Surviving a LONG Distance Relationship

[HanSolo]

I've seen Survivor! (from South China Sea to the Amazons) but this is totally different.

Got anything to say? Help me SURVIVE!

[Ice Burn]

1. regular chat time (best with voice chat with video conferencing)
2. long distance phone cards
3. emails
4. text messages

It's tough and I sympatize with you since I'm in the same situation. My long-time boyfriend's in the Philippines, I'm in the US. The key is regular communication between the two of you.

However it's not the same, I know...You just have to be positive. Don't let the lonesome and longing consume you. And be strong...If you are meant to be together, not even distance can change that.

And one more thing, keep in mind that things may not work out so as if it does happen, you've already done the acceptance part despite the hurt.

Good luck.

[makabayantalaga]

The mortality rate of LDRs is extremely high.

There is no such thing as "no choice", there always is, just do not choose LDR.

Cut the distance asap, get married.
Stay together, forever.

[REIGNE24]

if only it was that easy to get married makabayantalaga!!! i'd propose to him, but that will do the good of scaring him away.

anyways, like you HanSolo, my baby is in LA and im stuck here in France. however, we've been going strong. kasi if you really want it to work, it will. no matter what people will say. kesyo baka may iba yun kaya maghanap ka na or that its a waste of time cause LDR WONT work! well all i can say is FùC.k you all who thinks so negatively about LDR. because when it all boils down to it, its between you and your loved one. kaya no amount of brainwashing is ever gonna make me believe that it WONT and CANT work, because i believe in making a choice. and i choose to make it work, hopefully thats what he wants to. so far ala namang reklamo.

yeah there's always suspicion and selos cause your far away, but if the love is strong and you have to make it strong, you'll survive. just take it one day at a time. at least if things really dont work out, you can honestly say i gave it my best!

[maldita2dmax]

i strongly agree to what REIGNE24 is saying...if you really want it to work, it will!! I am into a LDR right now, i am here in Philly and he is damn way up there in Denmark. Mahirap kung sa mahirap, from the time differences pa lang...talo na. Kakagising ko pa lang, sha naman patulog na... but anyway, i am glad that we have made it... constant communication lang naman ang kailangan talaga eh. It requires a lot of patience and trust din... On my case nga eh, he has a very close girl friend who is suffering from a very serious family problem, so the girl is staying on his flat these days... although at first iba talaga yung iisipin mo, iba syempre pag guys and girls are staying on the same roof di ba? lalo na foreigners pa and are so open about sex.. san ka pa lulugar? Pero since i get to talked to his friend and he assured me that there is nothing fishy going on... ok na ko dun!! Basta trust lang and everything LDR will surely work... well, we are actually planning to get married... and it all boils down there..... GUDLUCK!!

[Appleheart]

My bf is working overseas right now.....he had to in order to help his sisters since his dad had 2 strokes and couldn't work anymore and they had a lot of hospital bills to pay...
Well just keep in mind if you're really meant for each other no matter what happens sa dulo kayo pa rin...
Keeping long distance relationship working is HARD but make sure that it is what you BOTH WANT...
The key to any relationship to is honesty, trust, respect, love and the WILLINGNESS and INITIATIVE TO MAKE IT WORK ON BOTH SIDES
Number one priority for LDRs is OPEN COMMUNICATION......grabe kawawa nga bf ko sa long distance bills niya......pero dami namang ways to communicate with the technology right now...
Make use of the time that you are apart in improving oneself.....kasi if you're confident with yourself then you can handle anything that comes your way...
Do your best....your very best AND GOD WILL DO THE REST!

[reign_summers]

yeah, im also in a long distance relationship. its hard..people willl tell you horrible stories about the set up. but if both of you are willing to work it out, then you'll be fine. hindi maiiwasan na may mga araw na mag-iinarte ka kasi nakikita mo yung iba na kasama yung mga significant others nila, while you, nandito, mag-isa....you just have to hold onto the relationship, and believe that it will work. i think the keys are love, patience, honesty, trust and communication.

i miss my honey!!!

[eekk]

it takes a lot to survive a long distance relationship.it is very expensive too...i agree with the rest of the people who said that when you want it work, it will...there will be times that you guys wont understand each other but you just have to talk things over so you guys can resolve whatever differences you have.if it's worth it, you will fight for it...

my husband is pretty far away from me,we are not in good terms right now but hopefully things will get better soon.i miss him and i really want things to work out so despite of the gap that we have right now...i'am sticking it out still with him because i wknow we are worth it.

