pinoys abroad: do u prefer pinoys as a mate over foreigners?

[jack]

just wondering?

[DaZeD in HK]

statistics-wise, to totally discount somebody just because they're not filipino would greatly limit your choices, wouldn't it? :)

there are a lot of factors that go into a successful relationship, and adding the culture difference to the mix will definitely create a greater avenue for possible misunderstanding. however, (and that's a big however :) ), i don't think that this fact should discourage somebody from pursuing something with a non-kababayan. at the very least, the difference in culture makes for some very interesting conversations :)

i used to think that i could never settle down with somebody who's not filipino. i think i know better, now that i've been more exposed to the world. i still have my preferences, and some criteria perhaps, when choosing somebody i want to be with, but race or nationality isn't one of them anymore.

[Jess RR]

even tho' my lovely wife is a filipina, race was never a category for preference...pero mas maraming pinay ang nakikipag-partner sa mga dayuhan kesa mga pinoy...

Originally posted by jack
just wondering?

[candyrain]

i know a lot of flips abroad who do want to get married to filipinos. i think this is because it's easier to get along with somebody you share not only the same culture with, but most importantly, who value the same things that you do. i know a couple of filipinos in canada who would only marry filipinas because they long for the "dalagang pilipina" factor still and that is hard to come by where they live at.

i myself, if given the chance to live abroad, would prefer a filipino husband, the biggest factor being culture. i love the pinoy culture. wouldnt wann trade it for anythin else.. :D

[:Þ]

Personally, I'd prefer a Filipina anytime. I dunno, maybe because I'm used to it? well..

[DaZeD in HK]

jess: i guess the point u mentioned, is because of more obvious reasons - upgrading their living conditions (not all, of course, but i think i can safely say, the majority)

candyrain: if what you mean by 'dalagang pilipina factor' is marrying virgins, even in the philippines, that's a little hard to come by... and besides, i know it's personal preference, but i think that's a double standard we've carried for too long... but that i guess is another thread :)

caligirl: hints of desolation... :) don't give up on guys dear... madaming guwapo who are really decent people... bakla nga lang :lol:

seriously, i don't have to say that it's largely due to upbringing and immediate environment that the 'ghetto-pinoys' u've met are like that, and that guys in manila can be more decent, in general (biased opinion - i grew up there :) )... pero kahit na, i'm sure there are some in your area - pinoy or otherwise...

:Þ - y not expand ur horizon? :)

[Expat-n-Amerika]

:) My present mate is from Puerto Rico and she it took me 3 months of heavy courting to get her so at this present time I'm savoring my conquest, but really I don't have any racial preference ....One thing that is a must for me in a lasting relationship is that the girl is nice, educated, down to earth, sensitive to my needs and has pink nipples....

[jack]

expat: what a fetish....;) u mean any race as long as its pink!

dazed: i agree inmost of ur points

Cali: well, balasahin mo nang mabuto baka meron pang matitino

candy: whats pinoy culture ba? it seems to me that we are becoming western by the day.

For me i really think that one must try in order to know that it would really work out or not. Who knows you're soulmate might be a 7-ft nigerian....hehehe. Given the choice, it would really like to try other races. There might be cross-cultural similarities. Picking a pinoy/pinay is a safe choice. A safe choice that you might regret later.

[newbiew27]

Personally, I prefer Filipinos. My friends are telling me nga that I am discriminating pero what can I do eh yon ang gusto ko. Besides, I think as far as adjustment mas madali na lang since you share the same culture and traditions.

The advantage nga lang if I marry a foreigner, most likely cute ang mga anak ko :lol:.

[mzdreamzzz]

:love: Personally, i prefer to be with a Filipino guy because I will feel more comfortable and we have more to share with each other (and future kids - if so happen). I also find it really cool when you meet a Filipino guy and you start reminiscing of 'when I was in the Philippines..." and stuff. and oh yeah, my mom doesn't speak English so... :bleh:

[Cali4Nia]

When all is said and done...LOVE REALLY SEES NO COLOR:love:

My mate need only have lots of respect and love for his own family and GOD, have the same value system, goals and priorities in life that I do for me to want to be with him.

[f0r5aK3n]

no preference either in race... although to be honest, I would like her to be of the same religion... Long term, the difference in religion can be a HUGE issue

[sampaguita]

hmmm... for the longest time i had limited myself to just filipino guys, even though i've gone out with other races. but i realized that doing that certainly limited me to a whole world of beautiful, intelligent, and captivating people. why did i want to do that? race shouldn't be an issue, though culture, i think, is an extremely important issue to consider. but there are ways to work with the differences, even with race. i'm married now, to a non-filipino. and i don't see how i can love him more if he was filipino. i love him for who he is. i would've limited myself to an amazing person if i did not have him in my life. :)

[kalikarter]

Yes,of course,actually i married a filipina born and raised
in san francisco!

[witty_gal]

I don't have any preferences...as long as we're compatible in some important aspects, we respect and love each other...I think that's what really count!

