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[balitaktakan08]

Hello, thank you for your info. I think is your case on going? If you eon't mind, could you please share with me the copy of the demand letter you sent to the father of your child and if possible, could you also refer me to an attorney? My child has been abandoned by his biological father for almost 12 years. I tried to ask him tosupport his child but he said he is jobless. I didnt believe him but I did not pursue it anymore. Now, I think I should try and get back at him . My son will be in high school int woyears and he should get what is due him. I, have mixed feeligns however, that my son's father will take my son away from me. do I have some protection over it?



helo there...

im singlemom (26yrs.old)of a 4months old baby boy..

i just wanna share this...


How to File for Child Support in the Philippines



For single moms who wish to obtain child support from the fathers of their children. It will sound easy, but I have to remind you that this is an emotional battle, not just financial. You will have to face the man, who has not only broken your heart but also left you in a monetary rut. It will be painful for you, but you have to do this for you and your children.

1. Find a lawyer specializing in family law– Private lawyers are very costly, but I find that they give better advice and walk you through all the steps in filing for a child support. However, if you cannot afford one, you can go to your municipal hall and consult with a public defendant, who probably has a lot of experience dealing with these cases daily. But in my opinion, it is always best to pay for a private lawyer for your first and/or second consultation, and when you have filed your case, you can ask the court for a public defendant.

2. Send the father of your child a demand letter – Send as many as you can through registered mail. Send it to his home address, billing address, business address, parent’s address, and siblings’ addresses or even at his friends’ address; just to make sure that he receives one and he will not have any reason not to contact you. There are two possible outcomes from sending a demand letter with your lawyer’s letterhead.
1. He will ignore the letter of support, not contact you and then you can proceed to the next step.
2. The child’s father will contact you and the two of you can come to an agreement, with or without your lawyers present. Draft a letter of support, indicating the terms both of you have agreed on, have him sign it and notarize it.

Note: The letter of support is important as it is a binding contract between you and the father of your child. It has to be a detailed draft of what your child will need up to the time he reaches maturity, usually until he reaches the age of 21 or up to the time he finishes college. List all possible scenarios where in you will need financial assistance from him. Just to be on the safe side, ask your lawyer to make one for you. If he fails to give you the monthly child support you agreed on, slap the letter of support on his face.

3. Prepare Documents
1. Birth certificates or baptismal certificates of your children
2. A narration which consists of your whole relationship with the father until you decided to consult a lawyer. Be specific, it will take time to write the story, but you have to do it.

4. Ask your lawyer to draft a petition so you can file a case – Once you have the petition in your hands, you can now file a criminal or civil case. Your lawyer will advise you on what and where to file it, in most cases it will be in your area of residence.

Fees:

1. Civil Case (ex. Abandonment)– filing will cost P2,500

2. Criminal Case (ex. Violence against women and their children, RA 9262)– free of charge

3. Per court hearing or judge’s appearance – P1,500 each

5. Subpoenas will be sent – A hearing will be set. You and the father of your child will be notified of its date through subpoenas. There are some cases wherein the father contacts you upon receiving a summons from the court, especially once they see that they are being charged with a criminal case. This is the perfect time for you to lay down your terms and have him sign a letter of support.

6. Court Hearing – Even if the father of your children does not attend the first hearing, it will proceed as the court will assign a lawyer to his case. This is also the perfect time to ask for immediate temporary financial assistance. This does not mean that the judge has already ruled on your case, it only means that you are asking for some financial help until the case is resolved. Usually, it may take up to 30 days, but the judge will ask the father of your child to pay!

7. Judge’s Decision – If the father’s child is still uncooperative and does not wish to come to make deal with you, or you do not like what he has to say and give; the judge will make the decision after all the sides have been heard. Typically, the judge will order (FORCE is a better word) the father to give! Usually, the amount will be automatically taken out of his monthly salary and deposited directly into your bank account...


If you consult with a private lawyer, they will most probably give you an amount for the whole case, about P10,000 to P15,000 but this does not include the court fees. Some lawyers don’t charge for the first consultation; but for those who do, they charge between P150 to 500 per visit, sometimes as much as P1,200 especially if you need affidavits or other such documents. If you just want to send out a demand letter, go to a Public Attorney (PAO) at your municipal or city hall. Public Defendants don’t charge for consultations!


Legal Support for the Child and R.A. 9262


Through all the family cases that we’ve handled, we’ve come to accept, without discounting the contrary, the sad fact that bad blood exists between the opposing parties (e.g., estranged spouses in annulment/ separation/ property cases, siblings and relatives in estate proceedings). In particular, with respect to custody-support cases over children, it’s easily understandable that custody is one of the more contested issues. However, the issue on child support should not be as complicated.

Well, it shouldn’t be as complicated, but reality makes it so.

Articles 195 and 196 of the Family Code enumerate the persons who are under obligation to support each other, thus: (1) The spouses; (2) Legitimate ascendants and descendants; (3) Parents and their legitimate children and the legitimate and illegitimate children of the latter; (4) Parents and their illegitimate children and the legitimate and illegitimate children of the latter; (5) Legitimate brothers and sisters, whether of full or half-blood; and (6) Brothers and sisters not legitimately related, whether of the full or half-blood, except only when the need for support of the brother or sister, being of age, is due to a cause imputable to the claimant’s fault or negligence.

On the other hand, the amount of support should be in proportion to the resources or means of the giver and the necessities of the recipient, pursuant to Articles 194, 201 and 202 of the Family Code:

Art. 194. Support comprises everything indispensable for sustenance, dwelling, clothing, medical attendance, education and transportation, in keeping with the financial capacity of the family.

The education of the person entitled to be supported referred to in the preceding paragraph shall include his schooling or training for some profession, trade or vocation, even beyond the age of majority. Transportation shall include expenses in going to and from school, or to and from place of work.

Art. 201. The amount of support, in the cases referred to in Articles 195 and 196, shall be in proportion to the resources or means of the giver and to the necessities of the recipient.

Art. 202. Support in the cases referred to in the preceding article shall be reduced or increased proportionately, according to the reduction or increase of the necessities of the recipient and the resources or means of the person obliged to furnish the same.

If you’re a parent, it is safe to assume that you would want the best for your child and you wouldn’t hesitate to provide adequate support. However, it’s unfortunate that when it comes to support for the common children (whether legitimate or illegitimate), so many fathers still fail (or worse, simply refuse) to provide adequate support. Whatever the reason is, and regardless of whether or not these reasons are correct, the problem became pervasive, so much so that Congress saw it fit to “criminalize” (only against fathers) the withholding of support in certain instances. Not everyone knows that this is covered under Republic Act No. 9262, otherwise known as the “Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children Act of 2004“.

Not everyone also knows that R.A. 9262 provides for criminal sactions or penalties for failure to provide support or withholding custody, in certain cases. Well, now you know.


GODBLESS


LALABAN AKO PARA SA ANAK KO.....

[balitaktakan08]

:) pwede po ba ako ** ... single father ako eh.. for single mom lang ba to?
kasi klangan ko din ang mga knowledge nyo eh...*** na kasi ang mama ng angel ko malapit na sya mag 2yrsold. almost 2 yrs na at hindi ko matandaan klan *** huling araw na nagpahinga ako.

hanggang *****, hindi ko parin alam paano mag Mommy-Mode sa anak ko.

dati, inaalagan sya ng mom ko pero *** mom ko my sakit kaya the nextthing i can do is to rent a yaya na kamaganak ko rin, part time lang ang pagkayaya... iniiwanan ko lang anak ko sa kanya everyday na my work ako. i manage a small IT-Business now, just got my promotion. I thnk my daughter is my inspiration.

I see the face of d most beautiful angel everytime i luk at her smiling face.
You are a good father. You're daughter is so lucky to have you. You will continue receiving blessings kasi you love your child so much. I am a single mom for 12 years now and I'm an OFW since my child was 18 months old. I go home twice a year and I had another child out of wedlock while workign abroad. she 's now 4 years old. It is very difficult on my part to leave my chidlren behind with my mother because my job abroad is to look after other people's children. So, I advise you to just enjoy your time being with your daughter. Walang kapalit yan. Just make sure na ok ang nagaasikaso sa kanya and will love her like her own. and most importantly, be nice to the person who takes care of your baby and everything willbe alright. Anyway anjan ka naman everyday to check on her.

[balitaktakan08]

hello po im 26 years old ask ko lang sa mga single parents jan kung ano ang feeling ng pgiging single parent?
Well, first of all, masarap maging parent single or with a partner. yan ang fullfilment ng bawat babae. now, that you are a parent, you have to work hard for your child's future. I am a signle mother of two from different father's and I enjoyed each moment na pinangnak ko ang mga anak ko. Now that they are growing up,merong konting regrets not because I have them but because hindi complete ang parents nila. But they seem not to show it ontheir faces pag andun ako sa tabi nila. so, ok na sa akin yun, so just be a good mother and be a good provider. maghahanap langang mga bata ng kalinga ng ama pag napapabayaan sila in many aspects.

[yvetsky]

hello balitaktakan08! like you am working abroad too, my parents are the ones taking care of my daughter...well am planning to go home na and finish my contract next year, i wanna spend the last 2 years of my daughters formative years with her, nakakaguilty kase na am teaching other children pero inde ko natuturuan ang anak ko. i know naman with God's grace eh makakaraos din kami sa expenses lalo na ngayon at nagumpisa na sya mag-aral. i dont have any support from the father...iniisip ko pa kung hihingi ako...tahimik na kase kami ngayon baka pag ginawa ko pa yun magulo lang ako or yung anak ko..am sure if mag ask ako for support the father will demand to see her which i dont like hehehe!! :D

anyway.... cheers to all the single parents and lets all be proud for raising our child/children well.

[sexy_bluegurl]

I am also and OFW, pero sinama ko yung baby ko, at sinama ko din hipag ko to look after her when im at work.. di ko kasi kaya talaga na di sya kasama..tsaka gusto ko nasusubaybayan ko pa din paglaki nya.. wala naman na akong plan manghingi ng support sa father nya,pero naiisip ko minsan if lumaki laki na yung baby ko, dapat ko ba sya ipakilala sa father nya? there was this instance kasi na gusto ko maiyak, she is 1 yr old 4 months now, one time she said "papa", and she was with a 3 yr old girl..they were playing..tapos sabi ng 3 yr old girl sa baby ko, "wala kang papa".. medyo pasigaw pa.. sympre for my baby, di pa naman nya alam what papa means eh..talaga lang 1 yun sa first words nila..i didnt know then what to say..pero tagal ko syang pinag-isipan..at nabother talaga ako.. naisip ko lang kasi at least kahit walang kwenta yung papa nya,if makilala nya at least alam nya may papa sya..well, matagal pa naman yun..some of my insights lang.. siguro nga, i'll just cross the bridge when i get there..as of now, ineenjoy ko muna yung moments at bonding namin everyday.. Happy ako with my baby,wala akong regret that i have her and i am doing everything for her..ang regret ko lang is bakit sya pa yung naging father nya..and na hindi ko sya nabigyan ng father (he doesnt exist naman na kasi sa buhay namin)..
Well, life goes on.. Good luck to all of us..:)

[ILoveMyLife]

Bro Rudy pwede ka nang kumandidato ha ...anyway sana to all Single parent you can get the SOLO PARENT ID Republic Act 8972 this really a big help for the working solo parent.

what is about SOLO PARENT ID RA 8972??
Bago lang po ko dito..im also a single mom.. just want to know more about being a single mom...:bashful:

[ILoveMyLife]

Well, first of all, masarap maging parent single or with a partner. yan ang fullfilment ng bawat babae. now, that you are a parent, you have to work hard for your child's future. I am a signle mother of two from different father's and I enjoyed each moment na pinangnak ko ang mga anak ko. Now that they are growing up,merong konting regrets not because I have them but because hindi complete ang parents nila. But they seem not to show it ontheir faces pag andun ako sa tabi nila. so, ok na sa akin yun, so just be a good mother and be a good provider. maghahanap langang mga bata ng kalinga ng ama pag napapabayaan sila in many aspects.

tama k po...
im only 23 and i have 2 angels..yung loko iniwan kami during my second pregnancy
fortunately i found a stable job and am really working hard for them..though sometimes sobrang tired nako sa work isang kulit lang ng mga angels ko nawawala n ang pagod...haaayy..
Masarap yung feeling na may kakulitan ako at sobrang lambing ng mga angels ko...

Minsan lang dumadating yung time na pumapasok sa isip ko what if magtanong sila about their father...what if onetime sisihin nila ko about what happen... what if one time umuwi sila sa bahay umiiyak dahil may mga nanloko sila about having no one to call as father..

hayyy..di ko alm pano ieexplain sa kanila..

But i can say na masaya tlaga ko now..

i hope my maka answer na questions ko..

salamat.. sana welcome ako dito..:bashful:

[ILoveMyLife]

isa pa po question...

How can i change the surname of my angels..currently they are using their fathers' kasi.. since we dont get any support from him(i dont even want to ask for it) i want them to use mine instead..

i may sound selfish pero i dont want him to see my kids.. or even communicate with them.. is anyone in here have violent reaction with this??

Pls..pls..pls..

[pinaysweet]

Hi guys its been a long na di ako nakapag basa ng mga post dito it make me cry inside sa mga nabasa ko, its a reality of life na talagang our children will encounter no matter how we try to protect them kumbaga given na yun, what we can do is to make them feel love and secure para ang self confidence nila is okay, in may case my 3yrs old son is now studying kaya im preparing myself sa situation na talagang unavoidable yung tutuksuhin sya etc..

Kasi the father is my son is a foreigner he is living in middle east ever since I keep him updated of the picture of my son, I apply reverse psychology pag may common friends kami na umuuwi ditto sa pinas I let him know baka meron sya gusto ipadala for his son and pag meron naman papunta dun nakikisuyo ako na magpadala ng picture of my son and I also made a letter na its from my son kasi ayoko na ipagdamot ko sa kanya yung milestone ng anak ko kahit magpadala sya ng pera o hindi at least alam nya na nabubuhay ang anak nya ng maayos we remain friends, i informed him na meron ako boyfriend  although kung tutuusin dapat din a ako mag bother magpadala ng picture ng anak ko kasi kahit paano meron din naman ako mga sama ng loob kaso lagi ko iniisip na ayoko dumating ang time na tanungin ako ng anak ko about his dad and up to now pag tumatawag ang dad nya eh sila ang nag uusap.

