Romance at Work

[nix]

Well, why not? I'm sure that for as long as the prospects for a good time are there, then by all means, you should enjoy yourself.

[§ínned™]

Doing it right now. I'm glad she speaks good English or else I really have to polish my Spanish.

Love is all around. Love is in the grocery store. That is true when you have a good excuse why the need to go there everyday - Gilette shaving cream! She'll notice it for sure!

§inned™

[Maverick]

the aftermath? just make sure the things you say at the present cannot be used against you in the future. mahirap mag-damage control! also, try to be as eloquent as possible.

most important of all, do have a good time.

[nix]

Well, for as long as he isn't your boss (pwede rin but more complicated), then it really is a very normal thing to go out with an officemate. Just make sure that it doesn't affect your office work.

[Eterna]

Peps: ive been there.
hirap nga nung aftermath...especially when it came to a point that we were both due for a promotion.i got the position and he didnt.sama ng loob niya sa akin; it took almost a year before things started to get better.at least we've done efforts to transcend the things that happend.it was a slow process though, halos i would give up na nga eh.it did affect our work...as in kung minsan ang dami absences, dami unfinished reports.that isnt the worst yet, mas grabe yung effect ng office grapevine;below the belt kung minsan ang mga usap-usapan.at least this time,medyo tanggap niya na rin na ako na supervisor niya sa office ngayon...but i had to fight tooth and nail to gain everybody's respect kse naman dahil sa sobrang inis ng guy sa akin he tried to destroy all ive worked for.


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[Maverick]

Eterna: tsk! tsk! good thing naka-recover ka.

[Rydex]

I really don't see anything wrong with that just as long as both of you know your limitations. If ever complications arise, I'm sure both of you are mature enough to handle them .

PEACE

[Eterna]

maverick: oo naman!(thank God).

rydex:'tis easier said than done. you just dont know the extent of complications unless you've experienced it yourself.people can be so cruel.

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[Rydex]

Eterna: Tell me about it.

PEACE

[humane]

ive experienced it once but turned out good. maybe its because we're close friends before we go out for a romantic date.
but dating with your boss? it might end up too bad. you have to set boundaries coz your boss might think he/she still a boss outside the office.

[KuyaDanny]

I met someone at work on my first job, we started seeing each other and I ended up marrying her eight years later.

Since you'll be spending so much of your daily life at work, it's hard to compartmentalize your life and shut yourself out from possible romantic encounters. So I say, be open to the possibility.

But, as Eterna and nix have said, there are also potentially sticky situations. When you are aware that they may happen, you can at least attempt to deal with them before they happen.

You'll probably want to avoid going out with a superior or subordinate, though. It complicates things and ends up turning into a "work or relationship" decision - one which you'd rather not have to make.

[Gilbey]

avoid inter office romance at all costs

[Gilbey]

Nix, with your new work place - considering the beaties there - do you think it would be proper to have inter office romance?

[Seele]

"Never date an officemate" was my rule. The reason -- GRAPEVINE. This however does not stop me from going out and having fun with my officemates. In fact, I used to go out regularly with an officemate before. Sometimes we travel together on assignments. Now even if we're no longer officemates, we're still in touch. Nothing beats friendship!

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[tRiStAn]

there's nothing wrong about that as long as it will not affect your job performance.

[ChiQui]

I guess I would. But as much as possible, I'd like to avoid such an opportunity coz I really don't like mixing business with leisure.

[zimdude]

another case of "heart vs head"

[gem]

i cannot see why not

[RuckuS]

avoid inter office romance at all costs

[JDELEON]

No. You can date your officemate, but you would have to eventually
a) kill her.
b) marry her.
c) fire her.
d) quit your job.

Seriously though, romantic love compromises your professional objectivity. (Feeling frisky tonight? Do you think tanking her proposal is a good idea?)

But the beautiful thing about our world is that unique experiences require unique responses. Sometimes it does turn out okay. But that is simply not always the case. Best of luck.

May Angels smile upon you,
Joe