Wedding Guests from...HELL!!!

[y_devine@pickno]

Hindi syempre kasama naman sila! bakit hindi mo papakainin *** mga yun. beside part sila sa wedding day mo. naku! baka *** iba sa kanila hindi kakain sa bahay nila then expecting na kasama sila tapos hindi pala. well I dont know! its up to you sa akin lang baka may masabi syo at sana isama mo na lang.pero bakit kasi hindi mo sila i sasama as a part of your especial day?

[phalluscolossus]

^ Para makatipid, at ma-invite pa ibang prospective guests na nasa waiting list nila...

[sweetwahm]

Wedding Guests from...HELL!!!

1. Mga di nakakaintindi ng R.S.V.P.

3. Mga inimbitahan na "Mr. & Mrs. blah blah" reserved seats for two (2), and yet they bring the whole family!

4. Mga nagsasama ng mga pasaway na bata, a.k.a, Kids from HELL!!

5. Mga pumipitas ng flowers sa centerpiece ng Table kahit di pa nag sisimula ang program at kainan.

6. Mga Eat & Run Guests. Sana pag kinasal sila, mag-uwian din mga bisita nila pagkakain at wala paki sa program.

7. Mga nag-uuwi ng sobra-sobrang give-aways/souvenir items, as if ma-ibebenta ata nila ng retail ang mga yon.

8. Mga guests na hindi marunong sumunod sa instructions, tulad ng paliparin dapat ang paru-paro, but instead ginagawang souvenir at inuuwi sa bahay, para siguro gawing Pet.

Talaga!!! Hindi naman sobrang hirap ng etiquette at lalong hindi na kailangan pa i-spell out sa mga bisita ang expectations sa kanila di ba? It's pure common sense but some people just don't get it.

In my mind and in general, I had a great dream wedding. Almost perfect. Pero you really can't avoid wedding guests from HELL!

At my wedding 2 years ago:

- super over ang guest count by more than 100% kasi may nagdala pa ng
mga bata at iba pang kasama. WTF? I anticipated guests overload but this was just plain TOO RUDE. It was clearly an adult affair and the only kids allowed were flower girls and bearers, including a few others from the entourage.

- Correct about eat and run guests! VERY RUDE! Di pa nga tapos ang program, nagpapaalam na sa mom ko na uuwi na sila. Ano ba yan?

- Hay naku!!! Talagang magte-take home pa ng centerpiece mo no?

- Sa souvenirs naman, akala mo mabebenta .... kukuha talaga ng sobra sobra!

- relate talaga ako sa #8. I had a butterfly wedding kasi. So dun sa reception, ewan ko na kung sino ang mga gumalaw ng mga butterflys but there were supposed to be around 200 butterflies in the cage for the release. Akalin mo bang mga 100 lang ata ang lumipad. Yung iba pala, binulsa na ng mga lecheng bisita. May nakapag sabi sa akin after the wedding, na while they were opening the butterfly envelopes to put in the butterflies, may kumukuha dun sa box. No wonder I thought parang kokonti lang yata ang lumipad during the reception! Bwisit!!

- Dagdag ko pa about mga bisita. May mga bisita, lalo na kamag anak, na di talaga nakakaintindi na ON A BUDGET KA. Ini expect na buong angkan imbitado. Kung mayaman ako, problema ba yun? Pag nag prangka ka naman na nasa budget lang kasal mo at di imbitado ang lahat ... parang nagtatampo pa. Magba-backbite. Kesyo ganito, kesyo ganun. Buti nga naisipan pa sila at naging sobrang accomodating pa kami para mag invite ng "representatives" sa bawat pamilya ... para maka share naman sila sa joy nyo. Tapos ganun pa ang ganti. Ang lalaki pa nga lamon sa pagkain Pag di mo na-invite, ang sama-sama mong kamag anak.

Eh pag sila nga... sa mga okasyon nila, di man lang maisipan na imbitahin ka pero pag problema naman nila, parang feeling nila obligasyon mong tumulong at iligtas sila. Langhiya!!

Bwisit talaga ang mga wedding guests from hell... It takes everyting you've got emotionally to come up with a creative and memorable wedding not only for yourselves but for your guests as well, and if it all goes unappreciated.... hay naku...

[sweetwahm]

Haha... dagdag ko pa:

- wedding guests from hell are also those who expect na asikasuhin mo pa sila BIG TIME. Kesyo daw wala silang kilala. Helllooo, eh di make effort sa samll talk! Makakakain pa naman sila ah... may mga sarili naman silang kamay at paa. Ano ba yan? pagkatapos ng lahat, magtatampo dahil di naasikaso. Grrrr... nakaka stress na nga dahil ikaw pa ang ikinasal, ikaw pa ang expected na mag yaya.

