Filipino-Chinese relationships

[LadyMarmalade]

wah nabuhay nanaman tong topic na 'to?

[*happy*phantom*]

Originally posted by batang uliran:
It's true culture is important but too often it is used a smokescreen for racism. I think parents don't have the right to choose who their children will marry based simply on the fact that they are of a different race.

Well said. I am in an inter-racial relationship and my parents don't mind. I'm one of the lucky ones, I guess.

[j5n3th]

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some chinese parents explain naman why they dont want filipino-chinese relationship and reasonable naman *** (its not about the money lang or materialistic ang mga chinese, which btw, is not true http://www.pinoyexchange.com/bop.gif its about the differences) pero mas naniniwala ako na if he really loves u http://www.pinoyexchange.com/inluv.gif he will move heaven & earth just to be with u http://www.pinoyexchange.com/sweet.gif

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[This message has been edited by j5n3th (edited 07-24-2000).]

[sweet&sensitive]

I personally think its k lang kase, honestly, F-P ako so k lang talaga. BUT that's not the only reason! I do think that if its love, its love. No one can change it!

Well, its up to u naman,eh.

sweet xxx,
sweet&sensitive

[BadGiRL]

Originally posted by j5n3th:
:~) :~) :~) :~) :~)

some chinese parents explain naman why they dont want filipino-chinese relationship and reasonable naman *** (its not about the money lang or materialistic ang mga chinese, which btw, is not true http://www.pinoyexchange.com/bop.gif its about the differences) pero mas naniniwala ako na if he really loves u http://www.pinoyexchange.com/inluv.gif he will move heaven & earth just to be with u http://www.pinoyexchange.com/sweet.gif

:~) :~) :~) :~) :~)

[This message has been edited by j5n3th (edited 07-24-2000).]

--- Yup! Kaso kung ikaw yung anak, it's either mamimili ka sa pagiging racist or suwail na anak kung d payag parents mo. Tsaka most naman na parents that are against fil-chi relationships are the super conservative ones who must have raised their kids to be conservative din e. so, sa confucian teachings, you must obey your parents. kaya you choose nalang, racist ka or suwail kang anak.

[aimen]

i can relate to this topic bec im in that situation right now. all i can say is it takes a matter of strength and holding on between the 2 of u if u really love each other. mahirap talga dahil lahat na ng mga pangit at masasakit na salita maririnig mo na! like me, im a half-chinese, my dad was pure and my mom is a filipina. bf ko naman filipino rin. nilait-lait talaga ng dad ko yng bf ko ksi filipino daw and *** daw akong mapapala and whatsoever. and pinaramdam nya **** sa bf ko na ayaw nya sa kanya. and even my mom na akala ko maiintindihan ako kasi filipina sya di ako maintindihan and kampi pa sya sa dad ko! di ko naman pwedeng isumbat sa dad ko na *** sya nagasawa ng filipina kasi lalake naman sya and me, im not. Hindi naman ako talaga ang magiging head of the family in case di ba! u know, one time pa nga wen my dad finally got the chance to meet my bf, tinignan nya mula ulo hanggang paa and binastos nya talaga, pinapasok nya ko sa loob ng bahay at pinabayaan nya magmukhang ***** bf ko, paalisin ko nga raw kng ndi sya raw ang magpapaalis! at that moment, narealize ko na lahat nga sila pati bong relatives kalaban namin! and naawa nga ako sa kanya dahil alam ko how much it hurts na tratuhin ng ganun. and nagkaroon na rin sya ng sama ng loob sa mga chinese. except me daw! we decided to hide our relationship & we're 2 yrs and 4 mos. na! we don't know *** to do wen the right time comes, basta all we know is that we're willing to fight for it! although it will takes a lot of hard and painful consequences to prove to them that their is nothing wrong with this kind of relationship!

[BetchaGollyWow]

Well, ano ang comment nyo sa chinese-filipino relationship especially if the girl is chinese and the guy is a filipino? How to make this relationship work especially if the girl's family is conservative? Share naman kung ano ang mga tips...

