What would you do if your parents DiSapprOve your Girl/BoyFriend?

[krayola]

And the problem is you really, really like/love him/her?

[wAgKaNgMaKaLaT]

ask them why...baka me nakita sila.
parents ko naman lalo na si mommy
very understanding sila.

neway la pa naman kong bf... :(
so di ko pa problema yun... :)

[Lo Lo]

Wagkangmakalat, mabait kang bata kahit na medyo Makalat.

Makikinig nga kayo sa inyong magulang dahil ang hangarin lang naman nila ay ang pinakamabuti para sa kanilang mga anak.

[krayola]

wAgKaNgMaKaLaT: Tht would be very ideal. Eh, papano kung hindi naman kayo masyadong close ng parents mo, what will u do?

[Ira]

I used to think parents were put into this earth to give kids a hard time. Now that I'm a grownup, I realised that parents only want what is best for their kids.

If your parents disapprove of your s.o., listen to them. Find out the reason why they dislike the person, then make your own decision from there. Even if you and your parents are not close, your parents will surely mention why. A simple "bakit ayaw niyo siya?" won't hurt. Do not let the generation gap influence you from making an objective decision. If there's smoke, there probably is fire. What your parents say may have some basis after all.

[This message has been edited by Ira (edited 02-18-2000).]

[blue babe]

i'd usually fight for the guy. even if i know my parents love me to death, i won't really learn if i hear it from them. i'd rather learn for myself.

[Ice Burn]

I ignore! :)

[Eterna]

believe your parents! they only want what's best for you. you may not realize it now, but mark my word...eventually when you become a parent yourself, YOU WILL KNOW!

In the first place ang bf/gf napapalitan parang UW! ang parents NEVER!they're ONLY ONE!

[This message has been edited by Eterna (edited 02-18-2000).]

[Ladybird]

I ignore my parents because I'm a stuburn person and sometimes headstrong.

I always learn from my mistake,so I sometimes ask my parents what is the reason why they don't like my BF.

[Reflection]

When I was much younger, I used to think that I could solve my own problems and make my own decisions. But as I matured, I realized that I needed my parent's wisdom for better guidance.

So my advice to all the young ones is to develop your own identity and make your own decisions but DO NOT ignore the advices from your parents. You will need those to keep you on the right course.

Also, before you make any important decision, pray to God for guidance.

[sampaguita]

Naturally they want what's best for you, as Eterna says. They could also see something in that person that you are blind to at the moment.

But you if you really feel strongly about them, there's no need to make your parents approve. Have a talk with them, help them understand they way you really feel. If they see how much they mean to you, they might be more understanding.

Rebellion and indifference shouldn't a part of the situation. I think it'll only make the matter worse.

[krayola]

I guess that what u said r true. It sounded easy.

Okay, I'm in that situation kse. I really, really love this guy and he feels the same intensity,too. We've been on for 3 1/4 years already with that kind of situation. First day niyang dumalaw sa bahay, my mother confronted him already for no reason at all, except that she doesn't like the guy and she said that to him upfront. This guy and I really believed then that we are soulmates. Pero during those 3 long years, eh, hindi talaga pabor yung situation. I talked to my mother and may time na he gave us a chance to prove ourselves. Pinadadalaw niya yung guy and minsan eh parang very close sila. Until one day, bigla na lang uli naging furious yung mother ko, and that did it. He was asked not to come back again, ever in our house. There was also a time when my mother told me, in a very nice manner, na magpapantay na lang ang mga paa niya, eh hindi talaga niya matatanggap yung guy. First time ko lang na makita ang mother ko na maging furious(extremely) towards a person, in our entire life together. And it really puzzles me.

I recently broke up with the guy. It was very , very hard. But things in the house right now are doing much, much better.

Nakakapanghinayang and the worse thing is that the guy still txts me, and send me e-cards saying how much he really loves me. And how much he believes we r meant for each other. I cannot avoid him. I respond though I don't say I love him and other sweety lines to him but I really want have the guts to avoid him. Pero, I'm kinda happy na with the situation kse tahimik na sa bahay.

