My married ex just called after a long time of not talking to each other. We haven't spoke since we broke up. Though we parted in good terms, we just didn't get around to talking to each other after we both move on to new relationships.
The thing is, we ended it because he had to get married for the papers. You know how it is in the US, lots of people wanting to get a greencard get married to some US citizen. When he told me what his plans were, I told him to do as he must but I can't get involved in such a messy situation and it's better off we remain friends. I didn't really love him enough to stop him from doing such a thing and we were sort of really getting to know each other during that time...So I biid him well and we parted ways.
At first I was really surprise to hear from him from out of the blue. So we did some chit-chat and stuff. A few days ago, he asked me to go have dinner. So naturally, I was on the defensive and went straight to the point and said to him that the only thing I can offer him is friendship. So he chides me and tells me, what's wrong with dinner between friends?
The thing is, in the course of our conversation, there have been blatant hints about him being very unhappy in his marriage and him wishing that he was with me instead. While me on the other hand just lent a non-sympathetic ear (hey that's the usual BS line married men give). But then again, I'm pretty sure he'd be unhappy for marrying someone for the papers. Geez...
Now my boyfriend thinks that my ex just wants to get laid and I agree with him. However, my boyfriend thinks I should go have dinner with him because he trusts me enough to know I won't do anything stupid.
I admit, I do want to have dinner with him because we were friends and there was no bad blood between us when we broke up. But I certainly wouldn't want the conversation to revolve on regret...