriages, our
education, or in completing a simple task.

People with a positive attitude always succeed - even if they don't
realize they are succeeding. For instance, a young man enters
college, with the goal of becoming an attorney. During his course
work, he finds that he is bored, and quickly losing interest in
becoming a lawyer. But, he finds that he has quite a bit of
interest in his psychology and sociology courses, and even looks
forward to attending each of those classes - while he is cutting
the law instruction classes more and more often.

When he shows his grades to his parents, they feel that he is
failing - not succeeding. He doesn't see it that way. He feels that
while he may be failing the legal courses, he is doing great in the
psychology and sociology courses, and changes his major to
psychology. Eventually, he graduates, and becomes a psychologist.
He didn't fail at becoming an attorney, he simply succeeded at
becoming a psychologist - a field that he had much more interest
in, and excelled at throughout the rest of his life.

That young man was able to see other open doors. If this same young
man had a bad attitude, he would have either continued to pursue a
legal career, which he probably would have hated, even if he
succeeded at achieving the goal, or dropped out of school
altogether. Positive people look at situations from many different
angles - always finding something good, and always finding a way to
succeed.

If you think about the successful people that you know, you will
find that they all have one thing in common. They all have positive
attitudes. It is important to remember that success is not always
measured in dollars. Success is many different things, to many
different people. Some people do measure success in dollars, while
others measure success by their level of happiness, or by reaching
goals that they have set for themselves.

This does not mean that people with bad attitudes do not attain
success, it simply means that it doesn't happen as consistently, or
to the same level, as it does for people who have positive
attitudes. Negative thoughts usually produce negative results, and
positive thoughts always produce positive results.

Fear of Success

1.Many people have a fear of success. They can come right up to the
line that represents success for them, then they either turn their
backs on it, or do something that moves that line farther out of
their reach. This is a common scenario for people with bad
attitudes. Alternately, the fear of success can be the cause of a
bad attitude

The only way to shed a fear of success is to understand why it
exists. The cause is different for each person. Often, people don't
fear the success as much as they fear the consequences of success.
The consequences may have negative qualities that the person is
avoiding. For instance, a person on the brink of stardom is risking
the loss of his or her privacy. A person who is about to be
promoted to a new job knows that as a result of the new position,
he or she will have less time to spend with his or her family.
Success often comes at a price - a possible negative consequence.

Once you develop a more confident and positive attitude toward
yourself you will start to realize, fear or not, that you can do
almost anything you want to do. You will start to take down those
walls that you built up around yourself. To ensure success in your
thinking you must remember it will take a little time to change
your negative way of life. "Rome wan't built in a day" and you are
not going to wake up the next morning and all of a sudden have a
completely positive attitude. It will take some work and
dedication. Also, remember that we are always changing as the world
is around us and we need to be open to change on a daily basis.
Next, there is no exception to having a negative attitude. You need
to develop the thinking that there is no excuse good enough to
having or exuding a negative attitude. Enlisting the help of a
supportive friend will help you to achieve these changes. Lastly,
please remember a few key pieces of advice:
1.)Life is full of opportunities, not obstacles. (It's all in how
you look at it).
2.)You need to have a very strong committment to be positive every
single day. Before you know it, it will become habit.
3.)Remember, it is YOUR choices, not external circumstances that
determine how YOU think!

What it really comes down to, is what a person wants for their
lives, and how much they really want it. The person who is about to
become a star always thought that he or she wanted that fame. But,
when faced with it, they realized that the cost of that success was
more than they were willing to pay. A negative person would walk
away from the whole thing, but not a positive person. A positive
person would look at the situation, and see how they could still
have the stardom, without sacrificing their privacy. Stars are
often able to have both.

The negative person who is up for a job promotion, but doesn't want
to risk time with his family, walks away from the job promotion -
and in some cases the job. Then, he spends quite a bit of time
dwelling on it, and may even start to blame his family for the
failure, which in turn can tear that family apart. A positive
person, again, looks at the same situation from different angles,
and figures out a way to have the job promotion, without
sacrificing time with his family. He will make an effort to spend
time with his family, and work with his supervisors to make sure he
has that extra time.

The cost of success is one of the reasons behind the fear of
success. Fear of failure is the other cause of fear of success. In
this case, it isn't the success or the cost of success that is
feared. We often fear that we will become successful, only to fail
later down the road - when more people are watching. We turn our
backs on success, to avoid possible failure. Using our star and our
executive as examples again, the person on the brink of stardom may
fear that they will have a movie that is a huge box office
disappointment, or that something in their personal lives will
cause their adoring public to turn against them. The person who is
up for the job promotion may fear that he or she won't be able to
handle the job, and will be demoted - causing them great
embarrassment in both their corporation and in their personal lives.