One of the reason din kaya di ako talaga nag demand ng monthly support kasi ayoko dumating ang time na hiramin nya ang anak naming pag gusto nya which is ayoko mangyari kaya sabi ko sa kanya kung gusto nya Makita anak nya pwede sya pumunta ditto sa pinas actually gusto nya pumunta *** dun sa middle east kaso my biggest fear eh baka itago nya ang bata if ever nasa work ako talagang iniisip ko ang worst scenario kasi ang custody ng bata eh sa father lalo pag di kasal eh di nya alam yun ang reason ko bakit ayoko bumalik dun at isama ko yung anak naming. Kaya I keep him updated sa picture para maglaway sya hehehe . Kaya pag may nagtatanong sa baby ko where is your dad sinasabi nya abroad working .


purpleheadd07 – BENEFITS FOR SOLO PARENT I think you can apply RA 8972 the solo parent ID and to all working solo parent.
Employment related Benefits
 7 day Parental leave
 Flexible work schedule
 Protection against work discrimination
Wish you good luck in your job hunting, God will make a way when it seems to be no way.

23and 14 – Nakakalungkot nga makita ang anak natin na talagang they have the longing of a father kung pwede nga natin akuin yung sakit eh gagawin natin db kasi ang ina ang unang nasasaktan sa mga ganito situation, but I guess no matter how difficult life sometimes we still thankful to God for each time na pinagkakaloob sa atin na makapiling ang ating mahal sa buhay especially our children….in time masasanay ka din sister in my case sa aming magkapatid ako lang ang single parent all of my siblings has a family of their own minsan pa nga pag pumupunta *** sa house ng sister ko pag kinakarga ng asawa nya yung baby nila gusto din magpakarga ng anak ko yung mga simple situation na ganun nakaka touch kasi nakikita ko na my son is longing for his father kahit di nya sabihin ( huhuhu ) lakas ng ulan sa labas parang nakikiramay sa mga nararamdaman natin hehehe…..well im hoping one day magkita kita naman tayo …Good luck to all single parent who is working so hard to raise their children to have a better life….Ingat 

[rudy_arete]

..Sobrang happy na ako and contented with my baby,pero just like everyone here, fear ko din yung time na mag-ask na sya about her father..and yung mga discrimation na maeexperience nya.. now pa lang 2x ng may nangyari na ganon sa knya eh..haay..next time na ulit, dami ko pa sana kwento kaso medyo mahaba na to eh.. Thanks to everyone here, you touched me and made me stronger with your stories.. Also to rudy, never thought someone like you exists..bihira for a guy kasi eh.. God bless to all of us.. Sana maging active ulit tong thread na to..

Thank you dear. But like what I always say, it was God's blessing. I didn't plan what happened to me but things kindda happened according to His plan. And sa mga nangyari, I learned to trust Him more and let go of any hatred that I had. For my daughter's sake.


I am also and OFW, pero sinama ko yung baby ko, at sinama ko din hipag ko to look after her when im at work.. di ko kasi kaya talaga na di sya kasama..tsaka gusto ko nasusubaybayan ko pa din paglaki nya.. wala naman na akong plan manghingi ng support sa father nya,pero naiisip ko minsan if lumaki laki na yung baby ko, dapat ko ba sya ipakilala sa father nya? there was this instance kasi na gusto ko maiyak, she is 1 yr old 4 months now, one time she said "papa", and she was with a 3 yr old girl..they were playing..tapos sabi ng 3 yr old girl sa baby ko, "wala kang papa".. medyo pasigaw pa.. sympre for my baby, di pa naman nya alam what papa means eh..talaga lang 1 yun sa first words nila..i didnt know then what to say..pero tagal ko syang pinag-isipan..at nabother talaga ako.. naisip ko lang kasi at least kahit walang kwenta yung papa nya,if makilala nya at least alam nya may papa sya..well, matagal pa naman yun..some of my insights lang.. siguro nga, i'll just cross the bridge when i get there..as of now, ineenjoy ko muna yung moments at bonding namin everyday.. Happy ako with my baby,wala akong regret that i have her and i am doing everything for her..ang regret ko lang is bakit sya pa yung naging father nya..and na hindi ko sya nabigyan ng father (he doesnt exist naman na kasi sa buhay namin)..
Well, life goes on.. Good luck to all of us..:)

Good for you dear. I'd say you're very good at what you do that you can afford to take your daughter with you and her yaya (IT expert or an Engineer?). I was hoping I could do the same but I have to think of my mother too. Mamimiss nya nag iisang apo nya.. :) Saka na lang siguro pag mas malaki na daughter ko.

Anyway, with regards to your trouble about your daughter's dad, I don't know what you had to endure with your relationship with him but the fact is, he is your daughter's dad. I would assume, because you had your daughter nga, that there was an instance, kahit saglit lang, that the guy was important to you. I don't know if I'm saying this just becaue I'm a guy too but for you to say that you regret that sya pa ang naging father nya sounds the same as saying bakit daughter mo pa ng naging anak mo. And never blame yourself or regret kung bakit di mo sya nabigyan ng dad.

Here's the thing dear, like in my case. Kahit gano kadami or kabigat kasalanan ng mother ng baby ko sa akin, I can't imagine myself passing the hatred and ill feelings to my dauther. I mean, i don't think it would do any good to let my daughter dwell on any bad idea about her mother becaue I believe it will eventually go back to her. I would rather let her realize that she has a mother who loves her but can't be with her and she has a father who loves her even more and will always be with her.

My daughter's mother already has a different family but I still let my daughter talk to her mom. She's only 2 yrs. old but, this early, I make her feel that she will never run out of people who love's her, regardless of these people are with her or not.

If you're worried that your daughter's dad is really irresponsible and of no use, you don't have to tell her that. I mean, children today are very perceptive and eventually, she will realize that on her own. But then again, you must be there to protect her and tell that her dad still loves her and you love her even more.

My advise dear, let go of any hate. You're blessed with a good career and you have the most beautiful person with you. What more can you ask for.

[rudy_arete]

isa pa po question...

How can i change the surname of my angels..currently they are using their fathers' kasi.. since we dont get any support from him(i dont even want to ask for it) i want them to use mine instead..

i may sound selfish pero i dont want him to see my kids.. or even communicate with them.. is anyone in here have violent reaction with this??

Pls..pls..pls..

I would assume you're not married to your angels dad. But sabi mo po, iniwan kayo nung biological father during your 2nd pregnancy. I would assume again na bumalik sya nung ipinanganak yung 2nd angel mo to sign at the acknowledgement sa likod nung birth certificate since nakapangalan din nga sa kanya yung 2nd child mo. Dahil kung hindi po sya nakasign sa acknowledgment sa likod ng birth certificate ng mga anak mo, hindi dapat nakapangalan sa kanya mga anak mo. Now, kung nakapirma po sya on both birth certificate you have several options to change your children's name. The first two options are not really fool proof, meaning baka magkaron ng problem in the future:
1)File for a petition for change of name - I'm not sure if the court will grant this since acknowledged nga yung bata. The court might ask for the consent of the father allowing the change of name.
2)File again your children's birth certificate - Mag fifile ka ng Late Registration of your kids na nakapangalan lang sayo and blank ang father's name. However, this is an irregular procedure or illegal since meron na nga silang dating birth cert. And this is risky because the father might sue kung bakit mo pinapalitan ang names without his consent.

The other option is about legitimation. This is better but could be more expensive and might take longer. The only way for you to change your children's surnames is to adopt your own children. Kahit malinaw naman na ikaw ang mother, you need to adopt your children to elevate their status from illigitimate to legitimate children. Kasama na po dun sa adoption proceedings ang change of name sa birth certificate. The only problem here is that you will need the father's consent to absolutely waive his rights. (please refer to my previous posts)

But then again dear, if your only motivation to change the name of your children is becaue you hate their father, please do think it over and over again. I don't think you'd want your children to grow up keeping the feeling of hate towards their father. They are your angels remember. You want them to be the beacon of love for you, their father and the rest of your family.

[ILoveMyLife]

well.. naisip ko n po na ilate register nalang sila..di n siguro mghahabol yung father kasi di naman po niya ginagampanan ang responsibility nya..so i assume wala na syang pakialam..

actually i dont want them to know or get any communication with their father.. maybe im still bitter to him, hate him.. i dont know..am i just being selfish..pero di nmn siguro. no one can judge me or can hate me kung bakit ganto ko..

despite the fact na ganito situation namin i can say na sobrang saya ko talaga and i thank my family, my angels and God for that..

well thanks po sa response..

[rudy_arete]

Hi rudy, mukahng marami kang alam ha. sige how about yung case ko I have been single mom twice and never married. Now, my question is, can my children get some support from their fathers even though we havent heard of them for a long time? I know where they live but I waited for them to volunteer to support their children to me but they seemed to have abandoned their obligations. Should I take this to legal action? should I waste my time para lang makakuha kaong financial support from them? payo naman o.

Nagbabasa lang po ako and constant consultation sa mga lawyers regarding my case. Anyway, about your case, definitely you or your children have the legal right to ask for support. Kung kasal po kayo nung biological father, the guy is obligated to support you and your children. Kung hindi naman po kayo kasal, the father is still required by law to support your children.

Since nabanggit mo naman po na you've already tried to communicate with the father and di ka naman pinansin, and you really want to demand support, you should take legal action. And like how it is described in the guidelines posted here by fellow pexters, you should find a good lawyer na tutulong sayo to send the demand letters and the petition for the request of support. If you can't afford to pay a laywer, meron naman po free legal assistance sa Public Attorney's Office sa lugar nyo. If you are qualified, you can avail of their services.

Other things to consider is yung acknowledgement nung mga anak mo. If their father signed at the back of their brith certificate, mas madali po to file the petition for support. But kung hindi po sya nakapirma and mag deny sya na sya ang tatay, pwede ka pa rin mag file ng petitoin but you will need to prove first that he is the father of your children.

Hello, thank you for your info. I think is your case on going? If you eon't mind, could you please share with me the copy of the demand letter you sent to the father of your child and if possible, could you also refer me to an attorney? My child has been abandoned by his biological father for almost 12 years. I tried to ask him tosupport his child but he said he is jobless. I didnt believe him but I did not pursue it anymore. Now, I think I should try and get back at him . My son will be in high school int woyears and he should get what is due him. I, have mixed feeligns however, that my son's father will take my son away from me. do I have some protection over it?


Yung lawyer po dapat gagawa nung demand letter. He/She should know kung pano format and kung pano dedetalye ang mga request mo pagdating sa amount ng support and extent ng rights nung father. You just have to tell your lawyer kung ano gusto mo mangyari and your laywer should discuss to you kung pwede yun or hindi. Depende din po kasi ang request for support sa kakayanan nung lalaki to support. I mean sa kinikita nya or sa mga ari arian nya. If he claims na wala sya trabaho, hindi po dahilan yun not to support your children. I mean, if he has properties, there are cases na the court will order na dun kunin ang pang support sa mga bata.

But then again, don't do it just because gusto mo po gumanti dun sa father ng mga anak mo. Believe me, it will just do more harm than good. If you do decide fo file the petition for support, do it because it's your children's right to have what are due to them. You do it for the sake of your children and not just to annoy the father.

With regard to your other worries na kukunin nung father mga anak mo, depende nga po kung kasal kayo or hindi. Kung hindi kayo kasal, custody of children ay nasa mother lang.

[sexy_bluegurl]

Originally Posted by rudy_arete
Thank you dear. But like what I always say, it was God's blessing. I didn't plan what happened to me but things kindda happened according to His plan. And sa mga nangyari, I learned to trust Him more and let go of any hatred that I had. For my daughter's sake.


That's good...that's also what i'm doing..i also consider my baby the greatest blessing i received from God..though i know for others they dont see it that way.. well, they were not in our shoes so they won't know and understand..

Originally Posted by rudy_arete
Good for you dear. I'd say you're very good at what you do that you can afford to take your daughter with you and her yaya (IT expert or an Engineer?). I was hoping I could do the same but I have to think of my mother too. Mamimiss nya nag iisang apo nya.. Saka na lang siguro pag mas malaki na daughter ko.


Im an IT person pero di naman expert.. :) yup, if ok naman kayo dyan, wag mo nga hiwalay kay lola nya ang baby mo.. ako kasi wala na ang parents ko eh.. so if iiwan ko sya, sa siblings ko.. i know di naman nila pababayaan baby ko,pero gusto ko talaga na kasama ko sya eh..

About my baby's father, i regret na sya naging father ng baby ko kasi nga he is not a good one pala...i lost my father kasi when i was so young pa, he passed away, pero at least nakilala at nakasama ko sya.. i know how hard it is na lumaki na walang father..though ako di ko naman naexperience un tukso tukso, kasi i had him naman.. for my daughter,it's different kasi from the start wala na syang father..the guy left me when i was 2 months pregnant pa lang..ng una pa lang na sinabi ko na pregnant ako sinabi nya ng he cant take the responsibility yet,(though before that eh nagpaplan na sya ng wedding),he even asked me to abort the baby, sympre ayaw ko.. he even denied na kanya un sa family nya..medyo complicated un story eh,,but that's to save his ***..he later admitted din naman, he said sorry to me and my baby sa mga ginawa nya..pero puro salita lang din..ni hindi sya nagattempt na puntahan kami.. before we left to go here, alam nya na paalis na kami, he was telling me na gusto nya makita at makasama baby ko and na sya pa din ang tatay ng baby ko pero like before puro salita lang..ni wala man lang effort.. alangan ako pa ang magdala sa kanya ng baby ko para magkita sila eh 4 months pa lang that time baby ko.. he didnt even attempt to call me then,,sinasabi nya lang yun kapag nakita nyang online ako sa ym.. so baka wala lang sya magawa that time..


wala na akong galit sa kanya... wala na akong nafifeel sa kanya na kahit ano..kapag nakikita ko sya now online sa ym, wala deadma na lang kami pareho..alam ko din na may bago na syang gf before(not sure if sila pa din eh), wala na din sakin.. ang concern ko lang now is my baby, but i cant deny the fact na **** ano gawin ko eh sya pa din ang father ng baby ko.. siguro nga if 1 day dumating yung time na feeling ko kailangan nila magkausap or kailangan sya makausap ng baby ko, baka ibaba ko din yung pride ko for my baby eh..yun nga lang kasi i dont even know if he even cares for her.. eversince kasi wala naman sya pinakita na concern..wala sya nagawa or nabigay na kahit ano for my baby (except sa sperm nya)..

HIndi ko din iniisip na siraan sya sa baby ko..i dont want my baby to hate him.. kasi hatred is not a good feeling.. i'm not thinking of him but of my baby.. magkakaron din kasi yun ng effect sa baby ko eh.. as of now di ko pa alam pano eexplain sa kanya lahat.. pero siguro i'll know it din when i am there na..

i never let a day pass without telling my baby how much i love her.. i know that's not enough to replace a father that i was not able to give her, pero sana that's enough to let her feel that even if she doesnt have a father, she has a mother naman who loves her above anyone and anything else and who will do everything and anything for her.. haay, ang sarap talaga ng may baby no? she is really my strength.. :)

[suomy01]

isa pa po question...

