Is it wrong to dream for someone you know you could never have?

[sMiLeY]

Call me crazy, but I'm really head-over-heels about this basketball player... I know I could never have him, but is it so wrong to hope? Help....

[OtchO]

i guess, ok lang iyan but this should never interfere with the things that are far more important :rolleyes:
also, after sometime tigilan mo na unless u could find a way to know and befriend him...tapos kidnapin mo na! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crazy.gif

[sMiLeY]

Salamat OtchO! Pag-iisipan ko ng husto ang advise mo... :D

[steph]

hmmm...dream is okay...but if u feel like it's going beyond "dreaming", then u have to wake up soon... :D

btw, welcome to pex!! (hmmm...do i know u ba?? *** yung player na gusto mo?) http://www.pinoyexchange.com/thinker.gif

[bambi]

its not wrong but it definitely hurts.

[ABC]

It's not wrong to dream about someone who you think is quite unreachable. Actually, I've had 3 serious relationships in my life, and all of them with guys whom I thought could never get attracted to me because they're just "up there" or "taken". I dreamed about them but never actually hoped. I guess it's just fate, or uhmm...a little detective work and ingenuity from us girls :) I tried making my dream of Keanu falling for me come true but I don't think it's going to happen. I saw him in person though when I was in the States and that was just the nearest thing to heaven.

Just stay cool. Dream and pray. But don't get your hopes too high if you think that there's absolutely no way on earth that you can meet the guy of your dreams.

[PuNkChick]

smiley.. i used to be like that!! so much... talagang nakikipag away si me :)

pero i got over it... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/love.gif

theres nothing wrong with dreaming... that doesnt mean... hindi yun magiging reality.. di ba , malay mo! keep your hopes high!

one thing is sad though... ksi me too.. i have these dreams, na alam kong impossible.. 1 in 100 ang chance.. pero i still dream.. nakaka lungkot lang http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crying.gif

[sMiLeY]

Steph: I'm not sure you know him... Jonathan de Guzman? Player ng Pasig sa MBA.

[baste]

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[rhytz]

wrong, if you let this fantasies of yours control your whole being in such a way that it would be destructive on ur part.
ex. yng hde ka na makakain, makatulog, makagawa etc.

right, if it will serve as an inspirational tool to work hard,improve ur being etc.

btw, dnt u find Dino Aldeguer of PBA more attractive? <;Lol>; :)

[YoBaKs]

Libre lang namang mangarap diba?

peacelove and godspeed!

[Assassin_Mage]

well, I think it really depends..

If you are still single, then no problem..
Actual, it is even healthy (in the psych sense of the word :D )

but if you are already mmm how do we say it. uh.... established with someone.. :D
Then it is definitely wrong. Because as silly as it may seem, it is actually tantamount to cheating on your loved one. to admire is okay.. but to actually dream of that someone.. well.. It means that you have set aside a special part of your heart for that person in your heart and in essence, you will be weighing yourloved one against that person you are dreaming of.

In the worst case scenario, it is like a guy saying an ex's name during Sexual intercourse instead of the one he is in bed with.

For exmample, the wife's name is Linda. and the past GF was Sylvia.. if you were Linda and you heard your husband say Sylvia's name during that most intimate of moments? wouldn't you feel hurt?

[rors]

i find nothing wrong in dreaming whatsoever. but everything we do should be done in moderation, lest we destroy our well-being ;)

[Road Dogg]

Kilala ko iyang Jonathan De Guzman na iyan. I see him play for Pasig-Rizal in the MBA. Sadly, I don't have any info about him. :(

About your problem, it's not wrong to dream on someone that you cannot have, pero you should still control yourself. ;)

[Jennifer]

smiley, i have a friend who's uncle happens to be gido, who is jonathan's teammate. what i have to say about jonathan isn't good. but i guess it's not bad to dream about him although if you knew what i knew...it'd give you nightmares! i'm sorry...it's just that...oh well..just dream...it's ok...it's not bad...

[jor-el]

dreams about people who you know you cannot have are crazy...just like any other dream worth dreaming about... :)

it may hurt, and you may end up disappointed...but dreams are the very essense of our being, and unless you have the right dreams, perhaps, dreams that are a bit crazy, then life wouldn't be worth living... :)

[BadGiRL]

No.

Wala naman siguro masama d ba?

[winnette]

"Sometimes we get through adversity only by imagining what the world might be like if our dreams should ever come true."
-A. Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha
Kung ganon ok lang mag-dream di ba? just make sure you get your feet back on the ground after a while...baka mapagkamalan kang ghost...LABO! :)


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[moodswing75]

Personally, I don't think that it is wrong to ADMIRE someone unreachable. Hey, I do that a lot, (more so now) because it keeps my mind off things and it's some form of an escape. But, ganun lang sa akin, hanggang dreams lang. They keep me company until the real person comes along. My friends tell me to wake up (kasi I go: "wait lang ha? I think Enrique Iglesias is on the other line") pero I tell them na "hey, this is a day dream okay? might as well reach for the stars!"

For me kasi, it hurts more to dream about someone who is reachable but doesn't know I exist eh.

Man, I don't think I made sense here! (I hope you did get my drift though) :)

[bugsbunny]

theres nothing wrong naman with dreaming eh...pero different thing na if youre obssessing na...basta dont let it take away the things and people you love before you found "him/her" :D

[827]

There's nothing wrong with dreaming. Yun nga lang you should know your limitations. Just don't forget the difference between dreams and reality.

[PuNkChick]

ur right yobaks! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/blush.gif

[sMiLeY]

Originally posted by rhytz:
wrong, if you let this fantasies of yours control your whole being in such a way that it would be destructive on ur part.
ex. yng hde ka na makakain, makatulog, makagawa etc.

right, if it will serve as an inspirational tool to work hard,improve ur being etc.

btw, dnt u find Dino Aldeguer of PBA more attractive? <;Lol>; :)

Rhytz, Dino is cute, kaya lang naging classmate ko na sya before, so parang wala nang thrill di ba? It's not like shooting for the stars type of crush kase I've gotten to rub elbows with him na... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/girl.gif

[Nsyncs Pinaylovr]

What's wrong with dreaming, right? I mean, from my personal experience, I really don't see anything wrong about it as long as you know what's real and what's not. You said ityourself, you're dreaming of someone you know you could never have so why deprive yourself of even having to dream that the person is yours. Again, just be realistic and know your limits.

[sMiLeY]

Originally posted by Jennifer:
smiley, i have a friend who's uncle happens to be gido, who is jonathan's teammate. what i have to say about jonathan isn't good. but i guess it's not bad to dream about him although if you knew what i knew...it'd give you nightmares! i'm sorry...it's just that...oh well..just dream...it's ok...it's not bad...


Heyy Jennifer! So what is it about him? Sana you can share with me, para ma-dis-illusion na ko di ba? If what you have to say is soooo bad, just e-mail it to me para ako na lang makabasa. You don't have to be very specific about it... kahit bird's eye view lang tama na sa kin... I'll wait ha!?! Thanks! :confused:

[Denise`]

i don't think there's anything wrong with having a crush on someone you *think* you could never have... u know there maybe a chance that you guys would hook up in the future but don't hold on to that like it's sure to happen... don't let that "dream" get a hold of you so much so that you fail to acknowledge the presence of that special person or that you let it get in the way of your relationships with other people... :)

well.. i know that's far from happening naman... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/bleh.gif