[the_BuGs]

hi...i'll have my wedding there in pinas this august although we're civilly married here na sa US. I just want to ask na is it ok if hinde na namin invite sa reception yung choir members na kakanta sa simbahan? thanks a lot po.

depende.. kung wala silang bayad at Thank You lang yung pagkanta nila sa iyo.. aba shempre pakainin mo naman di ba? at kahit sa simbahan lang sila kakakanta

pero kung me bayad... mag jollibee na lang sila dun sa babayad mo.

[chizkeyk12]

depende.. kung wala silang bayad at Thank You lang yung pagkanta nila sa iyo.. aba shempre pakainin mo naman di ba? at kahit sa simbahan lang sila kakakanta

pero kung me bayad... mag jollibee na lang sila dun sa babayad mo.

...of course may bayad yung choir for d church. its ok na rin siguro na sabihan sila ng wedding coordinator ahead of time na till church lang sila?

[power(bubbles)]

I agree with the RSVP. Its simply very hard for Filipinos to respond. To the point that you are having difficulty with teh final head count. hat's why for me i highly suggest having a sit-down dinner since the headcount is really controlled.

[babyjl]

Talaga!!! Hindi naman sobrang hirap ng etiquette at lalong hindi na kailangan pa i-spell out sa mga bisita ang expectations sa kanila di ba? It's pure common sense but some people just don't get it.

In my mind and in general, I had a great dream wedding. Almost perfect. Pero you really can't avoid wedding guests from HELL!

At my wedding 2 years ago:

- super over ang guest count by more than 100% kasi may nagdala pa ng
mga bata at iba pang kasama. WTF? I anticipated guests overload but this was just plain TOO RUDE. It was clearly an adult affair and the only kids allowed were flower girls and bearers, including a few others from the entourage.

- Correct about eat and run guests! VERY RUDE! Di pa nga tapos ang program, nagpapaalam na sa mom ko na uuwi na sila. Ano ba yan?

- Hay naku!!! Talagang magte-take home pa ng centerpiece mo no?

- Sa souvenirs naman, akala mo mabebenta .... kukuha talaga ng sobra sobra!

- relate talaga ako sa #8. I had a butterfly wedding kasi. So dun sa reception, ewan ko na kung sino ang mga gumalaw ng mga butterflys but there were supposed to be around 200 butterflies in the cage for the release. Akalin mo bang mga 100 lang ata ang lumipad. Yung iba pala, binulsa na ng mga lecheng bisita. May nakapag sabi sa akin after the wedding, na while they were opening the butterfly envelopes to put in the butterflies, may kumukuha dun sa box. No wonder I thought parang kokonti lang yata ang lumipad during the reception! Bwisit!!

- Dagdag ko pa about mga bisita. May mga bisita, lalo na kamag anak, na di talaga nakakaintindi na ON A BUDGET KA. Ini expect na buong angkan imbitado. Kung mayaman ako, problema ba yun? Pag nag prangka ka naman na nasa budget lang kasal mo at di imbitado ang lahat ... parang nagtatampo pa. Magba-backbite. Kesyo ganito, kesyo ganun. Buti nga naisipan pa sila at naging sobrang accomodating pa kami para mag invite ng "representatives" sa bawat pamilya ... para maka share naman sila sa joy nyo. Tapos ganun pa ang ganti. Ang lalaki pa nga lamon sa pagkain Pag di mo na-invite, ang sama-sama mong kamag anak.

Eh pag sila nga... sa mga okasyon nila, di man lang maisipan na imbitahin ka pero pag problema naman nila, parang feeling nila obligasyon mong tumulong at iligtas sila. Langhiya!!

Bwisit talaga ang mga wedding guests from hell... It takes everyting you've got emotionally to come up with a creative and memorable wedding not only for yourselves but for your guests as well, and if it all goes unappreciated.... hay naku...

hi sweet.... la,o nakaka-relate talaga ako sa mga sinabi mo.... buti nga *** nagpaalam sa mum mo *** sa wedding namin they just left without even saying their bye-byes sa parents namen or to anyone basta nalahi na lang!

With the kamag-anak naman they expect you to shoulder every single penny... we both work abroad kc would u believe sinagot na namen transport nila pati toll gate saka parking fee samen pa....May ninang din na Auntie pati damit saka sapatos sagot pa namen dahil un ang gusto sya pa nauna nag disappear!! tapos nag alisan lang sa reception d pa nga tapos! laking bwisit ko talaga....
It took me a lot of courage to face them again after our wedding sa sobrang inis ko....