How can i change the surname of my angels..currently they are using their fathers' kasi.. since we dont get any support from him(i dont even want to ask for it) i want them to use mine instead..

i may sound selfish pero i dont want him to see my kids.. or even communicate with them.. is anyone in here have violent reaction with this??

Pls..pls..pls..

i'm not a single parent but i have friends n SP.
about changing their surnames and let them use yours against ako dito kasi atleast at some point alam nila nirecognized sila ng father nila.
pero sympre ikaw ang nanay ikaw pa rin masusunod.

[cmars2]

i'm not a single parent but i have friends n SP.
about changing their surnames and let them use yours against ako dito kasi atleast at some point alam nila nirecognized sila ng father nila.
pero sympre ikaw ang nanay ikaw pa rin masusunod.

It's the mother's choice.
My son was recognized by his father but 4 years na ang nakalipas ni hi ni ho wala so what's the use of taking care of a walang kwentang surname? I had my child's surname changed a few months ago, medyo magastos but all's worth it.
I kept the old papers (the father recognizing my child, etc.) para na rin malaman ng son ko kung ano yung mga nangyayari. Children deserve the truth.

[rudy_arete]

...
i never let a day pass without telling my baby how much i love her.. i know that's not enough to replace a father that i was not able to give her, pero sana that's enough to let her feel that even if she doesnt have a father, she has a mother naman who loves her above anyone and anything else and who will do everything and anything for her.. haay, ang sarap talaga ng may baby no? she is really my strength.. :)

True indeed.. i'm always at a state of bliss everytime my 2.5 yr. old princess smiles at me.. lalo na ngayon, naturuan ko na sya to say "love you daddy".. hehe.. she would blurt it out every once in a while.. :) like when i'm watching TV, fixing my things, while im cooking.. she'll just scream. love you daddy!! sarap di ba.. :)

[ILoveMyLife]

It's the mother's choice.
My son was recognized by his father but 4 years na ang nakalipas ni hi ni ho wala so what's the use of taking care of a walang kwentang surname? I had my child's surname changed a few months ago, medyo magastos but all's worth it.
I kept the old papers (the father recognizing my child, etc.) para na rin malaman ng son ko kung ano yung mga nangyayari. Children deserve the truth.

its true right?what's the use of taking care of a walang kwentang surname kung di manlang magparamdam ang loko diba?

Question po pano mo pinachange name ng baby mo?:confused:i want to change na kasi the name of my angel para before sya magschool ok na.;).thanks..

[pinaysweet]

what is about SOLO PARENT ID RA 8972??
Bago lang po ko dito..im also a single mom.. just want to know more about being a single mom...:bashful:

BENEFITS FOR SOLO PARENT RA 8972 the solo parent ID and to all working solo parent.
Employment related Benefits
 7 day Parental leave
 Flexible work schedule
 Protection against work discrimination
i have some info you can read backward some of the post sis hope this can help kasi ako im using it na :)

[ranmiyuaya]

BENEFITS FOR SOLO PARENT RA 8972 the solo parent ID and to all working solo parent.
Employment related Benefits
 7 day Parental leave
 Flexible work schedule
 Protection against work discrimination
i have some info you can read backward some of the post sis hope this can help kasi ako im using it na :)

masyadong mahaba na yung thread to read backward.

pano to inaapply?
anu requirements?

thanks! :)

[pinaysweet]

HI EVERYONE I JUST WANT TO SHARE THIS, HOPE THIS CAN HELP

REPUBLIC ACT NO. 8972 – SOLO PARENT

An Act providing for benefits and privileges to solo parents and their children.

Known as the “Solo Parent’s Welfare Act of 2000” , this Act was approved on November 7, 2000. It is the policy of the States to promote the family as the foundation of the nation, strengthen its solidarity and insure its total development. Towards this end, it shall develop a comprehensive program of service for solo parent and their children to be carried by government and non-government agencies.

SOLO PARENT

- Is any individual falls under any of the following categories:
• A woman who gives birth as a result of any other crimes against chastity even without a final conviction of the offender. Provided that the mother keeps and raises the child;
• Parent left solo or alone with the responsibility of parenthood….

 Due to death of spouse
 While the spouse is detained or is serving sentence for a criminal conviction for at least one (1)year
 Due to physical and / or mental incapacity of spouse as certified by a public medical practitioner\

WHERE CAN A SOLO PARENT GET THE SOLO PARENT IDENTIFICATION CARD ?

The solo parent identification card may be obtained from the municipal/social welfare and development office.

IS THE EMPLOYER REQUIRED TO PROVIDE PARENTAL LEAVE IN ADDITION TO ALREADY EXISTING SIMILAR BENEFITS UNDER A COMPANY POLICY OR CBA?

No, the same shall be credited as such.

IF THE SIMILAR BENEFITS I S GREATER THAN WHAT THE LAW PROVIDES, WHICH WILL PREVAIL ?

The greater benefits shall prevail.

IS EMERGENCY OR CONTINGENCY LEAVE UNDER A COMPANY POLICY OR CBA CONSIDER COMPLIANCE WITH THE LAW?

No, the same shall not be credited as compliance with the parental leave provided for under the act and these rules.
WHEN CAN A SOLO PARENT AVAIL OF PARENTAL LEAVE?

A solo parent may avail parental leave with pay in any of the following circumstances :

 When the child gets ill
 He / she needs to attend parent teacher association (PTA) meeting in school
 For enrollment purposes; or
 Other circumstances necessary in the performance of parental duties and responsibilities where there physical presence is required

ARE HOUSE HELPERS COVERED BY RA 8972 ANT THEREFORE MAY AVAIL OF THE 7 DAYS PARENTAL LEAVE ?

Yes, as long as he / she falls under the definition of a solo parents under Section 3 of RA 8972; and that he / she has rendered service of at least one (1) year.

FLEXIBLE WORK SCHEDULE

WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENCE TYPES OF FLEXIBLE WORK SCHEDULES ALLOWED BY DOLE POLICY ?

The following are flexible work schedule allowed by DOLE

Compressed Workweek – The workweek of 48 hours in six days is compressed for 5 days which is approximately 9.6 per day from Monday to Friday, without payments of overtime pay in exchange for an additional day of in a week, savings on transportation and meal expenses among other consideration.

Gliding Time Schedule – The schedule allows an employee to a flexible punch-in time i.e. from 7:00 am – 9:00 am and punch out after 8 hours of work.

Other flexible work arrangement as agreed upon by parties, provided the minimum requirements of the law are met.

WHEN CAN AN EMPLOYER PROVIDE FOR A FLEXIBLE WORK SCHEDULE FOR SOLO PARENTS?

An employer shall provide for flexible work schedule when requested by a solo parent employee provided the same shall not affect individual in company productivity.

CAN EMPLOYER REFUSE TO GRANT A REQUEST FOR A SOLO PARENT FOR A FLEXIBLE WORK SCHEDULE?

Yes, The employer may seek exemption for the DOLE Regional office having jurisdiction over the workplace provided it is bases on meritorious ground.

WORK DESCRIMINATION

CAN AN EMPLOYER DESCRIMINATE AGAINST AN EMPLOYEE ON ACCOUNT OF BEING A SOLO PARENT ?

No employer shall discriminated a solo parent employee with respect to terms and conditions of employment on account of his/her being a solo parent.

WHEN CAN THE SOLO PARENT BENEFITS BE TERMINATED?

A change in the status or circumstances of the parent claiming the benefits under the RA 8972 such that he/she is no longer left alone with the responsibility of parenthood, shall terminated his/her eligibility for this benefits




YOU CAN VISIT DSWD OFFICE NEAR YOUR PLACE

REQUIREMENTS

- Birth Certificate of child
- Affidavit / Notarty
- 1x1 picture (parent )
- Barangay Clearance
- Certificate of Employment (parent )

[planggacious]

lawyer in the house :) technically, am not a single parent, lalo na that my partner provides support as much as he can, but my partner & i are not married. (like some Pexers here, naka-petition kasi sya to the States.) we don't live together too. we have a 6 month old son & he's super adorable!

anyway, i'm bound by ethics not to "solicit" clients, but if you're looking for a lawyer and are seriously considering filing court proceedings for support, custody or change of name, PM me if you don't know any lawyer.

this thread is very interesting, pero para di masyadong hodgepodge, i suggest that we try to address legal concerns at the "LEGAL matters for single parents" thread. super dami na rin na-input ni rudy dun. :)

kudos to all!!! super hirap mag-alaga ng anak mag-isa... as in :) (my son's dad sees us on weekends lang kasi. haaay.)

[lonely_enahs]

That's good...that's also what i'm doing..i also consider my baby the greatest blessing i received from God..though i know for others they dont see it that way.. well, they were not in our shoes so they won't know and understand..



Im an IT person pero di naman expert.. :) yup, if ok naman kayo dyan, wag mo nga hiwalay kay lola nya ang baby mo.. ako kasi wala na ang parents ko eh.. so if iiwan ko sya, sa siblings ko.. i know di naman nila pababayaan baby ko,pero gusto ko talaga na kasama ko sya eh..

About my baby's father, i regret na sya naging father ng baby ko kasi nga he is not a good one pala...i lost my father kasi when i was so young pa, he passed away, pero at least nakilala at nakasama ko sya.. i know how hard it is na lumaki na walang father..though ako di ko naman naexperience un tukso tukso, kasi i had him naman.. for my daughter,it's different kasi from the start wala na syang father..the guy left me when i was 2 months pregnant pa lang..ng una pa lang na sinabi ko na pregnant ako sinabi nya ng he cant take the responsibility yet,(though before that eh nagpaplan na sya ng wedding),he even asked me to abort the baby, sympre ayaw ko.. he even denied na kanya un sa family nya..medyo complicated un story eh,,but that's to save his ***..he later admitted din naman, he said sorry to me and my baby sa mga ginawa nya..pero puro salita lang din..ni hindi sya nagattempt na puntahan kami.. before we left to go here, alam nya na paalis na kami, he was telling me na gusto nya makita at makasama baby ko and na sya pa din ang tatay ng baby ko pero like before puro salita lang..ni wala man lang effort.. alangan ako pa ang magdala sa kanya ng baby ko para magkita sila eh 4 months pa lang that time baby ko.. he didnt even attempt to call me then,,sinasabi nya lang yun kapag nakita nyang online ako sa ym.. so baka wala lang sya magawa that time..


wala na akong galit sa kanya... wala na akong nafifeel sa kanya na kahit ano..kapag nakikita ko sya now online sa ym, wala deadma na lang kami pareho..alam ko din na may bago na syang gf before(not sure if sila pa din eh), wala na din sakin.. ang concern ko lang now is my baby, but i cant deny the fact na **** ano gawin ko eh sya pa din ang father ng baby ko.. siguro nga if 1 day dumating yung time na feeling ko kailangan nila magkausap or kailangan sya makausap ng baby ko, baka ibaba ko din yung pride ko for my baby eh..yun nga lang kasi i dont even know if he even cares for her.. eversince kasi wala naman sya pinakita na concern..wala sya nagawa or nabigay na kahit ano for my baby (except sa sperm nya)..

HIndi ko din iniisip na siraan sya sa baby ko..i dont want my baby to hate him.. kasi hatred is not a good feeling.. i'm not thinking of him but of my baby.. magkakaron din kasi yun ng effect sa baby ko eh.. as of now di ko pa alam pano eexplain sa kanya lahat.. pero siguro i'll know it din when i am there na..

i never let a day pass without telling my baby how much i love her.. i know that's not enough to replace a father that i was not able to give her, pero sana that's enough to let her feel that even if she doesnt have a father, she has a mother naman who loves her above anyone and anything else and who will do everything and anything for her.. haay, ang sarap talaga ng may baby no? she is really my strength.. :)

hi sexy_blugurl

we were in the same both.....

hi im singlemom of a 5mos old baby boy


nde ko mapigilan maiyak habang binabasa ko yun post mo...

Dugo pa palang ang anak ko..itinangi na sya ng tatay niya...Ok lang sken kung itinangi nya ang masaket skin ay ang sbihin nyang LOW SPERM COUNT SYA AT PANU DAW SYA ANG MGGING TATAY..grabeh halos kulang na lang ikamatay ko ang sinabi nyang yun....OK...hinayaan ko sya...aftr ng mga ilang months nalaman ko kinasal sya iwas 5mos pregnant wen i heard that..and kaya *** sya ngpakasal kc my nabuntisan sya...walang araw nung buntis ako umiiyak ako *** sa anak ko..dahil naawa ako sa kanya....sinubukan kong mkipag usap sa kanya,mkipag ayus dhil ang iniisip ko sya prin ang tatay ng anak ko..ibaba ko ang pride kung kinakailangan...nahirapan ako sa pagbubuntis ko.....ngkabaon-baon ako sa utang dahil maselan ang pagbubuntis ako..naalala ko nun..ngkulang ako ng bill sa hospital....tinwagan ko sya..pero wala..wala syang puso...wala sya pkialam....

eto na 5mos na ang anak ko..ngtry prin ako...para sa anak ko..pinakita ko ang anak ko skanya....pumunta ako ng ofis dala ko ang anak ko...nagbasakali ako ng siguro kapg nakita nya ang anak ko..mgbago sya at tanggapin nya ang anak ko..ks sobrang mgkamukha sila ng anak ko..pro walang ngyari..halos pgtaguan nya kming mg ina....ok lang sken kung ako lang..pro nassktan kc ako para sa anak ko at naawa..


naiisip ko my ganon palang klseng tao..walang puso..walang awa...

IT DOES KARMA HAPPEN

[rudy_arete]

hi lonely_enahs,

You don't deserve to be treated that way dear. Nobody does.

And it's never a loss na kalimutan ang isang **** na katulad ng ex mo. I too believe in karma. So sana nagdadasal sya na hindi bumalik sa kanya ginawa nya.

You have your son with you. I believe that you are already very blessed that you are both fine now. Mahirap pero nakita mo naman po, madami tayo na kaya naman kahit nagiisa. In fact sometimes, mas masaya kasi buong buo na tayo lang love ng anak natin. Stop dwelling on any hatred na meron ka pa. Dwell on how much you love your son. And concentrate on those people na nagmamalasakit sa inyo ng anak mo (family, friends). I believe madami sila.

[amishu600]

hello to everyone...
sweetwahm referred me to this thread.. thanks.

single parent din.. its nice to know meron din dito katulad ko.
masakit dahil iniwan na kami ng walang kwentang lalaki na yun pero maswerte parin ako dahil naka support parin family ko sa akin.. at andun parin mga friends ko para mag advice..

nag start na ako mag move on.. dahil dito naaaliw ko sarili ko..