Another common cause of fear of success is low self esteem. A
person might not feel like they deserve the success that they are
about to achieve, and they either walk away from it, or sabotage it
in someway. People with positive attitudes rarely have low self
esteem. People with bad attitudes are more likely to fear success
because they don't feel that they deserve it.

Fearing success has more negative consequences than achieving
success. People who fear success often fail to reach their goals,
develop self-destructive behavior, develop problems making
decisions, lose motivation, become underachievers, sabotage
themselves, fail to find happiness, and ultimately, develop bad
attitudes in general. Fearing success can also create feelings of
guilt, confusion, and anxiety.

Fear of success is more common than you realize. Every successful
person, at one time or another, had to face either the cost of
success, or the fear of failure. They may have even faced both. But
a positive attitude goes a very long way in dealing with the fear
of success. If it didn't, there would be very few successful people
in the world today.

Overcoming Fear of Success

The first step to overcoming fear of success is determining if your
fear is actually a fear of the cost of success, or a fear of
failure - or both. Do you feel like you don't deserve the success?
Pinpointing the cause will help you deal more effectively with your
fear of success. Knowing what you fear often takes credibility away
from that fear.

When children fear monsters, their parents come in and explain that
what they are hearing is the wind, and what they are seeing is the
shadow of trees in the moonlight on their walls. They take the
child to the window, and point these things out. The child has
faced the fear, had it explained to them, and they go to sleep. As
adults, we can find our own explanations for our fears - even our
fear of success.

The way you deal with your fear of success depends greatly on what
the cause is. If your fear of success is based on feelings that you
don't deserve the success, ask yourself the following questions:

-Why do I feel like I don't deserve this success? Be very specific
here.
-What do I feel like I need before I deserve this success? More
education? More experience?
-Who deserves this success more than me? Why?
-If I achieve this success, in what ways will I be affected by
feeling like I don't deserve it?

This is not an exercise in talking yourself out of achieving the
success. It is simply an exercise designed to discover why you do
not feel like you deserve the success. Once those questions have
been answered, ask yourself these questions:

-What changes can I make in my life to feel like I deserve this
success?
-Can I make these changes after achieving the success?
-Even if I feel that I don't deserve this success now, is the
success something that I will grow into after achieving it?

Work on developing a positive outlook everyday, and building self
esteem. You might even consider using the success to help build
self esteem.

If your fear of success is based on fear of failure, you can easily
dispel the fear by facing the possible failure headon. Ask yourself
the following questions:

-If I achieve this success, what is the absolute worst thing that
can happen? How will I personally be affected by it?
-If that worst case scenario came to pass, how would I handle it?
-What are the chances that this would come to pass?
-What do I have in my personal arsenal to prevent failure, after I
achieve success? Education? Skill?

Once you've imagined the worst thing that can happen, your reaction
to that failure, and the real reactions of others to that failure,
the fear should be put into perspective. You've already seen, in
your mind, what can happen. You've imagined yourself, and others,
dealing with it, and moving on. In your imagination, you didn't
die. Your life wasn't over. You know that you have the education,
skill, or experience to avoid the failure, and you know you deserve
this success.

If your fear of success is caused by the possible cost of success,
you have to determine how much you want the success - and how badly
you want it. Ask yourself the following questions:

-What is the cost of this success?
-How can I deal with the cost of the success, and still enjoy the
success?
-Is the cost of the success worth it? Am I willing to pay the price?
-Can I alter the success, where the cost isn't so high, and I still
feel that I have achieved what I set out to do?
-Who will be affected by my success, and in what way? List both
positives and negatives.
-What can I do to minimize the negative effects that my success
will have on others?

Often, when faced with the possible cost of success, working
through the negative consequences ahead of time will take away the
fear of success. People with positive attitudes always find a way
around the obstacles.

Dealing With Failure

When it comes to failure we don't like to talk about it, we fear it
and most of all we do not accept it. Often times we can only
succeed through failing several times. I'm sure you've heard the
saying "a man who never made a mistake never did anything." This is
true for everyone in life, even those who have been successful in
their lifetime. For example, Abraham Lincoln lost several
senatorial and congressional elections before eventually being
elected president of the United States. Thomas Edison spent
thousands to millions of dollars on some inventions that never
proved useful and Henry Ford had several setbacks before eventually
building the first automobile. There have probably been several
great leaders born in our lifetime, but we never came to know them
because they never took the risk to succeed.. Here is a poem by an
unknown author about taking risks in life:

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feeings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas, your dreams, before the crowd is to risk their
loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.

Perhaps the greatest failure in our lives would be to never take a
risk. You may be able to avoid any pain and suffering by taking no
chances, but you also sacrifice your chances to grow, learn, love,
feel and most of all LIVE.

Nobody can succeed all the time. Sometimes, we fail. Even people
with positive attitudes face failure. How we deal with the failure
is what sets the optimists apart from the pessimists. Optimists
often find success in their failures and move on, while pessimists
only see the failure, and become hindered by it.

