what's wrong with...

[twinxi]

being a shopaholic? :hmm:

[[G]erald™]

for me, nothing's wrong with it, as long as you have the means. And should came from your own labor.

[clawed_out]

something's wrong if you're using your parent's money.

[Vanda Ms Jo A Q]

aiya, there's nothing wrong if the $ came from one's parents. once the money is given to you, it becomes yours already, right? one can't dictate how other people use their money. whether they keep it or give it to their kids is their decision and theirs alone. but one shouldn't show off to much, especially if you live in the 3rd world. have a conscience naman. conspicuous consumption is so O-U-T! if you live in manila, you're just unwittingly orchestrating your own kidnapping.

[Cyberspacebabe]

i personally only learned the value of money when i began working. now i understand why my parents always taught me to "Live within my means" :) yep, i'm still a shopaholic, but i appreciate the labor that goes behind every peso (and this is coming from someone who works for a lifestyle magazine)

as long as you're not driving your parents to the poorhouse or borrowing from your friends and relatives to support your wants ("utang ng utang"), then go ahead... pera mo yan. just don't end up drowning in debt.

seriously, moderation is the key... nakakahiya naman if you're what, already beyond school age tapos humihingi ka pa rin sa magulang mo, tsk tsk.

[twinxi]

i'm still in school.. so i hope saving up my weekly allowance (and all sorts of money given to me) counts.. hey, i did save! i'm not the type who keeps asking money from my rents unless i did something good and i so deserve something in return..

i had no problems with this attitude until i learned that it's something other people don't like about me.. i'm like so what's wrong? it's not like i'm spending their money.. and now i feel like i have to give up something i really really love just to "please" these people.

[clawed_out]

aiya, there's nothing wrong if the $ came from one's parents. once the money is given to you, it becomes yours already, right? one can't dictate how other people use their money. whether they keep it or give it to their kids is their decision and theirs alone. but one shouldn't show off to much, especially if you live in the 3rd world. have a conscience naman. conspicuous consumption is so O-U-T! if you live in manila, you're just unwittingly orchestrating your own kidnapping.

Yes, no one should dictate with what to do with money. But common sense would tell us that if you are not well off then why would you spend it on luxury rather than necessity.

Then again, how common is common sense today?

Being "shopaholic" is relative to your wealth (or allowance) & doesn't necessarily mean that you'll be an eyecandy for kidnappers.

twinxi: then why would you care about what other people think/ say of you? let them be, their loss not yours. as long as your happy.

[babygurl_archer]

girl, there's nothing wrong with it.

just learn when to stop when you dont have the money to shop.

a true shopaholic is a person who still buy things even though they are broke/in debt. who cannot resist the urge eventhough his/her pocket is already empty.

[superstite]

When you always brag about your shopping, that's wrong.

[outmap]

i'm still in school.. so i hope saving up my weekly allowance (and all sorts of money given to me) counts.. hey, i did save! i'm not the type who keeps asking money from my rents unless i did something good and i so deserve something in return..It depends... How rich are your parents?

i had no problems with this attitude until i learned that it's something other people don't like about me.. i'm like so what's wrong? it's not like i'm spending their money.. and now i feel like i have to give up something i really really love just to "please" these people.Maybe they are just concerned about how you handle and value what you have.
Kasi it's easier for someone to let you spend on what you "want" because it's not their money anyway, but it's more difficult to tell you that "teka lang, di mo naman kailangan yan, why not save it for something you really need", eventhough alam nila na magagalit ka.
Now, who would you rather be with? *okay*

[Cyberspacebabe]

my personal opinion... even if I do work in the fashion industry, I still get peeved when all a person EVER talks about is what new item she bought, where the new stores are, trends this, trends that... *** tipong wala ng mapagusapan na iba kundi anong suot nya, *** bago nyang bili (at magkano), saan sya nagpaayos, blah-blah-blah... iniisip ko na lang... GET A LIFE!!!

sa akin lang, do what you're HAPPY about, as long as it is NOT at anybody's expense, including your own. :)

[twinxi]

a true shopaholic is a person who still buy things even though they are broke/in debt. who cannot resist the urge eventhough his/her pocket is already empty.

okay, so that makes me a semi-shopaholic then. :bop:

[ayane]

as everyone else here said, there's nothing wrong with it... as long as it's your money.

i had no problems with this attitude until i learned that it's something other people don't like about me.. i'm like so what's wrong? it's not like i'm spending their money.. and now i feel like i have to give up something i really really love just to "please" these people.

but i've also encountered people like that. and i really don't get them. why would they be so bothered if a person spent thousands on a shoe or a bag if the person is spending his/her own money? inggit? i just ignore those people. i won't waste a minute trying to please them! :rolleyes:

though of course, i always want to kill those people who bought a new phone/tv/dvd/ipod from his/her paycheck and ends up borrowing/asking for money to buy milk and other necessities for the kids. :grrr:

[Cyberspacebabe]

^ yeah... that's what i meant. it pisses me off when people go buy all sorts of new stuff they don't really need tapos hihingi sa magulang or uutang sa mga kaibigan/kamag-anak or "starve" themselves.

and also those who are show-offs. gawd, even if they have the money, it's just so tacky. it's not that i'm inggit or what, pero i think it's in bad taste.