[pinaysweet]

hello to everyone...
sweetwahm referred me to this thread.. thanks.

single parent din.. its nice to know meron din dito katulad ko.
masakit dahil iniwan na kami ng walang kwentang lalaki na yun pero maswerte parin ako dahil naka support parin family ko sa akin.. at andun parin mga friends ko para mag advice..

nag start na ako mag move on.. dahil dito naaaliw ko sarili ko..

Hello Sis your very much welcome you can share us your opinion your innermost feeling and anything under the sun....take care and God bless :)

[momi_MJ]

hello mga sis!
good thing may ganitong thread dito, i can easily relate to...
im a single mom, baby ko going 1 year na this december... its hard to be alone, you have to be both parents to your child, but good thing though, my family and friends accept me and my daughter.

hayyyy....as what they say, try to move on..... :)

[yvetsky]

hello amishu600 and momi MJ welcome to the single parents thread :D

[mia_sp77]

hello everyone.:) i'm also a single mom and 11 yrs old na son ko. hirap talaga maging single parent. di nga ako makapaniwala na 11 yrs ko na tong kinakaya mag-isa :) anyway... i stumbled upon this thread and nakakatuwa naman to find others here na similar sa pinagdaanan ko. bilib ako sa ating lahat! sabi nga di ba being a parent is the hardest job in the world. e di pano pa sa atin na mag-isa lang natin tong ginagawa?! di ba? *okay*

[extremeload]

im not a single parent pero i got involve or i pursure kasi a single mom last last month.. and dun ko nareaalize the hardships they face plus yung hirap that they have to endure.. sabihin na natin meron sila excess baggage etc... pero for me i really salute those single parents out there working hard para sa mga anak nila i mean it really tumagos sa heart ko :) and wala lang just want to share :) pero i still feel for the child growing up without a father etc... but i think it's a good thing narin coz it will not do any good and might cause more harm..

[mia_sp77]

im not a single parent pero i got involve or i pursure kasi a single mom last last month.. and dun ko nareaalize the hardships they face plus yung hirap that they have to endure.. sabihin na natin meron sila excess baggage etc... pero for me i really salute those single parents out there working hard para sa mga anak nila i mean it really tumagos sa heart ko :) and wala lang just want to share :) pero i still feel for the child growing up without a father etc... but i think it's a good thing narin coz it will not do any good and might cause more harm..

it's really better that the child be raised in a home that is full of love even if there is only one parent than to have both parents in a home that is full of hatred and conflict...*okay* and it's better to view the child as a bonus rather than excess baggage :)

[thebluemystery]

me too, i actually pursue a single mom this year and with all the bad things other people say to single moms like those excess baggage and other stuffs i really didn't see it. What I saw is a real good mom working hard to raise her children although i feel sad kasi single mom siya but she has two babies and she's quite young so it's really hard talaga and i understand din a lot of things about them.. so hindi naman ganun kasama like what other people say.. that's why i don't understand why some people say negative things about them..

[sexy_bluegurl]

Kumusta na kaya mga tao dito..tagal ko na hindi nakadaan dito ah.. at muntik na naman ako maiyak sa posts ng 2 guys dito, hehe.. not everyone would understand single parents kasi..not everyone knows the hardships that they are going thru..ang palaging naiisip nila is negative things about them..

Originally Posted by mia_sp77
it's really better that the child be raised in a home that is full of love even if there is only one parent than to have both parents in a home that is full of hatred and conflict... and it's better to view the child as a bonus rather than excess baggage

i so much agree with this mia_sp77.. :)

Originally Posted by lonely_enahs
hi sexy_blugurl

we were in the same both.....

hi im singlemom of a 5mos old baby boy


nde ko mapigilan maiyak habang binabasa ko yun post mo...

Dugo pa palang ang anak ko..itinangi na sya ng tatay niya...Ok lang sken kung itinangi nya ang masaket skin ay ang sbihin nyang LOW SPERM COUNT SYA AT PANU DAW SYA ANG MGGING TATAY..grabeh halos kulang na lang ikamatay ko ang sinabi nyang yun....OK...hinayaan ko sya...aftr ng mga ilang months nalaman ko kinasal sya iwas 5mos pregnant wen i heard that..and kaya *** sya ngpakasal kc my nabuntisan sya...walang araw nung buntis ako umiiyak ako *** sa anak ko..dahil naawa ako sa kanya....sinubukan kong mkipag usap sa kanya,mkipag ayus dhil ang iniisip ko sya prin ang tatay ng anak ko..ibaba ko ang pride kung kinakailangan...nahirapan ako sa pagbubuntis ko.....ngkabaon-baon ako sa utang dahil maselan ang pagbubuntis ako..naalala ko nun..ngkulang ako ng bill sa hospital....tinwagan ko sya..pero wala..wala syang puso...wala sya pkialam....

eto na 5mos na ang anak ko..ngtry prin ako...para sa anak ko..pinakita ko ang anak ko skanya....pumunta ako ng ofis dala ko ang anak ko...nagbasakali ako ng siguro kapg nakita nya ang anak ko..mgbago sya at tanggapin nya ang anak ko..ks sobrang mgkamukha sila ng anak ko..pro walang ngyari..halos pgtaguan nya kming mg ina....ok lang sken kung ako lang..pro nassktan kc ako para sa anak ko at naawa..


naiisip ko my ganon palang klseng tao..walang puso..walang awa...

IT DOES KARMA HAPPEN

Tagal ko na palang utang *** sagot ko sayo lonely_enahs.. yeah, medyo may similarities un father ng anak natin..kaso kasi ako medyo ma-pride ako eh..never talaga ako nag-ask ng help from him..and never din ako lumapit sa kanya..ng time na medyo nagkagulo na kami at he denied it na eh pinabayaan ko na sya..it's his lost anyway..for me talaga wala syang right kahit konti sa baby ko kasi wala naman talaga sya nabigay for her, whether financial or not..pero if one day, my baby would ask for her father..i guess i will let her see him cause it's my baby's right..pero di ko muna iniiisip yun sa ngayon..ineenjoy ko muna yung bonding moments namin mag-mommy.. sobrang lambing nya na kasi.. every night na matutulog ako at kayakap sya, sobrang sarap sa pakiramdam..naiisip ko at alam ko that i really will do everything and anything for her..

sayo lonely_enahs, wag mo hayaan yun guy na yun na tratuhin ka ng ganon.. tapos pati pa sa baby mo ganon din treatment nya..for me kasi, kaya ko palagpasin un ganong treatment nya sakin, pero un gawin din pati sa baby ko na wala namang kinalaman at wala namang kamuwang muwang pa, yun ang iba na eh..i dont think i still can forgive him for that..kaya hayaan mo na sya..naprove mo ng kaya mo without him di ba..it's not easy i know pero kaya naman.. :) your baby will give you strength..for him you'll be able to do things you never thought you can..and prayers lang katapat nyan.. :)

[mia_sp77]

most of the time naman nagiging single moms dahil ayaw panindigan ng guy yung nangyari e. what happened to me was a little different. walang question na sya ang father and accepted naman niya. the problem was di pa sya financially stable nung time na nangyari so sobrang takot sya. e ako naman ready akong sumama sa kanya kahit na alam kong mahihirapan kami. ang lokong lalaki sabi ba naman sa kin: "Dyan ka na lang sa parents mo. Kaya ka naman nila alagaan e." Hay naku! From that time on, ni anino ko di na niya nakita. Itinago ko baby ko from him dahil sa sobrang hurt ko. Napalaki ko naman ng ok ang baby ko. He's now 11 years old. Pero 2 years ago na-meet na niya ang daddy nya. I have since forgiven the guy. Mas magaan ang feeling pag walang grudges na dinadala. And besides may family na rin naman siya and ako naman happy na sa son ko. Advice ko lang sa mga single moms na nagsisimula pa lang... pray lang kayo lagi. Walang tatalo sa power ng prayer. And learn to forgive. Sa simula parang ang hirap hirap i-forgive ng mga monster ex natin pero I assure you, when the time comes na you can honestly say na napatawad mo na siya... masarap ang feeling. And for now, focus na lang tayo sa mga baby natin. Worth it lahat ng pinagdadaanan natin dahil sa kanila... :)

[thebluemystery]

^^ yep i agree on that yung niligawan ko na girl before and a very good friend of mine right now ganyan nangyari although meron din kasi second party pero yun nga parang i just don't understand why there are people na gagawa ng angel or baby tapos hindi mapanindigan and ibibigay na lang lahat ng hiraap dun sa girl para palakihin yun bata..

pero i feel din dun sa friend ko na single mom coz there's a lot of guys right now running or pursuing her pero for the wrong reasons like parang easy daw siya since single mom etc.. so i always guide her mag ingat sa ganon although i know she's maingat naman sa ganon although mahirap na maging victim ulit siya.. sa side ko kasi.. im thankful i have a complete family and kahit complete i see na nag hihirap din and todo kayod parents namin para mapalaki kami ng maayos then pag nakakakita ako ng single parents and their child parang tagos sa heart or may tusok ng konti because kahit sabihin mo they will just be ok.. parang may kulang parin and that's the reality.. although this single parents will do the best they can para maging maayos buhay nila and sobrang bilib ako don.. :)

[yreyes]

hi guys, wow active nanaman pala ang thread na to, its been a long time since i visited..

rudy bka pde na natin ituloy ang eyball ng mga single parents in makati, what do you think?

[sexy_bluegurl]

Wow may EB..sayang di ako pwede sumama..rudy, ikaw yata ang organizer.. hehe..makikibalita na lang ako.. :)

[ILoveMyLife]

wow tagal nko di nakadaan dito..
its good to hear from the two guys yung point of view nila regarding single moms..di tulad dun sa isang thread na sobrang negative..

hayyy..because of this thread i got the chance to know someone (we became very good friends)

[pinaysweet]

Its been a long that I time since the last time I visit this thread, im busy preparing with our company Christmas Party and at the same time busy with my graduate studies. I pity those people who look down on us without realizing that we are trying our very best to provide a better life for our children. Its really true that CRUELTY CAN BE EXPECTED FOR THOSE WHO ARE WEAK .

I salute to all single parent who are trying their very best to take care of their children. People may look down on us but with God eyes I know he acknowledge the hardship that we are doing for the children that he entrusted on us. Cheers  I hope we can have time to get together one of this days.

Merry Christmas 

[rudy_arete]

hi guys, wow active nanaman pala ang thread na to, its been a long time since i visited..

rudy bka pde na natin ituloy ang eyball ng mga single parents in makati, what do you think?


oo bah! kayo lang naman ang mahirap ayusin ang sched.. ako naman eh nasa tabi tabi lang.. :)

Wow may EB..sayang di ako pwede sumama..rudy, ikaw yata ang organizer.. hehe..makikibalita na lang ako.. :)


di naman po, yung iba lang nga kasi dito eh masyado busy.. ako naman kahit busy, I would make time to meet people who can relate to our experiences.. :)

[yvetsky]

^ sana matuloy na nga EB...at makasama ako 1 month lang vacation ko eh, tapos kayod na naman dito sa Jakarta.

[yreyes]

rudy, cge na organize na ntin ang EB, gusto mo hati hati tyo, san area kba? ako kze i work in makati, **** simple dinner lang tyo...

mga single parents agree b kyo?

[rudy_arete]

Makati din lang po ako.. Malamang next year na po ang EB. This December kasi ay medyo nag uuwian na ang mga families na based sa province eh.. :) tsaka bakasyon na..

Merry Christmas sa lahat ng mga Single Moms!, Single Dads! at higit sa lahat.. sa buhay ng ating pasko.. sa ating mga anak. Dalangin ko ang higit pang biyaya, kaligayahan at lakas sa mga magulang na tumatayo bilang isang ama't ina at naway patuloy tayong maging matayog na sandalan ng ating mga anak...

[nemsis75]

confusing bc
gnito kc yun. 1996 my x-college bf came back and I told him im already pregnant with my bf that wont acknowledge my pregnancy.Actually gusto pa nga ng bf ko palaglag yung bby.so ito naman c x-college bf willing to acknowledge the bby. nung malapit na ang kabuwanan ko. ng pakasal kami sa west. so nung ngangak ako syempre pinakita nmin yng marriage cert to register yng bc ng bata. hndi p yata uso ang acknowledgement pirma sa likod ng papers. so naka surname s knya. but the thing is after how many months eh bigla ng iba isip nya. at hndi daw sya handa sa pinasok nya. so hndi na kami ng sama. sbi nya ggwa sya ng paraan ma-annul *** pero hanggang ngyon *** p rin. i checked nso marriage cert nmin *** nkasulat s side.
after 4yrs kailanggan na ng anak ko magaral eh ayoko at hndi ko mtake gmitin yung surname ng x-college ko. gumawa ako ng paraan n mglate registration sa ibng lugar gmit ang surname ko. kc ayoko nung hassle kpg kailanggan yng tatay s mga papers o pag ng abroad man kami.
so now 11yrs old na anak ko. plano namin magmigrate nxt year abroad. meron nagsabi s akin dpt ang gmit ng ank ko eh yng surname ng husband ko hilaw. dhl makikita ng immigration daw na married ako at dpt yung ank ko surname ng husband ko dpt gmit. ayaw ng anak ko gmitin yung surname na yun kc minsan hndi namn nya nksma.
so ngyon ano ba dapat gawin ko. actually meron na passport ang ank ko gmit ang surname nya.nakapag apply n nga sya ng visa sa states pero ng expire dhl ngkasakit sya d nakaalis. sa school yun surname ko ang gamit.
litong lito na ako kung d *** kc nagisip ng mabuti ito c x-college d sna hndi ng kagulo ang buhay nmin.
*** will i do. dpt ba pagamit ko sa ank ko yung bc na una na surname ng ex ko na hndi sya yung biological father alam **** nya na hndi sya yung biological? nxt ****** will i do doon sa 2nd cert? how abt doon sa passport,visa records, school record? I really need help. *** kami gunun kalaki budget for madaming process.

[silver_rose17_0]

accidentally show this thread while searching for FAQS regarding the RA 8972...
i'm glad fate has lead me here...
its nice to know dat i'm not alone in this situation i am in..

btw..im fiona.. 22.. and a single mom for nearly 2 years now..

hoping to be ur friend...

[motherof3]

I am separated for 4 years and with 3 children - 11, 7 and 4.

I came from a conservative catholic family and in my family, there are few separations...mabibilang pa sa isang kamay at kasama na ako don..hehehe! The oldies in the family would rather succumb to domestic violence than separation - for the kids daw!

As a catholic, I attend sunday masses regularly and so with my children. This tradition and devotion have stressed me so much because catholic church advocates solid marriages and particularly women's role and patience in marriage. What I always ask myself, why can't they not preach abuse and domestic violence in the home and the church's stands on separation due to these so I won't feel the guilt of tugging the rug off our feet.

My kids are ok because I look ok. I tried to be friends with their father and forgave him for our past. I always believe it takes two to tango, so I also take the blame.

