Paying For DATES?

[GUCCI]

Maybe im just old fashioned, But i think the guy should always pay. though sometimes its OK if the girl offers to leave the tip or pay for parking or something SMALL like that.
And I think thats what we call FAIR.

[PRADA]

I think guys SHOULD always pick up the check.. for ME real MEN takes care of Women.

[This message has been edited by PRADA (edited 10-18-1999).]

[CaRaMBa]

If it's a date, I think the guy should be the one to pay. But if you're together already, I think that you should share - sometimes the guy pays, sometimes the girl pays, sometimes KKB. JMHO.

[Bonquita]

that's true but if da girl was da one who asked for da date, den i think dat dey should pay half each.

[Ira]

Actually, depends on who asks for the date. Personally, I'd like to pay my way if I was asked out-- maybe not the whole date, but maybe dessert and coffee or what. That way, the girl doesn't feel she's indebted to the guy, and the guy doesn't feel he's stiffed.

[CaRaMBa]

Bonquita: I didn't think about that. =)
Yeah, if it was the girl who asked for the date then I guess that would be okay.

d=O)

[JOE!]

Kaya namumulubi na kaming mga lalaki. Haaaay!

[BoNiTa]

joe: :) that was cute....
well as for my personal opinion if both of u r goin steady, specially when both are students, i guess it would be very considerate if u share ur bills, that is if the guy would let you cuz there are guys who wouldn't let girls pay. swerte mo non di ba! ;)

[JPB]

well, i personally stick to this rule:
while courting, i pay. but when we're together, i still pay (most of the time).

sometimes it is her treat. sometimes dutch. but let us be realistic. unless your last name is Ayala, Soriano, or Cojuangco, you cannot realistically pay ALL the time (i'm talking about normal middle-class ppl. like me). i mean, i've been working in makati for 2 years na and money is hard to come by. so if the girl is REALLY UNDERSTANDING, she would understand that there are times when the guys cannot pay. balance lang. but of course, filipinos are ma-pride. so guys will end up paying most of everything anyway.

[AngryBird]

There shoudln't be some sort of "protocol" on who SHOULD pay. Kung sino ang may pera, at yung isa wala, siya magbayad! It doesn't matter if the guy is still courting the girl or if they're already going steady.

Best solution: share the bill. Not paying for everything doesn't make any male "less man".

[tr|n|ty]

in my humble opinion, guys should pay when they're just starting out. I may not be the most conservative person around, but i still like the feeling that i'm being treated like a lady. It's different na when ur officially together....kawawa naman the guy if he pays all the time lalo na you know that money is hard to come by or his folks doesn't give him a lot...i offer nah...nice ko noh? hehehe :) anyways, i think it's more of the moment thing..or make like this time it's my treat..next time it's yours. simple :D

[ChiQui]

It makes a girl feel really special if the guy pays for the date. However, I also think that once in a while they either fo dutch or the guy should let the girl pay. Especially, if she was the one who asked the guy out. It's only fair, don't you think? Times are hard now and girls should also be able to understand the guys and let them save money for themselves din... for those trinkets for the car or whatever guys like buying for themselves... that way, we can also make them feel special. :)

[wAgKaNgMaKuLiT]

whoever ask should pay the tab, that'ld be fair. don't u think???

[KATKAT]

I believe whoever is capable of paying should pay for the bill. I mean whoever has money. Or better yet kung sino ang nagyaya. :)

[greeneagle]

peps, labas tayo ! first date naten, magmovie tayo tapos, magsecond date na agad tayo sa restaurant. i wont take it as an affront if u offer to pay :).

[ann]

what's this? greeneagle & PePs taking over the PEx love team of the year throne? ;)

[Zen]

Naka PePs, 1st date thousand bucks ang ipapabayad mo sa ka-date mo tapos Mang Jimmy's ibabayad mo? Parang... uhm... lol :P

[Zen]

LOL :P

[ross]

where's mang jimmy's? and how do you become a member and not a junior member.
anyway i believe men pay all the time. of course there are exceptions. (i'm talking about when the couple are a couple already and no longer suitor and girl) for me it's either i pay or we stay in her house or just talk while strolling or...ummm...sipping sprite while walking :)

[Ira]

You become a member when you begin getting addicted with Pinoy Exchange and you start posting like there's no tomorrow.

