nbsb/ngsb- no boyfriend/girlfriend since birth

[collegestudent]

hi! im already turning 18 but til now i dont have either a boyfriend or suitor... am i just rushing things or im abnormal... need some comments here please... cant ask my siblings about it cause i know they'll just think that im ma-L or anything.. thanx

[zhingkitzu]

hi! im already turning 18 but til now i dont have either a boyfriend or suitor... am i just rushing things or im abnormal... need some comments here please... cant ask my siblings about it cause i know they'll just think that im ma-L or anything.. thanx

no need to worry. ur still young pa naman. there are still alot of people older that you that still haven't experienced going into a relationship, in fact i'm one of them, you see am already 26 yrs of age.

dont rush things yet. be happy for what you have right now! enjoy life!

[jdfo8286]

dnt rush things..
all things will come naturally..
i'm speakin 4 my own self.. hvnt had a bf since birth..
n no experience on relationships either..
it can be pretty lonely at times,
but be happy with what u hv ryt now..

[deejay23_rn]

hi! im already turning 18 but til now i dont have either a boyfriend or suitor... am i just rushing things or im abnormal... need some comments here please... cant ask my siblings about it cause i know they'll just think that im ma-L or anything.. thanx

calm down, learn things on how to better urself... isa pa, it can't be all that sugary and sweet--- being in a relationship i mean--- me, i had my first boyfriend before i turned 25, and lost it on the day i turned 25, i was so devastated, i thought, i waited for so long for this to happen and then i just got burnt... kasi i rushed into things i know this sounds like a cliche, pero God has plans for all of us... isa pa ur still young

[zhingkitzu]

dnt rush things..
all things will come naturally..
i'm speakin 4 my own self.. hvnt had a bf since birth..
n no experience on relationships either..
it can be pretty lonely at times,
but be happy with what u hv ryt now..

hi jdfo8286, may i know how old you are?

[cardboard]

I'm 30/m and a member of NGSB. I used to have the same delima before. I wanted to get married by 25, but things didn't really work out that way. A female friend of mine would comment "Wala ka ngang GF may balak ka pa go get married". At first I thought there was something wrong with me. I have alot of friends from different circles of society (A,B,C,D) and though I may not be strikingly handsome I do have my charms. Don't get me wrong, I have (or at least tried) courtship alot of times. It's just that I keep on coming into really weird circumtances like;

breaking up before we even started (and just before I was planning to ask her out formally)
the girl telling me she's bisexual while we were on a "date" where she brought her "girlfrend" along (don't ask me what was on her mind ... I DON'T want to know)
the girls father being a STAR witness of the NBI and had to go into hiding (ok this may be a bit inflated, but they had to disappear because of something I forgot but know that I am not free to divulge ... )
meeting the perfect girl on the perfect night ... and that was it ( and I was willing to do the though-hell-or-highwater thing, but the one who led me to her got fired from work the next day and never came back )

And those are just the highlights ... I'm pretty happy that they came out mostly as comedies rather than anything dramatic. Kung merong hari ng "Sablay" ako hari ng "Daplis". Koonti na lang pwede na e.

After so and so episodes of "almost" relationships I decided to just hang around and enjoy the relationships I had as a man. To be called Kuya, to be a son, a friend, a best friend, to be "one-of-the-girls", "priest", the leader, kumpare, kainuman, sounding board, counsellor. On hindsight, I don't think I would have been those people had I been married early ... or had I a girlfriend early. (Ako kasi romantiko ... I'd build my world around her.)

The more I think about my past "almost" relationships ... I find that the last one is more "fit" to my personality than the last one. And I begin to discover the REAL things that I look for in a relationship. With all those girls in my life I began to form a picture of what the One person for me might be like ... And its Awesome! When I got the picture of where my love life seemed to be leading me I started working on myself to be the person that One person deserves to be with.

A few more "almost" relationships later, I somethimes think that maybe I am supposed to live by myself; that maybe this is my lot in life to be this man who tries to help out in whatever capacity and not be attached. I've even thought of preisthood but the calling hasn't been strong.