Now, I am trying to enter into another relationship but the guilt of being separated is still haunting me. The fear also of the kids blaming my new bf is scaring me too. My son thinks that if I have a bf, I am not giving his father another chance.

[motherof3]

I am separated for 4 years and with 3 children - 11, 7 and 4.

I came from a conservative catholic family and in my family, there are few separations...mabibilang pa sa isang kamay at kasama na ako don..hehehe! The oldies in the family would rather succumb to domestic violence than separation - for the kids daw!

As a catholic, I attend sunday masses regularly and so with my children. This tradition and devotion have stressed me so much because catholic church advocates solid marriages and particularly women's role and patience in marriage. What I always ask myself, why can't they not preach abuse and domestic violence in the home and the church's stands on separation due to these so I won't feel the guilt of tugging the rug off our feet.

My kids are ok because I look ok. I tried to be friends with their father and forgave him for our past. I always believe it takes two to tango, so I also take the blame.

Now, I am trying to enter into another relationship but the guilt of being separated is still haunting me. The fear also of the kids blaming my new bf is scaring me too. My son thinks that if I have a bf, I am not giving his father another chance.

[luluv]

hi single parents!:) newbie rin ako,and single mom-to-be.:) from what i read here,pare-pareho tayo ng sentiments for our kids (in my case,kid-to-be) but i know we will be able to make it through together..regardless kung may partners tayo or wala,kayang-kaya natin ito.

[DELISYUS]

in case you're interested, am sure you'll benefit from this

basic parenting skills seminar (http://www.hthyou.com/2009/01/basic-parenting-skills-seminars.html)

[keempoy]

hi to all single moms:D

this is a chance to express yourself, roam around, and have fun.

ENJOY:D

[whiskeysugar]

thanks for dis thread.....:rotflmao::rotflmao::rotflmao:
........i'm a single mom,too..masaya na mahirap!!:lol::love::lol:..

[watzupwidju]

ako ill be a single mom in a months time!

[pinaysweet]

Happy Valentines sa lahat ng single parent ..... goodluck sa my mga date :) God bless.

[marC16]

:bashful:hello to all single parents po... newbie here... I've been a single parent since 2000.... pwede po ba ako maki sali ? ;)

[whiskeysugar]

helloo po sa lahat ng single parents..

single parent din po ako since the day na hindi ako pinanagutan ng tatay ng baby ko...well,sabi nga nila life must go on at tsaka masaya na mahirap ang maging single mom lalo na pag lumaking maganda,mabait,at bibo ang anak mo.nawawala lahat ng hinanakit mo sa mundo..it seems that after all the heartaches that you've been through hindi ko nga na imagne paano ko nalagpasan lahat ng nangyari sa buhay namin but i really thank God na nakabangon ako at eto patuloy na nabubuhay with my cute angel..most of all it's the most fulfilling feeling na naranasan ko..my daughter really makes me complete..

sa lahat ng single parents!!be proud!!!..at sa lahat ng nangangailangan ng justice doon sa rights ng baby sa father nya..pakibasa po ng thread about sa "legal matters for single parents"...

[whiskeysugar]

get to know the law(RA 8972)

..well,napaka beneficial na law na 'to.nakapag avail na po ako nito at so far walang problema sa company namin acknowledge po naman nila kasi government mandated po eto..

at tsaka add po niyo ako sa friends list ninyo..:bashful::bashful:

a single mom here in cebu...pm ninyo ako ha..:mecry::mecry:

[momosh]

i'm a single mom myself.. pero *** difference is that ako *** umayaw sa biological dad ng baby ko. pinag-isipan ko yun ng todo; sobrang daming valid reasons why i chose not to marry him, even though he already asked.

in any case, i am still happy with the decision i made. two months na *** baby ko na hindi man lang siya nagparamdam but it doesn't matter. we now have someone else who takes good care of us both. from the very start (nung nasa tiyan ko pa lang *** baby), sobrang minahal niya na kami ng baby and hanggang ngayon, he constantly makes us feel na mahal na mahal niya kame pareho.

because of him, i don't feel like a single parent at all..

[laineybogz]

hi, momosh!

me, too! i chose to be a single mom :) although, unlike you, im still in the "exclusively dating" phase. haha! he has met my baby na and boy, they sure like each other :) hay... the possibilities... :)

i've been a single mom for a year and 5 months na pala :)

hello to all!

[rochelle.fuerte]

hi guys, im a newbie too.. :)
can i joined this group.. just want to know your ideas and insights about being single a mom.. thank you. :)

[althea_beatrice]

elo everyone.. am a newbie too.. i hope you can help me by sharing your stories and experiences being single moms..

i think im pregnant.. :(

and i dont know what to do..
auko malamn ng bf ko to kase nafoforesee ko na di siya mgiging mabuting asawa at ama.. :( sad to say but lately.. nakikita ko na di siya marunong gumalang sa mga babae.. :(

auko din malamn ng parents ko kase magagalit sila at auko naman isumpa nila ako..

anu ba tmang gwin.. i hope you can share with me your thoughts.. thank you girls..

i hope someone out there will care to text me.. 639228946570.. badly needed someone to talk too about this matter..


god bless!!

[whiskeysugar]

elo everyone.. am a newbie too.. i hope you can help me by sharing your stories and experiences being single moms..

i think im pregnant.. :(

and i dont know what to do..
auko malamn ng bf ko to kase nafoforesee ko na di siya mgiging mabuting asawa at ama.. :( sad to say but lately.. nakikita ko na di siya marunong gumalang sa mga babae.. :(

auko din malamn ng parents ko kase magagalit sila at auko naman isumpa nila ako..

anu ba tmang gwin.. i hope you can share with me your thoughts.. thank you girls..

i hope someone out there will care to text me.. 639228946570.. badly needed someone to talk too about this matter..


god bless!!

hi,welcome to the group..it's your choice pero dapat malaman din ng guy yung situation mo kung hindi pa siya ready na panagutan mo,well,pwede naman ninyong pag usapan ang suporta na maibibigay niya sa bata..ako ayoko talaga na walang magisnan na tatay ang anak ko but yung tatay na ang umayaw sa responsibility eh.masakit but i'm trying to move on sabi nga nila at tsaka dapat mo rin sabihin sa parents mo but be prepared kung ano yung maging reactions nila,im sure magagalit sila sa una but later on maintindihan ka rin nila at huwag kalimutan mas makapangyarihan ang Diyos sa lahat at hindi niya tayo pababayaan..based po iyan sa experience ko,hinarap ko yung problema at never akong sumuko kasi ginawa ko nga un eh at never ka mag isip ng negative,isipin mo yung baby mo walang kasalanan..at tsaka if you are not ready to get married doon sa father ng baby mo ok lang yan,kasi hirap naman pag pilitin nating makisama sa tao na ayaw na natin dahil lang sa situation..

at tsaka magbasa ka ng thread about "legal matters for single parents",it will help you a lot regarding kung ano ang dapat gawin when it comes to legal ways..


don't worry too much,makakasama sa baby mo yan..basta kaya mo yan..
anyways,i can be a friend..eto no. ko..09219842261.itetext na lang kita mamaya..iniwan ko kasi cp sa bahay,dito me work ngayon..

at tsaka mag pa test ka muna or consult an ob-gyne to make sure na buntis ka nga.

open ka din ng mga sites about motherhood,or being a single mom..ano ba yong mga advantages at disadvantages doon sa bata at sa iyo..try mo (www.drphil.com)..maraming mga life experiences dun na makakarelate tayo..

pray hard!!!

[althea_beatrice]

hi,welcome to the group..it's your choice pero dapat malaman din ng guy yung situation mo kung hindi pa siya ready na panagutan mo,well,pwede naman ninyong pag usapan ang suporta na maibibigay niya sa bata..ako ayoko talaga na walang magisnan na tatay ang anak ko but yung tatay na ang umayaw sa responsibility eh.masakit but i'm trying to move on sabi nga nila at tsaka dapat mo rin sabihin sa parents mo but be prepared kung ano yung maging reactions nila,im sure magagalit sila sa una but later on maintindihan ka rin nila at huwag kalimutan mas makapangyarihan ang Diyos sa lahat at hindi niya tayo pababayaan..based po iyan sa experience ko,hinarap ko yung problema at never akong sumuko kasi ginawa ko nga un eh at never ka mag isip ng negative,isipin mo yung baby mo walang kasalanan..at tsaka if you are not ready to get married doon sa father ng baby mo ok lang yan,kasi hirap naman pag pilitin nating makisama sa tao na ayaw na natin dahil lang sa situation..

at tsaka magbasa ka ng thread about "legal matters for single parents",it will help you a lot regarding kung ano ang dapat gawin when it comes to legal ways..


don't worry too much,makakasama sa baby mo yan..basta kaya mo yan..
anyways,i can be a friend..eto no. ko..09219842261.itetext na lang kita mamaya..iniwan ko kasi cp sa bahay,dito me work ngayon..

at tsaka mag pa test ka muna or consult an ob-gyne to make sure na buntis ka nga.

open ka din ng mga sites about motherhood,or being a single mom..ano ba yong mga advantages at disadvantages doon sa bata at sa iyo..try mo (www.drphil.com)..maraming mga life experiences dun na makakarelate tayo..

pray hard!!!

thank you ms. whiskey sugar.. salamat sa support.. hirap ng wala akong mapagsabihan ni isa mang kaibigan or kamag anak kase natatakot me sa sasabhin nila.. nagstart ako magbrowse sa net kase nga naghihinala na me na buntis ako.. at aun im being bloated, delayed menstrual flow, and my breasts are getting bigger thatn usual.. :(

natatakot ako magtest eh.. :( di ko alam kung anu ggwin ko kapag kinonfirm n buntis ako.. pero gusto ko din patingin sa doctor.. kase baka buntis nga ako.. may magwa akong di tama for the baby or makain.. may mairerefer ka bang OB.. nagwowork ako dito sa makati.. sana yung mabait na OB..

ang hirap nito.. ala me talaga ako alam sa mga gnitong bagay.. so clueless :(

again thank you very much sa support.. sobrang naapreciate ko po ito.. godbless you po..

[laineybogz]

hi, sis althea_beatrice!

first and foremost, please do a pregnancy test. there is no reason worrying about it if you haven't confirmed that it's really there.

once you've confirmed it, let's see what we can do. :)

[rudy_arete]

Hi everyone, I missed this thread. Been busy trying to keep up with the questions regarding legal matters. To the newcomers, I think everyone is welcome naman in this thread. Ako nga nakisali na rin kahit dalawa lang ata kami na single dad dito. So welcome!

It seems a lot of us, single parents, are now familiar or looking at the benefits of RA 8972 (or Solo Parent Act of 2000). I’ve actually used it myself but my company is yet to approve my request to avail of the additional 7 days leave and the flexible work time. My company is not familiar with such law so they have to review it first. Baka naghahanap pa ng palusot. Anyway, I’m thinking of maybe we could advocate na dagdagan pa ang benefits covered by RA 8972 like having discounts that the senior citizens have. I’ve read it somewhere that there is already a demand for such benefits to be included in RA 8972. So if anyone has any idea or info on these, please update this thread from time to time.

With regards to our EB na hindi na matuloy tuloy, I think there are some here who would appreciate to talk to fellow single parents in person, specially althea_Beatrice. Maybe our single moms here should make her realize that if in case she is indeed pregrant, she doesn’t have to go through it alone. She needs all the support she can have. From parents, friends and us maybe.

I’m really happy that we have single parents here like momosh and laineybogz who have found or tries to find “someone” they can really depend on. Someone their little angels can really look up to as the “better half”. Happy for you guys. But yeah, be careful this time kasi if we mess up again, hindi lang tayo ang masasaktan na, we have kids who would be heartbroken if after the “getting to know you” phase of a candidate stepfather, it will turn out na he’s one of those guys who are just having fun lang pala. We are in a difficult situation so Goodluck to us! J

As for me, yes, I too am in the look for a God given lady who would love to be a stepmother to my beautiful daughter. But for now, I’m thankful enough to be privileged with the sweetest 3 yr old who wouldn't go to sleep at night unless she has my belly or arms as her pillow.

[althea_beatrice]

hi, sis althea_beatrice!

first and foremost, please do a pregnancy test. there is no reason worrying about it if you haven't confirmed that it's really there.

once you've confirmed it, let's see what we can do. :)

Hi Ms. Laineybogz, thank you verymuch for the support.. im building up the courage to take the test.. its hard for a first timer like me and im really scared.. :(.. dont have that enough confidence..

Im inspired by this thread.. if ever im pregnant.. i want to be like you guys.. strong willed and tough..

to Mr. Rudy_Arete, thank you very much.. i was raised by my dad.. (my parents seperated when i was so young that i even cant remember it..) and i hope na sana lahat ng ama katulad mo.. :)

thank you guys for all the support.. it really helps me a lot.. god bless everyone..

[whiskeysugar]

thank you ms. whiskey sugar.. salamat sa support.. hirap ng wala akong mapagsabihan ni isa mang kaibigan or kamag anak kase natatakot me sa sasabhin nila.. nagstart ako magbrowse sa net kase nga naghihinala na me na buntis ako.. at aun im being bloated, delayed menstrual flow, and my breasts are getting bigger thatn usual.. :(

natatakot ako magtest eh.. :( di ko alam kung anu ggwin ko kapag kinonfirm n buntis ako.. pero gusto ko din patingin sa doctor.. kase baka buntis nga ako.. may magwa akong di tama for the baby or makain.. may mairerefer ka bang OB.. nagwowork ako dito sa makati.. sana yung mabait na OB..

ang hirap nito.. ala me talaga ako alam sa mga gnitong bagay.. so clueless :(

again thank you very much sa support.. sobrang naapreciate ko po ito.. godbless you po..

nagtext me sa'** doon sa number na pinost mo dito.wel,i'm base in cebu.at tsaka pwede ka rin naman bumili ng pregnancy kit sa mga drugstore or maghanap ng clinic diyan sa area mo para ma confirm if pregnant ka nga and hindi naman need na mahal ang mga check up ,ako nga sa baranggay health center lang ako pumupunta kasi nga at that time wala rin me work.or pwede rin sa clinic ng company ninyo at huwag kang matakot na malaman ng iba..bakit pakialam ba nila?di ba,buhay mo yan eh,ikaw mgpapasiya at sana huwag ka magkaisip ng masamang gagawin jan sa dinadala mo..
at tsaka nanganak nga rin lang ako sa lying in clinic dito sa munisipyo namin..basta isipin mo yong anak mo,na hindi siya dapat maapektuhan kay huwag ka dapat mag worry too much,i know it's hard pero malalampasan mo rin yan,bsta maganda ang intention mo sa bata.
try to contact yong father ng bata,it takes two to tango di ba..huwag mo rin sarilinin ang problema mo..

i'm hoping sana na magreply ka sa text ko..