[KATKAT]

Ira: hahahaha....tama ka dyan! ;)

ross: Mang Jimmy's is in Balara, nr UPdiliman. Sarap dun sobra! Mura pa! :)

[dikay57]

i think it's only fair that whoever asked for the date should pay ;)

[Zen]

Alam na alam ni Ira... :)

[MO]

guys should offer to pay all the time.
but if the girls offerr to shoulder the bill, guys, say yes, para may next time pa!

[maxwell]

I think guys should pay for everything, specially if he asked the girl out. There's nothing better that making the girl feel special. Even if the girl asked the guy out, the guy should be gentleman enough to pay for the bill.

hmmm..when is a date a date?

[Ira]

maxwell: Strictly, when the one who asks is interested in you romantically, AND says, "Can I ask you out on a date (or dinner, or a concert, or what-have-you)?". Just because someone of the opposite sex asks you out for dinner or a movie doesn't mean it's a date. Assuming na sobra yun.

[maxwell]

Ira: Well, personally I don't assume. It's hard to think so then get disappointed. But then again, how the heck are the guys supposed to know if a girl is interested in him romantically?...tough luck eh guys?

[Ira]

maxwell: But then, that's the point of courting a girl, di ba? :)

[LadyMarmalade]

hey it's the same for us girls, we don't really know too when a guy is interested in us romantically...i mean without us getting to the courting stage yet ok...co'z some guys are so scared about being put down by the girls that they like. what they do is try to find out first if potentially, there's a chance for him and the girl. usually (im not saying that it happens everytime though), they give up when they "feel" like they don't stand a chance. sometimes they do u know, it's just that some girls are either conservative about letting their feelings show that early or, they're just not showy at all!
i think we all get our fair share of hurts and probs.
tough luck for both sexes actually hehe.

[cake]

guys should always offer to pay but if the girl insists, then he should let the girl pay. First Dates are an exception though, guys should always pay.

[VaMpeEh]

usually, the guy pays, but it wouldn't hurt if sometimes, the girl would do too... :)

[cris_honey]

for me, the guy pays. being a gentleman includes trying to pick up that bill that says PXXX.XX! :)

pero if they're going steady na i think naman that the girl should share with the bill. she has to be considerate din naman.

[SIXFEETDEEP]

if i have enough money, i pay
if i have i few, we share
if i have non, its either she pays(coz we really got nothin to do)
or
just stay at home and be with eachother =)

[ctv]

Syempre the rich guy has to pay for all the dates (or sometimes the rich girl). Better to share na lang kasi, Anyway that is what having a relationship is all about naman diba?

[Agent 007]

For first dates, I agree that guys should pay. After that, it really depends on the situation. If the guy's just starting to court, normally he pays all the time. Pag naging sila na, it should already be either KKB or whatever arrangement they'd prefer. Mapag-uusapan naman nila yan, di ba? :)

[lee2k]

Dapat unahan na lang ang pagbabayad, para exciting. At least both nagdadala ng pera, para maiwasan yung nang aabuso, hindi nagdadala ng pera kasi alam ng ililibre sila.

[bLaCk]

hmmmm... ano ba..??? ah... shempre BOYS dapat!!!

[bLaCk]

actually.. whoever yung nagyaya, dapat sha ang magbayad!!!

[Brutus]

hmm.. lalaki dapat magbayad sa mga date-date na yan.. pero may mga exp. ako na yung babae ang nagbabayad.. (kapalmuks ko hahaha) kapag wala ng pera yung lalaki tapos mapilit at yung babae rin yung nag-aya.. e talagang dapat magbayad yung babae.. pero shempre nakakahiya yun! dapat gumawa ng paraan ang lalaki para magkapera kapag may date siya para siya ang magbayad.. yun ang sa tingin ko :)

[Hupit]

para sa akin kung sino yung may pera sa araw ng date nila no!!! at kung sino yung nagyaya pero kung ang girl ang nagyaya naman para i-date mo siya at wala ka namang pera!!! PARE, MAGPAKATOTOO KA!!!

[Flare!]

i only have one thing to say:::::::::

no money>;>;>;>;>;>;no honey!!!!!

hehehehe..high maintenance ba ang arrive?

vonggacious!!!!

:D

[SAIDUCK]

is cool to use lubricants
and superman can fly faster than a speeding tower...

[cianoy]

Guys are expected to pay. That's exactly why I don't date...tsk..tsk...

