Single Parents [Merged]

[leanelle]

pag weekends ba walang nagpo-post dito?

[pattybee]

Originally posted by CHIN66AY
im a single mom... my daughter is 5 yrs old. i had her when i was 19 kaya right now nahihirapan ako.

1st issue ko:
my parents are so supportive but its making me feel like im so useless. parang wala akong kahirap-hirap because they treat her like their own... hindi ko tuloy maramdaman ang responsibility ng isang mother.

2nd issue:
... this guy ive been going out with for 8 months now, his mom doesnt like me because may anak na raw ako.

bakit ganun... nababawasan ba ang pagkababae natin when we are single moms? may mga nakasabay ako nagbuntis, they got their child aborted and because walang nakakaalam what they did, they're being spared from this discrimination na "malandi kasi, imoral, etc" its like you're being judged palagi with your past!

oops sorry... ngayon ko lang kasi nakita ang thread na 'to and im so happy siguro meron sa inyong makakaintindi or will share my opinions and complaints?

Why don't you talk to your parents about this? Although I must say you're very fortunate to have such supportive parents. Yung iba kasi dyan, hindi man lang tinutulungan so you're in a much better position. Just explain to them that you want to be able to assume some motherly responsibilities as well. Assure them that you're capable and prove it!

With regard to your boyfriend's mother, napaka narrow-minded naman nya. Old school kasi eh so that's expected. Although it hurts to be judged that way, what should be more important is how your boyfriend feels about you and IF he thinks you're worth fighting for. Does he?

[mayeth]

i am not a single mom per se, but because my husband abandoned us, i became one. i have two kids and with prayers we are surviving. i know this tgread will help me a lot.

[derecho_65]

My mom's a single mother. She got pregnant with me while finishing her college degree, my father married her but it just didn't work out. Sometimes marriage is not a solution it only adds up to the problem. Fortunately my mom's family is very supportive of us, wihtout my aunt and my grandparents me and my sister would become street childrens or something like that. Unfortunately my mother wasn't emotionally prepared for the trials in life her parents and sister gave in to her every whim (bunso kasi & sakitin). There are times that she would blame me for ruining her life. that famous line na "kung d ako nabuntis sayo....." Lalo na kamukha ko daw tatay ko. She also has this inferiority complex of attending school activities because she's a single mom. (but maybe beacuse the school is run by nuns na conservative)

I just hope that the single moms out there would never do this to their child. NEVER! It's not the child's fault! A child should not be seen as a burden or curse.

It was my mother's doing that her life now is like that not mine.
Altough im growing up with a weak single mother, i learn from her mistakes and vow that if ever I become a single mother I would be anything but her.

[eulalie]

Please help,I'm pregnant and I don't know what's the best way to tell it to my parents...HELP>>>

[charlotte perez]

I was a single parent for 5 years. It was really difficult esp that time i was so young and studying. Although my parents were angry at me, they were the ones who helped me bear it all. Lalo pa eh iniwan kami ng father ng angel ko. But i didnt lose hope. My daughter gave me the strength and inspiration. May times din na I want to give up na but I continued to pray and trust Gods plan for us. I finally found someone who truly loves me and my daughter. Married for 3 years now and he also adopted my daughter.

[pattybee]

Originally posted by derecho_65
My mom's a single mother. She got pregnant with me while finishing her college degree, my father married her but it just didn't work out. Sometimes marriage is not a solution it only adds up to the problem. Fortunately my mom's family is very supportive of us, wihtout my aunt and my grandparents me and my sister would become street childrens or something like that. Unfortunately my mother wasn't emotionally prepared for the trials in life her parents and sister gave in to her every whim (bunso kasi & sakitin). There are times that she would blame me for ruining her life. that famous line na "kung d ako nabuntis sayo....." Lalo na kamukha ko daw tatay ko. She also has this inferiority complex of attending school activities because she's a single mom. (but maybe beacuse the school is run by nuns na conservative)

I just hope that the single moms out there would never do this to their child. NEVER! It's not the child's fault! A child should not be seen as a burden or curse.

