Love, Law Student, Work : kaya ba nang sabay sabay?

[fridazza]

help me naman.. sa work nga, pagod ka na diba, tapos i have plans pa of studying next year, law school pa (gusto ko talaga), tapos there is this guy na nanliligaw.

hay im confused, sasagutin ko ba yung guy o hindi? big issue sa kin yung money. maliit lang naman ang salary ko, tpos mag-aaral pa ko next year e syempre, i'll pay for my tuition, tapos if ever na maging bf ko na yung guy, siyempre, minsan ako din ang gagastos (kuripot siya as in sobra, pero type ko talaga sya though hindi ko siya priority).

do you think ba, kakayanin sabay sabay ang relationship, work, at school? pls i need help. thanks!

[BadGiRL]

well...i know some people who can handle that...they are doing fine now...

but, they look dead most of the time... probably ndi kaya ng pride nila na they have to give something up kasi afterall, they knew very well that "law is a very jealous mistress" when they entered law school...

so... ikaw..nasa sayo yun.

and there's the law school curse too... dunno nga lang if totoo yun.

[mildseven]

nothing so extra-ordinary about this...it should work out fine, its just a matter of time management. as long as you make your bf understands your situation,.

[fridazza]

and there's the law school curse too... dunno nga lang if totoo yun.

what do you mean by this? what is the curse in law school?

[paralusi]

let me put it this way, i now consider myself lucky if i get 4 hours of sleep any day from sunday to friday.

[shiftbackspace]

it really depends on the person. but if i were in your shoes and since hindi priority yung guy, i would make him wait. studying and working at the same time is already consuming and exhausting. kapag may love intervention, hindi maiiwasan ang petty and not-so-petty quarrels -- and that's really bothering.

yung brother ng close friend ko, a month before he entered law school, he broke up with his gf. and it appears na mas lalong na-inlove yung girl sa kanya. because he knows how to prioritize daw. hehe!

on the other hand, being in a relationship can also be an inspiration. basta, wag lang pasaway ang partner mo. good luck *okay*

[renestrauss2004]

Juggling 3 things at the same time can be very confusing...the affairs of the heart alone can interfere with ur work or studies. So kung pro-problemahin mo pa gastosan ang manllligaw mong KURIPOT (as u urself said), maybe its wise to drop him instead, he's da least of your priorities now, pero kung in-lab ka naman masyado and can't aford to lose him then wag ka na magaral, mag asawa nlng kayo, sarap pa... :lol:
Im sure while studying u won't have enough time for love. Why indulge in sometheing half-hazardly like getting involve emotionally or taking up a very demanding course such as law...you just have to give it ur full time and attention... just my few cnets worth..... :naughty:

[BadGiRL]

law school curse...also known as...when u enter law school na may gf/bf ka na ndi nasa field ng law or nakaka intindi...expect na mag brbreak kayo in short short while kahit na gano man kayo katagal na.

[Precious84]

awww...:( this is precisely the reason why my bf of almost 2 years (and the best bf so far) broke up with me....and to think, after 2 months since the break-up, i learned that i got accepted into UP Law....

but i'm still firm with my stand that it's just an excuse when you say you don't have time for love or for a relationship because you're busy with this and you're doing that. i mean, after doing all those work and studying, there are moments in your life, no matter how short or long they are that you wish there's somebody significant with you, right?

the couple just have to understand each other's priorities. if your guy doesn't have time for you, then make time for him, surprise him. if he can't be there for you, be there for him. naalala ko tuloy yung convincing powers ng isang agent ng Slimmer's World Libis sa kin. "ano'ng you don't have time for exercise? kung si US Pres. Bush nga, the busiest man in the world, has time for exercise" :rotflmao: convinced na sana ako, kaso wala akong pera that time :lol:

my point is, if gusto mo, you make time for it no matter how seemingly impossible it is to do so. you'll just be surprised to know that may time ka pala after all. di naman mahalaga na araw-araw kayo magkita or maghapon at magdamag kayo magkasama, ayt? and siyempre, how long does it take to text or reply the person? maliban kung dun kayo nag-uusap sa text, at sobra nang nakakaabala. :D

hay naku....naexhaust ko na yata lahat ng legal remedies e hindi pa rin na-convince ang aking ex-bf. i guess he just doesn't love me enough kahit ano pang i-claim niya. :depressed:

[BadGiRL]

My dear, nasa UP Law ka d ba?

I honestly don't think any guy is worth giving up Law for... much more UP LAW!