I have several friends who are in this kind of situation. Okey lang kapag lalaki ang chinese dahil kapag nagkatuluyan daw e, the girl can be "trained" with the chinese traditions, but it is not true if it is the other way around.

[Kid Rock 18]

ewan ko lang...

[maxinegirl]

this is a very difficult situation to be in. most conservative or traditional chinese families are not very open-minded and are generally not accepting of non-chinese prospective mates for their children. your friends may risk being disowned and disinherited. it's a sad fact but it happens.

[bluestar]

is it easier pag ang babae ang Filipino?

[LadyMarmalade]

all i can say is, lotsa luck to u nalang

[batang.munti]

...To whom are you having relationship with? The family or the person? I think this question is a bit of a prejudice...

[LadyMarmalade]

Originally posted by bluestar:
is it easier pag ang babae ang Filipino?

i'd say yes coz sabi nila, pag girl ang Filipino, mas matatanggap coz yung guy naman ang magdadala ng surname eh

oh well
tough situation still

[ianski_24]

SIMPLE LANG... DONT LOOK AT IT AS "CHINES-FILIPINO" RELATIONSHIP... JUST A RELATIONSHIP OF TWO PEOPLE INLOVE WITH EACH OTHER...

[Mudbug]

Originally posted by ianski_24:
SIMPLE LANG... DONT LOOK AT IT AS "CHINES-FILIPINO" RELATIONSHIP... JUST A RELATIONSHIP OF TWO PEOPLE INLOVE WITH EACH OTHER...

I agree with you. Why make such a fuss over something so miniscule? Love is love and love conquers all.

[frenzy]

Originally posted by BetchaGollyWow:
Well, ano ang comment nyo sa chinese-filipino relationship especially if the girl is chinese and the guy is a filipino? How to make this relationship work especially if the girl's family is conservative?

The relationship can go a long, long way, if they really love each other. And how to make it work? That depends on them on how they want it to work.

[BetchaGollyWow]

Originally posted by LadyMarmalade:
i'd say yes coz sabi nila, pag girl ang Filipino, mas matatanggap coz yung guy naman ang magdadala ng surname eh
oh well
tough situation still

yup easier kapag babae ang filipino...
yup tough situation.

As quoted by ianski_24

DONT LOOK AT IT AS "CHINES-FILIPINO" RELATIONSHIP... JUST A RELATIONSHIP OF TWO PEOPLE INLOVE WITH EACH OTHER...

mahirap kasing tingnan as two people deeply in love with each other because one big factor affected is the family. As maxinegirlwrote, the worst case is being disowned and disinherited. Okey lang kung mawalan ka ng inheritance, but being disowned in the family? ang hirap. The basic support is coming from your own family.

I have several friends who are in this kind of situation. One couple nung kinasal sila, walang pumunta sa family ng babae mismo sa araw ng kasal. Sad diba? ang hirap at ang sakit.

[Wicca]

Tough situation. I don't know what to do either. What if the girl's not Chinese naman? Kasi other families ayaw talaga sa non-Chinese eh... so paano na yun?

[keith07]

Peeps! this is my situation. all i can say is napakahirap talgang magtago! and im still putting all my courage to face them to say that i have a filipino bf! hayyy!!!! i know it would be a big big problem. but *** can i do, i really really love him and he loves me too!!! we're hiding for almost 2yrs and half now!

[ravencurl]

I guess I can very well relate to this situtation.... I held no grudges with my family coz they understand my situation.. Only my dad doesn't but what the heck! I love this guy and I think he is trying his best to be a good partner to me and i also think that my dad somehow sees his effort.. Needless to say that we are also in a long distance relationship! whoa ! that makes our relationship still much harder for both of us. Well all i can say is that god bless and just go ahead if u really love the person.. *** naman makapagpipigil sa yo eh... Its ur life and don't let other people judge it.. bahala ka ng magdala.. Mahirap naman next time ikaw din magsisisi.. just lift it all up to God and ask Him for His Blessings. http://www.pinoyexchange.com/angel.gif