When faced with failure, it is important to examine it. This
doesn't mean that you dwell on it - you analyze it. What caused the
failure. This is not an excuse to be negative. Think about this
from a realistic point of view, and try to pinpoint the actual
reason for the failure. Did you try as hard as you could? Really?
Did you skip a step somewhere? What was the cause of the failure?

When you know what caused the failure, determine what you could
have done differently that would have resulted in success. Again,
only think about what you might have done to cause the failure, and
what you might have done differently to achieve success. Placing
blame will not help. You cannot control the actions of other people
- you can only control yourself. You also cannot change other
people. Again, this is not an exercise in putting yourself down or
thinking negative thoughts. It is an exercise that will help you
understand a failure, and avoid making the same mistakes in the
future.

Once, you know what caused the failure, and what you could have
done to prevent the failure, it is time to look for the silver
lining around that cloud. What positive can you find in this
negative? How can you turn this failure into a success? Does the
failure open up new possibilities for you? Does it allow you to
move on to something that may prove to be better in the long run?
Remember, people with positive attitudes often find success in
their failures - even if it is just a success in learning a
valuable lesson.

Here are some ways to learn from your past mistakes/failures.
First, ask yourself "what does failure mean to me?" Is it when
someone quits, when someone makes a mistake or when someone else
"thinks" you're a failure? Second, think of your failure as a
chance to grow and learn. I read a great statement about failure by
John Maxwell (an author), "a winner is big enough to admit his
mistakes, smart enough to profit from them and strong enough to
correct them." Probably a statement truly followed by any famous,
successful person that ever lived. Third, you need to abandon any
personal problems that could interfere with your success. Try to
keep those feelings at bay. If you become too emotional in a
situation it can cloud your thinking. Fourth, adjust your way of
thinking concerning your failure. Instead of focusing on what was
lost, focus on what comes next.

Feelings of Inferiority

Often, failure can cause us to feel inferior. Feelings of
inferiority can also cause us to avoid being successful. We feel
like we are not as good as others in some way. It may be that we
feel that we are not as smart, as educated, as successful, as
pretty, as rich, as talented, as articulate - the list goes on and
on.

The sooner you realize that you are not inferior to anyone, the
better off you will be. We are not inferior - we are different. We
all have our own special qualities, and make our own contributions
to society. If everyone in the world sat around comparing
themselves to other people, everyone in the world would have
feelings of inferiority.

The key to getting rid of those feelings is not to compare yourself
to anyone else. You cannot be compared to anyone else. I am me, you
are you, and they are them. We are all very unique individuals.
Even though we only control ourselves, we are unable to prevent our
thoughts, and we compare ourselves to others. If you find that you
are feeling inferior, take these actions:

-Who, exactly, do you feel inferior to? Write down their names.
-For each person, write down exactly why you feel inferior to them.
What do they have that you don't have?
-Now, think about each person, and figure out in what ways you are
superior to them. Write it down. Don't skip this step - if there is
a reason to feel inferior, there is a reason to feel superior as
well.
-How does this inferiority you feel affect your life? what has it
kept you from doing?
-What can you do to eliminate these feelings of inferiority?
-Is it possible that this person feels inferior to you?

Analyzing the feelings of inferiority often dispels those feelings.
The most important thing, however, is to remember that you cannot
be compared to anyone. You are not inferior. You are simply you.

Exercise

When you are feeling criticized about your work or actions, here
are some ways to keep your attitude positive:

1. Try to avoid those who do criticize you or project negative
feelings toward you and your actions. As noted throughtout this
book, surrounding yourself with negativity will only produce a
negative attitude.
2.)Keep in frequent contact with someone who provides you with
encouragement. Doing this will help you keep your positive attitude
and give you the confidence to continue with your goals.
3.)Analyze the criticisms of others. For example: Is it a valid
criticism? If it is, what can I do about it? Why was it said? What
was the attitude of the person who said it? Is this the only person
who is saying it or are others making the same criticism as well?

After you answer these questions, write down ways that you have
been prevented from achieving success in the past. Remember - do
not put the blame on others. Write down specific situations where
you prevented yourself from achieving success in the past, and why.
How could you have turned those negatives into positives. Is there
still a possibility of turning those negatives into positives? Keep
in mind that this is not an opportunity to dwell on your failures.
It is an exercise in learning from past mistakes.

Day 5 - Excerpt From My Book

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[jmromano]

The first secret is you have to define what is success to you. Being a well paid glamour cover girl means nothing to a nun, or owning a 30 storey building is not success to those who value nature.

Ang pagiging madiskarte is being frowned by those who are honest. It means differently to different people.

Determining what is success to you is the secret of being successful.

Agree ako dito kay joma.

thebluemystery, i-define mo muna what is success to you. The word success has different meanings to different persons.