Forget him. You'll get to have someone better. Lalaki lang yan. Marami diyan. Pero, konti lang nakakapasok ng UP Law. :)

[popgirl]

and there's the law school curse too... dunno nga lang if totoo yun.

i know what you mean! my ex is in law school. we broke up because he couldnt keep up with law school and a demanding gf. :mecry:
sa tingin ko kawawa lang talaga ang magiging ka-relasyon ng law student. but in fairness to them, they dont want to make us feel unimportant naman pero may priorities lang talaga sila. they need to read, digest, study for mid-terms and finals, read, read,read,digest,read,study...
oh... i miss my ex!!! :bigcry:

[popgirl]

i so so can relate to this thread! haaaaay. :depressed:

[Brandon96]

I honestly don't think any guy is worth giving up Law for... much more UP LAW!
Depende, if you value career over love and life. BTW, UP Law is not much of an advantage over other law schools. Believe me, sa connections lang naman importante ang UP Law pero otherwise, in terms of professional potential, pare-pareho pala tayong lahat, kahit galing ka pa sa Arellano o Harvardian or Ateneo or UP.

Fridazza,
Listen to me, cuz I am a UP Law graduate. And when I was in UP Law, I was at different times both a fulltime and a working student. Since you're working and you plan to go to law school, you simply have no time for love. Unless he's already your husband and way past na kayong 2 sa pormahan/ligawan stage. Pag married ka na, the husband will be your moral and financial support and he and the kids will be your inspiration to do well and survive law school. Piliin mo kung mas gusto mong mag-law or magka-bf na sobrang gusto mo. If gusto mo pareho, ask him (assuming kayo na) if he can wait and cope with your schedule. If he eventually can't keep up with you, hayaan mo siyang lumaya. Ganon na lang talaga.

law school curse...also known as...when u enter law school na may gf/bf ka na ndi nasa field ng law or nakaka intindi...expect na mag brbreak kayo in short short while kahit na gano man kayo katagal na.
Ibang law school curse ang alam ko....akala ko yun ang winawarn mo kay fridazza. The law school curse I know is the so-called "Dean Irene Cortes and Haydee Yorac (+R.I.P.) and Myrna Feliciano and Vyva Aguirre curse"--"If you still don't have a boyfriend when you enter law school, 90% chances are YOU WON'T GET MARRIED AT ALL unless you do eventually at around age 42-44!" Or, you get to marry one of your erstwhile uncute classmates (for sheer lack of choices).

In my case, I disagree with Badgirl's idea of the law school curse kasi I met my GF online when I was in 4th yr law school (evening class ako). She was then a fresh Miriam College grad working at Citibank and she has been my rock and inspiration since then till I took the bar exams, and then afterwards. In fact, we're getting married next year. :)

[chillin'crazy]

I'm a law student and i'm currently in a relationship for almost two years. We met and felt that distinctive feeling when we were in our first year, when we were nothing but total strangers. :bashful:

It all depends on how you can carry a relationship... as i see it... Love will always conquer all, no matter how impossible.

dont forget to be idealistic once in a while, its something law students sometimes forget, lagi na lang attach sa reality, when there is something like true love that could make everything easy.

imagine, smiling when you are at your lowest times and laughing when you feel like crying. diba ang sarap?

the problem lang naman is we all tend to put love in the negative aspect, that it might ruin our focus, etc... Since when love ever created harm?

so if you feel like its one love you cant live without, go for it!!! Its your DESTINY... as much as being a lawyer is your DREAM.

It is MADE for you.

Good luck and update us about your love life.

Chill!!! ;)

[chillin'crazy]

Congratulations!!! May the Almighty bless you with a happy family life!!!

[chillin'crazy]

Congratulations!!! May the Almighty bless you with a happy family life!!!

the message is FOR BRANDON *okay*

[pluma04]

law, love and work? it can happen...

Law and Work: All you have to do is to find a good school who has a curriculum that caters to working students. Try Arellano Law, they have an excutive class on Saturdays and Sundays. And Before you enter law school be sure that your reasons of becoming a lawyer are strong that it can withstand ANYTHING!

Love: The people here are right "The law is like a jealous mistress". It will really depend on your prospective man. If his mind is not that of an oak then there's a glimmer of hope that it will workout. But then again that's just glimmer.

[Brandon96]

the message is FOR BRANDON
Thank you! Same to you!:)

pluma04 is correct. if you're a Makati ofc person your best option for law school is to go to Arellano or Lyceum (or if you can afford 33k/semester, the DLSU-FEU joint program at RCBC Plaza Tower). Ateneo Law? Hehehe, pag working? Suicide! :eek:

Honestly, work and love and law school sabay-sabay, mahirap. Dates and flings siguro pwede isingit, pero ligawan? Pano pag nag-aaway kayo eh di sira ang mood mong mag-aral? Eh konti lang time mo mag-aral ksi working ka?

Kaya Fridazza, mag-date-date ka na lang muna and enjoy lots of guys. Pag napasok ka sa law school, you'll be limited to your classmates most of the time.

Kung no BF ka since birth, suggestion ko mag-BF ka muna bago mag-law kasi once you're in law school (lalo na UP), mahirap na maghanap ng BF.

[chillin'crazy]

Tapos na ang 2005 Bar!!! We will be waiting for the new batch of lawyers!!! Haay... kelan kaya ako?

Fridazza, musta na love life mo?

[samantha_jones]

Isa lang masasabi ko!!!! GOODLUCK!!!

Girl isaisahin mo muna...para may matapos ka.