[sweetwahm]

Hi babyjl, hehehehe, sinabi mo pa! I don’t know with the others who had guests from hell but my experience with my wedding and from attending other family affairs is that most of the really difficult guests ay kamag-anak talaga. Eto experience ko lang and observation na rin, so marahil di nga totoo para sa iba. Kasi generally, yung mga behaved guests ay yung mga hindi kamag-anak eh. I dunno… any opinions on this?

Ako kasi, I come from a big clan. Malaki talaga. So hindi talaga namin kayang imbitahin ang lahat lahat. And to think we had a wedding that was already considered “bongga.” We spent a lot talaga and we spent even more for the guests na sumobra.

I can also relate about the “shouldering expenses part.” You know I said earlier that if you don’t invite certain relatives (or all!), mag tatampo at lalabas pa na ikaw ang masama? Ya so yun nga, invited and certain people. O di tuwang-tuwa sila… aughhhhh, a week before my wedding (and you brides all know how stressful everything gets as the Big Day nears), lalapit sayo at magsasabi na di nalang sila pupunta kasi walang damit at barong. If I had my way, eh di wag pumunta! Pakialam ko! Ba’t ko pa kailangan i-problema yun? I have my own share of problems that need fixing regarding my wedding. But like you, []babyjl[/b], yung ibang tita and tito ay mga ninang at ninong din. So I really spent extra unplanned moolah for dresses and barongs.

Honestly, I was really disappointed in my relatives for behaving the way they did. Halos perfect attendance sila. Hindi talaga nakakaintindi ng RSVP and “We have reserved 2 seats for you.” Buong pamilya dinala talaga, kasama pa yaya ng mga maliliit na bata. The nerve talaga. And because we had a grand wedding, they think mayaman na talaga kami at humihiga lang sa pera. Ayun tuloy, lapitin kami ng may mga problema. Hahahahaha, ay oo, buhay talaga.

I do not regret having the wedding we had. Like I said, it was almost perfect save for the guests from hell. But perhaps if I were to do it all over again, I’d stick to something a little simpler. I’m thinking of a small church wedding with just immediate family and a couple of friends. No entourage, just 1 flowergirl. The sponsors do not march. Now that’s a wedding statement.

[apol33]

I agree with you guys ...onli in the philippines lang yan hehehe..minsan pa nga may pupunta pa sa kasal mo na isang jeep na taga probinsya haller....as if mga kilala mo sila grabeee. Ayan na nga sinasabi ko pag nasa maynila ka bigtime ka na.

[babyjl]

Hi babyjl, hehehehe, sinabi mo pa! I don’t know with the others who had guests from hell but my experience with my wedding and from attending other family affairs is that most of the really difficult guests ay kamag-anak talaga. Eto experience ko lang and observation na rin, so marahil di nga totoo para sa iba. Kasi generally, yung mga behaved guests ay yung mga hindi kamag-anak eh. I dunno… any opinions on this?

Ako kasi, I come from a big clan. Malaki talaga. So hindi talaga namin kayang imbitahin ang lahat lahat. And to think we had a wedding that was already considered “bongga.” We spent a lot talaga and we spent even more for the guests na sumobra.

I can also relate about the “shouldering expenses part.” You know I said earlier that if you don’t invite certain relatives (or all!), mag tatampo at lalabas pa na ikaw ang masama? Ya so yun nga, invited and certain people. O di tuwang-tuwa sila… aughhhhh, a week before my wedding (and you brides all know how stressful everything gets as the Big Day nears), lalapit sayo at magsasabi na di nalang sila pupunta kasi walang damit at barong. If I had my way, eh di wag pumunta! Pakialam ko! Ba’t ko pa kailangan i-problema yun? I have my own share of problems that need fixing regarding my wedding. But like you, []babyjl[/b], yung ibang tita and tito ay mga ninang at ninong din. So I really spent extra unplanned moolah for dresses and barongs.

Honestly, I was really disappointed in my relatives for behaving the way they did. Halos perfect attendance sila. Hindi talaga nakakaintindi ng RSVP and “We have reserved 2 seats for you.” Buong pamilya dinala talaga, kasama pa yaya ng mga maliliit na bata. The nerve talaga. And because we had a grand wedding, they think mayaman na talaga kami at humihiga lang sa pera. Ayun tuloy, lapitin kami ng may mga problema. Hahahahaha, ay oo, buhay talaga.

I do not regret having the wedding we had. Like I said, it was almost perfect save for the guests from hell. But perhaps if I were to do it all over again, I’d stick to something a little simpler. I’m thinking of a small church wedding with just immediate family and a couple of friends. No entourage, just 1 flowergirl. The sponsors do not march. Now that’s a wedding statement.

