Career Women

[tr|n|ty]

Well, as a person, I'm very career oriented and independent so I don't think i would stop working when i get married. Possibly slow down like get a consulting position and work from my house to take care of my babies while they are young. And i don't want to be totally dependent on my husband. I want my own money that i could spend for myself and for my children. That's why i plan to get married in my late 20's to be able to develop my own career and name before getting into marriage and the family.

[*happy*phantom*]

I do believe that one of the most difficult jobs, if not the most difficult, is homemaking. Raising children with the correct values and self worth takes a lot of ones energy. For the modern career woman, however, their career-related talents are also important. In this case, many may choose to work while still trying their best to take care of their home and family life.

In my case, I am thinking of a compromise--part time teaching or consultancy work so that I still have time to take care of my family. I do believe that my husband should also contribute in the work of homemaking.

[binky]

Most people think (esp. MEN) that being a homemaker is a cinch. They think that women should be satisfied and happy to be left home while they slave away at work. On the contrary, Homemaking can be very exhausting and tedious. i do not speak based on my own experience. I'm not married and i'm not raising a family. I speak on my mom's behalf. SHe gave up her career when she gave birth to her first child to able to tend solely to the family's needs. I'm not saying she made the wrong choice, but if i were her, i wouldn't have done the same thing. WOMEN should not have to give anything up, certainly not their careers! I don't see the point in spending our time STUDYING all of our early years just to get a good job, and when you finally get there... you drop everything for true LOVE, and you get married, raise a family and throw all the good education away!
IF Women plan to become homemakers, then at an early time they should decide not to go to college and study Homemaking instead.

[lupuS]

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[gem]

I want to be both but the priority would center on the home.

[Gilbey]

the answer would depend on the background of the woman.

educational background and family background. from the answers - take note that those who said both have their own mothers as their role model. 8)

it depends on the personal view. definitely a learned / educated woman would try to make full use of her degree.

in singapore, it was noted that college level women are not interested in making a home - thus a lot of incentives for them to marry. and those who are not so educated (high school or lower) are the ones who marry earlier.

[yeee]

I would love to get married naman syempre..pero ano kakainin namin? ano ang magiging solid ground ko pag iniwan nya ako kung hindi pa ako makakapag establish ng sarili kong career bago ako patali???

[DAILO]

Originally posted by sampaguita:
I believe that it's not an impossible task but deals with your priorities in life what you hope to accomplish.

A woman can most certainly raise a family as well as biuld a career. And the success of either "occupation" rely on your priorities. If you want to raise your children according to your values and standards, then you should make every effort to be a part of their lives and not be so engrossed in business. It's all a matter of balance and knowing that family comes first. By keeping this in mind, I think that a woman can be successful in both fields.

I agree with sampaguita. When I do get married i want a lady who will be well balanced with her career and family. I want a strong , assertive lady career women who is also a caring, sincere wife... that would make me happy I intend to make her happy in return by providing assistance in our home... I would just have to find an acceptable lavendara, cook, yaya, maids, and drivers. Therefore allowing her time from her career life to spend with me and children.

I think i need to find a girlfriend first

[carlexpc]

It's high time for women to have careers of their own. It's good because it will be of great help to their families. As for me, I prefer to have a career woman for a wife or a girlfriend. In this manner, we would be able to establish a financially stable relationship especially at this time of Economic Crisis.

[m_i_c_o_y]

im a man but for me carrer women is more needed in the government, economic, etc. kung mag-iistay lang sila sa bahay, what the purpose of the education they have. sa panahon ngayon pantay pantay na!

[This message has been edited by m_i_c_o_y (edited 08-10-2000).]

[gumacanian]

Call me old fasioned but I think a womans place is at home with the kids and to cook her hard working husband a meal to die for when he gets home!!

[Calypso]

Originally posted by gumacanian:
Call me old fasioned but I think a womans place is at home with the kids and to cook her hard working husband a meal to die for when he gets home!!

Hahaay, gumacanian! It's your post that got to me again! But I won't react negatively.

It's just that... tsk tsk tsk... machismo... *shakes head*

[gumacanian]

How mature of you Calipso!!
Your learning fast!! He he!

[TNT2bluz]

It is a shame that a lot of women would want to be housewives and be "subservient" to their hubbies. At least here at home.

I can't advocate the notion of self-improvement enough to a lot of my friends who are eager to get married.

Too many of our mothers and sisters have fought for the right to achieve these "liberties" that women now take for granted.

[jigglypuff]

Sometimes I complain a lot about my work and I just want to quit knowing that my husband and I will be fine even if only one is working. But then when I think about the salary I will give up, the whining stops.

I will try to work for as long as I can. When the time comes that there's a need for me to stop, that would not be problem for me but eventually I will continue working, even on a part-time basis.

[sardonic wench]

Originally posted by nix:
Do most young women really look to make a long term career for themselves, or will a majority still want to be housewives at the age of thirty something?

of course, at the onset, a young woman WOULD DEFINITELY WANT a long term career. i would too, but i would be willing to drop it if the need arises but i wont drop it permanently because i know that it is very important to earn one's own keep.

in other words, having a career is also a way of getting ready for the future. what's a girl to do if her husband suddenly dies and she has hungry mouths to feed? she cant live off her parents' wealth, cant she?

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[Charlotte]

I believe that a wife must look after her family, that's the traditional way. I shall say that I partially agree kasi nakikita sa tahanan kung ano'ng ugali, paniniwala mayroon ang anak nila, dapat lagi silang namo-monitor.

Kaya lang sa hirap ng buhay ngayon both parents should sustain the needs of their family and If you became a career woman, it's very hard for you to know all the activities that your children have.

[xyzseaman]

I want my *future* wife to have her own career too...that's why I'm not pestering her (my gf) to settle down and have a family...gusto ko munang maka-establish siya ng solid "foothold". And then, we'll decide on where are we going from there....

[Irradiate]

I just can't imagine myself staying home most of the time (unless you give me a good book to read ) But I'm happy to say that when weekend comes, I'm a full-time home maker naman. So I guess, it's kinda possible to be both...although it is a bit difficult.