[Ka|sKee]

i dont care kung puti sya or whatever ehehe basta marunong mag tagalog (or at leastunderstands it), tsaka lumaking 'pilipino' gets nyo? pero talaga gigil ako sa mga FILCHIs...haaaay pero yoko na sinusumpa ko na mga lalake!

[UltraLyt]

PINOY PA RIN!!:yum: but seriously though..mas may dating ang mga pinay sa foreigners..i've met so many people who said they've been to pinas--to look for a wife!haha..mga loko.me nga,puro latino lumalapit sakin..the pinoys out here seem to go for the typical AmGirl type..thin,penciled/tattoed eyebrows,long,highlighted hair and all that..so FINE..latino nalang ang hadahin!

but if we're talking about getting MARRIED..pinoy pa rin talaga.:)

[stnickmt]

I got married to my American husband 6 years ago and loving it. I will never, ever trade him for anybody or anything 'cause he's perfect. I'm not saying I did not prefer Filipino guys but he's the one I fell in love with......

We now have 2 children and hoping for some more...

[ZaZeL]

would it really matter? i don't think so!

[twinkidoe]

honestly..... i want a filipino guy...for a long term relationship ah..tipong marriage..pero habang di pa naman ako ready for that eh why limit my options di ba;)
i think american men are more horny and EXCITING than filipino men..hahaha no offense! la lang kasi parang part na talaga ng culture here eh. kung mate.....ummm why not try both?

[engalog]

Well, actually I'm in the Phil, but most of my life was spent "abroad." I haven't been here that long, but I find the guys here too shy and too dependent. I like the gay guys though, sayang I'm not gay.

As far as relationships goes, I don't particularly prefer one over the other. I mean, I don't choose who I fall for, it kind of just happens, you know?

[hello_kitty]

was born and raised in the manila, but i've been in the states for many years. i prefer to marry a pinoy. haay, pero i was in this phase na i was soo attracted to caucasian men...i almost dated one, kayalang, i dunno, i still feel comfortable with pinoys. so far i have dated only pinoys. my friends at work know that i only date pinoy and they tease me, they wonder why i only go for pinoys...why not?

[11# UST_guard'98]

my boyfriend is Polish........I LOVE HIM unconditionally and he loves me unconditionally too..

marami kaming pinag kaiba kesa pinag kapareho but we do love each other so much that we gonna do our best na hindi mabuwag relationship namin......his parents love me to death...
maraming pinag kapareho ang poland and philippines....... that we both discover...

Mag on-one yr na kamis sa 5th of Feb

honey I love you

[UgLyGURL77]

Iwan ko lang, correct me if i'm wrong. I'm not trying to stereotype all the pinoys na nasa abroad, it's just mostly naiiba ang ugali, the way they act specially sa .. you know, guys na nasa pinas are mostly malambing and they still have this "galang" ba, and the way they respect women, is really different na. If I would marry "pinoy", it would be someone na nasa Pinas lumake, but since andito na ako sa labas ng bansa, sorry, but I'd seen enough kagaguhan, mas mabuti pa makipag sama ng ibang rase, atleast there's a reson why iba ang ugali nila, kesa makipag sama sa isang pinoy na TOTALLY different na. But alam nyo.. iisa lang talaga ang hinde mababago jan sa kanila ma lalake man from iabng bansa or pinas.. Ang BEER! geezuuss! :mad:

[GiftOfAcabar]

Originally posted by sampaguita
hmmm... for the longest time i had limited myself to just filipino guys, even though i've gone out with other races. but i realized that doing that certainly limited me to a whole world of beautiful, intelligent, and captivating people. why did i want to do that? race shouldn't be an issue, though culture, i think, is an extremely important issue to consider. but there are ways to work with the differences, even with race. i'm married now, to a non-filipino. and i don't see how i can love him more if he was filipino. i love him for who he is. i would've limited myself to an amazing person if i did not have him in my life. :)

sampaguita: you'll never knew it but somehow you've given me some air to breathe.

I'll be leaving for US, hopefully in a month or two. And my greatest fear is will I ever find that someone there, who is responsible, God fearing and one woman man there. I must confess, I'd wanted him to be Filipino.

[NOKiE]

I married her for lots a' reasons, and her being Filipino is not one of them...

[¤ HoLYcRaP ¤]

Bakit naman "mate" ang ginamit na term? Nagtunog Noah's Ark tuloy yung mga Pinoy? hee-hee... kidding. :) Don't mind me, just passing by. :)

[landiday]

I haven't seen any filipino guys or shall I say any guys that I find attractive for a long time. The last one if I remember was a High School b.f. a distant memory. Magpapakatandang dalaga na lang ako.waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

[hello_kitty]

hi landiday...you're not alone...

[kikay02]

from MY point of view, i prefer marrying a pinoy na born in the pinas.. i know that i will feel very comfortable with them and having the same background will make it easier for me to relate to... i've seen a lot of filam here in kali and i must say that i'm not pleased with what i see in them... they're totally different from the pinoy that were born and grew up in the pinas... but if it's just for dating, i don't care what race or nationality the guy is... i'm open for a relationship with other race than pinoy... i'm not trying to be racist or anything, it's the way i feel...