[twinxi]

Maybe they are just concerned about how you handle and value what you have.
Kasi it's easier for someone to let you spend on what you "want" because it's not their money anyway, but it's more difficult to tell you that "teka lang, di mo naman kailangan yan, why not save it for something you really need", eventhough alam nila na magagalit ka.
Now, who would you rather be with? *okay*

I hope that's the reason.. anyway, I'll take that into consideration. *okay*

[twinxi]

my personal opinion... even if I do work in the fashion industry, I still get peeved when all a person EVER talks about is what new item she bought, where the new stores are, trends this, trends that... *** tipong wala ng mapagusapan na iba kundi anong suot nya, *** bago nyang bili (at magkano), saan sya nagpaayos, blah-blah-blah... iniisip ko na lang... GET A LIFE!!!

..uh-oh. guilty as charged... but only on some accounts. although i won't talk about it unless asked. someone would come up to me and ask 'san mo nabili yan?' then i'd give them the name of the store and they'd think it's bragging and i'm like.. 'eh ba't ka pa nagtanong?' ..argh. people...

i feel so bad right now :mecry:

[Cyberspacebabe]

twinxi: awww, don't feel so bad... what i said above isn't even applicable to you... because THEY were the ones who asked you about your purchases. it's not like YOU were the one who went to them and went, "O, tingnan mo *** bago kong bili, blah-blah" when they weren't even asking. That's the situation I think is tacky. But in your case, it's not YOUR problem; it's theirs.

isip ko lang... maybe they're subtly bullying kaya...?! iwasan mo ang mga taong yan. they're so pre-judgmental na sa tingin ko kahit ano pang gawin o sabihin mo, you're wrong in their eyes. sis, you're better off without them. go ahead and have your own fun. you don't need their warped opinion to validate yourself. :)

[webcrash]

nothings wrong with using your parent's money if they can support you.
whats wrong if youre not doing anything in return and complusively and impulsively buying!

[babygurl_archer]

okay, so that makes me a semi-shopaholic then. :bop:

haha semi shopaholic din ako. lol.

have you read the confessions of a shopaholic? i think that's what i call SHOPAHOLIC. lol.

[Chase_Meridian]

I say do anything you want without regrets. Everything's your choice. Just be responsible for the consequences. If you'd rather spend your entire salary and savings on luxury than say, insurance then be ready to die penniless.

[baileylab]

i used to be a shopaholic. buying clothes off racks then coming home saying, why did i buy this? then i'd go out again searching for the perfect pants, or perfect top, or perfect whatever - which doesnt exist. Once i even bought 4 lipsticks in a month looking for the "perfect" shade - that's thousands spent on lipstick!

now i sit home and not feel guilty. and i have more time to do stuff around the house now like clean up rather than spend hours at the mall.

of course i still shop - but not to the extent of going to the mall just because i want something.

siguro dati, kulang lang ako sa planning, kaya nothing matches. hehehe.

so for me, my shopping phase has passed.

happy shopping to all of you!

[babygurl_archer]

i agree. it's all just a phase.

when im sad, i would go to mall during lunch hour to buy something and cheer me up.

but it's all over now. ;)

[Edge-iot]

Wow ... been on this stage ... enjoyed it but!

I used to be the biggest shopaholic ever ... I love my clothes, my blings, my style, my gadgets ... (namana ko sa auntie and my uncle .. lol) early age pa lang ... my signs na!

I wouldn't say I was spoiled but, my rents and tives has always been galante sa akin. Aside from the allowances I was getting ... I also have my own money ... back in the days I was a child model ... so I was also earning my own income. But, you know back when we're kids ... we didn't really know the value of dosh.

Most of my papers goes to foods, clothes, and just lil cute toys. But thats when I was a lil kid.

Then High school days ... I was one of the trend setters, always the first one to get the new stuff. I wouldn't say that being a shopaholic is a habbit or bad habbit. It's more like a hobbie a passion. But now for me its a theraphy ... I'm always at UNI ... and working whenever I have free-time, and busy as we're about to open our own fashion label and shop. It can be really frustrating ... so the best way to release all the frustration === retail theraphy!

And I agree ... no one should tell you .. how you should spend your money ... if it's given to you .. then it's yours! ... You have all the right to do whatever you want with it! ... If you workhard for it ... then much better ... spend it as you like ... spoil yourself! ... You deserve it!

By the way .. im a GUY! ... hehe

[scroll]

hay. been there, done that. and it was really BAD!! and im not proud that i was such a shopaholic.

when i started working, i became so obsessed with clothes, shoes, bags, etc. anything that money can buy, binibili ko, even if i didnt need it.

and i used to justify my luho by telling myself 'dont feel bad. you earned this. you deserve this. blah blah'

i was comforting myself na it was my money so i can spend it anyway i wanted to. BUT thing is, i used my cards (4 to be exact - all limits maximized!). and when i couldnt pay off the balance anymore, it was my mom who settled everything (and im not exaggerating. total amount she paid could very well be the downpayment for a new SUV)

and it really felt bad. sobra hiya ko sa mom ko. my parents were shocked out of their wits when they saw my statements of account. they asked me 'how could you have possibly accumulated this much balance on your cards? ano binibili mo?' and know what? i didnt know what to tell them as well. i was even questioning myself nga rin 'oo nga, what the hell did you buy for your balance to reach such amount?'

but at least, i got over it while im still young. so now, ive a clean slate. im working for my mom now and she isnt paying me anything (just an allowance) - well deserved, i supposed. haha. cant really blame her if she's milking me for all my worth- after the amount she settled? sheesh. i could be very well her slave until i die. hahaha.

but really, to young people out there, stop shopping excessively. control. moment's pleasure lang yan. and if you really cant stop yourself from buying too much, piece of advise:dont go to the mall!!! serious!