Single Parents [Merged]

[Lolita]

This thread is for the single mothers in this board.

Let us talk about or lives, loves, suffering, sorrow, happiness and joy.

Let us talk about how we came to be single mothers struggling in a dog-eat-dog world.

Let us talk about our child (or children) who makes us happy and makes us forget our sorrows whenever we see their smiling faces.

Let us talk about the trials we went through as single mothers.

Let us talk about new beginnings and starting all over again.

Let us talk about finding love again.

Let us talk about getting hurt (for the second or third time around).

Let us talk about anything under the sun.

[pinkmoon]

cong better not have the nerve to post in here...hehehe

[JoYcE`TiK]

hi lolita i was a single mom. for 3 1/2 months.. then i married. my son's 4 1/2 months now. bilis 'no? heehee.

[rampage]

HEY LOLITA, TOOK YOUR ADVICE ANG SHIPPED OUT OF CONG'S THREAD.IT WAS GETTING BORING ANYWAY...

SO THERE,IM TWENTY ONE AND IM STILL IN SCHOOLAND IM A MOM. I HAVE AN EIGHT MONTH OLD LITTLE BOY NAMED MIGUEL.
HIS DAD IS OUT OF OUR LIVES AND I DONT ONLY MEAN THAT I DIDNT MARRY HIM- HE COULD HAVE DISSIPATED INTO THE OZONE BY NOW AND I COULDNT CARE LESS. THAT'S HOW MUCH I DONT WANT TO BE WITH HIM.IL SEND YOU A PM WHY NA LANG.

I DIDNT REALLY SUFFER MUCH.I DIDNT GET HELL FROM MY PARENTS.THEY WERE DISSAPOINTED AND MAD, IM SURE BUT I NEVER GOT IT.NOW THAT WE HAVE MIGUEL,THEYRE EVEN THE ONES WHO TAKE CARE OF HIM WHILE IM IN SCHOOL AND AT WORK.

I LIVE A PRETTY NORMAL LIFE.I STILL GO OUT.I LOOK PRETTY MUCH THE SAME.EVEN BETTER ACCORDING TO MOST OF THE PEOPLE I KNOW.

YUN NGA LANG MINSAN NAKAKAFRUSTRATE KASI PARANG KAHIT DI NAGSASALITA YUNG FAMILY KO ITS LIKE THERE STILL IS THIS "SUMBAT" YOU KNOW?DO YOU EVER GET THAT FEELING?

[JoYcE`TiK]

rampage: i know that sumbat feeling!! parang wala ka nang ipagmamalaki sa family mo. you feel like a robot na lang na whatever they want you to do, you do. like school, for example. i don't really want to go to school yet, i want to spend time with my family muna.. eh kaso my mom wants me to go to school na kaagad!! i'm thinking kc family now, school in two or three years.. at least medyo malaki na anak ko. and he doesn't have a yaya naman kc eh, so i have to be full-time mom. --yuck, nagkwento ba-

neway, it gave me that motivation to succeed in my planned career. so whatever negative they give, i'll exude positively.

btw, my son's dad is nakakalat sa mga gimikan dyan in pinas. talk abt irresponsible!! he doesn't even call his son 'no!!

how did you get your son's name?

[Lolita]

Those were the two things I dreaded when I got pregnant.

My Mom has high regards for me and she trusted me. That's why I felt really terrible when I got pregnant. It's like telling my Mom that she cannot trust me anymore and getting myself pregnant was breaking the trust between us. But oh well... tapos na yon and we cannot do anything about it. Libog is libog!

Actually, yun lang naman ang hate ko about the whole thing. And the thought that everybody you know is talking behind your back like. "Malandi kasi, nabuntis tuloy." I should know, ganun din ako dati when I hear about some girl I know who got pregnant. Na-karma siguro ako.

The dad of my little boy is still nearby and we do communicate. He visits our son and takes him home with him occassionally. He has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend. Lahat kami masaya.

