Couples with different religion-how do they get married?

[michelle005]

My sister and his boyfriend are planning to get married. There is just one big problem. One is a Born again Christian while we are Catholics by heart. They have decided to respect each other's religion but they have problems concerning their marriage. How will they get married? I believe Catholics will not allow a marriage between a Born Again and a Catholic and vice versa. Civil wedding is not an option. Hope you could help us.

[smocks]

source: www.weddingsatwork.com

FOR MIXED MARRIAGE (different religions or Disparitas Cultas): a dispensation must be secured from the Archdiocesan Chancery Office at the Arzobispado de Manila, 121 Arzobispo St., Intramuros, Manila (near Manila Cathedral). The forms will be provided at the Parish Office which will be released after the canonical interview with the Parish Priest or his assistant. These have to be submitted one week before the wedding. > that is if your sister and her boyfriend decided for a catholic wedding...

kami ng husband ko(his former religion is INC), nung hindi pa sya nagpapa-convert we tried asking kung ano gagawin namin or kung ano requirements kung hindi catholic *** isa sabi **** nung nasa registrar hindi pwede hindi catholic ang isa dapat paregong catholic! i dont know kc alam ko sa ibang catholic church naga-accept sila ng catholic wedding kahit hindi pareho katoliko basta sundin mo lang *** requirements gaya ng nasa taas... sana nakatulong kahit konti...

[michelle005]

hi, smocks..from what I heard din..kasi there are religions that Catholics accept in terms of Baptism. Like Adventist,where their baptism is good as Catholics baptism daw so no need for the other one to be converted. INC I think di sya kasali and born again. I remember kasi when we were being interviewed by the priest nung ikakasal kami, the priest ask us kung binyag kami as Catholics and then if we did practice other religion. Pero meron kaming kasabayan na they both baptize us Catholics pero Born again ang practice nilang religion and they were turn down by the same priest. Sana others will give us feedback.

[twisted_jodi]

hi there! im a devout catholic and my hubby is a protestant. we got married last december 2005. at first, my plan was to convince him to convert na lang. pumayag naman *** but then i realized na ayoko pala syang pilitin only because we are getting married. Hindi naman mahirap 'yung process/requirements for mixed marriage. since protestants are also "Trinitarians" (they believe in the Holy Trinity just like Catholics), hindi na sya required to be baptized sa Catholic Church. They only required him to submit a copy of his Birth Certificate (may tatak na "for marriage purpose") and certification of Freedom to Marry from their Pastor. We submitted those together with my Baptismal/Confirmation Certificates, Certification of Freedom to Marry. Tapos, we were instructed to secure a Dispensation for Mixed Marriage sa Bishop's Office. That was it.

[marseilles]

Has your sister's boyfriend ever been baptized in a Trinitarian denomination (i.e., a denomination that also believes in God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit)? If he has, than your sister has two options for her marriage to be recognized as valid by the Catholic Church.

Option 1 is to have a Catholic mixed-marriage wedding in a Catholic church.

There are a few requirements that your sister and her boyfriend will have to fulfill. First, the church will make sure that she and her fiance fully understand what a Catholic sacramental wedding means: that it is not merely a legal contract but a sacrament that is binding for one's entire life, an act of faith wherein the two spouses promise to give themselves fully to each other, patterning their lives after Christ's relationship with the church. Since your sister's boyfriend is also a devout Christian, I doubt he will have any objections to this Catholic understanding of marriage. (They can read this excerpt from the Catholic catechism as a starting point.)

Secondly, in a mixed marriage, the Catholic person has to sign a document before the wedding promising to do everything in her power to have their kids baptized and raise their kids in the Catholic faith. She also has to promise that the non-Catholic spouse knows about this.

Third, before your wedding your sister's boyfriend will also have to agree to allow your sister to continue practising her Catholic faith and will have to promise that he won't hinder her from doing so. Since you said that your sister and her boyfriend have both agreed to respect each other's faiths then this shouldn't be a problem.

Regarding the actual Catholic wedding ceremony, if your sister's boyfriend doesn't want to have a full Mass (because he doesn't believe in the Consecration), they can just have a Catholic nuptial rite without a full Mass. This is basically the usual Catholic wedding ceremony, minus the Consecration and Communion. I.e., just the readings and the exchange of vows. This is completely okay with the Church, though sometimes it's the Catholic relatives who have objections to this (yung iba kasing mga Katolikong relatives, gusto nila, kumpleto talaga yung Misa, may kasamang Consecration tsaka Communion).

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A second option is for your sister and her boyfriend to have a wedding at her boyfriend's church (assuming that his denomination has a church edifice), but to have it recognized as valid by the Catholic church. (If she doesn't have it validated by the Catholic church, then she will still in Church records be considered unmarried.) For this, your sister and her boyfriend need to get special permission the Catholic bishop called, "dispensation from canonical form," which basically means that the bishop is allowing her to use a different form of marriage ceremony other than the Catholic form, but will still recognize her marriage is binding in the Catholic church.

I'm not sure about the process for this, but I know that the Catholic diocese will check the script of the planned wedding ceremony to make sure it conforms to the Catholic understanding of the wedding. I suggest she ask her parish priest or a priest who specializes in the family ministry if she is interested in this option.

[happy_now]

how about if both of us are catholics then we plan to have a christian wedding? pwede ba un? kase we'd like to have a garden wedding pero hindi payag ang church sa ganung setup.