Romance at Work

***nix*** · Feb 10, 2000, 10:36 PM

Well, why not? I'm sure that for as long as the prospects for a good time are there, then by all means, you should enjoy yourself.

§ínned™ · Feb 11, 2000, 12:11 AM

Doing it right now. I'm glad she speaks good English or else I really have to polish my Spanish.

Love is all around. Love is in the grocery store. That is true when you have a good excuse why the need to go there everyday - Gilette shaving cream! She'll notice it for sure!

§inned™

Maverick · Feb 11, 2000, 10:47 PM

the aftermath? just make sure the things you say at the present cannot be used against you in the future. mahirap mag-damage control! also, try to be as eloquent as possible.

most important of all, do have a good time.

***nix*** · Feb 12, 2000, 06:41 AM

Well, for as long as he isn't your boss (pwede rin but more complicated), then it really is a very normal thing to go out with an officemate. Just make sure that it doesn't affect your office work.

Eterna · Feb 13, 2000, 01:54 PM

Peps: ive been there.
hirap nga nung aftermath...especially when it came to a point that we were both due for a promotion.i got the position and he didnt.sama ng loob niya sa akin; it took almost a year before things started to get better.at least we've done efforts to transcend the things that happend.it was a slow process though, halos i would give up na nga eh.it did affect our work...as in kung minsan ang dami absences, dami unfinished reports.that isnt the worst yet, mas grabe yung effect ng office grapevine;below the belt kung minsan ang mga usap-usapan.at least this time,medyo tanggap niya na rin na ako na supervisor niya sa office ngayon...but i had to fight tooth and nail to gain everybody's respect kse naman dahil sa sobrang inis ng guy sa akin he tried to destroy all ive worked for.

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Maverick · Feb 14, 2000, 01:31 PM

Eterna: tsk! tsk! good thing naka-recover ka.

Rydex · Feb 16, 2000, 09:45 AM

I really don't see anything wrong with that just as long as both of you know your limitations. If ever complications arise, I'm sure both of you are mature enough to handle them

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PEACE

Eterna · Feb 18, 2000, 12:22 AM

maverick: oo naman!(thank God).

rydex:'tis easier said than done. you just dont know the extent of complications unless you've experienced it yourself.people can be so cruel.

[This message has been edited by Eterna (edited 02-18-2000).]

Rydex · Feb 18, 2000, 03:23 PM

Eterna: Tell me about it.

PEACE

humane · Feb 22, 2000, 09:00 PM

ive experienced it once but turned out good. maybe its because we're close friends before we go out for a romantic date.
but dating with your boss? it might end up too bad. you have to set boundaries coz your boss might think he/she still a boss outside the office.

***KuyaDanny*** · Feb 23, 2000, 01:08 PM

I met someone at work on my first job, we started seeing each other and I ended up marrying her eight years later.

Since you'll be spending so much of your daily life at work, it's hard to compartmentalize your life and shut yourself out from possible romantic encounters. So I say, be open to the possibility.

But, as Eterna and nix have said, there are also potentially sticky situations. When you are aware that they may happen, you can at least attempt to deal with them before they happen.

You'll probably want to avoid going out with a superior or subordinate, though. It complicates things and ends up turning into a "work or relationship" decision - one which you'd rather not have to make.

Gilbey · Feb 23, 2000, 06:12 PM

avoid inter office romance at all costs

Gilbey · Feb 23, 2000, 06:14 PM

Nix, with your new work place - considering the beaties there - do you think it would be proper to have inter office romance?

Seele · Feb 25, 2000, 08:23 PM

"Never date an officemate" was my rule. The reason -- GRAPEVINE. This however does not stop me from going out and having fun with my officemates. In fact, I used to go out regularly with an officemate before. Sometimes we travel together on assignments. Now even if we're no longer officemates, we're still in touch. Nothing beats friendship!

[This message has been edited by Seele (edited 02-25-2000).]

tRiStAn · Feb 25, 2000, 11:22 PM

there's nothing wrong about that as long as it will not affect your job performance.

ChiQui · Feb 26, 2000, 04:21 AM

I guess I would. But as much as possible, I'd like to avoid such an opportunity coz I really don't like mixing business with leisure.

zimdude · May 2, 2000, 07:22 PM

another case of "heart vs head"

gem · May 7, 2000, 06:55 PM

i cannot see why not

RuckuS · May 8, 2000, 06:50 AM

avoid inter office romance at all costs

JDELEON · May 8, 2000, 05:32 PM

No. You can date your officemate, but you would have to eventually
a) kill her.
b) marry her.
c) fire her.
d) quit your job.

Seriously though, romantic love compromises your professional objectivity. (Feeling frisky tonight? Do you think tanking her proposal is a good idea?)

But the beautiful thing about our world is that unique experiences require unique responses. Sometimes it does turn out okay. But that is simply not always the case. Best of luck.

May Angels smile upon you,
Joe


Feb 10, 2000, 10:36 PM	#1
*nix* Administrator Join Date: Jul 1999 Location: Metro_Manila	Well, why not? I'm sure that for as long as the prospects for a good time are there, then by all means, you should enjoy yourself.


Feb 11, 2000, 12:11 AM	#2
§ínned™ Banned by Admin Join Date: Mar 2000 Location: san jose, costa	Doing it right now. I'm glad she speaks good English or else I really have to polish my Spanish. Love is all around. Love is in the grocery store. That is true when you have a good excuse why the need to go there everyday - Gilette shaving cream! She'll notice it for sure! §inned™


Feb 11, 2000, 10:47 PM	#3
Maverick Member Join Date: Nov 1999 Location: Metro Manila	the aftermath? just make sure the things you say at the present cannot be used against you in the future. mahirap mag-damage control! also, try to be as eloquent as possible. most important of all, do have a good time.


