Who should pay for the wedding?

[benmahal]

I need your opinion. Ano sa palagay nyo? Who should pay for the wedding, reception ...etc? Coz in some countries like India, the Bride is responsible for almost everything.

[clawed_out]

are you a cheapskate free loader?

I hope not.

Both parties should be involved. Mas malayo ang mararating ng party mo.

[Clover_Gurrll]

If you are getting married in the Philippines, then the groom pays for the wedding unless you have an agreement to share the expenses.

If you are getting married in the US, the bride's father pays for the wedding and the groom pays for the honeymoon. Unless both of you are Filipino then the Filipino tradition of the groom paying for the wedding should be followed.

Unless of course may agreement kayo na you both will shoulder the expenses.

[caryatid_kitten]

Both the bride and the groom should pay for the wedding.
The bride, should pay for everything related to her, e.g. her gown, make up, hair, shoes, etc...
The groom should do the same. :P

Basta, I don't think it's appropriate to let one pay for everything...It's a dated concept....

[GreatBop]

who cares who pays?

at the end, lahat naman yan bawi thru sa kikitaing gifts/ money.

[perfect bride]

I agree with clawed_out that both parties should be involved para the burden would be less for both of you. At mapapatunayan mo pa sa fiancee mo na you're sensitive enough to share or just even offer to share the expenses

[Peejon]

sa amin, half sa lahat. every payday namin, naglalagay kami ng money sa safekeep namin. same amount. siya nagtatago, baka magamit ko pang shopping e. hehe! tapos gumawa ako ng budget and yung ginagastos namin will depend on the money na maipon namin monthly. april kami start ipon and so far, nakabili na kami ng ring, downpayment sa caterer and venue. so parang from scratch ang wedding ipon namin. ok lang coz 1 year preparation namin. this way, we will not be able to use our respective savings prior to the wedding preps. mga ipon namin before, para na sa amin yun after the wedding. at least hindi kami broke after all the wedding gastos.

[ninjathet0312]

my h2b works abroad...im working in a call center. although he is earning dollars and im earning peso, i decided that we should split the budget 50-50. he really wanted to shoulder all the expenses but i know he got some financial obligations back in Orange, CA. Call it pride but i want no money from our relatives nor we dont want to rely sa "kikitain sa kasal".im earning decent enough to save as much as he can. besides, di naman ako ganun ka-gastos. we have set the budget only within our means. we initially wanted to hold the reception in a hotel, pero since di kaya, garden na lang. so far, we have made the DP for our chuch, venue, caterer, strings and P/V team and OTD coordinator..we dont want to be 'one day millionaire, 29 days beggar'...and i think a year and a half of preparation will be enough for us to save for the wedding.

[maris_blaise]

this is my opinion (i'm a girl)...

the bride or the bride's family should pay for the wedding because essentially yung bride naman ang may decisions and sya naman usually yung nagpplan and stuff sa wedding. para walang away between the bride and groom. kasi if the girl want's an expensive dress she can buy and expensive dress kasi sa kanya naman yung burden. super potential away between the bride and groom yung wedding budget kasi. if the groom want's to contribute then he should just give the money tapos yung bride na bahala mag budget.

the groom should pay for the honeymoon though. it's his chance to redeem himself. besides i believe that the wedding is the bride's moment and the honeymoon is the groom's moment. haha.

[benmahal]

Very well said Maris_blaise!! i'm a girl too kaya i agree with your comment. it's also in a case by case basis... i guess it sometimes depends on the financial capability of the couple. after all marriage is give and take. if the groom wants to pay for everything, then why not?! or vice versa. Anyway, after the wedding, they will share almost everything, like savings, properties...etc.