[bounce]

I was raised to be a gentleman and that means that I pay for dates...I now have a very thin wallet...and it's not because I sat on it =)

[clone]

Guys, better get used to the indisputable fact that you will pay...and pay...and pay!

If you initiated the first date, you pay.
If you become steady, you pay for more than the date. If you get married, that is when you will really have to work your a$$ off to pay big time to support not only your wife, but all the nuances that go with a blissful married life. ;) So study hard and land a good job if you can.

I have seen this happen to many of my good friends. But they seem to be happy. So I am also happy for them. Me, I think I will give it a little more time.

[virgo14]

as a rule, i always offer to split the bill. no matter what the circumstances. nasa kanila na yon kung pagbabayarin nila ako. minsan oo, madalas hinde. and i don't really take it against them if they do. at least he's up front about it, rather than b*tch about me to his friends right?

[JDELEON]

Originally posted by Ira:
Actually, depends on who asks for the date. Personally, I'd like to pay my way if I was asked out-- maybe not the whole date, but maybe dessert and coffee or what. That way, the girl doesn't feel she's indebted to the guy, and the guy doesn't feel he's stiffed.

If I was courting/dating you, it would mean a lot to me if you would let me pay for the date. I would consider it a compliment, if you let me pay. My apologies if any of this sounds crass or sexist.

Firstly, you (the woman) should never feel indebted to a guy for going out with him. Agreeing to go out with a guy is payment enough. The privelege of your fine company and intelligent conversation is easily worth more than the price of the bill.

If the guy expects physical intimacy of any kind after a few meals then he is less than an idiot and not worthy of your time. A man may hope for something to develop; but he should never expect anything.

Call me old-fashioned. Whether it be at McDonald's or the Mandarin, if the guy can pay for his date, I think he should. And if the guy can't afford the place, then he shouldn't ask a girl there. If the girl is richer and still doesn't mind dating at simpler places all the time, then all the better for the relationship.

On a selfish level, when a girl graciously lets me pay for when we go out, it makes me feel good. Her thank you and her smile reminds me that trying to be a gentleman is worthwhile. What's money for if you don't spend it on those you love?

What if the couple have known each other a while and girl really wants to go some place fancy which the guy can't afford?

If it is at all possible, I think the guy should still pay. Before one protests, assuming the guy is not a *****, think of how special that would be for him...

If the guy had to work overtime or skip meals for a month to pay for that date, he is making an investment in the relationship. The more he struggles, the sweeter the meal will taste. If the girl appreciates all the effort and shows that she had a wonderful time, the guy would probably feel really happy. He would probably feel that he's done his job as the man. If after all this effort, the girl still insists on paying... wouldn't it seem like a wasted effort?

Let me emphasize that I don't mind the girl paying, once in a while, or when the relationship has been firmly established.

All I am saying is that paying for a meal and drinks, opening doors and all that is not a bad thing. Letting a man be a gentleman is a great compliment. The woman should never feel indebted to the man for the date. If we both have a good time, then it is money well spent.

May Angels smile upon you,
Joe

[winterswirl]

Originally posted by JDELEON:
If I was courting/dating you, it would mean a lot to me if you would let me pay for the date. I would consider it a compliment, if you let me pay. My apologies if any of this sounds crass or sexist.

Firstly, you (the woman) should never feel indebted to a guy for going out with him. Agreeing to go out with a guy is payment enough. The privelege of your fine company and intelligent conversation is easily worth more than the price of the bill.

If the guy expects physical intimacy of any kind after a few meals then he is less than an idiot and not worthy of your time. A man may hope for something to develop; but he should never expect anything.

Call me old-fashioned. Whether it be at McDonald's or the Mandarin, if the guy can pay for his date, I think he should. And if the guy can't afford the place, then he shouldn't ask a girl there. If the girl is richer and still doesn't mind dating at simpler places all the time, then all the better for the relationship.

On a selfish level, when a girl graciously lets me pay for when we go out, it makes me feel good. Her thank you and her smile reminds me that trying to be a gentleman is worthwhile. What's money for if you don't spend it on those you love?

What if the couple have known each other a while and girl really wants to go some place fancy which the guy can't afford?

If it is at all possible, I think the guy should still pay. Before one protests, assuming the guy is not a *****, think of how special that would be for him...

If the guy had to work overtime or skip meals for a month to pay for that date, he is making an investment in the relationship. The more he struggles, the sweeter the meal will taste. If the girl appreciates all the effort and shows that she had a wonderful time, the guy would probably feel really happy. He would probably feel that he's done his job as the man. If after all this effort, the girl still insists on paying... wouldn't it seem like a wasted effort?

