How Can I?

[shaz_z]

How can it be? How can it be that despite all that you’ve learned, you still commit mistakes? How can it be that regardless of all your attempts to keep your life simple, you’ll find out once again that you are in a brink of a chaotic and dismal life? How can you figure out the best way to deal with it?

You thought you’ve done everything right. And now it would surprise you to find out that you’re completely wrong. You’ve crossed all your Ts and dotted your Is. You’ve been very careful since you were a child, afraid of making mistakes so you made sure you were never wrong. You sacrificed a lot thinking you’ll get your reward in the end. You let go of many opportunities because you thought these will only distract you. But just one time, just another time, and everything will crumble because once again, you committed another mistake, another mistake that forced you to accept the fact that you erroneously read the cards on the table. You gave your best but all for naught.

What is the best formula? In what school of thought and communication should I enroll myself so I can understand? I need to understand why this keeps on happening to me. How do you keep the emptiness away every time the truth hits you? How can you keep the loneliness from hitting you without notice? How can you keep on going from living your daily boring life when all you have are fears and frustrations inside you, secrets you harbor in your mind, throbbing pain piercing your heart? How can I?

[meteora]

You know shaz...you're thinking too much...that's why..
Just ask yourself this question: Why is it that no matter how careful you are in your eating habits, or eventhough you eat healthy food all the time, you still get sick once in a while? Why is it that some people have greater immunity than others? Why is it that SCIENCE can not make a human body "perfect" in both physical and internal system?

Why is it that when you buy starbucks in the Phils, it's smaller in terms of quantity compared here in US?

Why is it that Max's whole chicken is like half only here in US?

Why? hehehehhee

anyway, you don't really have to live in fear or frustrations, and all those blah blah blah that you've mentioned. Just live your life each day and let it flow. Don't let fear dictate how you're going to live your life...

Parang ganito yan eh..if you like to buy tapioca...(i don't like starbucks anymore...gaz gaz na eh) ...will you think first that "oh if i buy here, they only give small sizes" so i'm not going to buy anymore...

Rather...just buy it, savor it, and enjoy... and worry later or maybe not worry at all why it taste like this or why it is so small in terms of its size or volume...

[orangepink]

uhmmm it looks to me na naninigurado ka...how will you savor the important things in life kung naninigurado ka? how will u grow? how will u learn life's lesson?

live life na lang rather spending your time crossing the t's, i's and every letter in the alphabet

[baklita]

simply because no one is immuned to feeling empty/lonely or from
committing mistakes despite being the best among the rest.

how do you view failure? a learning xperience? a turnaround? an
opportunity? a challenge? a surrender? have it crossed your mind
that sometimes a stumble may really prevent a fall?

matanong kita... what's the best thing would you do if you knew
you could not fail?

worry not... experience has its way of weeding out its trivial.

oo nga ***... saan ko ipapadala ang tylenol at paracetamol?

aihihihi!!!

baklita

[RosaLia]

this is how i deal with it... I always steps two backward and observe first... You will learn from the people around you, if you keep your inner emotions and for a change listen to them and after that... if you are good at comparing notes, every move you make is a smooth sailing to your path...

Example for my daily notes only to my experience.. from my hubby.. sons and to my friends...

Hubby.. I let him talked and talked about his daily lives and his work and if he has a bad day.. I give a heavy *sigh* inside and keep all that loneliness inside of me, that he encountered on that day... without him noticing that my knee is getting weaker but I had to do my job as his partner in life... Then I give him a hug and tap on his shoulder saying... Don't worry honey tomorrow maybe is a better day right... looked at his way we are all in one piece...


my sons... I let them fight and get to each other nerves and when they both done, I said: " isn't that fun that both of you are grounded for two weeks, I dont care you started the mess... but I mean it! No! phone calls.. No! girlfriends coming over... This is my house, my rules and get over it!"...


Friends.. that is really hard to deal with, kasi minsan mas mahal mo pa sila sa tunay ninyong parents.. sisters/brothers dahil mas sila pa ang naka-kaalam ng deepest secret natin... How I deal with them, not to make a mistake is Let them be themselves... Good or bad kung ano man ang desisyon nila at the end of that relationship gaano man ka-inga't ang gawin mo na hindi masisira or magka-kahiwalay kayo ng mga kaibigan ninyo... Only time can tell, para sa akin I accept the real facts na people come and go just let them free as a bird and dont hold that person happiness, kapag nag-end ang friendship ninyo... Kasi you never know baka space or time lang ang kailangan nila to find out for themself who they really are, tapos we try to change them for what we wanted them to be para lang maging masaya ka in your own happiness, that will never be happening. dahil meron silang hina-hanap na hindi ikaw ang makaka-pagpuno ng kaligayahan ng iba...


Iyan lang muna...