Hey sweet sobra nga talaga... i wouldnt consider mine as a really grand wedding medyo lang .....e2 isa pa may 2 kc na ninang they were a little bit late sa ceremony hhhmmmmmmmm pinoy eh excuse traffic sige na nga!!! alamo mo ba pati bouquet ng 2 ninangs nawala????? gagawin daw souvenir grahhhhhhhhhh!!!!tapos during the reception it looks like children's party sa dami ng bata na dala nila wahhhhhhhhhhhh!!!! pero kahit pano naging proud ako sa mga relatives ko coz they were not the pasaway..... mga relatives ng hubby ko sad to say....the only consolition I've got right now is my hubby being so patient and understanding!
I agree with u na a simpler and exclusive wedding would be nice... that was what i wanted pero ang hubby ko gusto nya ng medyo big celebration kc he came from a big clan as well....
pero sabi nga pasensya na lang tau dahil tau ang nakakaintindi daw hhmmmmm next time maging bingi na lang sa mga parinig heheheheh...

[MarleneCF]

hi, phalluscolossus! i think everything you said were true. i'm a coordinator and the last wedding i handled, talagang grabe! i did an RSVP for the couple because they really are on a tight budget but then they also had "something" in the groom's residence... and yet at the reception, those who have RSVPd came with 2-3 more companions and sometimes they'd tell coordinators at the registration of names other than the ones on the list.

i think you really can't avoid it. and it should be that couples just enjoy the moment and not look into this small details so they won't get upset. and it's one good thing to invite the ones really close to you like. and sad but true, parang karaniwan na sa ibang mga pinoy ang maging guests from hell... =(

[lonely_pinoy]

hek, hek, hek. katuwa itong thread na ito. i could imagine the agony the brides have been through during the reception.

[dedski]

my own wedding experience

RSVP and seating arrangement- forget it, naubos at naloka lang naman ako sa kakaayos at follow up but you know Pinoys uupo sila saan nila gusto, at yung nagsabi aattend daw di sumipot & vice versa at yung umattend nagdala pa ng hatak!
Guests who will call you up to ask you kung pwede sila maghatak kahit na stated na dun kung ilan lang ang invited!
Guests na dinutdot at pinagbubunot lahat ng nakalagay na decors sa cake ko, bad trip talaga!
Guests na pinakain mo na, gusto pa mag-take home!
Guests na dedma, basta nakaupo lang sila at nanonood.

[Kayla_SMB]

Ang mahirap lang nga, maraming hindi nakarating pero nag confirm na dadalo sa wedding. May two (2) tables sa reception na walang naka-upo! And we paid for that! Grrrrrr!

Pareho tayo phalluscolossus, 2 tables ang bakante, eh nabayaran na namin yun, ang mahal pa man din ng per head sa Manila Hotel lalo na kung sa Maynila na ballroom ang reception mo, wala ka talagang pagpipilian na price.

Sakit sa bulsa....

[brucelee09]

Another thing na meron ding mga guest na gumagawa ay yung mga taong naguuwi ng souvenirs mula sa reception nyo.

Not just a regular souvenir, magtatago ng kutsara, tinidor, minsan mga baso at mga napkin na pinahiram ng catrer. Minsan pati mga sign sa CR na male at female hindi pinapalampas.


Nakakatawa ngunit nakakalungkot sa part ng magbabayad. hehehehhe

[irobot]

sa akin hindi nangyari bukod sa civil lang kami kinasal pero me reception naman... kamaganak lang ang inimbita... walang kaibigan o whatsoever... para kung mainis sila sa amin... alam nilang wala ni isang kaibigan ang inimbita so fair and sqaure.... nagulat na lang sila nung kinasal kami

ey, TB, dito ka rin pala!!! heheeh...syempre, nandito ako ngayon at offsite muna sa UAE thread...eheheh...getting prepared eh...

[irobot]

well, marami ako natutunan po senyo, this coming Jan 2007 ang wedding ko...pero I must admit, nung debut ko, naranasan ko ang mga guests from HELL!!! Miski yung mga kaaway ko nung elementary days ko...aba, eh, kakapalan ng mukha talaga na nagsi-attend...di naman invited!!! at ang masaklap pa dun, karamihan sa guest ko ay umattend lang para makita nang personal *** escort ko!!! the nerve!!! how thoughtful talaga!!! *How I wish,,,di na maulet sa wedding ko...*

[sweetwahm]

siguro kahit ano talagang party ng pinoy, may mga wedding guests from hell.

but for affairs that really cost money like weddings, debut, even bday parties... it's just so sad that a lot of us dont have manners when it matters.

[sjmanalo]

Hahaha. I remember one time, sa wedding ng neighbor namin, gosh... e buffet style, me nakita akong mga nagbabalot ng food sa napkin and then ilalagay sa bag and then pipila ulit. Bad thing is, me mga nalate na mga invitees, naubusan sila ng food