Now, you might think I'm this goody-goody guy who has never really been exposed to the world. I've slept on the floor, I've been too drunk to get up, I've been propositioned to at least twice in my life, but I still manage to be Mr. Nice Guy. Why? I guess partly it's because of my "almost" relationships. Knowing that people like them in my life is enough to keep me on the light side.I still keep the friendships with most of them, even if I didn't end up with any of them. I love them all. If they somehow stumble in life I have to heve the integrity to be able to help them up ... just as most of them, the closest ones, have kept theirs.

Moral of the loooong short essay. Collegestudent, there's a whole world in front of you, there are many kinds of relationships available to everyone, not just the BF/GF type. Improve on being you. Love yourself, be the best daughter, ate, group leader, student, artist, cook, dancer ... whatever you can be. And when Mr. Right comes you'll be right for him too.

PS. You might be asking yourself if I've given up on the notion of actually having a girlfriend. No, I haven't. Having experienced the many roles of being a man has made me look forward to the others ... to be a boyfiend, lover, husband, father, grandfather. With all the things God has shown me in my life I beleive He has something special in-store for me ... like He has one for you.

[collegestudent]

Moral of the loooong short essay. Collegestudent, there's a whole world in front of you, there are many kinds of relationships available to everyone, not just the BF/GF type. Improve on being you. Love yourself, be the best daughter, ate, group leader, student, artist, cook, dancer ... whatever you can be. And when Mr. Right comes you'll be right for him too.

PS. You might be asking yourself if I've given up on the notion of actually having a girlfriend. No, I haven't. Having experienced the many roles of being a man has made me look forward to the others ... to be a boyfiend, lover, husband, father, grandfather. With all the things God has shown me in my life I beleive He has something special in-store for me ... like He has one for you.

hi!!! sobrang thank you for taking time to tell your side of the story... medyo mahirap at marami ka na ring napagdaanan ah... sobrang nakatulong *** advice mo... pero kasi alam ko **** may nagkkcrush sakin pero *** to the point na he will court me as in wala,,, naunahan pa ko ng younger sister ko... hehe... nagmamadali lang b ko? i cant still believe that you're still single.... haaay... tc

[cardboard]

Hey Collegestudent, I don't think nagmamadali ka naman. I think everyone thinks the way you do now in some phase in their life. I think these days are meant so that you will learn know the value of having a loving relationship ... with yourself, with everyone, with GOD not just your prospective BF. When you realize this you can then go in with improving your life.

Alam mo, yung mga friends ko na kasal na; most of them tell me that when the time came they instinctively knew that they we're going to get married to the person they ended up with. They say it's a very quiet and secured feeling. Kilig pero peaceful. Na parang sigurado ka because everything just seems to be right. I still have to know how that feels. But with all the things I've gone through, I can say that I already know what relationship is fit for me.

You know, alot of my friends also can't believe that I'm still single. I don't know what that means. I'm not expecting much though I am hoping that it means that the one for me is just around the corner.

Relax, life is great once you know what's truly important.

[minami617]

I love your looong short essay cardboard. how are you? Did you finally meet her? ;p

[barelythere]

^yeah,me curious as well...kaya lang tagal na netong thread na 'to.anyway feel ko lang din ishare.

i used to have that dilemma as well on my first year back in college,yung girlfriends ko lahat nagka bf na during highschool at ako napagiiwanan na.sabi nila bawasan ko raw yung masyadong pagiging mataray,choosy at maarte,then yung iba sabi im scaring them away daw kasi lol...then on my sophomore year i had one of the shockest time of my life when this guy (whom i never bothered to say thank you even once sa maraming times na paghohold niya ng elevator waiting for me pala lol.grabeng coincidence? hmmm,idk. nor say hi back pag nagkakasalubong sa corridor sa takot na mahalata niyang patay na patay ako sa kanya) started giving me hints and admitted that he digs me a lot *kilig mode*.that's when i thought normal naman pala ako,confirmed! nakahinga na ako ng maluwang.naghanap lang pala ako ng katapat ko.

it's been more than 5 years,malamang hindi na ngsb/nbsb sina collegestudent and cardboard...anyway ang akin lang,don't get into a rel just for the sake of having a gf or bf,just for the heck of having someone to call as your SO.a stupid,shallow,immature and nonsense,reason to get yourself into a rel with anyone.

ts,if up until now ala pa rin even suitors,mu,fling whatever.eh malamang talaga may problema nga sayo,not entirely on your part though pwede ring you're into or you're looking in the wrong place,perhaps you need to go out a bit and mingle more.

