friends in love

[jetcruz916]

what if nainlove ka sa isang close friend... will you tell them or hahayaan nyo na lang kasi baka masira yung friendship pag d nagwork?

[LaTtE`M]

Originally posted by jetcruz916
what if nainlove ka sa isang close friend... will you tell them or hahayaan nyo na lang kasi baka masira yung friendship pag d nagwork?

i must tell you, it IS risky. Not unless *years* na kayong magkakilala and kilalang kilala niyo na ugali ng isa't isa, this is not advisable.

but if you know each other well, you'd know how she'd react, and matatantsa mo na if it's worth the risk saying.

Goodluck

[amoundici]

you should use your intuition...

no one knows the relationship between you and your bud better than you. if you think it may work out...then why not? i always say its better to take a risk than risk regretting everything... who knows, it may work out. if not, at least you tried...

but then again if you feel that your friendship will be much better left at that level, then leave it. friendships last longer than romantic relationships..

have you ever seen two old people french kissing?

well, i cant really say that thats not possible, but what im trying to point out is that even married couples lose the *magic*... but keep it together coz of the friendship...


now, if you're willing to risk that friendship that you have..then go right ahead..just make sure to keep in mind that if things fail, you may never have that same closeness again..
it could be worse..or even better.

[sweet_angel79]

I know 2 close friend of mine... and ended up as lovers...
mahirap... they broke up... then parang may gap na between them!!!
sayang nga... cute couples pa sana sila!!!

[Khell]

Oh well ... As I always say and will say again, it's better to say it and get over with it than having to live with the regret of having said nothing to her at all. Hmmmm ... U decide.

[kNIGHT]

One of the few times I have agreed with Uncle Khell. Better to have love and lost than to have never loved at all. Confess your love and start it from there...if a relationship is a success or a failure, it depends on how honest and open both parties are.

[arkienuts]

muh bestfriend is really in love w/ me for years now. but then i dont feel anything for dat person kase i value our friendshipayang **** if things wont work out d b? sya pa naman yung nagiisang bestfriend. i had many exes before pero yung bestfriend ko hindi mapapalitan. *** i let him love me nlan d way he wanted it 2b. i'll never give up d friendship. (anyway, we had intimate moments before but its confined na in the past)

[mai_doze]

Originally posted by jetcruz916
what if nainlove ka sa isang close friend... will you tell them or hahayaan nyo na lang kasi baka masira yung friendship pag d nagwork?

will i tell them? dami naman non?!

anyways....

when i'm pretty sure about my feelings..maybe i'll tell him...

if i won't tell him..mahihirapan ako....i know....

depende na sa situation un kung magiging friends parin kayo o hindi...

[jy_6tin]

IM NOW HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY COLLEGE FRIEND/CRUSH. WE WERE FROM DIFF. SCHOOL AND DIFF. SET OF FRIENDS. BUT WHEN WE MET IN OUR PRACTICUM HIS FRIENDS AND MY FRIENDS GET CLOSE UNTIL NOW. WE ARE HAPI RYT NOW. AND I TAKE CARE OF THE RELATIONSHIP SO AS HE. WE ALWAYS MAKE IT A POINT THAT WHATEVER HAPPENS LET'S NOT GIVE UP THE FRIENDSHIP. IF EVER WE HAVE A PROBLEM WE TALK... cAUSE IF UL LOOSE HIM AS UR PARTNER AT LEAST UR STIL FRIENDS. HOPE UL UNDERSTAND THIS ONE. LOL

[fred_vince]

hi jesther!
thats a same story of ours and i will tell tell u,
being friends at the start is an advantage pro relative rin siguro dun sa situation. kami kc nagsimula as cats and dogs, lagi naming pinagtatalunan lahat ng bagay and then after napagod rin kami. its along story...
natuwa kami sa isa't isa and eventually, we became friends. the relationship got deeper and deeper hanggang dumating sa point na nagkaseryosohan.
an advantage kc u need not to court her anymore. walang gastos at makikila mo *** parents nya. kc alam nya friends lang ***, hehe...

[red_patric]

... drop the whole idea!

if you think you guys are not mature enough to handle the situation, wag niyo ng ituloy dahil walang mangyayari. believe me, baka mawala lang iyung friendship ... sayang.

[BadAssGoddess]

.... i wont pero kapag na-feel ko na mutual ang feelings namen sa isat isa siguro ipapakita ko na nag-cacare ako ng too much sa kanya pero kung wala naman me makita na hint wag na lang siguro i will keep it to myself na lang kase mahirap na eh...