Godbless!!!

[whiskeysugar]

Hi everyone, I missed this thread. Been busy trying to keep up with the questions regarding legal matters. To the newcomers, I think everyone is welcome naman in this thread. Ako nga nakisali na rin kahit dalawa lang ata kami na single dad dito. So welcome!

It seems a lot of us, single parents, are now familiar or looking at the benefits of RA 8972 (or Solo Parent Act of 2000). I’ve actually used it myself but my company is yet to approve my request to avail of the additional 7 days leave and the flexible work time. My company is not familiar with such law so they have to review it first. Baka naghahanap pa ng palusot. Anyway, I’m thinking of maybe we could advocate na dagdagan pa ang benefits covered by RA 8972 like having discounts that the senior citizens have. I’ve read it somewhere that there is already a demand for such benefits to be included in RA 8972. So if anyone has any idea or info on these, please update this thread from time to time.

With regards to our EB na hindi na matuloy tuloy, I think there are some here who would appreciate to talk to fellow single parents in person, specially althea_Beatrice. Maybe our single moms here should make her realize that if in case she is indeed pregrant, she doesn’t have to go through it alone. She needs all the support she can have. From parents, friends and us maybe.

I’m really happy that we have single parents here like momosh and laineybogz who have found or tries to find “someone” they can really depend on. Someone their little angels can really look up to as the “better half”. Happy for you guys. But yeah, be careful this time kasi if we mess up again, hindi lang tayo ang masasaktan na, we have kids who would be heartbroken if after the “getting to know you” phase of a candidate stepfather, it will turn out na he’s one of those guys who are just having fun lang pala. We are in a difficult situation so Goodluck to us! J

As for me, yes, I too am in the look for a God given lady who would love to be a stepmother to my beautiful daughter. But for now, I’m thankful enough to be privileged with the sweetest 3 yr old who wouldn't go to sleep at night unless she has my belly or arms as her pillow.

yes,i agree with u mr rudy..need talaga ni althea_beatriz ng mga friends someone na nakakarelate sa kanya,unfortunately nasa cebu kasi ako nakabase eh..but nagtext na me sa kanya doon sa number na pinost niya dito,i'm hoping na magreply siya,and sana sa mga single mom jan na malapit lang kay althea_beatriz sana mag EB kayo jan..

more power!!!

[whiskeysugar]

Hi everyone, I missed this thread. Been busy trying to keep up with the questions regarding legal matters. To the newcomers, I think everyone is welcome naman in this thread. Ako nga nakisali na rin kahit dalawa lang ata kami na single dad dito. So welcome!

It seems a lot of us, single parents, are now familiar or looking at the benefits of RA 8972 (or Solo Parent Act of 2000). I’ve actually used it myself but my company is yet to approve my request to avail of the additional 7 days leave and the flexible work time. My company is not familiar with such law so they have to review it first. Baka naghahanap pa ng palusot. Anyway, I’m thinking of maybe we could advocate na dagdagan pa ang benefits covered by RA 8972 like having discounts that the senior citizens have. I’ve read it somewhere that there is already a demand for such benefits to be included in RA 8972. So if anyone has any idea or info on these, please update this thread from time to time.

With regards to our EB na hindi na matuloy tuloy, I think there are some here who would appreciate to talk to fellow single parents in person, specially althea_Beatrice. Maybe our single moms here should make her realize that if in case she is indeed pregrant, she doesn’t have to go through it alone. She needs all the support she can have. From parents, friends and us maybe.

I’m really happy that we have single parents here like momosh and laineybogz who have found or tries to find “someone” they can really depend on. Someone their little angels can really look up to as the “better half”. Happy for you guys. But yeah, be careful this time kasi if we mess up again, hindi lang tayo ang masasaktan na, we have kids who would be heartbroken if after the “getting to know you” phase of a candidate stepfather, it will turn out na he’s one of those guys who are just having fun lang pala. We are in a difficult situation so Goodluck to us! J

As for me, yes, I too am in the look for a God given lady who would love to be a stepmother to my beautiful daughter. But for now, I’m thankful enough to be privileged with the sweetest 3 yr old who wouldn't go to sleep at night unless she has my belly or arms as her pillow.

update po regarding that law,share ko lang po baka wala pa kayong idea..
kasi noong una ako nga avail nito last year hindi pa nila need ang baranggay clearance,ngayon po need na nila..dati po kasi company id lang at birth certificate ng bata..at tsaka every year po irerenew yong card,10 pesos nga po bayad dito sa munisipyo namin.
..i enjoy this benefits kasi 7 days leave..hehehe,but need pa approval ng supervisor or manager but thankful naman ako sa company ko kasi wala namang problema ang law na eto sa kanila.

[laineybogz]

hi, althea_beatrice!

i know it takes a lot to go to a drugstore to but a p.t. kit (buy at least 2 kits pala.... or better yet, go to a polyclinic so it's more accurate). you need to do it anyway, right? the sooner, the better, so that we may know how to help you din agad. :)

be brave, dear. be strong. you owe it to yourself to be just that. :) worrying without confirming it will just keep you at the edge of your seat and it will eventually exhaust you emotionally.

[althea_beatrice]

hi, althea_beatrice!

i know it takes a lot to go to a drugstore to but a p.t. kit (buy at least 2 kits pala.... or better yet, go to a polyclinic so it's more accurate). you need to do it anyway, right? the sooner, the better, so that we may know how to help you din agad. :)

be brave, dear. be strong. you owe it to yourself to be just that. :) worrying without confirming it will just keep you at the edge of your seat and it will eventually exhaust you emotionally.

thank you ms.laineybogz.. napgdesisyunan ko na din po na sundin *** payo.. later po after office.. bili na ko.. sana po pagdasal ninyo po ako.. :(

whatever the results.. sana po mapanindigan ko.. im praying to god na bigyan Niya po ako ng maraming lakas ng loob..

Mixed emotions nararamdaman ko.. nagwoworry na naeexcite..
if ever na im really pregnant.. itutuloy ko po ito.. i'll try to be the best person that i can be for my baby.. if ever na meron.. thank you po ms. laineybogs.. sobrang nauuplift *** spirits ko because of this thread.. thank you po ulit..

[althea_beatrice]

nagtext me sa'** doon sa number na pinost mo dito.wel,i'm base in cebu.at tsaka pwede ka rin naman bumili ng pregnancy kit sa mga drugstore or maghanap ng clinic diyan sa area mo para ma confirm if pregnant ka nga and hindi naman need na mahal ang mga check up ,ako nga sa baranggay health center lang ako pumupunta kasi nga at that time wala rin me work.or pwede rin sa clinic ng company ninyo at huwag kang matakot na malaman ng iba..bakit pakialam ba nila?di ba,buhay mo yan eh,ikaw mgpapasiya at sana huwag ka magkaisip ng masamang gagawin jan sa dinadala mo..
at tsaka nanganak nga rin lang ako sa lying in clinic dito sa munisipyo namin..basta isipin mo yong anak mo,na hindi siya dapat maapektuhan kay huwag ka dapat mag worry too much,i know it's hard pero malalampasan mo rin yan,bsta maganda ang intention mo sa bata.
try to contact yong father ng bata,it takes two to tango di ba..huwag mo rin sarilinin ang problema mo..

i'm hoping sana na magreply ka sa text ko..

Godbless!!!

hi ms.whiskeysugar.. unfortunately po ala me nareceive na text yesterday pero i did text you asap na mabasa ko *** replies mo this morning..

magtetest na po ako.. later bibili na me.. kinakabahan ako sobra..
pero i'll try to be brave para magawa to.. may point din si ms. laineybogz.. watever the results of the test will just prove *** mga hinala ko..

you know what.. mejo nagiging ok na pkiramdam ko kase nasasabi ko tong mga nararamdaman ko.. nailalabas ko *** mga bagay na di ko masabi sa mga kaibigan at kamag anak ko..

im afraid hindi magiging maganda pagtanggap nila mama sa sitwasyon ko if ever na pregnant ako.. *** ate ko kase naging single mom din ** kase di naman sila kasal nung asawa nia at iniwan na sila..currently kase ako breadwinner ng family namin.. ang hirap nga kase hiwalay parents ko kaya dalawa *** sinusuportahan ko *****..

kaya malaking bagay *** may napapagsabihan ako ng mga ganito.. thank you guys.. and thank you to this thread..

[laineybogz]

yupyup! so go na! :) test na asap. :)

[whiskeysugar]

hi ms.whiskeysugar.. unfortunately po ala me nareceive na text yesterday pero i did text you asap na mabasa ko *** replies mo this morning..

magtetest na po ako.. later bibili na me.. kinakabahan ako sobra..
pero i'll try to be brave para magawa to.. may point din si ms. laineybogz.. watever the results of the test will just prove *** mga hinala ko..

you know what.. mejo nagiging ok na pkiramdam ko kase nasasabi ko tong mga nararamdaman ko.. nailalabas ko *** mga bagay na di ko masabi sa mga kaibigan at kamag anak ko..

im afraid hindi magiging maganda pagtanggap nila mama sa sitwasyon ko if ever na pregnant ako.. *** ate ko kase naging single mom din ** kase di naman sila kasal nung asawa nia at iniwan na sila..currently kase ako breadwinner ng family namin.. ang hirap nga kase hiwalay parents ko kaya dalawa *** sinusuportahan ko *****..

kaya malaking bagay *** may napapagsabihan ako ng mga ganito.. thank you guys.. and thank you to this thread..

ok lang yan..napagdaanan ko rin yan,ang masakit kasi yong feeling na parang na dissappoint natin parents natin kasi nga tayo lang ang inaasahan,but naging napaka blessed ng buhay namin mula ng dumating yong baby ko,kasi nagbago na father ko(dati kasi lasiggero sobra)but now,tuwang tuwa sa apo niya siya kasi tagabantay eh..at tsaka hindi na umiinom ng alak..:lol::lol:

bsta kaya mo yan!!

[MissLana]

Hi guys! Just wanted to seek out some advice about my ex.

Well, many many years ago I left my ex when I was pregnant because he was and still is the epitome of a bad boy. He had so many problems legally, mentally, financially and had so many strings attached. Also there were times I felt he was taking me for granted so I needed to make a wise decision if I should stay with this man or not and have my child subjected to his lifestyle. I moved oveseas here in Europe where my family is, to settle and start a new life as a single mother. I continued school, have a stable life and I would say is in a very secure place.

When I decided to leave, he couldn’t believe it and was trying to be a man to suck it all up. He couldn't really do much cuz my family does not like him. When I left, we were in touch for awhile until he started dating countless women and doing more crazy stuff. I was planning to come back to Manila to reunite with him until all the crazy issues with him happened.

So I decided to cut the communication cold turkey…changed all my contact information. For 3 long years I was deadma and pretty much moved on. Eventhough I left, I still I had to suck up all the feelings I had and keep all the pain I had inside. I heard so many stories about him through my friends that he’s still doing bad and repulsive things and has not resolved any of his legal problems. Didn’t really affect me much anymore because I knew I was in the right path.

I came back to visit Manila a year and a half ago and by fate, we ran into each other at a bar. OMG…he was the last person I ever thought of seeing. He was in shock as well and he could not believe I was there. I simply said hi and walked away. He ran after me, wanted to talk and needed me by his side. It was too late, I left the next day. He was searching for me through friends and tried to find my contact number. I felt our meeting was a sign that we needed to communicate again—because he we have a child together that he has not yet met.

One day I e-mailed him and he was so HAPPY to hear from me as in
the bad boy suddenly became a softee. He has been through a lot (went downhill) according to him, since I left him. He said he regrets not asking me to stay and for the times he took me for granted…all because he was trying to be a “man”. Basically, he wants us to always be in touch and regards me as “the best woman he has ever been with”. Of course I regarded that as pure BS! I guess its true because we didn’t really fight and we understood each other in a certain level. We were complete opposites, so there was balance.

2 years later today, we still keep in touch. He calls me frequently, talks to his son who is now 6 years old….but he has not met him yet since we are here in Europe. It seems that the more we talk, the more we miss each other. When I think about it, six years have come and go so fast with a lot of feelings that were bottled up inside. We’re friends now, but we still love each other. He has dated a lot of girls since I left and pretty much used a lot of them. I only dated one guy out here, but not serious since I am focusing on my education and my son.

I am suppose to go visit Manila again this summer….but I am so nervous to see him. I still miss him a lot, but I don’t know if I should trust him. He wants to see us so much and meet his son. What should I do?!

[ranmiyuaya]

Hi guys! Just wanted to seek out some advice about my ex.

Well, many many years ago I left my ex when I was pregnant because he was and still is the epitome of a bad boy. He had so many problems legally, mentally, financially and had so many strings attached. Also there were times I felt he was taking me for granted so I needed to make a wise decision if I should stay with this man or not and have my child subjected to his lifestyle. I moved oveseas here in Europe where my family is, to settle and start a new life as a single mother. I continued school, have a stable life and I would say is in a very secure place.

When I decided to leave, he couldn’t believe it and was trying to be a man to suck it all up. He couldn't really do much cuz my family does not like him. When I left, we were in touch for awhile until he started dating countless women and doing more crazy stuff. I was planning to come back to Manila to reunite with him until all the crazy issues with him happened.

So I decided to cut the communication cold turkey…changed all my contact information. For 3 long years I was deadma and pretty much moved on. Eventhough I left, I still I had to suck up all the feelings I had and keep all the pain I had inside. I heard so many stories about him through my friends that he’s still doing bad and repulsive things and has not resolved any of his legal problems. Didn’t really affect me much anymore because I knew I was in the right path.

I came back to visit Manila a year and a half ago and by fate, we ran into each other at a bar. OMG…he was the last person I ever thought of seeing. He was in shock as well and he could not believe I was there. I simply said hi and walked away. He ran after me, wanted to talk and needed me by his side. It was too late, I left the next day. He was searching for me through friends and tried to find my contact number. I felt our meeting was a sign that we needed to communicate again—because he we have a child together that he has not yet met.

One day I e-mailed him and he was so HAPPY to hear from me as in
the bad boy suddenly became a softee. He has been through a lot (went downhill) according to him, since I left him. He said he regrets not asking me to stay and for the times he took me for granted…all because he was trying to be a “man”. Basically, he wants us to always be in touch and regards me as “the best woman he has ever been with”. Of course I regarded that as pure BS! I guess its true because we didn’t really fight and we understood each other in a certain level. We were complete opposites, so there was balance.

2 years later today, we still keep in touch. He calls me frequently, talks to his son who is now 6 years old….but he has not met him yet since we are here in Europe. It seems that the more we talk, the more we miss each other. When I think about it, six years have come and go so fast with a lot of feelings that were bottled up inside. We’re friends now, but we still love each other. He has dated a lot of girls since I left and pretty much used a lot of them. I only dated one guy out here, but not serious since I am focusing on my education and my son.

