The greatest betrayal

[bittercofi]

I fell in love with my brother's best friend. But the problem doesn't start there. In fact, it only just began there. I was 19 and he was only about to turn 16 when the affair happened. I'm 20 now and he's 16. I admit, I fell in love first. Bata pa lang sya, nakikita ko na sya and nacucute-an na ako sa kanya pero hanggang dun lang yun. Pero mga bandang January 2009 lang ako talaga na-fall. Despite his age kasi, he's very matured na and lagi ko na sya nakakasama sa gimik, family outing, etc.

So fast forward to December 2008 to January/Feb 2009. We had something going on between us. Una it was just a secret kasi nga best friend nya kapatid ko. He made the first move. Feb 2009, natapos na mga nangyari between us, pero since we had the same group of friends, we couldn't avoid seeing each other. We didn't part ways well--- ilang beses muna kami nag-away at nagkabatuhan ng masasakit na salita before we really decided to parang split ways dahil sa isang mabigat na pinagtalunan namin.

I admit, even after all that happened, I was still in love with him. Kahit na di kami nagpapansinan, there was still a part of me that was happy to still be with him kahit na we were in a group at di na kami nag-uusap. Minsan he would still do things for me that made me think about forgiving him pero inuunahan rin ako ng pride ko.

A few months after, he started a relationship with another girl in our group. Bestfriend naman yun ng pinsan ko. Okay lang naman sakin na makipagrelasyon sya sa iba, kaso nahurt lang rin ako kasi nashare ko sa girl na to some of the things na napagdaanan ko with him, but still she chose to be with him kahit na she knew him only for a few weeks. After some time, naging okay na naman ako with them although sometimes I still felt uncomfortable with their PDA. They would kiss torridly in public, sometimes nibble each other's ear ganun. Okay lang naman sakin kasi it was kinda normal in our group. We were that close na, Kaso one thing they did last week was the last straw for me.

It was the birthday of our friend last week and we decided to hold a suprise birthday party for him. Since most of the members of the group (except the girl and my cousin) lived near each other, we decided to hold the surprise party in the house of our friend which was 2 streets away from our house. Shempre, they had not seen each other for weeks kaya talagang sinulit nila ang party. Para ngang sila na yung may party sa grabe ng PDA nila. I tried not to be affected and enjoyed the party. Besides, andun rin naman yung guy na ka-MU ko. After a few drinks, napansin ko na wala na sila. Wala na rin yung kapatid ko at girlfriend nya (who was my best friend). I asked people at ang nasabi nila nasa labas lang raw yung 2 couples naglalandian, etc. I went back to my own business and forgot about it. I had no problem with whatever they were doing. After siguro an hour, my best friend came back and when I asked her where they were, sabi nya GALING RAW SILA SA BAHAY NAMIN. When I asked herwhat they (the two couples) did, sabi nya di nya raw alam ginawa nung dalawa pero they were left alone in the other room where they did God-knows-what pero MOST PROBABLY HAD SEX. Right then and there, I walked out. Nabastos ako eh. That was my house. I didn;t even bother to ask which room kasi 2 lang naman ang room sa baba. Room ng brother ko at room ko. So malamang sa malamang, they did it in MY ROOM. I know we didn't have a relationship anymore at wala akong karapatan na makialam sakanila at mga ginagawa nila, pero don't you think I still deserved some respect?

I just felt hurt na that happened and my so-called best friend let that happen without even thinking about how I would feel once tumapak sila, without asking permission from anyone, sa bahay namin and do their stuff whether nag-usap, nagkiss or nag-sex sila. If they wanted to talk, they could have just stayed at the party and even mingled with others. Kahit nga sa mismong may birthday nakakabastos umalis lang sila nang ganun-ganun at di nagpapaalam.

I got angry and stormed back to the house where I exploded. Sabi ko wag nilang gawing motel ang bahay ko. Sana man lang nahiya sila. I didn't care if my dad could hear me. Tumakas lang sila sa loob ng bahay and ang pakilala ng pa kapatid ko magkapatid yung dalawa. The nerve! All hell broke loose that night. Tapos na ang pagpapaubaya ko sa kanilang dalawa. It was now time for me to command respect for myself.