Pero naiisip ko, if this love is so great, why does it have to end? or should it really end? I'm really confuse and tired, and so broken-hearted. :( (sorry if this is too long)

[This message has been edited by krayola (edited 02-18-2000).]

[Ira]

Ask your mother what it is particularly that she totally hates with your ex. There must be a reason--the fact that she was wiling to give him a chance, and that she normally doesn't dislike people must tell you something. It doesn't have to be a heart-to-heart talk with your mother. Maybe she knows something about the guy that you don't. You say that your bf is sweet with you and loves you--that's only to be expected; you're his gf, after all. It is how he treats other people who he doesn't really need that should be looked at---she might have seen something there that's not so nice.

[clone]

Krayola: Your story is a heartbreaker. Just give it time and see how things develop. If the guy is willing to go along with a platonic relationship for now, you can still remain friends. Tell him also to remain friendly with your parents so they can see him as a real person and not just as your suitor. That change in perspective might give them a different insight.


Sampaguita: How true, "rebellion and indifference should not be a part of the situation."

[wAgKaNgMaKaLaT]

iyak no lang ***** ko...
bwwahhhhhhhhhhhh... :(

[krayola]

Ira: Probably. I guess I don't really get to see the problem with him because I really like him so much, and he treats me like a princess. Maybe my mother's gifted with discernment. I'm enlightened by your insight. Okay din palang nakakabasa nang mga advice(?), it's clearer and goes direct to the brain.

clone: I hope we could, but I don't think it's possible because e have a very intense relationship. He kinda make paaging nga na 'my decisions will either give him a reason to go on living or not to go on' (he's not into suicidal ek ek)

sampaguita: i'm not rebelling. I respect my parents' point of view but I guess we cannot avoid to have indifferences. We've had a lot since that happened pero we're trying to patch up things right now. :)

:)@wAgKaNgMaKaLaT *ikaw ***** bunso sa inyong 3?*

[krayola]

Anyone, please: What does s.o. mean?

[BadGiRL]

krayola, significant other.

iiyak nalang ako.

[PuNkChick]

hmmmm i will explain why i really want to be with him.... and hopefully they'll get it!! :D

[clone]

Sampaguita:

What's so surprising about me agreeing with you? Actually, I am a very agreeable person. In fact, I believe that there are more things that we agree on than the other way around.

But do you concur with me that even friends can still agree to disagree?

[sampaguita]

clone:
You're actually agreeing with me? *gasp* :)

krayola:
Well I'm glad that you are able to talk to your parents abour your situation and not rebelling. :) But I believe you can certainly help the indifference part by caring about what your parents think, and vice versa. I think that's a clear sign of respect and love. Anyway, good luck! :)

[wAgKaNgMaKaLaT]

krayola...nde ko...si kulit yun
bunso. ako 3rd, si ate kulot 2nd,
si kuya adamkulit panganay daw...
ehehehe... :)

[bLaCk]

well.. i guess the only thing you could do is Stand Up with what you feel and TALK... who knows, dba? they could see your point... and you might see theirs...

[Ira]

Glad to have helped, krayola.

[ChiQui]

Nakow... I was put in such a position before and boy was it hard! But in my case, I eventually broke up with him because I realized that my parents were right all along. But if the guy's all right.. if he's not what your parents say or think he is, and if you think he's worth fighting for... then by all means, fight! If you're old enough and mature enough to handle a serious relationship, your parents must be able to respect you and the decisions that you make. :)

[sampaguita]

clone:
I certainly agree with you my friend, that friends can agree to disagree. I think that's a sign of respect and a widening of the comfort zone because you are comfortable enough to disagree on things. I think relationships, no matter what kind, that avoid little agruments or disagreements are missing out on a lof of intimacy.

Do you agree?

[clone]

Sampaguita:

Do I agree to what?...to agree to disagree, or to disagree to agree to disagree, or to agree to agree, or is it to disaagree to disagree? Nakakalito ano? ;)

Anyway, I agree that we can be friends. I really like that. :)

[NewtoN]

If your parents approve of your relationship...that's good, if not, then take it as a challenge, prove to them that you made the right choice.

[sacrotys]

You have to fight for it! if you love the person! you don't love the person if you don't fight 4 it!

[This message has been edited by sacrotys (edited 04-19-2000).]