I am suppose to go visit Manila again this summer….but I am so nervous to see him. I still miss him a lot, but I don’t know if I should trust him. He wants to see us so much and meet his son. What should I do?!

for me, it's ok to see him or to let the guy see his son..just don't trust the guy too much..and don't fall again with the guy..

[baby_T]

hello.i'm new in this thread..
i'm on my last term and only one family member knows about my predicament.i don't have any plans to tell the rest of the family for personal reasons.i can't bear to tell them so i have decided to keep the baby a secret.i don't know pano ko ma pull-off but somehow i will try.i'd rather keep her than suffer the looks of dissapointment and kahihiyan i'll bring sa family ko.i know this is wrong.pero the father of my baby isn't even my bf,though he wants to be pero he isn't even legally separated from his wife pa nga and got kids of his own.but so far he has been a willing supporter and i truly appreciate it but it is so hard having to hide it from everyone else.i hope i'll have enough strength.gusto ko na nga mangibang bansa just so i can raise her properly.alam ko the baby is not to be blamed but i just can't bring myself to be happy 24/7 about this..ang hirap..i have so much responsibilities kaya after giving birth i need to be visible again.i don't even know how to do that..i don't want my baby growing up na tinatago,she deserves so much more but its just too complicated.:(:(:(

i just had to let it out.

to "althea_beatrice"..i understand how you feel..

[laineybogz]

baby_T: hmmm... i'm sure there's a valid reason for you to hold back on telling the rest of your family about your pregnancy. you may be scared to death, scared of the judgements that they may throw at you. but you see, they are your family. they love you. of course you cannot expect them to just smile at your condition, but sooner or later, it will be their natural reaction to support you and care for you, especially your parents. they've had you, they know what it's like to have a kid. and like what you said, the baby is not at fault, so why would you deprive him / her of your family's love and support by not letting them know about your pregnancy? remember that every ounce of care they'll give you will also be for the baby, so there's no reason to hide him / her from them.

it's hard enough to be a single mom. it's much harder to be a single mom without a family to look after you.

so my advice is, tell them. if they get mad (they will, for sure), let them. apologize for the wrong you've done. swallow your pride. don't make an excuse for what you did. tell them that you have no one else but them, that because they're your family, you humbly ask them to understand your situation and to basically help you out.

and with regards to the guy who got you pregnant, i believe it's better if you keep him out of the picture for now. he's got his own issues, obviously, and you may be extremely disappointed and stressed if you sort of "expect" him to father your baby the way you want to and the way your baby deserves. mas maganda siguro kung i-treat mo muna ang self mo bilang single parent who will raise your baby alone (but with your family's support!). yun muna ang mindset mo for now. anyhoo, that's just me. :)

[f0rk]

hi everyone! post ko lang dito ang pinost ko sa kabilang thread in case meron sa inyo may ma-sh-share sa akin...

meron na ba dito nag-avail ng solo parent benefits? how is the process?

im particularly interested in learning more about section 8 and 9 of RA 8972:

Section 8. Parental Leave. - In addition to leave privileges under existing laws, parental leave of not more than seven (7) working days every year shall be granted to any solo parent employee who has rendered service of at least one (1) year.

Section 9. Educational Benefits. - The DECS, CHED and TESDA shall provide the following benefits and privileges:
(1) Scholarship programs for qualified solo parents and their children in institutions of basic, tertiary and technical/skills education; and
(2) Nonformal education programs appropriate for solo parents and their children.
The DECS, CHED and TESDA shall promulgate rules and regulations for the proper implementation of this program.


Ang leave package kasi namin, 16 days sick leave, 16 vacation leaves, 7 paternal leaves, 30 maternal leaves, 7 bereavement leave... ewan kung anu-ano pa iba meron, but definitely walang 7 days parental leave granted to solo parents. Pag halimbawa may sakit ang baby ko, pinapaapply sa akin ay personal leave which still falls under vacation leave. This year ko pa lang kasi papapasukin sa school ang baby ko kaya ngayun ko lang expect na kakailanganin ko na talaga ang additional leaves.

At dahil nga mag-school na siya, gusto ko rin siempre makaavail ng scholarship. I plan to enroll him in our village montessori...

Thanks in advance for any replies.

Have a great day mommies, daddies, and lawyer friends

[f0rk]

to all the single moms out there... maging matatag sana tayo lagi... ang pinakamahirap na kalabanin is the guilt and remorse over hurting our families and our innocent children. the best we can do is love and serve them unconditionally.

i have a partner now who worships me and my 4yo boy. one thing i learned, meron pa ring mga taong tatanggap at magmamahal sa atin ng buong-buo, despite our history (not despite our kids, i regard them as gifts no matter what condition theyre born in).

just sharing some thoughts...

[whiskeysugar]

hi everyone! post ko lang dito ang pinost ko sa kabilang thread in case meron sa inyo may ma-sh-share sa akin...

meron na ba dito nag-avail ng solo parent benefits? how is the process?

im particularly interested in learning more about section 8 and 9 of RA 8972:

Section 8. Parental Leave. - In addition to leave privileges under existing laws, parental leave of not more than seven (7) working days every year shall be granted to any solo parent employee who has rendered service of at least one (1) year.

Section 9. Educational Benefits. - The DECS, CHED and TESDA shall provide the following benefits and privileges:
(1) Scholarship programs for qualified solo parents and their children in institutions of basic, tertiary and technical/skills education; and
(2) Nonformal education programs appropriate for solo parents and their children.
The DECS, CHED and TESDA shall promulgate rules and regulations for the proper implementation of this program.


Ang leave package kasi namin, 16 days sick leave, 16 vacation leaves, 7 paternal leaves, 30 maternal leaves, 7 bereavement leave... ewan kung anu-ano pa iba meron, but definitely walang 7 days parental leave granted to solo parents. Pag halimbawa may sakit ang baby ko, pinapaapply sa akin ay personal leave which still falls under vacation leave. This year ko pa lang kasi papapasukin sa school ang baby ko kaya ngayun ko lang expect na kakailanganin ko na talaga ang additional leaves.

At dahil nga mag-school na siya, gusto ko rin siempre makaavail ng scholarship. I plan to enroll him in our village montessori...

Thanks in advance for any replies.

Have a great day mommies, daddies, and lawyer friends

inquire ka sa HR dept.ng company ninyo or go to the nearest DSWD OFFICE.mgadala ka ng birth cert.ng baby mo,company id and brgy.clearance..para makasecure ka ng id ng solo parent.but since mukhang di pa nga alam niyan sa HR dept.ninyo much better sa dswd talaga para mas madali ang application kasi ganun din e,at least ikaw talaga ang ng ayos niyan just what i did.
i hope this can help..

[whiskeysugar]

hello.i'm new in this thread..
i'm on my last term and only one family member knows about my predicament.i don't have any plans to tell the rest of the family for personal reasons.i can't bear to tell them so i have decided to keep the baby a secret.i don't know pano ko ma pull-off but somehow i will try.i'd rather keep her than suffer the looks of dissapointment and kahihiyan i'll bring sa family ko.i know this is wrong.pero the father of my baby isn't even my bf,though he wants to be pero he isn't even legally separated from his wife pa nga and got kids of his own.but so far he has been a willing supporter and i truly appreciate it but it is so hard having to hide it from everyone else.i hope i'll have enough strength.gusto ko na nga mangibang bansa just so i can raise her properly.alam ko the baby is not to be blamed but i just can't bring myself to be happy 24/7 about this..ang hirap..i have so much responsibilities kaya after giving birth i need to be visible again.i don't even know how to do that..i don't want my baby growing up na tinatago,she deserves so much more but its just too complicated.:(:(:(

i just had to let it out.

to "althea_beatrice"..i understand how you feel..

huwag sumuko at huwag matakot..ganun talaga ang feeling"nakakhiya"but in the end darating ka rin sa point na masasabi mo na tama lang ang ginawa mo..don't let your child suffer and yourself also..don't deprive your child na makilala niya grandparents niya at di ba,wala ng ibang makaktulong sa tin kundi pamilya natin,kahit mahirap i accept kelangan eh..at tsaka not all the time naman were stuck up in that situation..

Godbless!!don't forget to pray!!huwag masyadong mag isip.makakasama sa baby..

[f0rk]

hi whiskeysugar, i was just on the phone with our HR manager GRRRrr ha... sabi implemented na daw sa amin since 2004 pa, pero wala siya dun sa options pag nags-sign kami ng Leave Application Form namin. Angdaya ha! Sana pala noon ko pa tinanong to, sayang din yung times na naspend ko sana caring for my son.

so ayun nga ang advise sa akin, punta raw sa DSWD at kumuha ng ID/certificate. Another thing that the HR said, the one-year validity of the additional leaves should not necessarily coincide with the company's fiscal year. The validity to be followed is indicated in the solo parent ID/certificate.

thanks again :)

[ILoveMyLife]

elo everyone.. am a newbie too.. i hope you can help me by sharing your stories and experiences being single moms..

i think im pregnant.. :(

and i dont know what to do..
auko malamn ng bf ko to kase nafoforesee ko na di siya mgiging mabuting asawa at ama.. :( sad to say but lately.. nakikita ko na di siya marunong gumalang sa mga babae.. :(

auko din malamn ng parents ko kase magagalit sila at auko naman isumpa nila ako..

anu ba tmang gwin.. i hope you can share with me your thoughts.. thank you girls..

i hope someone out there will care to text me.. 639228946570.. badly needed someone to talk too about this matter..


god bless!!

Hi..
I know how you feel.. ganyan din ako before.. pero after ko mapagtapat sa parents ko, nung una mahirap tanggapin sa part ko na akong yung reason kung bakit sila may problema at niligay ko sila sa malaking kahihiyan.. pero im very thankful na naging positive sila sa pagtanggap sa baby ko…

They pamper me so much.. they bought vitamins and milk for me.. they even buy stuff para sa baby ko.. sobrang saya na sa kabila ng ginawa ko ganun yung binigay nila sa kin.. yun ngalang mas nakakaguilty..

Ngayon naging ok na situation ko..kahit na there are times na may sumbat factor parin.. di na maaalis yun..

Basta if confirmed na napreggy ka, better tell na your family kasi wala ka naman ibang matatakbuhan kundi sila.. tsaka mababawasan yung dinadala o problema mo kung may masasabihan ka na family mo.. isipin mo nalang pano kung nanganak kana sino yung magaalaga sayo at sa baby mo?

Matatanggap din nila yan..

Isipin mo blessing yan..

Good luck nalang po..
This thread helps a lot para mabawasan yung takot at hirap na nararamdaman mo…

[pinaysweet]

hello,
share ko lang i just renew my solo parent id yesterday in manila cityhall and its another 7dats leave for the whole year....its been a long time the last time i post and so many newcomers now...hoping one of this days magkita kitz tayo....im happy for you that you have lovelife now ....

for althea_beatrice!

I hope and pray that your doing fine, kindly update us whats going on at your end...remember that God always there... Jer 29:11: For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

take care and god bless you all:)
hi whiskeysugar, i was just on the phone with our HR manager GRRRrr ha... sabi implemented na daw sa amin since 2004 pa, pero wala siya dun sa options pag nags-sign kami ng Leave Application Form namin. Angdaya ha! Sana pala noon ko pa tinanong to, sayang din yung times na naspend ko sana caring for my son.

so ayun nga ang advise sa akin, punta raw sa DSWD at kumuha ng ID/certificate. Another thing that the HR said, the one-year validity of the additional leaves should not necessarily coincide with the company's fiscal year. The validity to be followed is indicated in the solo parent ID/certificate.

thanks again :)

[pinaysweet]

Hello goodafternoon :)
Hopefully matuloy na ang EB natin para we can update each other lives and we can help in anyway we can, there are times naiisip ko ang mga dilema of singlemom lalo now yung kay sis althea_beatrice, lets pray for her that she will be strong, lets clap ourselves for doing our job for trying to be the best parent possible to our kids...every now and then I try to check this site para ma update ako .....i know we have a role for this nation to help each other, even is simple ways :) sige baka dumating na boss ko hehehe.
regards to everyone :)

Hi everyone, I missed this thread. Been busy trying to keep up with the questions regarding legal matters. To the newcomers, I think everyone is welcome naman in this thread. Ako nga nakisali na rin kahit dalawa lang ata kami na single dad dito. So welcome!

It seems a lot of us, single parents, are now familiar or looking at the benefits of RA 8972 (or Solo Parent Act of 2000). I’ve actually used it myself but my company is yet to approve my request to avail of the additional 7 days leave and the flexible work time. My company is not familiar with such law so they have to review it first. Baka naghahanap pa ng palusot. Anyway, I’m thinking of maybe we could advocate na dagdagan pa ang benefits covered by RA 8972 like having discounts that the senior citizens have. I’ve read it somewhere that there is already a demand for such benefits to be included in RA 8972. So if anyone has any idea or info on these, please update this thread from time to time.

With regards to our EB na hindi na matuloy tuloy, I think there are some here who would appreciate to talk to fellow single parents in person, specially althea_Beatrice. Maybe our single moms here should make her realize that if in case she is indeed pregrant, she doesn’t have to go through it alone. She needs all the support she can have. From parents, friends and us maybe.

I’m really happy that we have single parents here like momosh and laineybogz who have found or tries to find “someone” they can really depend on. Someone their little angels can really look up to as the “better half”. Happy for you guys. But yeah, be careful this time kasi if we mess up again, hindi lang tayo ang masasaktan na, we have kids who would be heartbroken if after the “getting to know you” phase of a candidate stepfather, it will turn out na he’s one of those guys who are just having fun lang pala. We are in a difficult situation so Goodluck to us! J

As for me, yes, I too am in the look for a God given lady who would love to be a stepmother to my beautiful daughter. But for now, I’m thankful enough to be privileged with the sweetest 3 yr old who wouldn't go to sleep at night unless she has my belly or arms as her pillow.

[pinaysweet]

Hello goodafternoon :)
Hopefully matuloy na ang EB natin para we can update each other lives and we can help in anyway we can, there are times naiisip ko ang mga dilema of singlemom lalo now yung kay sis althea_beatrice, lets pray for her that she will be strong, lets clap ourselves for doing our job for trying to be the best parent possible to our kids...every now and then I try to check this site para ma update ako .....i know we have a role for this nation to help each other, even is simple ways :) sige baka dumating na boss ko hehehe.
regards to everyone :)

Hi everyone, I missed this thread. Been busy trying to keep up with the questions regarding legal matters. To the newcomers, I think everyone is welcome naman in this thread. Ako nga nakisali na rin kahit dalawa lang ata kami na single dad dito. So welcome!