Do you think what I did was right? Na even if we didn't have a relationship na, I had the right na magalit sa ginawa nila? I just want to know what you people think. Kasi I haven't spoken to any of them. I don't even speak to my brother and best friend kasiI felt betrayed. I even changed numbers para di nila ako macontact para magapologize or anything. I don't need any of their excuses. I'm done with them.

[running_kat]

next time lock your room if you dont want people to use it.

if it was another couple and not your ex and the new gf, would you be mad? your bestfriend, i think is not obligated to investigate if they used your room or not, she was obviously busy. you should have made "precautionary measures" so people wont be using your room, that is your responsibility.

don't let a simple misunderstanding ruin your friendship. next time set ground rules and boundaries with your friends. i am sure they will understand because friendship goes beyond alcohol and parties.

[bittercofi]

I never intended my room to be an "open house" of sorts. First, the party was not in our house so I don't see why they had to go to our place-- my room to be exact. The party was two streets away. I did not foresee this would happen as like I said, the party was in our friend's house, not ours.

Second, if it was also another couple, I'd still be mad. My room is not a place for couples to "hang out" in. There is another place for that--- a motel. Not my room. never have I used my room for that kind of activity, much less let other people use it. So I don't understand where they got the idea they could use my room.

I still don't see the point why I shouldn't get mad at them for this "simple misunderstanding".

[keemslice]

id get mad. hell, id freak the fck out. change your sheets and disinfect everything. holy mother i would not get over it if that happens to me.
how am i going to sleep soundly on my bed knowing somebody humped the sht out of somebody in that same bed.
no friggin way.
in your case ex mo pa.
id probably go pacman on him and knock him out.
haha.
para sa akin, kahit sino pa yan, kahit hindi mo pa ex, kahit nga close friend mo pa yan, ang bastos parin na gamitin ang kwarto ko sa ganyang bagay. kahit nga pumasok lang ng walang paalam eh.

[saveitforlater]

dapat siningil mo sila... sana sinabi mo presyong kaibigan special rate per hour

[kreuk]

teka... may evidence ka ba in the first place na may nangyari nga?!

yea "valid" but u kind of went overboard (out of proportion) in my POV. eh kung he's someone u don't know... ganyan ka ba kainis?! what if he's an ex u don't care about or di mo na mahal at all?!

what im saying is may BIAS ka. nagwala ka dahil 'mahal' mo pa ex mo at hindi naman dahil ang laki laki ng kasalanan niya. kung ano man ang "sensitivities" mo is not other people's problem. i mean u also have the responsibility to be a big girl and not be so much of a drama queen that everyone has to take care of like a fragile glass.

but yea... u had valid reasons u just went overboard. goodluck though! hanap ka nalang ng ibang guy... hihihi and blv me years from now... baka instead of "magalit at magwala"... "masusuka at madidiri" ka nalang sa ex mo. ala na yun hurt at tampururut mode.

[star_paloma]

Change locks, better yet throw that bed and buy a new one.
If you still live with your parents put your own padlock on your room.

Bakit kung sinu-sino ang nakakapasok sa bahay mo?
Is this your own house?
Change lock kung you thought may key sila
sa bahay mo. Never give out your keys to anyone.
Ipapulis mo yan pag-nagtresspassing. Maglagay ka ng dalawang
aso one is a rottweiler and a doberman.

[kreuk]

bTW i forgot to mention valid reasons mo kasi basic etiquette lang yun... pero wala ka naman evidence. HEARSAY lang yun sinabi ng friend mo di naman niya nakita.

and siyempre may certain level of precaution ka around the ex. but that varies na. pero exag yung TITLE mo "GREATEST BETRAYAL". who betrayed you? your best friend?! huh?! that's not her responsibility.

ur other girl friend?! well that depends nalang. if u LOVE HER TOO... then all is fair in love and war.

ur ex?! ex mo na yun eh? no one betrayed you. but two people indeed had very bad manners regarding behaving in other people's houses.