It was my mother's doing that her life now is like that not mine.
Altough im growing up with a weak single mother, i learn from her mistakes and vow that if ever I become a single mother I would be anything but her.

Parenthood is not an easy task, especially when you're both father and mother to your child.

It's good that you're learning from your mom's mistakes. But never forget all the sacrifices she's made for you, too. Try to be supportive of her and understand her situation.

After all, you only have one mother, right?

[pattybee]

Originally posted by charlotte perez
I was a single parent for 5 years. It was really difficult esp that time i was so young and studying. Although my parents were angry at me, they were the ones who helped me bear it all. Lalo pa eh iniwan kami ng father ng angel ko. But i didnt lose hope. My daughter gave me the strength and inspiration. May times din na I want to give up na but I continued to pray and trust Gods plan for us. I finally found someone who truly loves me and my daughter. Married for 3 years now and he also adopted my daughter.

Kudos to you! You're lucky you found someone who loves your daughter unconditionally. Good luck and God bless

[Backdoorm282004]

pwede po ba ako ** ... single father ako eh.. for single mom lang ba to?
kasi klangan ko din ang mga knowledge nyo eh...*** na kasi ang mama ng angel ko malapit na sya mag 2yrsold. almost 2 yrs na at hindi ko matandaan klan *** huling araw na nagpahinga ako.

hanggang *****, hindi ko parin alam paano mag Mommy-Mode sa anak ko.

dati, inaalagan sya ng mom ko pero *** mom ko my sakit kaya the nextthing i can do is to rent a yaya na kamaganak ko rin, part time lang ang pagkayaya... iniiwanan ko lang anak ko sa kanya everyday na my work ako. i manage a small IT-Business now, just got my promotion. I thnk my daughter is my inspiration.

I see the face of d most beautiful angel everytime i luk at her smiling face.

[pattybee]

Originally posted by Backdoorm282004
pwede po ba ako ** ... single father ako eh.. for single mom lang ba to?
kasi klangan ko din ang mga knowledge nyo eh...*** na kasi ang mama ng angel ko malapit na sya mag 2yrsold. almost 2 yrs na at hindi ko matandaan klan *** huling araw na nagpahinga ako.

hanggang *****, hindi ko parin alam paano mag Mommy-Mode sa anak ko.

dati, inaalagan sya ng mom ko pero *** mom ko my sakit kaya the nextthing i can do is to rent a yaya na kamaganak ko rin, part time lang ang pagkayaya... iniiwanan ko lang anak ko sa kanya everyday na my work ako. i manage a small IT-Business now, just got my promotion. I thnk my daughter is my inspiration.

I see the face of d most beautiful angel everytime i luk at her smiling face.

Congratulations for being a successful single dad! I don't think there's a problem with you being in this thread. After all, you have similar experiences.

I guess the reason you're having difficulty is because your child is a girl. And you probably feel scared that you might not be able to understand her needs the way a mother would. But don't worry, that's not a major problem if you ask me.

She's growing up with you as her only parent so I'm sure the two of you will have a very close relationship.

Good luck!

[loytecson]

Originally posted by JD_4_U
Im a proud single mum, i have a son 8 months today! My pride and Joy.

Got pregnant just weeks after i moved out of my parents, they were very disappointed, wanted me even to abort the helpless soul. But I said even if they never speak to me again i'll never ever can do what they're asking me. So I went my own way, boyfriend not here at that time, he's in the British army and was stationed in Oman. I felt that I was doing it alone but i fought my way, didnt really care what other people say.

Eventually they came to realise that they cant do anything to change my mind. The day after I left work for my maternity leave I gave birth to a little boy... and it happened that it was my mums 55th B-day, when my mum arrived I was already holding Will and I said "Happy Birthday Mum".

