Filipino-Chinese relationships

[vincex]

Parang niligaw talaga buong angkan ah.. Haha. The easiest way? Make sure the guy is independent from the family and he will fight for your love. Hindi yung tipong he'll just roll over when his parents have things to say.

Take note, nililigawan mo yung guy, hindi yung pamilya. Just be sure the guy will be by your side when worse comes to worst.

Note that with many filipino families, you "inherit" the responsibilities of that family as well. Many times, the poor family will expect it from the richer guy

[jtansanco]

Note that with many filipino families, you "inherit" the responsibilities of that family as well. Many times, the poor family will expect it from the richer guy

Assuming there's a reversal of roles, I'll make it clear that I'm only marrying the girl, not the family. That's just my side although for others, they'll do the "norm". In my case, I prefer to be different and just want to live my life the way I want it to be.

[vincex]

^ of course that will be a little offensive to certain parties.

It's like telling the girl before you get married "hon... can you sign this pre-nup.. separation of properties.." hehehe

I'd think you should make these things clear at the very beginning (when you weren't even close yet). Unfortunately, it may also mean you may not get anywhere with the girl. hehehe

[anthraxgal]

how about having a pure filipino and a fil-chi partner? does it follow also the principles and traditions of the pure chinese families?

[atlantianz023]

Napakagandang thread ito biruin ninyo from year 1999 up to now year 2012; the most talk of topic here. Well from my opinion usually Chinese parents are very keen observed, very traditionalism, and very religious race in Asia. See when the religion Buddhism enter in the "Middle Kingdom" they fully accept it because they know they found something "Holy" so as a race who are in by lineage of lineage of continuing their family names they preferred 'the one' who got the acceptance of the Chinese parents. But don't be discouraged just of this maraming ways para magkaintindihan ang two race bakit di ninyo pag-aralan ang katangian ng isa't-isa? by the way I'm a history buffs and I loved history, mostly Asian history.

[atlantianz023]

"how about having a pure filipino and a fil-chi partner? does it follow also the principles and traditions of the pure chinese families?"

anthraxgal

Oo naman may ganiyan din case, Ms. anthraxgal. Mostly ang iba mas pinangangatawanan ang pagiging religious ng side ng Chinese sides.

[trooperman]

Hindi naman siya issue sa amin considering na pure chinese ako and pure filipina si misis. no issues naman sa dad ko

[sh_knight]

Back to basics:
- Traditions and cultures mold person's minds, beliefs and actions (way of looking at things or perceptions)

Chinese:
- a fact that Chinese has over 5000 years of history...accummulated centuries of hardship, experiences and hardship that Philippines/ filipinos can not understand.
- those beliefs reference to some "history" and religios POV
- Hard working and always have "long term" plan

Philippines/ Filipinos:
- only few hundred years of cililization that when it started its civilization...it was mainly colonized by western countries therefore you know Filipinoes don't have sense of nationalism/ patriotism or whatever you call it.
- People are romantic, kind but kinda lazy. Short sighted in terms of business opportunities

[egeboy099]

ako dati pinay ang type ko eh..pero simula nang sumisimba na ako sa chinese church na kung saan ay maraming magagandang chicks na fil-chi..dun ako nagsimulang magka gusto sa mga chinita...hangang ngayon type na type ko sila... iba talaga ang dating nila saakin eh.marami rin kasi akong friends na chinese kaya alam ko rin ang kaugalian ng mga tradtions nila.*** iba nga na mana ko na..lalo na *** pag suot ng pula pag new year...hahayzzz...nakaka hawa talaga.

iba talaga pag traditional family mahirap makipag bangaan dyan. kahit ako nag dadalawang isip ako kung manliligaw ako sa kanila..dahil kilala ako ng pamilya nila. ibang klase talaga itong mga chinese kasi may pagka stricto lalo na sa mga anak nilang babae. ang pag ka alam ko kasi parental ang pagkakasal ng mga chinese kong kakilala *** mga parents nila.

[Mabuhey]

ako dati pinay ang type ko eh..pero simula nang sumisimba na ako sa chinese church na kung saan ay maraming magagandang chicks na fil-chi..dun ako nagsimulang magka gusto sa mga chinita...hangang ngayon type na type ko sila... iba talaga ang dating nila saakin eh.marami rin kasi akong friends na chinese kaya alam ko rin ang kaugalian ng mga tradtions nila.*** iba nga na mana ko na..lalo na *** pag suot ng pula pag new year...hahayzzz...nakaka hawa talaga.

iba talaga pag traditional family mahirap makipag bangaan dyan. kahit ako nag dadalawang isip ako kung manliligaw ako sa kanila..dahil kilala ako ng pamilya nila. ibang klase talaga itong mga chinese kasi may pagka stricto lalo na sa mga anak nilang babae. ang pag ka alam ko kasi parental ang pagkakasal ng mga chinese kong kakilala *** mga parents nila.