[saveitforlater]

sayang no sana bumili ka ng cctv cams sa divisoria tapos nilagay mo sa room mo para me instant sexscandal videos ka

[prEttyNdisTress]

Originally Posted by bittercofi

A few months after, he started a relationship with another girl in our group. Bestfriend naman yun ng pinsan ko. Okay lang naman sakin na makipagrelasyon sya sa iba, kaso nahurt lang rin ako kasi nashare ko sa girl na to some of the things na napagdaanan ko with him, but still she chose to be with him kahit na she knew him only for a few weeks. After some time, naging okay na naman ako with them although sometimes I still felt uncomfortable with their PDA. They would kiss torridly in public, sometimes nibble each other's ear ganun. Okay lang naman sakin kasi it was kinda normal in our group. We were that close na, Kaso one thing they did last week was the last straw for me.

It was the birthday of our friend last week and we decided to hold a suprise birthday party for him. Since most of the members of the group (except the girl and my cousin) lived near each other, we decided to hold the surprise party in the house of our friend which was 2 streets away from our house. Shempre, they had not seen each other for weeks kaya talagang sinulit nila ang party. Para ngang sila na yung may party sa grabe ng PDA nila. I tried not to be affected and enjoyed the party. Besides, andun rin naman yung guy na ka-MU ko. After a few drinks, napansin ko na wala na sila. Wala na rin yung kapatid ko at girlfriend nya (who was my best friend). I asked people at ang nasabi nila nasa labas lang raw yung 2 couples naglalandian, etc. I went back to my own business and forgot about it. I had no problem with whatever they were doing. After siguro an hour, my best friend came back and when I asked her where they were, sabi nya GALING RAW SILA SA BAHAY NAMIN. When I asked herwhat they (the two couples) did, sabi nya di nya raw alam ginawa nung dalawa pero they were left alone in the other room where they did God-knows-what pero MOST PROBABLY HAD SEX. Right then and there, I walked out. Nabastos ako eh. That was my house. I didn;t even bother to ask which room kasi 2 lang naman ang room sa baba. Room ng brother ko at room ko. So malamang sa malamang, they did it in MY ROOM. I know we didn't have a relationship anymore at wala akong karapatan na makialam sakanila at mga ginagawa nila, pero don't you think I still deserved some respect?

I just felt hurt na that happened and my so-called best friend let that happen without even thinking about how I would feel once tumapak sila, without asking permission from anyone, sa bahay namin and do their stuff whether nag-usap, nagkiss or nag-sex sila. If they wanted to talk, they could have just stayed at the party and even mingled with others. Kahit nga sa mismong may birthday nakakabastos umalis lang sila nang ganun-ganun at di nagpapaalam.

I got angry and stormed back to the house where I exploded. Sabi ko wag nilang gawing motel ang bahay ko. Sana man lang nahiya sila. I didn't care if my dad could hear me. Tumakas lang sila sa loob ng bahay and ang pakilala ng pa kapatid ko magkapatid yung dalawa. The nerve! All hell broke loose that night. Tapos na ang pagpapaubaya ko sa kanilang dalawa. It was now time for me to command respect for myself.

Do you think what I did was right? Na even if we didn't have a relationship na, I had the right na magalit sa ginawa nila? I just want to know what you people think. Kasi I haven't spoken to any of them. I don't even speak to my brother and best friend kasiI felt betrayed. I even changed numbers para di nila ako macontact para magapologize or anything. I don't need any of their excuses. I'm done with them.

I could totally relate to your stories...

next time na magka BF yun best friend mo, agawin mo rin... para fair..diba?

[kreuk]

SEX would be a good way to get back at your friend. MEET UP and SEDUCE the guy and HAVE SEX with him. that would be A LOT OF FUN.

write a blog about it how much you enjoyed his big erected d-ick and make sure she gets to read it.

[infinite_trial]

lagyan mo ng sign room mo ng "___ pesos for 3 hours, ____ for overnight"

[...wakaranai]

tama na magalit ka sa ginawa nilang pag-alis sa party at pagpunta sa bahay mo, at sa room mo, to do "something", but as the other posters said, medyo overboard. and i believe it's because of your feelings toward this guy. kailangan i-analyze mo kung bakit ka ba talaga nagagalit: dahil ba sa nag-sex sila (kuno) sa room mo, or dahil nakipag-sex (kuno) ang ex mo, na you still care for, sa ibang babae? think about it.