Let me emphasize that I don't mind the girl paying, once in a while, or when the relationship has been firmly established.

All I am saying is that paying for a meal and drinks, opening doors and all that is not a bad thing. Letting a man be a gentleman is a great compliment. The woman should never feel indebted to the man for the date. If we both have a good time, then it is money well spent.

May Angels smile upon you,
Joe


so when can i go out with you, huh? http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif

damn, well said :)

when will i meet guys like you? :~)
i mean, we don't have to go out to fancy/expensive places---
what matters is how you treat me as a lady when we go out... :~)
whether i pay, we split the bill, he pays everything---i don't care, what matters is how he makes you feel... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/love.gif
i love it when guys makes you feel so special...never met a defined "gentleman" yet, that's why :(




[This message has been edited by winterswirl (edited 07-28-2000).]

[winterswirl]

Originally posted by winterswirl:
so when can i go out with you, huh? http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif

damn, well said :)

when will i meet guys like you? http://www.pinoyexchange.com/blush.gif
i mean, we don't have to go out to fancy/expensive places---
what matters is how you treat me as a lady when we go out... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/blush.gif
whether i pay, we split the bill, he pays everything---i don't care, what matters is how he makes you feel... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/love.gif
i love it when guys makes you feel so special...never met a defined "gentleman" yet, that's why :(


[This message has been edited by winterswirl (edited 07-28-2000).]

[JDELEON]

Originally posted by winterswirl:
so when can i go out with you, huh? [

Uy, baka malipat yung thread sa Personals nang di oras!

May Angels smile upon you,
Joe
ps. There are a lot of real gentlemen out there. A lot of guys fake it to get into your pants, but I know a lot of real gentlemen.

Gentleman clue #1: Opens the door for the woman. If it is a PUSH door, the man goes in first, if it is a PULL door, the lady goes in first.

[winterswirl]

Originally posted by JDELEON:
Uy, baka malipat yung thread sa Personals nang di oras!

May Angels smile upon you,
Joe
ps. There are a lot of real gentlemen out there. A lot of guys fake it to get into your pants, but I know a lot of real gentlemen.

Gentleman clue #1: Opens the door for the woman. If it is a PUSH door, the man goes in first, if it is a PULL door, the lady goes in first.

hahahaha http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif
oo nga naman, "Personals" na :)

i know there a lot...
unfortunately, i haven't met one!!!

gentlemen=guy friends :D,
gentlemen dates/ potential boyfriends?
NOPE, NOPE! :mad:

[sampaguita]

And what about those guys who "accidentally" left their wallets at home?

[b*witched]

personally, i don't mind going dutch. but it feels good to go out with a guy who insists to pay for everything eventhough i asked him out. just shows he's a true gentleman. ;)

there should be more guys like you, jdeleon!

[Calypso]

While it's great to fatten up for free, I always insist on paying my way-- the first date not being an exception. All things being equal, I don't see why another person should pay for what I just ate when I was the sole beneficiary of the grub I had. But of course, I'm not so much of a stiff-o that when I'm offered to be 'made libre' I won't agree. Syempre, payag na! But as a general rule, I insist to go Dutch.

[sardonic wench]

like calypso and virgo14, it's been a rule of thumb for me to offer paying for half. more often than not, they pay for me but i guess it's better that I DONT assume that they pay for everything. it sounds so opportunistic.

also, i dont order anything that i cannot pay for. just in case the guy im out with is on a budget. :D

[Tinee]

well, to tell you thetruth theguy paying for the date all the time is really an old tradition. it used to be necessary but nowadays it's not! that's why women have and women's lib and all you know. i agree with the people who said that if the guy is still courting and he asks the girl out he SHOULD pay for the bill. but the minute the girl is the one who asks for a date whether its them already or not i think that she should pay for the bill. the guy can offer but it's just right that the girl pay for it. i mean that's the whole thing about "equality" among the sexes and all that stuff right. and for the girls, i know it feels good that the guys get the bill for usand all but lets turn the tables around and make our honeyz feel good too by making them feel that they're worth "spending for" at least from time to time. but be careful, there are quite alot of "scrubs" around there too that will just take adbvantage of you and drain you until you have nothing left. now that's bad! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/girl.gif