Ligawan....courtship...

[ChiQui]

I for one do not believe in courtship. I think of this period kse as the time the guy puts his best foot forward and they try to hide their flaws just to win the girl. I prefer establishing a friendship first. This way, you both get to know each other before risking the feelings of both sides.

Receiving flowers and other gifts can be very flattering. But it's not a must. I don't have to be showered with gifts just for me to like a guy. As long as he's got a nice personality, he can go a long way. :)

[seven]

hi pipol!

for the ladies: paano nyo gustong ligawan? flowers, chocolates, dates....

for the men: paano kayo manligaw? send flowers, chocolates, invite her to dates...

for everyone: do you think its effective? the flowers, the chocolates, the dates...

happy posting :)

[Ada]

Gusto ko aso. ;)

There's no "right" way of courting for me. What's important is that he proves that he's sincere and that he truly cares. He can do that without giving me anything.

I know of some girls who are bothered when guys who are courting them give them expensive gifts. They feel like they're being "bribed" and so they end up returning the gifts. Guys, any feedback on this?

[nix]

I think that guys just have a tendency to overdo things when they are initially infatuated. They go to great lengths just to give the girl everything she wants, or at least what he thinks she wants. And that's where the problem comes in.

Flowers and the occasional use of chocolates is fine, but when someone starts to buy jewelry for his crush, that's when a higher level of discomfort is felt by the girl. Quite frankly, I frown upon women who accept such lavish gifts when there isn't any relationship yet. Come on, it's like the girl is answering the guy already. There's a time and place for the more material gifts, if there is such a term.

I'm wondering though, do women always expect the guys to pay for whatever meal, date, or activity they take part in?

[greeneagle]

it's hard establishing friendship first with a girl you like. once you have established your friendship (and when i say friendship, i mean friendship in the sense that you know each other's stories inside out), it will be difficult to change course and suddenly opt for a more shallow relationship...a bf/gf relationship. also, what if you dont work out as lovers? sure, it's nice to hear na you can still remain friends, but let's face it, that will be extremely difficult. i dont want to hang around when my ex finds a new partner. though i wish her the best, i prefer not to witness it.

[jack]

ligawan 101: Steps on Courting a girl.
Lessons
I. Getting her attention
II. Introducing Yourself
III. Making Friends
IV. Stating intentions
V. Dating and pa-impress
VI. Executing drastic measures
VII. Making the Ultimatum
hehehehe...would u enroll? :o

[Ada]

Nix: Maybe it depends on the activity. If it's a date in a classy restaurant where the bill will probably equal your salary for a week, then I guess the guy will be expected to pay, especially if he was the one who did the inviting. If it's a movie and then McDo afterwards , then maybe you could go dutch. I guess guys shouldn't let the girl get used to the idea that he should be the one paying for everything. And girls should also keep in mind that nothing comes cheap these days, so it would do them both good if she offered to pay sometimes, unless of course she was dating the sultan of Brunei.

[This message has been edited by nix (edited 04-04-2000).]

[cbie]

hi ada! for me, i dont show the girl that im making a big deal out of it. kulitan lang nang kulitan. it is through kulitan that i can be myself. in that way, i'll be comfortable w/ her and eventually, she'll know the real me. pero siyempre hindi naman kulit 100% of the time. i'll be extra sweet.

[SiNgKiT]

well, plus points na sa guy kung *** one way nung pag court nya ay yung papadala sya ng flowers sa bhy, 2, pero anonymous un then he would go to my house and personally give me the third rose and telling me sincerely how much he loves me...
i know it sounds corny pero hehehehehe, i like it that way e...
pero kung hinid ganun *** nangyari, that's ok, kanya-kanya namang style e
as long as the intentions and the message are true, there's nothing else that can matter more...

[PuNkChick]

FLOWERS!!!! ===>;>; para romantic ang dating ;) ... feeling girl na girl and special talaga si me :D

[VaMpeEh]

for me, courtship is a stage where in you get to know the guy, check if you have a lot of things in common... may nanliligaw nga sa inyong good looking, and yeah he could shower you with all the sweetest gifts in the world, pero bagay ba naman kayo? do you share interests? mas gusto ko kasi at this point in time, nakikita ko na yung intentions ng guy, or how sincere he is... or if we would really make it as a couple

doesnt necessarily have to shower me with gifts, kumbaga, pampa-amplify lang yan ng 'ligawan moment' niya when you give stuff...

i would like to share long talks with the guy, etc... kapag nakikipagligawan

[bugsbunny]

actually sa akin basta andun yung sincerity, ok nasa akin yun kahit walang flowers, or chocolates. as long as he has the "desire" to get to know me, oks na yun. pero syempre maganda sana kung may added flowers and chocolates di ba? pero sa akin basta sincere siya at hindi niya ako gagaguhin, k na yun

[CHiPPeR]

:)