[purpleheadd07]

nasaan ba ang delicadeza ng mag jowang yan?

it isn't just about him being your ex, but them being in the wrong place! ang sagwa, wala ng respeto sa may ari ng bahay. kahit tayo naman di ba, hindi ganun ka mapangahas gumawa ng milagro sa sariling bahay ng ating mga magulang (fantasy minsan though ) pero for them to imply that they did it sa room mo? bastusan naman ata yan!

ano pala reaction ng dad mo sa nangyari?

[blue_tracer]

okay lang mag landian silang dalawa sa harap ng group ninyo. karapatan nilang dalawa yun. masanay na lang kayong grupo sa ganyan. walang problema doon.

medyo foul lang kung basta na lang sila papasok sa room mo.. kahit pa wala pang nangyari or what. room mo na yun eh.

oo nga, sana charge mo sila per hour. eh yung pagpapalaba na lang ng bedsheet.

hindi ka matatahimik ng tuluyan sa pagsasama sa group ninyo.. may be, not yet. it will take some time. may feelings ka pa sa guy eh. hayaan mo muna mag normalize ang lahat bago ka ulit magsasama sa grupo ninyo.

[java_chiq]

Originally Posted by bittercofi

I fell in love with my brother's best friend. But the problem doesn't start there. In fact, it only just began there. I was 19 and he was only about to turn 16 when the affair happened. I'm 20 now and he's 16. I admit, I fell in love first. Bata pa lang sya, nakikita ko na sya and nacucute-an na ako sa kanya pero hanggang dun lang yun. Pero mga bandang January 2009 lang ako talaga na-fall. Despite his age kasi, he's very matured na and lagi ko na sya nakakasama sa gimik, family outing, etc.

So fast forward to December 2008 to January/Feb 2009. We had something going on between us. Una it was just a secret kasi nga best friend nya kapatid ko. He made the first move. Feb 2009, natapos na mga nangyari between us, pero since we had the same group of friends, we couldn't avoid seeing each other. We didn't part ways well--- ilang beses muna kami nag-away at nagkabatuhan ng masasakit na salita before we really decided to parang split ways dahil sa isang mabigat na pinagtalunan namin.

I admit, even after all that happened, I was still in love with him. Kahit na di kami nagpapansinan, there was still a part of me that was happy to still be with him kahit na we were in a group at di na kami nag-uusap. Minsan he would still do things for me that made me think about forgiving him pero inuunahan rin ako ng pride ko.

A few months after, he started a relationship with another girl in our group. Bestfriend naman yun ng pinsan ko. Okay lang naman sakin na makipagrelasyon sya sa iba, kaso nahurt lang rin ako kasi nashare ko sa girl na to some of the things na napagdaanan ko with him, but still she chose to be with him kahit na she knew him only for a few weeks. After some time, naging okay na naman ako with them although sometimes I still felt uncomfortable with their PDA. They would kiss torridly in public, sometimes nibble each other's ear ganun. Okay lang naman sakin kasi it was kinda normal in our group. We were that close na, Kaso one thing they did last week was the last straw for me.

It was the birthday of our friend last week and we decided to hold a suprise birthday party for him. Since most of the members of the group (except the girl and my cousin) lived near each other, we decided to hold the surprise party in the house of our friend which was 2 streets away from our house. Shempre, they had not seen each other for weeks kaya talagang sinulit nila ang party. Para ngang sila na yung may party sa grabe ng PDA nila. I tried not to be affected and enjoyed the party. Besides, andun rin naman yung guy na ka-MU ko. After a few drinks, napansin ko na wala na sila. Wala na rin yung kapatid ko at girlfriend nya (who was my best friend). I asked people at ang nasabi nila nasa labas lang raw yung 2 couples naglalandian, etc. I went back to my own business and forgot about it. I had no problem with whatever they were doing. After siguro an hour, my best friend came back and when I asked her where they were, sabi nya GALING RAW SILA SA BAHAY NAMIN. When I asked herwhat they (the two couples) did, sabi nya di nya raw alam ginawa nung dalawa pero they were left alone in the other room where they did God-knows-what pero MOST PROBABLY HAD SEX. Right then and there, I walked out. Nabastos ako eh. That was my house. I didn;t even bother to ask which room kasi 2 lang naman ang room sa baba. Room ng brother ko at room ko. So malamang sa malamang, they did it in MY ROOM. I know we didn't have a relationship anymore at wala akong karapatan na makialam sakanila at mga ginagawa nila, pero don't you think I still deserved some respect?