Now we're closer than ever. So thats a happy ever after story.

The Dad??? He's still around, were still together and planned to marry.

awww, this is soo touching. i almost cried...

[maxine de la pena]

When I got devirginized at 17, I never thought I'd get pregnant that fast. I have been a single mom for 7 years. My son is my pride and joy.

I had battled all the stigma society and even my family threw at me on the first years of being a single mom. Luckily, my son has become the apple of my mom's eyes and the favorite of most of my brothers and sisters.

The first years was the most difficult year of my life, I had to stop going to school, and when I was ready to go back, it was hard to leave my one year old son behind every week.

The father of my child, tried to come back, when my baby was 3, he made me feel that I was lucky he was willing to marry me and I saw him for what he really is, an irresponsible mama's boy. And people ay deem me stupid, I declined his offer. And with hurt pride he stopped his financial support.

And so I decided, it is enough that my son knows that he does have a living father. But, everytime, I see my son staring with envy at a father-and-son tandem playing or enjoying themselves, my heart just skips a beat.

And so I work harder at giving him everything, all the attention, love and support he needs.

Right now, he's in the Phil and Im here in the US, and it's so hard coping with long distance. But I just keep my heart steady with the knowledge that very soon he would come here to jooin me and finally I could say to his dad, that I never regreted turning down his offer of marriage. It is after all his loss and not mine.

[loytecson]

you go, girl! lots of luck to you maxine!

[maxine de la pena]

Thanks loy

With the rate Im going, I believe luck is indeed by my side.

[boardbuster]

Everybody comes into married life and relationships with their sets of emotional and psychological baggage. "Mama's boy"? How many mama's boy are there in the Philippines? Practically, all of the male Pinoy's are, one time or another! How about lasengero? basagulero? barkadistas? Lots of them got married and were able to raise a decent family. Only a selfish and jealous woman who would like to completely dominate a spouse would fail to have a relationship with a man who also has relationship with friends and families.

When there is a child involved, that's when both sides have to set aside their own hurt pride, vindictiveness and other prejudices. Both sides must work for the good of the child and both must work hard to attain it.

Nobody wins when a child lost the chance to have a ather or a mother.

When an action is taken to show off to others what they can do and without consideration of what the child may be missing, then it is just plain selfishness. Not being able to forgive means one will be carrying the hurt for a long time. And vengeance is not that sweet when there is an innocent one that could suffer. No one will get out of such situation a better person, nor a happier one.

People should not wait till they are at their deathbed to make things right.

[maxine de la pena]

I know what you mean boardbuster. However, wouldn't it be unfair for all of us, if we stayed together just because of the child. I believe, one's reason should always be love. And I'd rather spare my kid the agony of seeing both his parents suffer spite for each other.

As for forgiveness, I have given that out already, but sometimes even all the kings horses and all the kings men cant put something together again, even a wound that has healed leave scars in it's wake.

[dizzydean]

hi to all people here... i have a dilemma & was hoping if anyone of you can gve me some of your advce..you see i'm a guy and i'm infatuated with a single mom younger than me...guys you can check out my thread and post here...


http://www.pinoyexchange.com/forums/...19#post4865419


thanks!

[pinay24]

Single Mommies check nyo to:

http://www.pinoyexchange.com/forums/...0&pagenumber=2

[girlintown]

hi...can i call myself a single mom my husband is filling an annulment...can someone help me or give some backgrounds on how this thing is processed...he is the one filing coz' he wants to be a bachelor again..ang galing noh...thanks in advance...i'm just curious about this matter...

[aina_crazy_girl]

Originally posted by girlintown
hi...can i call myself a single mom my husband is filling an annulment...can someone help me or give some backgrounds on how this thing is processed...he is the one filing coz' he wants to be a bachelor again..ang galing noh...thanks in advance...i'm just curious about this matter...

aw, that sucks.

i'm really sorry to hear that. is that his only reason? i hope he's not cheating on you or anything