Feb 12, 2000, 06:41 AM	#4
*nix* Administrator Join Date: Jul 1999 Location: Metro_Manila	Well, for as long as he isn't your boss (pwede rin but more complicated), then it really is a very normal thing to go out with an officemate. Just make sure that it doesn't affect your office work.


Feb 13, 2000, 01:54 PM	#5
Eterna Chances Are Join Date: Oct 1999 Location: lost in Space	Peps: ive been there. hirap nga nung aftermath...especially when it came to a point that we were both due for a promotion.i got the position and he didnt.sama ng loob niya sa akin; it took almost a year before things started to get better.at least we've done efforts to transcend the things that happend.it was a slow process though, halos i would give up na nga eh.it did affect our work...as in kung minsan ang dami absences, dami unfinished reports.that isnt the worst yet, mas grabe yung effect ng office grapevine;below the belt kung minsan ang mga usap-usapan.at least this time,medyo tanggap niya na rin na ako na supervisor niya sa office ngayon...but i had to fight tooth and nail to gain everybody's respect kse naman dahil sa sobrang inis ng guy sa akin he tried to destroy all ive worked for. [This message has been edited by Eterna (edited 02-13-2000).]


Feb 14, 2000, 01:31 PM	#6
Maverick Member Join Date: Nov 1999 Location: Metro Manila	Eterna: tsk! tsk! good thing naka-recover ka.


Feb 16, 2000, 09:45 AM	#7
Rydex Oldies Join Date: Nov 1999 Location: Melbourne, AUS	I really don't see anything wrong with that just as long as both of you know your limitations. If ever complications arise, I'm sure both of you are mature enough to handle them . PEACE


Feb 18, 2000, 12:22 AM	#8
Eterna Chances Are Join Date: Oct 1999 Location: lost in Space	maverick: oo naman!(thank God). rydex:'tis easier said than done. you just dont know the extent of complications unless you've experienced it yourself.people can be so cruel. [This message has been edited by Eterna (edited 02-18-2000).]


Feb 18, 2000, 03:23 PM	#9
Rydex Oldies Join Date: Nov 1999 Location: Melbourne, AUS	Eterna: Tell me about it. PEACE


Feb 22, 2000, 09:00 PM	#10
humane Humane Join Date: Feb 2000 Location: Metro_Manila	ive experienced it once but turned out good. maybe its because we're close friends before we go out for a romantic date. but dating with your boss? it might end up too bad. you have to set boundaries coz your boss might think he/she still a boss outside the office.


Feb 23, 2000, 01:08 PM	#11
*KuyaDanny* Moderator Join Date: Jan 2000 Location: Makati	I met someone at work on my first job, we started seeing each other and I ended up marrying her eight years later. Since you'll be spending so much of your daily life at work, it's hard to compartmentalize your life and shut yourself out from possible romantic encounters. So I say, be open to the possibility. But, as Eterna and nix have said, there are also potentially sticky situations. When you are aware that they may happen, you can at least attempt to deal with them before they happen. You'll probably want to avoid going out with a superior or subordinate, though. It complicates things and ends up turning into a "work or relationship" decision - one which you'd rather not have to make.


Feb 23, 2000, 06:12 PM	#12
Gilbey Registered User Join Date: Feb 2000 Location: PASAY	avoid inter office romance at all costs


Feb 23, 2000, 06:14 PM	#13
Gilbey Registered User Join Date: Feb 2000 Location: PASAY	Nix, with your new work place - considering the beaties there - do you think it would be proper to have inter office romance?


Feb 25, 2000, 08:23 PM	#14
Seele Member Join Date: Feb 2000 Location: North Rhine Wes	"Never date an officemate" was my rule. The reason -- GRAPEVINE. This however does not stop me from going out and having fun with my officemates. In fact, I used to go out regularly with an officemate before. Sometimes we travel together on assignments. Now even if we're no longer officemates, we're still in touch. Nothing beats friendship! [This message has been edited by Seele (edited 02-25-2000).]


Feb 25, 2000, 11:22 PM	#15
tRiStAn Member Join Date: Feb 2000	there's nothing wrong about that as long as it will not affect your job performance.


Feb 26, 2000, 04:21 AM	#16
ChiQui Member Join Date: Jul 1999 Location: Metro_Manila	I guess I would. But as much as possible, I'd like to avoid such an opportunity coz I really don't like mixing business with leisure.


May 2, 2000, 07:22 PM	#17
zimdude indietechartist Join Date: May 2000	another case of "heart vs head"


May 7, 2000, 06:55 PM	#18
gem Member Join Date: Mar 2000 Location: manil	i cannot see why not


May 8, 2000, 06:50 AM	#19
RuckuS Member Join Date: Oct 1999 Location: San Juan	avoid inter office romance at all costs


May 8, 2000, 05:32 PM	#20
JDELEON Saint in Process Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: not_in_the_Phil	No. You can date your officemate, but you would have to eventually a) kill her. b) marry her. c) fire her. d) quit your job. Seriously though, romantic love compromises your professional objectivity. (Feeling frisky tonight? Do you think tanking her proposal is a good idea?) But the beautiful thing about our world is that unique experiences require unique responses. Sometimes it does turn out okay. But that is simply not always the case. Best of luck. May Angels smile upon you, Joe