[raksmile]

Let your friend know about how you feel...INDIRECTLY. If your friend confronts you, ask you, then maybe he or she feels the same way...pag deadma or as if wala lang...then that might be his or her way of telling you lets just be friends.

[purple_muse]

Originally posted by jetcruz916
what if nainlove ka sa isang close friend... will you tell them or hahayaan nyo na lang kasi baka masira yung friendship pag d nagwork?

My situation is the other way around naman. He likes me.. probably even feels more, I don't. Friendship lang talaga ang pwedeng kong i-offer sa kanya, anything more that, I know I cannot reciprocate.

We've known each other for like 2-3 years na rin. I've seen signs that (I know) supposedly means that someone is crushing on you pero hindi ko na lang pinapansin. One time, my then bf would interrogate my friend about me, asking if he liked me etc. Ewan, may sapak din yung ex ko nun eh.
Anyway, right now he's dropping hints that obviously spell I L-I-K-E Y-O-U. Ako pa naman, I can be very straightforward and tactless at times. Knowing how sensitive he can get when it comes to matters like these, I know one way or another the truth will eventually hurt him. And ayaw ko masira friendship namin just because of this. But I know in some way it will change. That's why I don't do or say anything that he'll interpret as a sign of encouragement. As much as possible, I choose my words and am careful with my actions.

Thing with me is when I find out that a friend likes me (READ: a guy I don't want to be romantically involved with), mejo naiilang na ko. Either I keep my distance with hope that he'll just 'grow out of it' (minsan hindi ko na rin kinakausap kasi parang bigla na lang ako nahihiya) or just keep mum about it.

Insights please.

[troubles_214]

ako in love sa best friend ko kahit taken na siya............. sad so very sad....

[mistress315]

well it happened to me though. we've been best of friends for almost 4 years.. it started when my cousin dumped him
sa akin sya lumapit noon.. then friendship started.. we always go out.. sharing our family problems at the same time yung mga love problems namin with our crushes.. he tells me whenever he goes.. viceversa.. we keep posted on each others lives... and we have our weekend talked till wee hours in the morning.. till one day he poped up the question:"if i'll ever get jealous daw if he is talking about he's crushes, sabi ko hindi, the he replied sya daw nag seselos , sabi ko why?.. he said that he likes me.. he asked me kung k lan maging kme, sbi ko sige sabi ko one day at the time..." ... pero naging iba ... sa sobrang trust namin sa isat' isa .. he nver calls me like he used to... hindi na sya nagpupunta sa house,worst was he never tells me kung saan sya nagpupunta non.....well after 6 mos of going out .. i finally broke up with him... after 4 mos on my 18th b-day, he asked me if he can have me back... that time i have a new bf na .. sabi ko sa kanya . he should go back were we started... we became friends again ... pero hindi na ganun ka- close.. we graduated college... still we communicate .. when i was out of the country he even called me up... when i got back .. he asked me again if we can go out .. pero i told him i can offer lan was friends lan.. he was cool with it till he asked me again na naman ,pero ako na yung umiwas, after two years of going out of dates and hindiko nakita si mr right, i told myself siguro sya na, so i called him jan. of this year wala lan just to say hi lan and hoping that he will ask me again pero hindi yun ang narinig ko from him, he was inviting me na sa wedding nya, he asked me pa nga if im married "i said no" he asked me kung bakit , i never answered him back... i put down the phone na, and guess what --- i cried .. .. i've realized that i've lost my best friend that i can grow old with

[foolishgurl]

if its worth the risk.. then go.. if you really .love her that much and you think naman na you can make it work, why should you have doubts?

if you are in doubt naman, wag na lang.. just keep it to yourself kasi baka lalo lang masira ang friendship... gulo ba?

[baby_07]

I've always drawn the line between friendship and romance. There's this unwritten rule somewhere in my line of thinking that I'll never involve myself romantically with a friend.

Feeling ko kasi, yung malice na mararamdaman mo towards a guy is instant. I mean, I can truly distinguish the type of a guy whom I can be a friend to and otherwise.
But that's just me, of course.

As long as you think that she could work a relationship with you, other than friendship, then so be it. Don't be afraid of transcending beyond those boundaries. There's always something worth fighting for.

[floreno]

is there such a thing kapag ganito ang situation....


...<girl>, its been a while weve been close together... I was thinking that is there a possibility if ever we could be as "more than friends?"......

sabay sa dulo.....

... If not, well...can we be still as friends nalang?

[kelly_ganda]

you alone will know if the risk is worth taking. if in case you decide to tell your friend about how you really feel about her, tell her straight. i know she will understand. and if ever she doesn't feel the same way, she'll tell you straight din. you know each other quite well naman so i guess you'll know what she'll say.

good luck!