....good luck

[atlantianz023]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g9euO...eature=related

Guyz, sinasabi ko sa inyu kailangan natin respetuhin ang kanilang kustombre, kaugalian at tradisyon. Pagka't iyon ang nagpapayaman sa kanila bilang buong mag-anak, at para makuha natin ang kanilang pagtanggap sa atin; huwag rin natin kalilimutan na ang mga Tsino ang may malaking naiambag sa atin mga Pilipino higit kailanman bago ang mga 'Kanluranin'. Aba bago pa dumaong si Magellan marami nang mangangalakal na Tsino.

[atlantianz023]

Originally Posted by egeboy099

"ako dati pinay ang type ko eh..pero simula nang sumisimba na ako sa chinese church na kung saan ay maraming magagandang chicks na fil-chi..dun ako nagsimulang magka gusto sa mga chinita...hangang ngayon type na type ko sila... iba talaga ang dating nila saakin eh.marami rin kasi akong friends na chinese kaya alam ko rin ang kaugalian ng mga tradtions nila.*** iba nga na mana ko na..lalo na *** pag suot ng pula pag new year...hahayzzz...nakaka hawa talaga.

iba talaga pag traditional family mahirap makipag bangaan dyan. kahit ako nag dadalawang isip ako kung manliligaw ako sa kanila..dahil kilala ako ng pamilya nila. ibang klase talaga itong mga chinese kasi may pagka stricto lalo na sa mga anak nilang babae. ang pag ka alam ko kasi parental ang pagkakasal ng mga chinese kong kakilala *** mga parents nila."

Saan ka naman nagsisimba egeboy?

[Heidegger]

I've been to this type of relationship. Pure chinese si girl. Because of pressure we decided to part ways. 5 years din kami.

Friends paden naman kami ngayon at parehas paden kaming single. Sabi ko nga sa kanya, handa nakong mamatay ng nagiisa. Hehe!

[GilmoreGal]

^^ anu yung pressure?

[shadows217]

sorry, I dont see the issue in having this kind of relationship, aside from the fact that their parents, well most of them atleast, do not want a filipino guy as their daughter's boyfriend. Not sure if this applies vice versa.

[girlwonderer]

I've been to this type of relationship. Pure chinese si girl. Because of pressure we decided to part ways. 5 years din kami.

Friends paden naman kami ngayon at parehas paden kaming single. Sabi ko nga sa kanya, handa nakong mamatay ng nagiisa. Hehe!

aba! hindi ko alam to ah.. hehe..
well, you'll meet the girl for you that you'd not want to die alone! arte mo! haha...

sorry, I dont see the issue in having this kind of relationship, aside from the fact that their parents, well most of them atleast, do not want a filipino guy as their daughter's boyfriend. Not sure if this applies vice versa.

well, there are some naman that accepts whatever nationality their children would love.. don't generalize lang..

[vincex]

^ generalization is the process of coming up with an evaluation based on commonalities and observation. It is a generally safe way of arriving at a conclusion assuming that the person is aware that it is what it is... a generalization, and not necessarily absolute fact.

[moejo777]

looking for Chinese or Korean girls... email me... moe.jo27@yahoo.com hi hi hi hi!

[lan9916909]

hi im a new member

came by this thread because i just recently got out of a similar relationship. im fil-chi and his pure. i have to say that it was an ease because we have a lot in common -- experiences, the way we were raised by parents, customs etc. so compared to my previous pinoy bfs, i really got hurt when we separated. the fact na i wasnt at any rate had a hard time explaining traditions etc.

anyways, point-being, most fil-chi siguro ngayon doenst worry much of the 'real' score why they prefer a similar partner. its more of meeting the same wavelength. parang ganun. hope it makes sense

[katya_008]

Kung ayaw nila sa Filipino, anong ginagawa nila sa Pilipinas, dapat bumalik na lang sila sa China. Na-observe ko lang din, majority sa mga pinoy ayaw sa indian, una-una dahil sa malaking difference ng hygiene practice nating mga filipino sa indian. Ang liit lang ng population ng mga filipino sa India, most of them nakapag-asawa lang ng indian kaya nag-migrate sila doon. Ang Chinese ayaw sa Filipino, pero ang laki ng population nila dito sa Pinas at ang iba sa kanila, sa pilipinas lang yumaman. Bottom line is kung ayaw sa pinoy, bumalik sa China para lahat ng taong makakahalubilo niyo ay mga kalahi niyo rin.