RosaLia

[keans_16]

Our life is not perfect. There are so much things to learn and many things to do. Improve yourself to be a better person. Trials are made to improve us not to destroy us. HE is just testing our character. Have faith in HIM and to yourself. I do not care if I have commited mistakes but I do care not to do the same mistake again.

[infinite_trial]

you will not enjoy life if every move you make you're thinkin that you are probably makin a mistake. haven't you tried at least once in your life, stop worryin bout things if it will do you good or bad and savor it just like what meteora said. the good times will come, but you need to be patient. God is just preparin you for the big thing. when that time comes, you'll be glad all of these happened to you.

[shychic]

There is no hard and fast rule on how you deal with daily life. Take it as you go along. Plans look good only in paper. At mahirap kumilos ng de numero. No fun in that. No matter how hard you try to make things perfect, you live in a world inhabited by people of different strokes. Besides, if the mistakes you made don't kill you, it'll make you stronger.
Do not worry about life shaz_z. Worrying gives you something to do, but doesn't get you anywhere.

[omeng]

If you don't mind, let me sing my national anthem to you...

Just Once
by James Ingram

I did my best
But I guess my best wasn't good enough
'Cause here we are back where we were before
Seems nothing ever changes
We're back to being strangers
Wondering if we oughta stay
Or head on out the door

Just once can't we figure out what we keep doing wrong
Why we never last for very long
What are we doing wrong
Just once can't we find a way to finally make it right
Make the magic last for more than just one night
If we could just get to it
I know we could break through it

I gave my all
But I think my all may have been too much
'Cause Lord knows we're not getting anywhere
Seems we're always blowing whatever we got going
And seems at times with all we've got
We haven't got a prayer

Just once can't we figure out what we keep doing wrong
Why the goodtimes never last for very long
Seems we're always blowing
Whatever we got going

Just once can't we find a way to finally make it right
Make the magic last for more than just one night
If we could just get to it
I know we could break through it

Just once I want to understand
Why it always come back to good-bye
Why can't we get ourselves in hand
And admit to one another
That we're no good with out the other
Take the best and make it better
Find a way to stay together

Just once can't we find a way to finally make it right
Make the magic last for more than just one night
I know we can break through it
If we could just get to it

Just once
If we could get to it

Just Once...






Now, sing with me...

[shaz_z]

Thank you everyone! I'm just in a really spot, baffled once again trying to figure out how to connect the dots.....It's my Obsessive Disorder of trying to achieve a superior understanding of every mundane thing in my life.

Me Bad, huh!

[putingulap]

"I decided long ago never to walk in anyone's shadow. If I fail if I succeed, at least I did what I believe. No matter what they take from me, they can't take away my dignity...."

You are not alone, many have experienced the same thing. I have walked through rugged roads and have suffered much. Sometimes you'd feel you're so alone and empty. But I don't give up. I don't allow these adversaries to dominate my life.

If you should be looking for explanations, still you wouldn't be able to understand it. There are things not meant for us to understand but for us to accept whatever we may experience.

I believe there's a better tomorrow, a place where we wouldn't feel empty anymore. And maybe we can have it, just have a little faith.

[shaz_z]

"I decided long ago never to walk in anyone's shadow. If I fail if I succeed, at least I did what I believe. No matter what they take from me, they can't take away my dignity...."

Then you’re one lucky guy just like all the other people here. You all figured it out easily and as early as you could on how to go on and simply live and enjoy life. I didn’t have that luxury….I've got it differently, in a different way big time!

Ever really understand the German “Aryan” superior race ideology? How those little white, blond, blue-eyed kids were raised from birth to believe in something that pretty much controlled their existence?

How about an experiment done on little kittens? The kittens were raised in a cage that had horizontal lines. No verticals. After four or six weeks, they were put in a cage with vertical bars. The kittens kept walking into bars. They literally couldn’t see them. Their little kitten eyes only knew how to interpret horizontal lines. They were conditioned that way, brought up that way. They don’t know anything else except what was in their perfect little world.

So what if you were programmed that way? To look at things this way and that way because that’s the way it’s done. Follow the rules. Everything was fine, almost perfect, as perfect as you could imagine, because it all fits. No one would question the way because that’s how it’s done. No repercussions in all shapes in sizes. Believe me; no one would say I’ve got it bad. I belong to the lucky group because we’ve got it so good and that’s what the outside world see and believe in.

But in the end, right now, you ask yourself, how do you deprogram everything you’ve thought and believe in? You need a fast intensive deprogramming technique because it’s not working for you anymore? You need to act fast but you dither because that’s not how you did it before. You need to leap and bounce but you don’t have the correct gear and you know it. So you shilly-shally further and further until you realize it's not there anymore....like a vicious cycle....

Why is it so easy for others but not for me?

(Sorry peeps...i'm really starting to make PEX as my own sounding board!)