It seems a lot of us, single parents, are now familiar or looking at the benefits of RA 8972 (or Solo Parent Act of 2000). I’ve actually used it myself but my company is yet to approve my request to avail of the additional 7 days leave and the flexible work time. My company is not familiar with such law so they have to review it first. Baka naghahanap pa ng palusot. Anyway, I’m thinking of maybe we could advocate na dagdagan pa ang benefits covered by RA 8972 like having discounts that the senior citizens have. I’ve read it somewhere that there is already a demand for such benefits to be included in RA 8972. So if anyone has any idea or info on these, please update this thread from time to time.

With regards to our EB na hindi na matuloy tuloy, I think there are some here who would appreciate to talk to fellow single parents in person, specially althea_Beatrice. Maybe our single moms here should make her realize that if in case she is indeed pregrant, she doesn’t have to go through it alone. She needs all the support she can have. From parents, friends and us maybe.

I’m really happy that we have single parents here like momosh and laineybogz who have found or tries to find “someone” they can really depend on. Someone their little angels can really look up to as the “better half”. Happy for you guys. But yeah, be careful this time kasi if we mess up again, hindi lang tayo ang masasaktan na, we have kids who would be heartbroken if after the “getting to know you” phase of a candidate stepfather, it will turn out na he’s one of those guys who are just having fun lang pala. We are in a difficult situation so Goodluck to us! J

As for me, yes, I too am in the look for a God given lady who would love to be a stepmother to my beautiful daughter. But for now, I’m thankful enough to be privileged with the sweetest 3 yr old who wouldn't go to sleep at night unless she has my belly or arms as her pillow.

[yvetsky]

kamusta mga single moms?? tagal ko na inde nakadalaw sa thread...and was happy to find out na inde pa rin pala natutuloy ang EB, akala ko marami na ako namiss eh :D

i'm a bit sad kase i miss my daughter, have to go back here in Jakarta again for another year of contract....nakakainis lang kase i teach a lot of children here, but i cant teach my daughter her school lessons :(

hay tiis-tiis....

[narcolepticnat]

How can i get a single parent ID.? thanks

[f0rk]

^ go to DSWD and fill out an application form. They will advise you of the complete requirements (picture, birth certificate, ITR, etc). They will schedule an interview appointment with you, then after a few days or weeks or months (mine took 2 months :hmm: ) if you "pass" their evaluation meron ka nang Solo Parent ID :)

[easter2]

Nagbibigay na ba sila ng educational benefits sa anak ng mga single parents?

And yung benefits ba para lang sa mga below poverty threshold or to any single parent member sa DSWD?

[f0rk]

^afaik para lang ang scholarships sa mga indigenous members and those below a certain poverty threshold.

pero yung additional 7 days paternal leave, maavail ng lahat ng may valid Solo Parent ID.

[I am Mulan]

Hi everyone. I am new in this forum. I am Mulan. I am a single mom with 3 lovely girls... Got out of marriage because of physical and verbal abuse... I am the only one financially supporting my kids now. My kids are generally happy. Their stability and happiness are my priority after the separation. I joined this forum to somehow get inspirations from other parents like you. I will apply soon for a solo parent ID.

[limegurl]

hi! meron ba sa inyo na tinakwil talaga ng parents dahil buntis or single parents.. im pregnant kase pero willing naman si bf na panindigan ako.. kaya lang di ko pa nasasabi sa parents ko, natatakot kase ako na baka itakwil nila ako. dahil sa kahihiyan na binigay ko sa kanila.

[yvetsky]

hello limegurl! nung nabuntis ako akala ko rin itatakwil ako ng dad ko kase medyo may pagkastrikto sya, but surprisingly ang sinabi nya lang sa akin nun ay "kase naman nagboyfriend ka ng walang balls" i guess masakit **** for him na inde ako pinanindigan pero lahat kase nagulat na nagawa yun ng dad ng anak ko kase tingin nila sa knya mabuting tao **** na wala ka mapipintas.

anyway, wag ka matakot kung supported ka ng bf mo, mabuting malaman na ng parents mo andyan na yan eh you have to stand sa nagawa nyo at iprove ng bf mo na responsible sya by being there pag sinabi nyo na sa parents mo situation nyo. Good luck and God Bless :)

[ainabrual]

>>good morning fellow single parents.

>>im new in this thread, but no longer new when it comes to being a parent.the reason was,i never considered myself as a single parent, until now. I have a 1 year old son, fathered by my BF of three years.for those three years, i thought we were happy, until on our son's first birthday, he told me he was no longer happy, and he needed space.i was angry for i felt like being abandoned.and now, i wanted to know the legal steps i need to take, as well as any emotional steps into moving on as a single parent.

>>i wanted my bf's surname to disappear from my son's life.(we used it eventhough we are not yet married, thru an affidavit),for i do not want him to ask questions or being scarred for life for having been left by his father.however, im torn.i have to admit, umaasa ako that somehow, his father would come into terms with himself and realize what he had lost..basta.bahala na.if we are bound to be together, we will be together.sa ngayon, i know i have to be strong, kahit man lang para sa anak ko.

>>for those who posted here having dilemmas on being a single parent, cheer up, a child is ALWAYS a blessing.God gave you a gift for you to cherish and to take good care of. Wag kayo matakot. learn to be brave and be decisive and strong. remember, you're no longer making decisions for yourself anymore, you have a child to raise.also, surround yourself with the right people and do not be afraid to tell authorities(parents)ma susurprise pa kayo, dahil kahit gaano yan ka-strikto, mamahalin at aalagaan ka pa nila when you least expect it.maiintindihan niyo rin dahil magiging parents na kayo.

>>hope to hear more from this thread!

[darnstuff]

Hello guys,

It's always nice to hear from all of you, strong women!

I am still amazed how I was able to get by for the last 10 years of my life with a kid. I may have been given a distinct look by people who would know for the first time that I'm a single mom but I guess seeing me as well as the others who were able to show strength and has come up with a decisive decision in the midst of a dilemma would prove more of your personality.

I see single parents sturdier than the rest...

I may not be happy being single but I'm happy being a mom :-)

[mommy0826]

Hello to all single moms,
I'm new to this thread. I'm not a single mom but my sister is, so i hope my advice counts. To all those ladies whose keeping their pregnancy from their parents, you better tell them soon, you'll be surprise to find out how much they love you. They might get mad at first, but they will accept you with open arms. Just make sure you'll never commit the same mistake again and break your parent's heart for the second time.

[sexy_bluegurl]

Hello mga single moms and dads.. :wave: kumusta na kayo? hope everyone's ok.. di na ako masyado nakakadalaw dito..

[wokismom]

Hi I am a newbie here..I am also a single parent...however di ko nga sure kung single parent talaga ako kasi minsan kasama nmn namin *** father ng baby ko pero di kami kasal so probably single parent nga ako..he.he.he.he.ang kinaiinis ko lang..before dumating ang father ng baby ko sa buhay namin lam ko ng may baby na siya at di rin niya pinakasalan pero sabi niya wala na daw sila ....pero etong girl lagi akong binabother nung naging kami hanggang sa nabuntis ako at nanganak andiyan pa rin siya nagaantay sa father ng baby ko...kaya minsan kahit ok kami ng father ng baby ko nagaaway kami kasi inaagaw nilang magina *** atensyon ng father ng baby ko..lagi na lang niyaya kung saan saan..so imbes na magspend ng weekend sa aming dalawa ng baby ko eh andun siya sa una niyang anak..weekend na nga lang kami nagkakasama di pa niya nagawa...ano kaya pwede kong gawin dun?? sama ko sa EB ninyo ha... i do also work in makati! :D

[pinaysweet]

Hi guys,
Merry Christmas in advance wish you inner peace and goodluck to all your plan...just remember we have a big God who always provide to all our needs.... Jeremiah 29:11: For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

[sweetmischief]

hello guys.
COUNT ME IN!

I am a single mom, for about 2 months.
I find it hard. because it's not a joke raising your kids alone.
There are times I cry. I got pity with myself, but I always put it in my mind na KAYA KO TO!

honestly, andito parin yung sakit.

[pinaysweet]

Hi sweetmischief,
Dont worry di ka papayagan ni Lord, he will take care of you in his loving arms dont forget this verse Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight.
Merry Christmas :)

[sabine92575]

hi, all! i've been a lurker here in PEX for so long but in other threads. it's my first time to come here in this thread.

i'm a single mom and my son is now 8 years old. the father is totally out of the picture ever since. it was hard, at first. as a matter of fact, i call it my "dark ages." but God is good. He kept me strong and He continues to bless me. now, i'm doing better in life. still single, but life is definitely better.

i hope to meet some of you so we can share each other stories and learn from each other as well. para din we can help out the others in need.

good luck everyone and God bless :)

[singlemom30]

Hello po..I am new on this site at ang forum n ito about parenting ang nag encourage sakin to register...

Dami pala nating mga single moms...mukhang marami akong matututunan dito..I've been a single mom for 4 years now, like sabine92575 yung father ng anak ko is totally out of the picture din ever since. I've moved on na, siguro... not sure kasi lagi ko parin iniisip yung father the baby ko...at may kurot parin sa dibdib ko, kasi dami ko tanong sa kanya n unanswered...and yung baby ko kahit di sya magtanong alam ko hinahanap nya father nya...hay hirap...

Mag ka friend sana ko dito.. at sama ako sa EB...

see yah!

[laineybogz]

Uy! Kelan ang eb?? Single mom here for over 2 years :)

[slut_buster]

hello! newbie here. i have been a single mom for more than 20 years. pero kahit na iniwan ako ng dem0nyo kong asawa at sumama sa kabit niya, napaaral ko ng maayos ang mga anak ko kahit walang suporta sa father. haay, being a single mom is not easy, you have to sacrifice your wants, time and even your life for the sake of the kids. I am expecting my first granddaughter (or grandson) later this year. :)

[grasyah]

hi EVERYONE!!

Im Grace.. i've been a single parent for almost 4 years now.. I was forced by fate to be a single parent.. Partner died when our baby was only 7 months old.. He died of heart ailment (runs in the family)..

life was not easy for me at first... and even up to now..i am still finishing my proper pa kasi.. so i don't have a regular/stable job as of the moment.. i do some freelance photography works.. covering events/parties for a minimal cost.. my parents doesn't want me to work until i finish law school.. so they're the one practically supporting me and my kid now.. good thing my hilaw na in-laws are supporting me somehow...

hoping that by joining this thread i can learn lots and lots of good things and good sides of being a SINGLE PARENT.. :)

[pinaysweet]

Congrats it paid all the hardworks and sacrifice, take care and God bless you. Hopefully matuloy na yung EB natin (",)good job to all of us.More blessings and favor from our loving GOD.

[pinaysweet]

Congrats it paid all the hardworks and sacrifice, take care and God bless you. Hopefully matuloy na yung EB natin (",)good job to all of us.More blessings and favor from our loving GOD


hello! newbie here. i have been a single mom for more than 20 years. pero kahit na iniwan ako ng dem0nyo kong asawa at sumama sa kabit niya, napaaral ko ng maayos ang mga anak ko kahit walang suporta sa father. haay, being a single mom is not easy, you have to sacrifice your wants, time and even your life for the sake of the kids. I am expecting my first granddaughter (or grandson) later this year. :)

[stupid wizard28]

i'm glad na may thread pala for single moms here.
singleness ako for 1year. yung donor ng sperm para mabuo ang isang makulit na bata ay di ko alam kung nasaan na sya pero salamat na din sa kanya dahil may dahilan na ako para magtino.
:rotflmao:

[shychic]

hello everyone. i'm glad to find a bunch of people who are on the same boat!

cheers to us! :)

[iamcalee]

hi everyone. im a newbie here. im always visiting this site but now lang ako nag-register. im also a single mom. 6 months na baby ko and out of nowhere ang tatay. well, we had seldom communication ng father ng baby ko after telling him na preggy ako. when i was still preggy and out of the country sya, he promised na da2lawin nia ako sometym in december. natapos ang december, nde talaga nagparamdam. message ko sya sa ym everytym na gusto ko xang kausapin. then last january lang sya nagreply skin, telling me na nde nga daw sya magpapakita skin. sobrang nagulat ako coz kahit papano, hopeful pa din ako na magpapakita sya samin ni baby kahit madalang lang kami magkausap. sa ym nga lang actually and puro offline messages lang, d xe kami magkatagpo sa pagcha-chat. now, im stil wondering kung bakit bigla na lang ngbago ihip ng hangin. up to now, im still praying and hoping na one day, pu2ntahan nia ako..kahit man lang para sa baby namin :mecry:

[pinaysweet]

Hi Sis,
Thats sad to hear :( but remember its not the end of the world you still have your baby, time will come na panghihinayangan nya ang disisyon na di magpakita sa inyo. Just have faith in God and ask for his guidance na mapalaki mo ang iyong baby according to his will. I know hindi madali but with the grace of God malalampasan mo din yan (",) ako nga my son will turning 5yrs old this July di nya pa din nakikita ang father nya but I keep in touch with his Dad at pinag uusap ko sila (hes in abroad) at pag my common friends kami umuuwi dito nagpapadala ako ng picture mga more than 20pcs nilalagay ko sa maliit na album with matching card from his son (reverse psychology) ived beein doing this since i gave birth kasi ayoko dumating ang time na sabihin ng anak ko i dont excert effort to communicate with his Dad. We are still single only God knows what lies tomorrow.....I hope nakatulong ako kahit paano...Take care and God bless you always :)

hi everyone. im a newbie here. im always visiting this site but now lang ako nag-register. im also a single mom. 6 months na baby ko and out of nowhere ang tatay. well, we had seldom communication ng father ng baby ko after telling him na preggy ako. when i was still preggy and out of the country sya, he promised na da2lawin nia ako sometym in december. natapos ang december, nde talaga nagparamdam. message ko sya sa ym everytym na gusto ko xang kausapin. then last january lang sya nagreply skin, telling me na nde nga daw sya magpapakita skin. sobrang nagulat ako coz kahit papano, hopeful pa din ako na magpapakita sya samin ni baby kahit madalang lang kami magkausap. sa ym nga lang actually and puro offline messages lang, d xe kami magkatagpo sa pagcha-chat. now, im stil wondering kung bakit bigla na lang ngbago ihip ng hangin. up to now, im still praying and hoping na one day, pu2ntahan nia ako..kahit man lang para sa baby namin :mecry:

[leezi]

Hello single moms!

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weekly salary.
urgent hiring.
home based.
part time or full time.

email your resume at cardasa.enterprise@gmail.com

I know, it is tough to rise kiddies alone. this is good to make an extra income.

[im_ladybug29]

im a singlemom, i have 2 y/o son. its really hard but i know i can do this. sometimes meron financial shortage pero kapag mom k *** di bale na wala kn basta meron *** anak mo. i love my son.