[DELISYUS]

hi girls

i am not a single mother pero can i drop by here from time to time??? i would love to learn from you.....ask questions......maybe even provide answers from a different perspective....

and also......get to see pics of your little angels??? hehehehe, am an "expectant mom" kasi eh.....really looking forward to being blessed with my own kids

[sabine92575]

i dunno if there has been a thread about single parents in here... tried searching but the search function isn't working...

just wanna know if there are any single parents here, just like me... care to share your experiences?

[Pointless]

Well, I was raised by a single parent... Do my opinions count?

[sabine92575]

Pointless - i don't think there would be anything pointless to what you will share, right? so, fire on...

[Pointless]

Well, all I can say is that I envy my friends who are raised by both their mom and dad... It really is different to be cared for by only one parent, no matter how much that parent tries... Although it is better to have one loving parent than two dysfunctional ones

[sabine92575]

i myself came from a dysfunctional family... yup, it's complete, but we'll be better off if our parents were separated... subconsciously, i guess, this situation had an effect to my decision to remain single... i wouldn't want my son to go through the same painful journey as i did. as u urself put it: it is better to have one loving parent than two dysfunctional ones

[Pointless]

Hmm... It's kinda funny, since my experience has given me a desire to get married and have a complete, because I want my kids to have the things that I never had

[sakeena]

i think theres a thread about broken families here...

anywhoo, im raised by a single parent. so what? im cool with that i'm happy, prolly happier than most kids who have a set of parents and my moms pretty happy with me. Modesty aside, I think my mom did a fairly good job. just bcoz were from a broken family doesnt mean we're gonna suck donnkey b@lls bigtime, right?

[sabine92575]

Pointless - i guess it only goes to show that coming from broken families doesn't all end up in the bad side... it could also lead to some positive outlook in life, like yours

sakeena - hi there! i know about that thread... but i really didn't intend for this thread to talk about broken familes (although i wouldn't mind reading other people's experiences about it... i could learn from it :P ), but more on the experiences of raising up a kid alone... the joys and pains of going through the journey of motherhood hmmm... just an idea :P maybe you can ask your mom to be a PExer din! hehehe!

[maxieGRL]

i was raised by a single parent. i think one of the good things i got from it is that i grew up very independent and strong willed.

when my ex and i parted ways, i was delayed and since it was really, really bad i told myself if i was pregnant he would never know. i would raise my child on my own. he i could always deny that it's his, right??

[sabine92575]

maxieGRL - sana my son will grow up as independent and strong willed as i hope he would be by the way, my son's father doesn't know anything about my son... :P

[maxieGRL]

it will all depend on how you raise your son and the circumstances in his life. my friends say, i have a telenovela-like life. i had to be independent and strong-willed to survive.

one thing i can say, my independence and will i got from my mom. she didn't teach me these things, i learned because this is what she showed us growing up. those were the things i saw. she had to, my dad left us for another woman when my mom was pregnant with me, so she raised 3 kids on her own.

buti pumayag yung parents mo not to tell the guy, i told my older sister what i had planned she got angry and threatened to tell my mom. i had to beg her not to. buti na lang i'm not pregnant

[sabine92575]

my mom didn't like it either... and she still doesn't understand why.... manganganak na nga lang ako she was still begging me to get married kahit na mag-separate kami after i give birth... DUH! sagot ko sa kanya, 'mader, ok ka lang! sinayang ko lang ang availability ko!' :P

seriously, there were other reasons why i ended up with this decision. mamamatay akong ako lang ang nakakaalam who the father is... but i don't intend to lie to my son. i'll tell him the truth when he's old enough to understand these things. i'm not angry with the father or anything... as a matter of fact, i'll make sure my son grows up NOT hating his father... i just hope he'll understand why his mom has to make drastic and stupid decisions...

[maxieGRL]

on normal circumstances, my mom would force me to marry the guy. but if i was pregnant on my last scare my mom would just want me to tell my ex. that was it. she would understand why i won't marry the loser.

i'm sure my dad would support my decision not to marry the guy either way, he would gladly take on the financial responsibility of the baby anyway; just so i won't marry the guy.

your son is lucky to have such a strong mother like you.