I just felt hurt na that happened and my so-called best friend let that happen without even thinking about how I would feel once tumapak sila, without asking permission from anyone, sa bahay namin and do their stuff whether nag-usap, nagkiss or nag-sex sila. If they wanted to talk, they could have just stayed at the party and even mingled with others. Kahit nga sa mismong may birthday nakakabastos umalis lang sila nang ganun-ganun at di nagpapaalam.

I got angry and stormed back to the house where I exploded. Sabi ko wag nilang gawing motel ang bahay ko. Sana man lang nahiya sila. I didn't care if my dad could hear me. Tumakas lang sila sa loob ng bahay and ang pakilala ng pa kapatid ko magkapatid yung dalawa. The nerve! All hell broke loose that night. Tapos na ang pagpapaubaya ko sa kanilang dalawa. It was now time for me to command respect for myself.

Do you think what I did was right? Na even if we didn't have a relationship na, I had the right na magalit sa ginawa nila? I just want to know what you people think. Kasi I haven't spoken to any of them. I don't even speak to my brother and best friend kasiI felt betrayed. I even changed numbers para di nila ako macontact para magapologize or anything. I don't need any of their excuses. I'm done with them.

Betrayal is the breaking or violation of a presumptive social contract, trust, or confidence-wiki definition.

you broke up with him. So technically there is no you and him. Technically he can pursue any girl. Your friend is also single, so she can have any guy.

There is no betrayal here.

Just lack of delikadeza...

May I ask a question. If the people involved was not your ex , for example just one of your barkada who sneaked into your room for whatever reason, would you still feel offended?

Or are you just ranting because of your so called betrayal.

Think it over.

[Nils]

@TS

tama lang reaction mo... it was your room and he was your ex... whether you have feelings or not, bastusan ang nangyari. they could have used your brother's room or a room in the house where the party was going on. of all the rooms that they used, they used THE EX'S room. I doubt that fact didn't add a notch in their excitement whether they did the deed or not. Doing something naughty in THE EX'S room is one hell of a boost, much more than naughty teenagers doing it in THE PARENT'S bedroom.

As for the betrayal part, that is vague. You can say that since magtro-tropa kayo, there is an unwritten agreement na mag-respetuhan kayo. More so between you and your ex. May pinagsamahan, may secrets kayo na sa inyo lang and all that. Them doing the deed in your room broke that unwritten agreement between friends.

I don't usually attribute 'deviousness' on people i haven't met. But it seems like what your ex and his gf are doing, sweetness, PDA to the max might be the effect of the current gf's insecurities. She might be the one who is 'performing' at that level so as to mark her territory. Making your ex do her in your bed might just be one of the acts of proving that he is hers... That's just a thought, I don't know enough of her or your ex to say how right I am about their actions...

[java_chiq]

ah yeah...
the un-written girl code.

[bittercofi]

I'm mad kasi i felt disrespected. Why did they have to go to my room in the first place? They tagged along with my brother kahit alam nilang bawal pumunta sa house namin that time. Wala namang nagawa yung kapatid ko. I'm not mad because it was my ex. I'm mad because I felt disrespected. Our house is not a place where random people have sex in. Much more people who don't actually live there.

And yes, I've confirmed they had sex. So there.

[prEttyNdisTress]

Originally Posted by bittercofi

I'm mad kasi i felt disrespected. Why did they have to go to my room in the first place? They tagged along with my brother kahit alam nilang bawal pumunta sa house namin that time. Wala namang nagawa yung kapatid ko. I'm not mad because it was my ex. I'm mad because I felt disrespected. Our house is not a place where random people have sex in. Much more people who don't actually live there.

And yes, I've confirmed they had sex. So there.

Actually..you're more angry because best friend mo yun...

Aminin!!