[samantha_jones]

Seriously...I think you're bordering insanity. I used to think I am waaay to analytical until I read this post. Well girl the only thing I can tell you is to just enjoy life. Enjoy all the mistakes you make...but learn the lessons that come with it. Savor every sweet success because well it's just a nice feeling that you did it your way this time. Stop worrying about everything in yur life. Start living it. Live as if it's your last day. Seize the day. Loosen up. Smile more. Worry less.

[CANARD2.0]

shaz_z... here is one advice that you should really follow. how to live a simple life? JUST LIVE!!! there are no limits to what you can do but you just HAVE to face the consequence. dont waste your time thinking about why this and how this and why that... stop b!tching and actually DO something and STAND UP for what you did.

instead of thinking about some "formula" or looking for a "school of thought" or "set of rules to follow" why not stop the self pity and the "im so OC, perfectionist, everything must fall into place" attitude and DO SOMETHING.

if you have a goal... go for it. if you have an aspiration... reach for it. if you have an opportunity... take it. if you have a dream... MAKE IT HAPPEN!!!

and if somewhere along the way you made a mistake... who cares? sh*t happens! pick yourself up and stop the "tell me where did i go wrong" nonsense.

i'll ask you... if you made a mistake... will you die? no... not unless you made a really sh*tty mistake like jumping off a cliff or slashing your wrist or insulting a mob boss or something like that... right? the point is... you'll still live on and you can make it right. dont complicate things... YOU have a CHOICE and thats all there is. you made a bad one every now and then live with the consequence.

DEAL WITH IT. dont b!tch about it.

[shaz_z]

Live as if it's your last day. Seize the day. Loosen up. Smile more. Worry less.

Hey Samantha, January 1st became almost my last day here on earth here following an almost head on collision due to some st*pid driver and his cell phone. It's quite a miracle really that a split second swerve to the right made it a side and rear impact only. I’m forced now to stay in bed in the next few weeks due to some injury with only my laptop and PEX for company…hehehehe!!!!

Believe me, the last few days were really hard especially when you realize that you’ve never really live a life as what other people do because you allowed it in the first place. Self Pity really hit me. You start questioning your life, your beliefs, your existence and most of all the decisions you’ve made that proved to be a mistake. Some mistakes you want to correct as soon as possible but hampered by some situations you have no control at all (not just this physical condition but something more). Hence, that borderline lunatic outburst. Hahahahahaha!!!

Having a big brother like mine who still thinks I’m 6 years old is really…geezzzz….Oh well….I have a lot of catching up to do….

[shaz_z]

Hey CANARD, you're back! We missed you these past few days! We need someone like you to keep us all grounded. I got what you're saying and thanks!

[baklita]

shaz_z... gagawa ako ng libro... ang pamagat...

"how to live a successful life..."

siguro I'll finish it in a million years... see you then...

aihihihi!!!

baklita

[putingulap]

Talk about insanity:
A girl who post about being addicted to sex and does it with a guy she just met, tells everyone she knows what she did was wrong and does it again with a different guy.

Talk about lunacy:
Guys wanna be friends to that girl knowing there's free sex involved.

What's not about lunacy and insanity?
Sometimes we encounter difficulties in life and no matter how strong we train ourselves to be, there's always that moment when we are weak. That's where depression comes in. You would have so many questions why those things happen to you and you don't deserve it as you've always been good and helpful to others. The "WHY" question wouldn't stop popping into your mind.

You would feel emotional pain and self pity. The idea of a genie granting you three wishes would come in handy at this time. And definitely your first wish is to be able to go back in time and correct your destiny.

Releasing your emotions is a good way to start "dealing" with the problem. Telling how you feel to a friend or even posting here at PEx is already a form of release. We may not feel what shaz_z is feeling right now but by listening to her, we have already helped her.

Some spend time at PEx because we feel we have a voice here and an audience to hear what we may say. There are those who have problems and through PEx they were able to deal with their issues. Being able to share to others also helps us forget our own issues.

The reality:
All of us have our own stories to tell, some of them have similarities, but all are unique in their own way. When we learn to stop the "WHY" questions, that's the only time we would understand life.

[omeng]

Hey Samantha, January 1st became almost my last day here on earth here following an almost head on collision due to some st*pid driver and his cell phone. It's quite a miracle really that a split second swerve to the right made it a side and rear impact only. I’m forced now to stay in bed in the next few weeks due to some injury with only my laptop and PEX for company…hehehehe!!!!

(CANARD Mode) - You're one of the lucky crazy b!tch.

And to all, have more understanding with miss shaz_z posting... she forgot to take her medicines that time.

[samantha_jones]

Hey shaz now that we have that (near last day experience) out of the way. You can start living!!! Diba ang scary? I bet kaya mo naiisip tong mga to ngayon ius because of that incident. Don't think about how you're gonna live life. Just live it. Like what Canard (hey man, namiss kita sa culinary thread.) said!