[terry ilaes]

a friend asked me to define a perfect girl.
first lemme get it over with with the shallow one, cute, slim, less than 5'7"
- able to give me some kind of challenge
- able to broaden my horizons to beyond
-thirdly, she has to be filipina.

don't get me wrong! i wouldn't mind a serious relationship with other ethnicities. statistically, i'd would probably meet a pseudo perfect girl ie. non pipnay perfect girl. well, so far i've only had one relationship with a pinay.

i asked myself this question hundred of times: why does she have to be filipina?

I think it has to do with how i can fully relate with the person. she most probably doesn't share the exact same values but heritage is a good foundation.

anthropoligically speaking, I can't help myself but choose the maria clara profile. think about it. every choice i make is based upon either instinct or learned knowledge. i am a filipino and was raised as one and by two loving pinoy parents. i may have been raised here but im still filipino right. choosing by preference sounds a bit too discrimanating but how else are we suppose to decide. either way, preferences are never that concrete.

i guess that sums it all up.

[Ebisu24]

As a matter of preference, I'd go over a foreigner. I've been through some relationships, And honestly I prefer foreigners, specially Japanese. I currently have a Japanese girlfriend, and we've been together for about 3 years now. Things are like heaven for both of us. I must say pinoys and japanese are meant for each other. Pinoys are malambing, and Japanese are caring. That's about it. :)

[p0werpuffgirl]

I have nothing against other races/nationalities pero ibang klase pa rin maglambing ang pinoy! :) but hey, who knows?

[Ebisu24]

How Right you Are.. Pinoys are truly malambing!

[p0werpuffgirl]

Originally posted by Ebisu24
How Right you Are.. Pinoys are truly malambing!

Gals go gaga over that and it makes them go :*):*):*)

[terry ilaes]

Originally posted by p0werpuffgirl
Originally posted by Ebisu24
How Right you Are.. Pinoys are truly malambing!

Gals go gaga over that and it makes them go :*):*):*)

yup,

that's what my Girl-bestfriend says too. malamibing kaming lahat pero usually yung mga malalambing ang nasasaktan. too sweet for their own good.

[p0werpuffgirl]

Originally posted by terry ilaes
Originally posted by p0werpuffgirl
Originally posted by Ebisu24
How Right you Are.. Pinoys are truly malambing!

Gals go gaga over that and it makes them go :*):*):*)

yup,

that's what my Girl-bestfriend says too. malamibing kaming lahat pero usually yung mga malalambing ang nasasaktan. too sweet for their own good.

don't worry, i won't hurt ya. teehee ;)

[terry ilaes]

hey powapwuff, did you get my mail. i think my server getting out of whack.

[SIMPLENG BABAE]

syempre mas masarap mag mahal ang pinoy eh.. hehehe.. depende.. di bah? kc iba eh.. pampasikat lang yun.. foreigners eh.. :)

[p0werpuffgirl]

Originally posted by terry ilaes
hey powapwuff, did you get my mail. i think my server getting out of whack.

nah, I didn't get it yet. :|

[terry ilaes]

yup,

my server's messed up. anyways go to small talk and we'll talk. im sorry i don't have icq. my mail's going beserk.
talk to you in small talk. go to second cup. mysecond fav coffee place.

[Ivory11]

Filipino or not won't matter much to me as long as love and respect is there. I'm sure each individual possess their own lovable qualities. I live in a multi-racial country and learned that there are good and bad human beings outside my race as there are in my own. Again, if love and respect is present, why not. Having cultural differences can be treated the same as accepting each other's imperfections. Afterall, that's what love is about.

[Gangreen]

I personally prefer foreigners (specifically, Caucasians). Based on experience, I'm more attracted to them, physically that is, and they're easier to deal with than Filipinos who are generally (not all) full of hang-ups. I find foreigners easier to relate with than Filipinos who are more complicated by nature (again, not all).

[DaZeD in HK]

As a matter of preference, I'd go over a foreigner. I've been through some relationships, And honestly I prefer
foreigners, specially Japanese. I currently have a Japanese girlfriend, and we've been together for about 3 years
now. Things are like heaven for both of us. I must say pinoys and japanese are meant for each other. Pinoys are
malambing, and Japanese are caring. That's about it.

we have something in common :) though we've only been together half a year, i think it's as good a match as you'll ever get. though i can't say that the fact that she was japanese was what attracted me to her.

i guess for some people it's still an issue of nationality or ethnical background, but i think most of these preferences are largely based on previous personal experiences. while i'm not saying this is a fault, i'd rather go out with somebody who was attracted to my personality first rather than my skin color.

ebisu: are u in japan? i dunno about u, but i always thought japanese girls were inherently 'maasikaso' all of the time. not that i'm complaining, i mean, it's just fair, but why do i find myself washing dishes most of the time? :D

[Lucca Yamazaki]

Hey, if we want to rule this planet, we might as well breed ourselves with the other guys take all the good traits, discard the bad ones and influence the kids. Hehehe.

But then again, it kinda sounds too evil (Borg or Zerg, or whatever alien race you could remember) to be true. Oh well, just forget about it.