[angeLdevin]

LDR?

Wala na nga atang mas hihirap pa sa situation na ganito!

Me and my bf of 2 1/2 years are currently battling this one out. Mahirap esp nasanay ako na kasama siya palagi before. The first few weeks I was here, talagang naging iyakin ako. Going to bed was the toughest. Parang dun mo naiisip lahat... Reminscing the good ones.. Anticipating of what might occur.. Then parang *** kang energy to wake up realizing na there would be no chance of you being with him for the rest of the day.

After four months, we still are in constant touch. Everyday txt messaging, fone calls and email helped a lot in reassuring that our love is still worth keeping.

Mahirap pero eto ang fate natin eh. Opening up in forums like this had helped me din in lightening the pain I keep. It's always best to let loose of the burden to people who'd understand really well.

[ai_c]

ldr? wahhhh huhuhu..

mahirap talaga. constant communication is the key. i'm in that situation din. minsan nagagalit ako sa kanya kung nde kami nakapag-usap ng weekend it's not that i'm proud na nagtatampo ako sa kanya, just adding humor to a lonely setting

*** keep's me going is my luv for him n looking forward for D DAY na di na kami magiging magkalayo one more year na lang n our wait will be over mabilis na lang yung 1 yr kasi now nasa july na tayo so ilang tulog na lang eh 2004 na

to all those in this situation: konting tiis lang

[avonlea]

after 4 months of being separated, we decided to get married... ang hirap ng LDR kasi even if you know that he loves you, lagi mo ring naiisip na baka magbago siya... so he just got permission from his parents and asked his boss for a two-weeks vacation... we got married last friday (of course, nag-seminar at 10-day waiting period pa for the marriage license) and we had an interview at the embassy monday morning, he went back to his country monday afternoon... i hope to be with him next month (he thinks 1 month is such a looooong time!)

i miss my husband na!

[aina_crazy_girl]

Originally posted by avonlea
after 4 months of being separated, we decided to get married... ang hirap ng LDR kasi even if you know that he loves you, lagi mo ring naiisip na baka magbago siya... so he just got permission from his parents and asked his boss for a two-weeks vacation... we got married last friday (of course, nag-seminar at 10-day waiting period pa for the marriage license) and we had an interview at the embassy monday morning, he went back to his country monday afternoon... i hope to be with him next month (he thinks 1 month is such a looooong time!)

i miss my husband na!

awwww.. my best wishes!

[purple_lover]

hay... ang dami *** natin... naaaliw me kc lahat ** lumalaban... ang galing ****... bilib me... ilang beses na din me muntik mag-give up pero eto pa din... strong pa din relationship namin... dati mas mahirap kc LDR na nga illegel pa... pero ngayon legal na kami... he's in batangas and i'm here in manila... nde mashadong malayo pero bihira **** kme magkita... hay... i miss him na... 2 months na kme 2m eh... magkikita kame...

[leamich]

PA MEMBER NGA!!!!

oo nga dami palang nasa LDR..hayyyy hirap talaga...dami ko ng touchcard, fonkard, load ng cell,......pro WORTH IT naman lahat tapos ko makausap love ko...

[purple_lover]

hay... love ****... willing...

[LodRose]

you don't!

stop making it long distance as soon as possible.

IMHO.

[Ellheym]

siguro kung start pa lang.. okey lang siguro.. pero dapat gawan ng paraan na hindi na magtagal ang long distance rel. kasi baka masayang lang lahat ng mga nagastos mo.. mahirap ang long distance.. been there done that..

[REIGNE24]

ewan ko bah...ipaglalaban ko pa rin kahit mahirap at magastos! basta sa lahat ng mga nag sasabing hindi worth it, fight to the end pa rin ako!

diba people said that it was impossible to go to the moon? we'll i still believe in ldr. basta nga lang you BOTH want it!!!

peace

[refinnej]

you pipol are so inspiring. *** lang. my bf and i will be in this situation soon. we try not to think about it. although we're preparing. we just make sure that we spend as much time possible with each other now. we want our relationship to last.

[milkyman]

from what i've seen marriage doesn't really solve anything. does marriage neccessarilly prevent both parties from hurting, longing, cheating etc? i've seen people who live with each other but feel like they are thousands of miles apart.