money as wedding gift

[casablanca]

hi! im new here and will be getting married this year. i just want to ask if its really taboo to ask/ state in the invites that you would rather receive money gifts. has anyone tried this before? what was the response of the guests?
thanks

[eigna123]

Sa tingin ko hindi na issue to ngayon. I had lots of friends that stated that they wanted money as wedding gift.. although kami hindi namin nailagay.. hehehe.. there are a lot of creative ways is stating that you want cash as a gift (from poems to one liners to diretsahan) pero pinakafavorite ko is "Paper gifts will be highly appreciated".. simple pero hindi garapal di ba?

[casablanca]

Sa tingin ko hindi na issue to ngayon. I had a lot of friends that stated that they wanted money as wedding gift.. although kami hindi namin nailagay.. hehehe.. there are a lot of creative ways is stating that you want cash as a gift (from poems to one liners to diretsahan) pero pinakafavorite ko is "Paper gifts will be highly appreciated".. simple pero hindi garapal di ba?

hehehe... thanks

[twisted_jodi]

kami, pinagkalat namin (thru word of mouth) na mas gusto namin ng pera as gifts. at gaya ng mga ibang balita, mabilis kumalat ang balita. hahaha, ewan kung masagwa pero it worked naman.

[kalilagirl]

that's what we're planning to do--but only to close friends & family members... nakakahiya naman to ask outright for the guests to give gifts. after all, we'd want them to come because we want them to, not because they will give gifts. la lang, opinion ko lang naman yan...

[newatdislyf]

that's what we plan to do... any suggestions pano isstate sa invitation na money na lang bigay without sounding... uh... greedy? rude?

[puresoul]

You can always put out the word that you're having difficulties with your budget.

[Bea19]

that's what we're planning to do--but only to close friends & family members... nakakahiya naman to ask outright for the guests to give gifts. after all, we'd want them to come because we want them to, not because they will give gifts. la lang, opinion ko lang naman yan...

Sis, that is the right mindset for the wedding.Kung gusto nyo ng cash wag nyo na lang lagyan ng details regarding gifts.Depende kase sa guest ang pagbgay.Yung iba tatanungin ang relatives nyo or close friends kung ano gusto nyo for a wedding.Yung iba naman cash talaga ibbgay kse tnatamad na bumili at mas practical.Sa culture kse natin magdadala pa din ng gifts kse minsan feeling ng guests pag wala silang dalang gift nahihiya sila based on experience lang talaga kahit inote mo sa invitation depende pa din sa guests

[elf519]

i think it is not ethical to write in the invitations na cash instead of gifts...besides, tama si bea tatanungin naman kayo kung ano gusto nyo..your guests attended the wedding because you invited them not to pay for their meals.

[mai19]

though a lot of couples do print their gifts preferences on their invites, for me personally, it's still unethical and offsensive sa guests. Though it's given na the couple expects gifts from their guests it's still too tacky to ask something outright moreso cash pa. Para bang ang dating is they're invited but they have to give money...panget ng dating. Though you may imply naman your preferences through word of mouth (which we did on our dec '05 wedding). We requested our families, close relatives and entourage members to help spread na in lieu of gifts, we'll be having a money dance..implying na we prefer cash..lalo na't we'll be staying with my in-laws muna. Come our wedding day, a lot still gave gifts mostly kitchenwares, bed linens and some appliances pero dami pa rin nagpin samin ng money!

[bangag_gurl]

i've received a few invitations from couples stating their preference for cash gifts. yun yung mga mag-aabroad so di nila mabibitbit un mga gifts nila. understandable naman if that's the case.

[Maileen1]

understandable but still it's too tacky...they should just at least spread their preferences through word of mouth.

[power(bubbles)]

if you would prefer money as a wedding gift as the previous post above stated its better if its through word of mouth. asking for money through the invitation its simply very tacky. simple as that.

[mps]

i agree...tacky tacky tacky!

[ninjathet0312]

although im not going to have this "money tree" thing, i find this thing no longer uncommon nowadays... well ,some may find it shabby but for me, i charged this 'tacky' impression on our "customs"...being upfront (on ALMOST everything) is a taboo for us..maselan kasi tau pagdating sa usaping pera... i know a very close friend (who got married somewhere in pampanga) who did that "word_of_mouth"...luckily, (since he had 300+ guests) he still got 2 rice cookers, 3 oven toast makers, 2 microwaves, 4 industrial fan and EIGHT (8) bedroom lamps (good thing he received a gas/oven range and 1 AC system)...WOOoOoooohhh!!! pero ok lang...sabi nga, it's the thought that counts... (,")

[mps]

well...i really think asking it **** in d invyts is inappropriate.no matter how subtle d presentation is...and besides being not uncommon doesn't mean it's ryt don't get me wrong, i agree na its d most practical thing 2do, and sa panahon *****, dapat open minded na tau. bt cmmon guys...if u read mga etiqts abt wedding, experts wud always say no...and maybe thers a reason 4 that?and believe me, some wud still find it offensive...so lets try not 2 embarrass anybody db?anyway, ilagay man or hindi sa invytes, magdodoble2 pdin...at least dka masyadong nagmaganda.hehe...classy pdin(kunyari)...mag assign knalang ng mahaderang friend and tita hu wud do it 4u.

[ninjathet0312]

well, to each has hiw own opinion nga..."Some would still find it offensive"..meaning, NOT all but SOME... a matter of law of relativity. we cannot assume on an ABSOLUTE value...and it word of mouth or money tree, it boils down to one: PERA pa rin yan...LMA can u please send that wedding etiquette to my email? ruther.hernandez@gmail.com... well anyways, as i have said, i wont do that 'money tree' coz what we are planning to do is to have some "ang pao" ready on the reception for the money dance...

[mai19]

i found these wedding etiquettes links over the net and just thought to share with you all..(etiquette on "cash preferred printed on invites" included):

http://www.frugalbride.com/dosanddonts.html
http://www.my-wedding-blog.com/index...as-solved.html
http://www.blissweddings.com/library/gde_registries.asp
http://www.wedplan.com/faqs.php

and samples of such invites included on www.etiquettehell.com

Bottomline: Invitations are sent to request guests to join you in celebrating a joyous occasion not for the purpose of obliging them to bring gifts, monetary or not.

[ninjathet0312]

this topic reminds of me of the 'moralists' on the streets......period.

[ninjathet0312]

Aside from the money tree, those links that were provided (specifically http://www.frugalbride.com/dosanddonts.html) included these things as unethical:

You're not required to open your gifts at the reception or in front of anyone.
*** all this time pala, sa lahat ng debut and most of the weddings that i attended, kahit or video purposes lang, they are guilty of this.

You're not supposed to put registry information on your wedding invitation. It's left up to friends and family to inform everyone. However, you can put gift information on an insert in your bridal shower invitations.
*** so... unethical din pala maglagay ng bridal registry sa mga invitations... i was thinking of putting a bridal registry on my invites but for the sake of not being "tacky", im not gonna put this anymore...

HAHAHAHAHAH! HOHOHO!!! i just dont know if most of the brides are aware that doing these things are also considered as "unethical"...