[Jameaux]

Necroed...

There really is nothing wrong with being NBSB/NGSB. It is a choice. One of the things I learned is that my insecurities and high standards were the reasons I didn't have a girlfriend at an early age. Looking back years ago, I'm an average high school boy dreaming of having a pretty model as a girlfriend but doesn't even have the guts to utter a single word to my high school crush. Eventually that crush learned I had a crush on her and she flirted on me which turned me off. The older I get the more I see how girls get prettier and prettier as they get older as well.

[kreuk]

yaks you're nly 18. enjoy being single! walang baggage.

[soltera81]

musta na kaya si TS? just to add hija~ if you can’t find tranquility within yourself, it is useless to look for it somewhere else.

[i_bleed_blue]

huwaw, Jan2005...

anyway, nakakatuwa naman yung mahabang short essay ni cardboard... it is... uhm... inspiring? hindi eh... reassuring!

being an ngsb myself, masasabi kong masaya naman maging single eh... yung walang sabit... gimmick ka anytime with anyone... sayong-sayo yung sweldo mo... wala kang monthsary/anniversary na kailangan imemorize... pero minsan kasi mapapaisip ka eh... like "what's wrong with me?" kasi naman lahat ng nambasted sa akin said masyado akong mabait, and hindi ko alam ano ibig sabihin nun... and kahit naging friends ko rin naman sila, hindi na namin pinag-uusapan yung nangyari... hindi ako comfortable... i think hindi naman sa nagmamadali, pero it's the feeling na you are not sufficient... yung parang may kulang sa pagkatao mo... and it doesn't help na may nakikita kang mga taong... uhm... masasabi mong marami kang lamang... pero sila may gf... it's weird... i mean, i graduated from one of the premiere courses of one of the best colleges in the philippines... i may not be filthy rich bu i have a stable job... and masasabi ko namang i'm not painful to the eyes... i drink just a little, i don't smoke, i don't do drugs... relihiyoso akong tao at mapagmahal sa mga magulang at mga kaibigan... i love doing outreach activities... wala pa akong record sa pulis, kahit nung sa school, 1 hour detention lang ako and that's because i was late in submitting my reply slip... hindi ko maintindihan kung anong mali sa akin...

but hey, don't get me wrong... masaya ako kahit single... mas masaya lang siguro if i had someone to share my life with...

[minami617]

Hi i-bleed-blue, we share the same sentiments.. Im turning 30 on june and up to now, ive never been into any relationship. And i admit im really embarrassed.. Like you, i graduated in a good univ, and i have a stable job. I dont look like a beauty queen, but im not ugly as well... Hmmmmm. I really don't the problem. pero im stll hoping ill soon find my partner. I just hope im not destined to be single my whole life...

[birdy90]

napa-check tuloy ako kung ako ba gumawa nito noon pero hindi pala. minsan kasi may sumusulpot na mga lumang thread na alternick ko pala iyon?

kumusta na nga kaya si TS. 22 or 23 na siguro siya ngayon.

[Bankai09]

May BF na *****. Haha

[loli210511]

After two months of being 30 and still a "member of NBSB society", I must admit I really don't know how I feel and think about this. It is surprising to see two recent posts from "members of NGSB society", I only thought that having no significant other since birth is an issue for females.

Facing this dilemma is a must, I guess.

[Nelsito]

Hindi dapat malungkot.

Dapat sagutin ang mga tanong kung bakit ka nbsb. Tapusin ang mga kalokohan gaya ng "gustuhin niya kung ano ako, ganito ako eh" at yung mga "may nakalaan sa akin".

[tellracs_eiram]

my parents won't let me see a guy, because my tita had a near date rape experience nung dalaga sya. *** dpat nafifilter muna ng parents ko yung mga boys na gustong makipag-kaibigan sa akin.

unlucky.